Not your house… Not your business.
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Really?? Abuse??? Smh 
This is not abuse and thinking it is to me is crazy. Put your kids happiness ahead of wanting to cause drama. I mean I understand not liking it but don’t throw around the term abuse.
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As someone who is currently involved with CPS because I called the police on my 2 teenage step children to protect my 2 year old son:
The kid doesn’t need a room. He just needs a bed. It could be in any room of the house, even if it is just a pallet.
The word you’re looking for here is neglect. No. It is not neglectful. Does it suck? Maybe, but there are children living in vans and in tents that would kill to have any room in any warm home.
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This is so unfortunate because he didn’t ask for this. I think that there’s more to this than just circumstances. It’s a product of divorce. Divorce affects us all in a negative way. Jesus said " a house divided among its self can not stand." His merely saying that there are consequences for our decisions.
If you truly believe your child is suffering some form of abuse by his father, the logical recourse would be immediate removal and legal action, not whatever this is. We gotta be grown here in the momma position.
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This is an insane question and drawing attention to you and your ex in the worst way. I know the law requires him to have a room for your son. He clearly does and I doesn’t have to be to your expectations. If you feel your son is in harms way, the contact CPS. If not, stop trying to put your hand in their home to control it. There are so many other things to focus on. Geeeezus!
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Hes not on a floor, hes in a room with his DAD. Seriously not seeing an issue here, be thankful your child has a parent that is involved with his life and get over it
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It’s not really abuse… I mean he’s just sharing a room with his father, who he doesn’t stay with often I’m assuming. So what? Every weekend or every other weekend? I think you’re over reacting.
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Ohh you’ve posted here too? Why cause we didn’t give you the answers that you wanted before?? It’s NOT abuse and you’re being dramatic!! Leave dad alone ffs and worry about your own life! Kid isn’t being abused or neglected like you’d like to believe! Just stop already!
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Wow can you say petty? When I first separated from my ex husband, all I could afford was a little one bedroom home. I had a queen size bed. My ex called dhs because my daughter didnt have her own room. They showed up and this wonderful person gave me a hug and said everything was just fine. The only way it would have been different is if she would have been a boy. He told me she was clean, fed and happy and healthy. That was all they were worried about.
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All the father has to do is claim that room is the child’s and he will sleep on the couch. The courts are not going to remove a child from his involved father with no evidence that any foul play is coming from sharing a room. You should probably let it go too!
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Not a form of abuse. My eldest slept in the bed with his sperm Donner (no contact in nearly 2 years) because there wasnt any room for him to have his own room… he sleeps in bed with me when I have him as well (my mum has residency order of him due to me previously falling really Ill and being hospitalized for 3 weeks social wouldn’t let him return home, since then I’ve had to move in with my youngests dad and extended family) my youngest doesnt even have his own room yet because we live with my partners family they’re aged 9 and 1 btw
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How old is your son? Have you asked him how he feels about it? Because really it’s only his feelings that matter 
As a kid we had camping trips etc where we slept in the same ‘room’ as the whole family, plenty of families in the world share sleeping space, I would hardly consider it abusive.
Just talk to your son, if he’s happy then maybe try to let it go
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That’s not abuse.
It is ridiculous to not make a child their own room when it is available (depending on his age). If your son is not there often, I wouldn’t worry about it.
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You need to stop now and anyone backing this girl does as well. That is not abuse. Just because you have a home of your own and your son has his own room doesn’t mean they are purposely doing this to abuse him
it’s not abuse but I do think that he can decline staying the night if he doesn’t have his own bed at least. has he told his father he doesn’t like staying the night? He could still spend time there and not sleep there. I wouldn’t want to sleep on a cot long term so i don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect him to have his own bed.
I know in Wisconsin a child doesn’t have to have their own room until 18months but if a child that’s 18 months or older doesn’t have their own room then yes if found out the parent responsible will get in trouble but not sure how it is in other states
Nope, not abuse, and awesome that dad has him at all, be grateful!
Absolutely definitely NOT abuse
Are you just blindly coming up with this bc you’re assuming the worst from a father sharing a room with his son?? Or has your son personally told you something that makes you wonder? Are you asking if its abuse bc he strictly doesnt have his own room or bc you’re worried with them sharing a bed that he’s been sexually abused? I’m a bit confused here… If it’s due to him not having his own room ONLY, which I think it is, then it isnt abuse and you should mind your own. If he’s being taken care of in every way, you shouldn’t focus on something so minor and pointless.
Seriously people need to stop throwing that word around for the fun of it. It’s not abuse. If you don’t like the sleeping arrangements have a conversation with someone about it or don’t send your son there🤷🏻♀️
Why should it be considered abuse simply because you are divorced? Would you consider it abuse because 2 children sleep in the same room? Do you consider it abuse when partners share a room? Would you consider it abuse if they shared a hotel room while on vacation? Get a grip & stop trying to create something out of nothing. Unless your child has indicated there is something going on other than sleeping & changing clothes in the same room, you are way out of bounds trying to insinuate there is.
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My only concern would be if he had a SO and they did the dirty with your son in the room since he doesn’t have his own room. As long as that wasn’t happening I don’t see the big deal.
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No that is not abuse.back in the day.sometimes people slept in one room together.Don.t make a issue of this.as long as your son is safe.
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If there is a room being used for odds and ends the boy should have his own room or his father should get his own place so his son could have his own room and be comfortable
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Nope, not abuse. Instead of worrying about him having his own room, be thankful has a dad who is involved.
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Does he have overnight visits? Here in MA they have to have a separate room dedicated for the child to sleep in order to have overnights. They can not share a bed/room. I would look into what the law/chapter is for where you live.
No. My ex lived with his mother and they all had a room together 2 boys and a girl. I never had a problem with that bc they went their every other weekend. That would be like having a problem with brothers having a shared bedroom.
No it’s not abuse. If he does not live with dad he does not have to have a room.
It’s not your house. It’s not your business what they do to their house. No it isn’t abuse . Stop being a petty and bitter baby momma.
No they both are probably glad to be together don’t be looking for problems unless your son indicates there is on
Do they have extra storage space to put the stuff in in order for him to have a room? Have you talked to your son about how he feels?
What’s really abuse is the question being asked. No it’s not abuse.
How is this abuse or neglect?
Child does not need a room for himself. No, not abuse. Stop trying to control what is not yours to control.
Why isn’t you son living with you
You call CPS get ready for them to be All up in YOUR business too.
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Trouble with a capital T
Bitter with a capital B
Total Bitch
it’s not there responsible to supply ur son with a room either u or ur ex move ur ass and get him one…the fucking nerve of some people…