You sound like a petty ass ex. Not sorry.
Honey my in laws live with me me my husband and 2 kids 3 kids on weekends have to share a room we all have a bed the kids rather pile into mine and dad sleeps on couch or one of the other beds just saying could be worse and he has his own bed so there is that
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What is a “catch-all” room. I think the most important thing is that his dad is in his life and still has a roof over his head. If your son shares a room with dad maybe they can consider full size bunk beds or at least a single bed with a pull out bed. Personally I don’t think it’s abuse if he has subtle living arrangements.
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Not abuse… I know kids that all have their own rooms and beds but choose to sleep on the couch all the time… theres nothing wrong with that. If your son had a big problem with it I could see… but I think it maybe you that ha the problem!!
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If dad still resides with parents. Plus ur son is on a cot. Perhaps its just not in the budget to have his own room and a decent bed. Key words parents house. U think they want to give up another room. To their grandson. Look they probably already annoyed that the son moved it. Now this isn’t abuse or neglect. This is called surviving and maintaining. U know how many kids is sleeping in cardboard boxes on a floor. Or on someone else’s floor. Consider ur son lucky.
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Everyone just wants to cry abuse when something happens they dont like.
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Wow! Is own room? Really that’s what you’re upset about? I got custody of my granddaughters thru CPS for several years. They only had cots to sleep on for a while until I could find a bigger place. CPS didn’t care where they slept as long as I had food and a place for them to live. None of my children had their own rooms.
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Why does your son not live with you and if it’s a joint custody thing does he have his own room at your place? If he does I bet it’s thanks to the child support your ex is sending you.
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Why are most people commenting above so bitchy… some people like to have seperate bedrooms for the kids… which is fine. Some think its ok to share. People are so rude she just asked a damn question 
He has a roof over his head and a place to sleep. I’m sure he eats as well. I try to figure in the fact he is probably paying $600 a month in child support as well. Maybe you can buy him a bed 
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Not abuse. And not his house to decide about the extra room. You can talk to him and his parents about it but they aren’t required to do it.
I can’t understand why they won’t do the room up for your son espically if its not really used for anything and he has him quite abit . Soon he will want his privacy. Not sure it’s a massive issue but I’d speak with them about it
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Um how old is your son?
Abuse? Are you serious?
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Ha! My daughter has her own bedroom and she’s 13 but when I wake up, guess where she is? Yep, in my bed! We all go to sleep in a different room but she wakes up or waits until I’m asleep and comes right to my bed! Do I care? Do I have issues with it? No… if it allows her to get a good night’s rest and she’s comfortable then that’s all that matters. With it being the grandparents home, they don’t have to make a room for your son. That’s your son’s PARENTS job. So, if the dad is staying with his parents, why can’t dad and son share a room?
Is the home safe? If yes, then doesn’t matter. The ONLY time I have heard a child need their own room is if they spend more than half a year there. So if you have 50/50 time with him, then it will depend on your location and the local or state laws. If he only has him part time (couple times a week, alternate holidays and spring/summer breaks then no he does not need to make a room just for your son. But, when in doubt you can always ask your local social services. Don’t have to give names or anything, just ask what is law.
No not abuse. In many parts of the world it’s common for the whole family to share a room. As long as he is warm fed and loved that is what is important
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It’s not abuse hun not in the slightest, stop trying to cause drama and be happy that he has a dad in his life a roof over his head. however if they have an extra catch all room I dont see why they wpuldnt turn it into something for him. It really depends on his age tho because once he gets to a certain age hes not gonna wanna sleep with his dad and is gonna need some privacy
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Would it be abuse if it was a mother with child on cot? Your child has a place to sleep and a dad being a dad. I dont get why you would think this is abuse, lots of moms cant afford a separate bedroom for their child but I guess for some reason thats different! Be blessed your X is being a father!!!
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Did u really ask is that abuse?! Just by that statement I’m going to assume u are a real piece of work to deal with. He’s got a roof over his head, clothes on his back, food in his stomach, loved by his father who is obviously in his life and u asked bc of sleeping on a cot is he being abused?! News flash it’s their house not urs and they don’t have to explain anything they do there nor do they need to listen to u on what u want they do to with their house. Seriously lady.
