I’m just curious how that is abuse? I mean l get that he should have his own room at is dads place but abuse??!! Not at all
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Be glad the dad is in your childs life. Look how many single parents w the kids that dont see that absent parent
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Wow do you ask your son how he feels about it?? Child abuse to sleep in the same room with his daddy?? Girl relax chill have a cup or wine 
or 2 my kids have they own room and still sleep with me!!! Please don’t call 911 on me
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My kid has her own room and sleeps with me anyways every night lmao
It may be selfish of the persons parents if they had a spare room and just didn’t let him use it. Times are hard. People stay in relationships just to pay the bills not many young adults are buying homes because it’s unaffordable. The poorest families I knew were also the happiest.
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I have the same odd situation. He lived with his mom and they both didn’t have rooms. Then he moved out with his new significant other and they still don’t. I try not to think about it but there’s not much we can do. It is odd. Both my kids have a decorated room of their own here. Seems the father just doesn’t have to do these things. For me, I want too and I enjoyed decorating their rooms.
His loss.
If you think that’s abuse then you’ve clearly live a very sheltered life. I can’t believe this is even a question. No it’s not abuse. Jesus Christ.
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You sound like a bitter baby mama.
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Sounds like my sons ex. She cheated on him 3 times during their marriage. After they divorced she tries to think of anything and everything to make his life miserable still. Especially after he moved on and got engaged to someone else and she’s still single. He can’t see the kids if his fiancée is there, he can’t pick the kids up if she’s in the car, he can’t have the kids if his fiancées kids are at his house. She’s constantly blowing up his phone to gripe at him about something. And if he don’t answer, she goes to his house. She’s even hit him in the face with her keys at his house because he didn’t answer the phone. In front of his kids that she locked in her car, and wouldn’t let him comfort his little boy who was crying, because he saw her hit him. Some people just can’t move on.
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I swear … Sometimes I think this group is full of immature and bitter people. Now and again you get posts that are OK but this one? Ugh
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She clearly stated there is indeed a place they could make him a bedroom. How old is he? Maybe he needs space? Some of you calling her a “ bitter baby mama “ clearly don’t give a flying fuck about your own personal space. If he’s over the age of like 7 he should HAVE HIS OWN SPACE. Some of you are the bitter ones. There is no need for a child at that age to still be co sleeping with their father. Call me a bitter bitch. But the kid needs to grow. & sleeping with daddy until he’s 18 isn’t the best idea.
He has a place to sleep and that is more than enough.
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Not abuse but def annoying.
Better then on the streets , me my son and daughter share a room mainly cos of the junkies that come knocking but gotta do what ya gotta do
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When my ex and i were going thru child custody litigation the family court ordered that i provide our daughter her own bedroom because she slept with me (a single mom) in my bedroom. She was 9 years old at the time. The court said the child had to have her own private space…
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Prob wrong choice of words she has used . She’s probably wondering if it’s hindering his development etc . Abuse has a total different meaning to some . Not ideal situation but it’s ok
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I think he’s giving him shelter and that’s more than a lot of parents have to give.
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Why do you not provide him a room of his own?
How often is he with his dad ?? If it’s every other weekend then no. But it’s it’s weekly I would say he needs his own room
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So what did you do as his “mom”
Criticise everything while doing nothing?
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Not abuse but definitely annoying
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I’m sure she is more concerned that by the sounds of it the child is a least ten if not older. Maybe the child is expressing discomfort over not having his own room or a real bed. Ten years is more than enough time for dad to figure out how to either get a one or two bedroom apartment.
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If he only gets him for visits then no it’s not abuse. The primary parent is the one that most provide.
Got a roof over his head
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Are they mean to him? Do they hit him? Do they verbally or sexually abuse him? If you answered no to all those questions then it isnt abuse. I’m sorry but if you think because your son doesnt have the luxury of his own room ,because maybe his father cant afford it, that hes being abused you’re ignorant. Just because they share a room doesnt mean he doesnt absolutely love him as much as you do. Hes fed and got a place to sleep. Hes not abused and if you’re so concerned about him sleeping in bed with dad or on a cot its tax season buy him a twin sized bed for dads room 
problem solved.
