I think its valid questions and it’s also questions for your local dfacs office see what they say.
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Depending on what DCFS says for your state. I wouldn’t say it’s a form of abuse, nor do I think that she’s fishing nor being petty. She sounds like a genuinely concerned mom.
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My best friend was homeless…her exs tried to take her visitations away by saying the kids didnt have a bed…the judge told him that as long as she had somewhere to take her kids for her visits it didnt matter if they slept on blankets on the floor…or if they slept in a damn tent at a camp ground …as long as they were with her and safe he had to let his kids go on their visits…stop being petty…theres lots of kids out here whos fathers pretend their kids dont exist…least your exs even while broke and living at his parents house ( i bet he pays a shit ton in support that you feel isnt enough to) feel blessed your kids dad wants to be there for him…also i shared a bed with my 9 and 6 yr old up until last summer…they had beds they just didnt wanna move out my room …idk how my kids feeling safe and secure at night cuddled with either parent could ever be considered abuse smh
You are really damn pretty I see why he’s your ex
It’s not abuse or neglect. The own room rule only applies to children not placed with their own biological parents full time or that have non siblings in the home. With your own biological children you can share a room with them and multiple children can share a room also. I called child services to ask them because we currently have 6 children and live in a 3 bedroom house (so 3 children per room) they said “you can stack them as high as you want if they’re your own children, we usually just request they have their own safe sleeping space, so obviously not all three kids per room sharing one twin bed because that wouldn’t be a safe sleep space for three children”. We have triple bunk beds in each room so we don’t have to worry about that luckily. Our two youngest like to climb into bed with us or one of their siblings on pretty much a nightly basis, and they said that is completely okay also. Basically my point is, no it’s not abuse or neglect. There isn’t anything you can do about it. Especially since you have primary of the child and his dad does not and his dad is in what would be considered temporary living arrangements.
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My son has same issue at ex’s and Hates it. Only thing can do is tell your ex and hope he makes changes for betterment of kids. 
Honestly… seems kinda petty. Is it ideal, no but be happy his dad in his life! As long as random women arent in there i dont really see an issue.
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I know I’m my state as long as parent and child are of same gender they can share a room.
I think you need to look at the bigger picture.
Like how great it is his dad wants to spend time with him.
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Sometimes people struggle. If he’s safe and cared for there’s nothing wrong with it
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Warm fed and had a bed are thr legal requirements according to cps
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I have 2 kids and my husband has one (50/50) and they all 3 share a room! We have a set of bunk beds for my kids and his son has his own bed as well! Social services has been in our home for this same reason and they said he has a place to sleep of his own so it’s not a issue.
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It’s not a form of abuse if he is in a loving stable home with food on the table ,clothes on his back and a bed to sleep in. You really cant force someone to give up a room in a home your not living in or helping pay their Bill’s in either. Seems like the ex is still struggling with getting on his own feet by still living with parents. Why cause further burden ? Im sure if dad had the means to get his own place your son would have his own room. I left a 21 yr marriage and my ex is living with his parents as well . They have a guest room and I dont expect them to make it a room for my daughter because I dont live there. My child is happy when she spends time with her father and she sleeps on a couch. He gave her a little dresser room to put her clothes n toys in when she is there. Here in my home my girls have their own rooms because as their mom it’s what I wanted for them in my home. I cant tell my ex or his parents how to set up their home if my child is happy content and being taken care of. The separation on these kids is hard enough as it is. So just in my opinion I dont believe it to be a form of neglect at all. I grew up in a one bedroom with my 4 brothers growing up. My parents had the bedroom n we had the living room but we where healthy and we where happy and taken care of . Just my opinion
Did I read correctly. Your teenage son sleeps with his father or in a cot? Surely I’ve got my wires crossed? How often does he stay there? Reason I ask is I need proper understanding of the situation before giving unbiased insight to the situation
Lol some kind of abuse? It seems like you’re looking for reasons to go after your ex. And to answer your question, no, that is not abuse. 
You might want to google the definition of what abuse is and when to be concerned.
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There are children sleeping in the cold rain, your son will be fine.
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No it’s not abuse at all. What makes you think that it is? He has a roof over his head, a bed to sleep in and gets to spend time with his father…
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My son has own room but will sleep on the couch.
If he’s safe and loved and cared for then who cares if he shares a room with his dad (they are both male). Sometimes people struggle and it’s hard to afford more bedrooms (I know !!! Two of my kids have to share a room and my third kids lives with my dad cuz he’s 17 and the oldest and I just don’t have the room here in a two bedroom apartment. I cannot afford atm to get a bigger place. It’s not abuse.)