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No that is definitely not abuse girl be thankful your ex is in the child’s life. Stop being a petty Betty . It sounds like you have unresolved feelings that you need to work through. Stop trying to create a problem where there is none
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Its kinda shitty that he doesnt have his own room, since they have a spare. They should clean it out to give to him. But just because they don’t, doesnt make it abuse lol are you crazy. If hes getting fed everyday, is healthy and has a roof over his head… Consider yourself grateful. Some people don’t.
Lmao catches breath lmfao…
Ask homeless children about their cot…you petty female smh
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Umm no that’s not even close to abuse. Don’t try to find things to get upset about… Don’t be bitter either. Love your son more then you hate your ex. And don’t try to create problems where there are none. I have 2 kids and live in a 2 bedroom. They share a room. Completely fine. They both have a bed but my youngest chooses to make a bed with blankets on the floor most nights. Not sure why but whatever makes him happy lol
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No it’s not abuse. People sometimes have to share rooms and space and it all works out fine.
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Omg no. It’s not abuse if he doesn’t have his own room. He needs his own bed.
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No it’s not abuse. He has somewhere to sleep. I would leave it alone
Give your son a room at your house ??
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No that’s not a form of abuse and you know that. It would be nice if he got him his own bed. If you are so concerned send him over with an air mattress. Form of abuse:see_no_evil:
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are you serious… At least he has a bed. Stop being the petty ex and mind your own house
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I’m going to just say no it’s not abuse, because if I type too much I’m gonna start to get rude.
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I’m normally not negative about stuff like this but you should be thankful you have an ex that is helping raise your kids. I’m a single mom thankfully I have a great family but its still hard. My kids have a shared bedroom but that still doesn’t stop them from ending up in my bed every night. Abuse is calling kids names, yelling all the time, hitting them, not feeding them. Abuse is NOT sharing a bedroom with them. May be he really hurt you and your angry but girl be happy you have a good dad in the pic.
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My four year old son sleeps with us or sleeps on a cot beside us 
It’s called cosleeping…people all over the world do it. My son is the happiest and well mannered boy I’ve ever met. I think it’s okay…
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A LOT OF YALL ARE UGLY ASS PEOPLE WHO NEED A FEW LESSONS ON MANNERS!! This woman was simply sharing a concern she had. So many of you chose to attack her personally. Y’ALL NEED JESUS!
No? Gotta do what ya gotta do
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Its not abuse but probably sucks not feeling like he has his own space at his fathers but unless your childs complaining about it or saying it’s making him uncomfortable i wouldn’t make it a issue.
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If this is the worst thing you deal with from your ex and his family, count yourself amazingly blessed
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As long as he is healthy and happy that’s all that matters
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Seriously how petty can you be?? I can see why he’s your ex.
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It’s not abuse , but at a certain age a child is required to have their own room. Since the room isn’t in your home u cant do anything about it . If this post was about a girl having her own room yes it would be a problem. Now if it was a boy and girl having to share after the age of 5 there would be a issue with CPS and DHS they require the kids to have their own privacy. They should never see each other naked after a certain age. But if the child was sleeping with him in same bed that would be a issue also. No child is suppose to sleep in same bed as a adult . Though most think it’s ok it really isn’t .
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It makes you the more stable parent. You will prob get full custody bc of it
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Seems like you are reaching far to cause issues. If your child lives with you more than 50% of the time your ex isn’t required to provide your son a bedroom. And it’s definitely not a form of abuse.
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I think I’m getting abused then, I share my room with my husband. 
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You guys…Put yoursepf in her shoes. The kids like 12. Co sleeping really?
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Legally children have to have their own bedroom, & bed. Take legal action if you must.
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I get where you are coming from, in the sense you want your boy to have what he has at your house, or what you expect to be standard, but I’m guessing your ex is doing the best he can, there is alot of fathers out there who beat their kids and play mental mind games with them, so I’d count your lucky stars, its deff not abuse.
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Honestly you need to look up the laws in your state & county. It veries!
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My SD is 11, 12 in April. Since she was 3, she has shared a bedroom with her mother. The mother moved 2 yrs ago, buying a house that requires them to still share a bedroom. The court has done an eval on this, she is the primary parent, they have no issues with it. All children require is their own bed and some place to keep their things/privacy. Not everyone can afford a place big enough for each kid to have their own bedroom.