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Aggravating sure , abuse no
What can you do about it? Absolutely nothing
Is that a form of abuse? - hell no! Not even close
So long as he has a safe place to sleep, he does not need his own room
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You left to much out, not enough information. Those dad have permanent custody of him? How old is he?
High horse much? How would you react if he were accusing you of something as serious as child abuse bc of something so trivial? He doesn’t live there so why would he have his own room? Are you going to pay storage for their ‘catch all’ things to give the room to him for weekends? Why should the grandparents? Spoiled
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Wait…this is a real question?! Somebody is honestly THIS petty and bored? Please somebody tell this woman how REAL life works…better hope somebody don’t send him a shot of this so he can sue your ass for flat out defamation hunny 
I believe in our state, dss requires that children have their own room.
Look up the law by your state
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I disagree with the “he doesn’t live there” because he’s there every other weekend or once a month it doesn’t matter a parents place is ALWAYS they’re child’s home and the child should be comfortable there PERIOD…that being said my 9 year old has his own room at his dads and his dad sleeps in the bed with him at night because he’s afraid something will happen because his room is on the other end…“too far away” does it bother me…not anymore but it did when I lived there too…because I felt he shouldn’t be in our room anymore the boy does fine in his own room he also does ok sleeping with someone…maybe ask why and talk to your son and see how he feels…if he’s HAPPY…DROP IT AND BE HAPPY
Seriously?
This can’t be an actual question??
No it’s not abuse, stop being petty and trying to cause issues where there are seemingly none.
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Seriously? I didn’t have my own room, I shared in a room with my sister or on the couch, I’m fine.
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Abuse??? Get a grip.
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Actually just went through this with my baby daddy (not bc I had a problem with it. Bc I feel they had a place to sleep I wasnt told the whole story though) I have an 8 year 6 year old and they go to dads where ALL together there is 6 children and one on the way who all share a room my kids sleep on crib mattress I was told they slept on couches and on air mattresses. Wasnt the case. They were told ot was abuse bc a child should have their own bed and cant share a room with non siblings (only 2 soon to be 3) of the others are siblings. They also was told her child 2 & 3 could not sleep with them had to be their own bed.
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A child has a roof over their head, great job dad!!
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I remember (it’s been years ago) a friend of mine was in a custody battle with her ex and she legally HAD to have a bedroom per child. She had 1 boy 1 girl though. I’m not sure in this situation.
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For everyone saying this person is overreacting SHAME ON YOU!!! This mother is concerned came to a group where she felt safe to share her thoughts!!!
This situation is A FORM OF NEGLECT IF THE CHILD IS SCHOOL AGE (law in every state) IM pretty sure it came to be a federal law ( someone look this up for me cause I know the backlash I’ll get 
THIS 
group:clap:t2: is not supportive:clap:t2:
Why:clap:t2: I will never post on here:clap:t2:
A TON OF BITCHES!!!
Most states have laws about children sharing rooms with adults. Does Dad have primary custody? How old is your son? Is your son treated well otherwise? Is he loved, clean, fed, up to date with his doctors? If your son is a teenager and you call DSS it is likely your ex will be forced to make the spare room into a bedroom. I’m assuming that’s what you were getting at asking if not having his own room would be abuse of some kind.
Not abuse by any means, if the son wants his own room maybe he should ask otherwise I don’t see where the issue is.
In Indiana a kids needs a safe.place to sleep! Doesn’t have to be there own room alot of kids are sharing rooms with brothers sister ect of there safe it’s fine.
You don’t even deserve to be taken seriously 
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My 8 year old daughter with ASD still sleeps with me. I must be a bad mum 
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Definitely not abuse. Not even close to abuse.
If he is with dad just for the weekend, there’s no need for him to have his own room. If he is with dad more than he is with you, then he definitely should have his own room. Kids also need privacy and a place they can go to when they feel like being alone or not dealing with parents bullshit. But like I said, if he is only there for the weekend, it’s no biggie.
I think legally they have to have their own room at least in most states. However if you are so worried why is your son not with you and living with dad instead?
Technically it is abuse, it’s mental abuse to force the child to sleep in the same room as the parent, depending on the situation, BUT it’s not the parent that is at fault. It would be the grandparents because they are not allowing their grandson to have his own personal space.