This is a joke right? Sounds to me as if your ex in laws are allowing your son to live there. Its not their responsibility to GIVE your son a damn thing. He has a roof over his head and somewhere to sleep…what is your problem…petty…trying to stir sime shit! Get over yourself
Well I was abused as a child or rather my older sister was.we.ahared a bed and a room. We all did at one time.It was great to share
In my state child must have their own rooms. Siblings of the same gender can share rooms
Nope. I lived in a 3 bedrom home growing up and I’d still sleep by my Ma throughout my teen years. I’d do it again in a heart beat. It makes their bond stronger. Not to be rude but you don’t tell anyone what they should do in their household. Just like no one should tell you.
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Simply No not at all . You can do nothing but say bye have a great time with your dad . I love you !
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This is so ridiculous. I bet the child doesn’t even sleep all that often.
Are you serious right now? What’s the custody agreement? If you have him full time there is no reason for him to have his own room, if he has him full time he still doesn’t need his own room. He has a roof over his head, food in his belly and clothes on his back. He’s fine
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Omg the rude comments are so unnecessary. Depending in the age but If your son is older he should have his own room
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He should get his own bedroom…not sleep with his own dad this messed up and unhealthy relationship parenting in way…if he refused get him his own bedroom keep him with you till he make bedroom for your son simply…
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Seriously? My mom was a single mom and her and I shared a room and bed. Or I slept on the pull out bed.
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Depends where you live. Some places have strict guidelines about where children sleep and how many people can live in a house. You’d have to get cps/dcf involved to investigate. If this is the only issue I’d leave it alone. Now if ur ex is having a so “sleep” over with your kid right there then it may be worth bringing up.
Stop looking for problems
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Abuse? No… they are providing basic needs…and what are the custody arrangements?
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How old is the child, 
& still its not abuse at all u might have some issues & are looking for some reason too star crap thats what it seems like
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Talk about privilege…
Serious really how? Stop picking at the small shit. Kids don’t have to have there own room for things to be perfect.
Sounds like the kid is 10 or over maybe he doesn’t want his own room he’s old enough to say if that’s what he wants or not
Wow some people will bitch about anything
Oh my Lord! No! Its not abuse! Mind your own business! He’s not being harmed, he’s safe…let it go!
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Would’ve loved to have spent that quality time with my dad i slept in his bed until he passed away when i was in the same town as he was !!
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Give him som money to fix the problem. You either fix the problem. Or your part of it
No thats not abuse. Im sorry. Child doesnt have privacy but thats not abuse
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When I was 6-11 and spent weekends with my dad, he lived with my grandma and if I didn’t sleep on the couch I slept in the same room
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Be glad at least he have somewhere safe to sleep well with Dad
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First world “problems” 
You need a reality check Haha.
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Abuse? No.
My son sleeps in my room 
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The only problem would be with cps. If he lives with his dad full time then yes he needs a room. If he doesn’t and he just visits there, then no.
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Even DCS’s standards would be fine with that. Chill. At least he has a bed and an involved dad. Don’t be that petty ex wife who hates her ex more than she loves her kids.
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Abuse? That’s a stretch. My 5 year old has her own room but she has a bed in my room and usually ends up getting in my bed. I don’t see anything wrong with it.
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You’ve got to be kidding me
Abuse. Really? So when my kid sneaks into my bed it’s abuse?
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I don’t even believe this question 
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I think that’s a problem to DCFS .
Wow no not abuse! You interfering with him and his father is abusive!
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Haha like every kid needs their own space… I didn’t have my own space till I moved outta my parents house and I shared a room with my little sister till I was twenty. That’s nothing lol you make me laugh.
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Only in America is sleeping on a cot in a heated and cooled room with your father considered abuse. Lol
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He has his dad an you got do do you as dad has his son!!
He’s fine. He’s safe and he’s being cared for. Sounds like you’re just salty dad gets to still see his son.
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No not abuse, uncomfortable but not abuse
Not abuse, but would be considered a factor in terms of custody if he tried to get more time.
You can tell someone just wants to make things hard for her ex/child I’d suggest looking up the term abuse cause you sound like a deadset moron
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That is a bit of a stretch…abuse? I think you are just looking for a reason the argue with your ex. It sounds like your son is being taken care of by his father; if he wasn’t you would’ve posted what the father was actually doing that was wrong.As long as your ex is being a father, it really isn’t any of your business what goes on at the father’s house if the child is not being harmed… Stop looking for a reason to be pissed off and to argue. Let your son enjoy his time with his father!
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Yea id say abuse. Like if they don’t love the kid enough to give him his own room so he can have his privacy to get a good night’s sleep and change that’s neglect.
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Is your son clean, fed well? Is there a problem with his behavior? Is he withdrawn? Any bruises? Is your son school age? Grades slipping? I hope you are thinking before you create problems that aren’t there. Step cautiously for your son’s sake.
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Wait I have so many questions!!!
I’m just assuming you guys aren’t on good enough terms to just communicate your concerns to the dad?
A very simple “our son has expressed to me that he would really like his own space when he comes to see you, is there anyway I can help make that a reality for him” could go along way.