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A form of abuse??? Come on now seriously.
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There are requirements for children to have their own seperate sleeping space. I would talk to your attorney. Is this a new thing or how long gas it been going on? I know my attorney would likely recommend having overnight visitation stopped until your child has their own seperate sleeping space but that would only be enforceable w a custody modification in court
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I would say no but maybe have a talk with your ex and ask him if it’s possible to make that room an actual room for him. Your son probably wants to sleep with your ex because he doesn’t have a livable room.
My daughter’s room was the same at her dads so she would go into her grandparents room every night so I asked him to make that room just for her, they did and now she sleeps in her own room every weekend no problem
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No, his primary residence is with you, as long as he’s sleeping in a bed on dad’s weekend should be fine
It could be worse! Like no father in his life!
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All these man hating women on this page if this was a dad asking this question y’all would be giving him so much shit and would be talking about how the mom is trying her best. But since it’s the father everyone wants his time taken away and he must be a lowlife since he’s with his parents
… i share a room with my 3 children…
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No this is not abuse… What a joke. You are minimizing actual abuse 
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It’s not even close to being considered abuse. If while he as his father’s, he is loved and provided for, who tf cares that he has to share a room? Much worse things can and do happen, please be thankful that they are NOT happening to your son.
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I hope this is a joke
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My partner wasn’t allowed to bring his son to our house until a lawyer came out and checked out his room and made sure we had a bed and blankets and pillows and somewhere for him to store his clothing and stuff and went back into court to tell them that we had everything ready for him and that’s how we got to have his son over every week if we didn’t have this he would t have been allowed to stay he could visit but not stay over
Are you serious? When I lived with my dad, I’d share a hotel room with my mom, stepdad and two sisters when we went to see her. She made sure we had a comfy place to sleep and that was such a good time for us. You sound like you’re looking for a reason to not have your son be with his dad. Is he fed, safe and loved while he is there? That’s all that matters.
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Is he a good father ? Is your son happy otherwise? I get we want our kids to have the ideal life at both houses but if his dad is a good parent and doing the best he can…I wouldn’t throw the word abuse around. Maybe suggest he get a loft bed for you son to have his space up top and dad can still fit his bed on the bottom? Give him a shelf up top somewhere to make his “space”
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No it’s not abuse. But you are a good mom for preferring that he has the best things in life. Although, it does sound as though you are “picking” for something to be concerned about with regards to him being with his father from the outside looking in. Maybe try allowing him to live with you and giving him his own room and he can stay with dad on the weekends.
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It is not abuse. Granted he should at least have a bed while he is there but to go as far as call this abuse is silly. Just be happy that your son has an active father.
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I know in some places it is actually against the law for a child to share a room with another child once they are a certain age, not sure if it is the same with parents though
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I hope it’s a joke but it sounds like trash syndrome.
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He has a roof over his head and a pace to sleep
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Why dont YOU give him a room?
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Wow, you do realize that MANY children don’t have their own rooms. I haven’t ever in my life had “my own” room. And I’m 24.
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People making fun of her obviously dont know there are laws against this in many states … 
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I share a room with all 3 of my kids, granted, they are all toddlers and one baby, but the laws are in my state that they need their own bed and no fornication allowed in front of toddlers regardless if they are asleep or awake (thats inappropriate conduct), if he pays a lot of child support alongside alimony then maybe he cant afford a place to live, no its not abusive, and its actually very rude of you to assume so especially if thats all the dad can afford. He’s there for his son, hes has a dry, presumably clean, and warm place for his son to lay his head on the weekends, which isn’t abusive. I’d be more concerned if the dad was homeless and making his kid sleep on the streets with him. Plenty of moms live in one bedroom apartments (even when the child is fully grown) and that is never questioned, atleast to my knowledge. Why question this?
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Nope. Be lucky he even has that
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This is a perfect example of a bitter baby mama 🤦 Girl stop trying to get him in trouble and just be thankful he is being a father!!
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This can’t be real. Your son is fine. Stfu.
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Wtf you have issues…im glad he got away.
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I wouldn’t consider it abuse, but, according to the court order that my children’s father has with the mother of his first child, his daughter is required to have her own room.
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Abuse? Are u serious? Good Lord.
Abuse is neglect, or physically/mentally hurting someone.
Be happy he gets him. Stop looking for stupid crap to hold against him
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I understand your concern but you are absolutely ridiculous. Your son has a bed to sleep in and a roof over his head.
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Looks like you’re fishing to find abuse…not cool. Be happy that he has a dad that wants to spend time with him.
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What you can do about it is mind your own business since he has a bed to sleep in and he’s in a safe home.
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It actually depends on the state laws. Last I knew in the state of Iowa a child has to have their own room by like the age of 4.
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Does he live there full time? Or just visits. It’s not abuse either way, bit if there part time I dont blame them at all. Sorry, but you sound petty
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Normally if the child lives with one parent full time they dont need a full bedroom at the other parents place, as long as they have a place to sleep. Some state laws vary and some custody agreements will have requirements like that in place. Without knowing what state you live in or what kind of legal custody agreement you have can make it difficult to give advice…in my opinion this doesnt seem like any kind of abuse.
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No, as long as he is not having sex with anyone while your son is in the room,the child has privacy from others while changing he is fine he is not in anyway being neglected or abused. If you want him to have a bed instead of a cot then buy him one and ask the father to take it so your son is more comfortable. ( That being said:some states have laws against it so if you just want to be Petty you may be able to get him in trouble but personally I think you should leave it be)
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Honestly, you really should focus more on what you can do for the child while he is in your home and worry less about what the other parent is doing.
I know it’s frustrating because you want your son to have consistency no matter where he goes but you can’t force somebody else to live by your standards, as long as the environment meets minimum standards for DCS purposes it’s not considered abuse even if they don’t have their own room.
You can’t make them give your son a space but you can make a space for your son so that he knows that he’s always welcome and has his own space in your home.
If you are concerned about abuse or that the environment is not a clean safe environment then you can report them to DCS and they will do an inspection, because they’re required to, in order to determine if the home meets minimum standards. They will also likely come into your home and check to see if it is clean and meets minimum standards.
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Stop fishing. It’s been 10years and going he’s fine
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I am horrified by the choice of words and labels by some of you.
It’s a legitimate question considering 1 in 4 children here in Australia are groomed and sexually abused.
You are all entitled to an opinion, but before you put that opinion across, imagine you were in this situation and how you would feel reading your own comments!
In answer to the question, I would prefer my child to have a room separate to their parent. If you have been divorced for 10 years, then the boy is clearly over 10yrs old and should be sleeping in a bed not a cot and not sharing a bed with his father.
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No. Why in hell would you think was a form of abuse?? There are many that only have this & everyone is happy. Now if he was sleeping in a sled outside while his father slept inside, then that is a form if abuse
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It’s actually discrimination of familial status to mandate different sex biological children to have separate rooms, or for parents to have separate sleep quarters than their kids. As long as the dwelling isn’t overcrowded, no laws are being broken.
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Sounds like petty baby mama issues
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My 10 year old just moved out of our room this year into a room of her own and I still have the 3 and 6 year old sharing a room with us. I don’t understand how this could be considered abuse, if the child is fed and clothed has a warm place to sleep and all his needs are met.
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Bigger question why wait till now to be concerned?
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If you have to ask if its abuse you’re fishing… He has a bed? Warm home? Clothes and food? Then shhhh
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Not abuse but you can discuss it with a lawyer bc he shouldn’t be sharing a bed.
My friend and his siblings slept in their parents room till the age of 16 because they were scared of Ghosts because they watched too many scary movies
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Y’all are some sick bastards that you think this is acceptable
I think it depends on how often your son stays there. If it’s s lot consult an attorney.
I think you should focus on your home . And he can focus on his . If you think that is abuse you need to read about real abuse
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Its fine but he can’t sleep with daddy forever. He will have to have his own room and space one day as he gets older. Even if dad is in the couch.
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Send him with an air mattress and a pump. As long as he isn’t having sex in the room with him there is nothing wrong. Be thankful his father is in his life. If your son doesn’t want to be there because of it talk to his Dad. In a couple of years you can bring him to court and your son can decide whether he wants to visit his father.
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