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This isn’t abuse. Im a little upset at the pettiness of this. If you’re ex is doing his best, who are you to interfere? You aren’t together anymore
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It’s really unfortunate but I wouldn’t say you have a case.
A lot of a-holes on here , sorry for the kiddo.
Just don’t be the ex that cries wolf
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Cant be serious here come on calling it abuse is just wrong and so so petty. When I was younger
I shared a room with my brother until he left for university. My mum didnt have a room for all of us and we turned out just fine.
If you have serious concerns about your ex being inappropriate then yes bring it up but the kid has a roof over his head so let’s not over react
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Don’t be that bitter baby mama everyone talks about. The judge will see it as him still having a roof over his head. Go get yourself a mans and move on. If he’s still seeing the child you BOTH made together without skipping a beat then leave that man alone.
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Oh my god no!! Just stop. If his dad is a good dad and spends time with him then you need to stop.
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Abuse? Tf. You are joking right? I lived with my mom for 2 years when i was 15 and slept on the couch and lived out of a suitcase my sister anf step sister had a room they shared and beds of their own and sister came weekends step sister never came over… It was petty and uncomfortable but not abuse either i just had shitty parents. I feel so sorry for you that your life has been so great you think this is abuse.
If this were a mom sharing a room with her 10yr old daughter would you be saying this?
They are both boys. It’s not ideal but it’s ok. As long as child does not witness any sexual activity(daddy does not have girlfriends over at night or anything) it’s fine. Especially if this is a situation where you are primary and dad only has weekends on a few overnights a month, why should dad get a place just for him when he’s only there a few nights a month.
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Hope you feel low after this post… lol
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His dad stays with his parents atleast your son has a roof over his head when he’s there. Thank god the dad isn’t in the shelter and has family who’s there. I understand concern but it’s fine, let it go 
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Def not abuse…I remember we lived in a one bedroom apart and all 3 of us siblings slept on an air mattress in the living room we all survived and are pretty good human beings if I do say so myself
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You’re grasping at straws here girl. You must be looking for some kinda flaw here to capitalize on. Shame on you.
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Some fathers dont do shit for their kids be grateful that hes spending time with him
10 yrs living with his mom?? Wow! Bottom line is a you can’t be a parent if your not a man and you can’t be a man living in your mamas basement. Prolly on drugs. But yet all these people think it’s ok and on his side. Ok let’s side with the 40 yr old man wearing a cat shirt somethings wrong.
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Not for you to decide the culture or customs in the father’s home
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Be thankful that your child is actually safe around their father… I’d kill for a damn weekend to myself just saying.
No leave it alone as long as he has a roof over his head An his dad is good to him then that shouldn’t matter.
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Why isn’t he with you?
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If a single mother is sharing a room with her child because all she can afford is one bedroom, is that abuse? No. Same standards apply.
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Both my son’s sleep in my room and always have there’s nothing wrong with it
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Research the fair housing laws in your state that tell you how many people per room the laws allowed. This is probably not illegal and therefore not considered abuse. Also, this is a stupid question.
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Honestly, just sounds like you are being petty…
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If u shared a room with ur kid would u assume ppl thot that of u…no. stpp clutching at straws. He sees and spends time with his kid and is a father to him god sake. My sons dad moved back with his dad also and my 2 boys go stay with him every wkened sharing a room and tbh they love it. Its fun, they bond more and they still see their dad…i certainly dont go about bad mouthing for it to everyone asling stupid questions.
Seriously stop ! You probably already get a crap load of child support. So he can’t afford to live on his own. It’s his dad leave it alone and get over it move on.
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Wtf? Not abuse. He has a safe comfy place to sleep, a lot of people share rooms, its normal in a lot of places around the world.
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To all the people who are commenting on brothers & sisters sharing rooms, I shared a room with my brother until I was 22 we turned out fine, his video games were in the living room & I was always in the room, when I started partying and working and was never home he started using the room more then I moved out, all was fine
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No this isn’t abuse… Not in the slightest. I wouldn’t even think of this being anywhere near abuse
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What about people that live in studios because they simply cant afford bigger??? Should they lose their kids and be charged with abuse???
NO. Stop being stupid.
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Abuse…no…inconvenient yes…not a normal environment…but nothing today is…
I thought kids legally needed their own room?
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It sounds more like trying to alienate
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Lol its the same thing as a mom sharing a room with her kids. Its not child abuse lol smh
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Not abuse. He has somewhere to sleep.
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Me and my husband lived in a studio apartment, both drove single cab trucks, and CPS released an 18 month old into our custody. Why? Because it was clean, safe, running water, and food. 
at least he is trying to spend time with his child and not walking out on him.
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Oh no, he doesn’t have his own room!!! His life is gonna be ruined!!!#1stworldproblems
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His Dad has him and he has a safe place to sleep.
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Is this even a serious question? This can’t be serious. He has a roof over his head, his father with him, he’s warm and has a bed, he’s fine. Some will try anything…smdh.
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