Talk to your son and see how he feels about it and then see if the guardian ad litem will speak on your son’s behalf.
If you think there is abuse, there might be. Abuse doesn’t have to be verbal or physical, it’s mental, emotional, and 7 more abuse forms.
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That’s not a abuse. He hs a place to sleep. I would stop worrying about your ex husband and focus that energy on yourself. I didn’t have a room at my dads either… I had a fold out bed thingy in his room and it was just fine.
Why wouldn’t the grandparents WANT to make a room for their grandson?!? That’s odd to me? Especially if that room is basically a storage room. 
As long as there are only 2 heartbeats per room it’s not abuse.
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My son has his own room but he sleeps with me and my husband sleeps in our sons room. 
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You should worry about other things as long as there is a place to sleep, he is clothed, clean, belly full and loved stay in your houses business
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All of us who came from large country family’s grew up sharing space because we’ll that’s life. As long as your son doesn’t express any discomfort there is no need for worry.
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If it’s not court ordered for him to have hisown room… Then there is no problem…
We live in a three bedroom apt… My three older girls each have a room. I sleep on couch and my four yr old has a toddler bed in the corner of living room…
As long as they have a bed and blankets… It’s fine…
He has a dad that takes him and granparents that help…wtf are you trying to ruin that for? Thousands of people wish for such a great dad
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He’s just fine. Where he sleeps is just fine! Focus on love, good well being, fed, not abused! A cot is just fine AND even sleeping with his dad is fine. I have a room that mine could have when I see them. They prefer this or sleeping with me! I don’t have them full time but they are so very happy and want this. I ask all the time do you guys wanna do the room Up and paint the walls? Make it yours? They say no we wanna stay here
I have bunk beds ready for when they say yes but for 2 years they won’t budge
It does depend on the State’s laws!
Oh SHUT UP. I’m so sick of women like you who want to find any little petty reason to get their ex in trouble just out of spite!
Your son has a father who is in his life and helps you take care of him. Let shit go and move on with your life.
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It’s not abuse, it’s just him being a shitty father. Like who does that? ‘Sorry we have a perfectly good room for you if we could get our shit together but I don’t care enough too’
No lol just cus a parent can’t afford to give him his own room is not abuse
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My son lives in a shared house with me he is the happiest baby and dosent have his own room of course that’s not abuse! As mothers we all want the best but the best if for them to be happy and loved not about material things.
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This is a super entitled question. The man can’t afford to live on his own but you expect him to have a dedicated room for him for when he has visitation?! I assume he pays his child support (you didn’t say otherwise) and he has his own cot to sleep on . What a ridiculous question and really malicious of you to insinuate abuse.
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How often is your son at his dad’s house? Does he have his own room at your house?
Ok so I’ll probably be the odd one out here, but my kid doesn’t have her own room at her dads house. She shares with her brother. And she doesn’t like it one bit. She says she doesn’t have her own space and it makes her feel uncomfortable & unwelcome. While I don’t think it’s abuse, it does mess with the kid more then people know
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Wow, you should be glad he has a dad to visit, and a roof over his head.
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Not even close to abuse. Idk how anyone could even remotely think that this would be abuse
He has a place to sleep are they rich i would guess not what do you want hes not there permanently dont make a big deal out of it
Is it an issue for your child or is there a safety issue because of the room sharing? Unfortunately, when families are split up, you have very little say in what happens while your child is with their other parent. Pick your battles.
Ok try this I will come clean the room,put all stuff in bags.when done you put stuff where you want not in his room. Then I will paint. You purchase bed dresser. And son and I will help deco
🤦🤦🤦. I can’t with this people. Watch the new Netflix series of Gabriel Fernandez. You’ll be thankful he has a dad that cares about him.
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I really dislike when ex-partners throw the abuse word around like the children are some sort of pawns.
Has the child voiced an issue to you at all? My brother shared a bedsit above a shop with my mum until he was a teenager and he’s fine and was happy with it. I don’t think any action is needed unless your child mental health is being affected. At least he has food and somewhere safe and warm to sleep. Be grateful for that. It sounds like you’re digging for ammunition to use with protective services when there isn’t any cause to.
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As long as he has a place to lay his head that is not a danger to him, I’m pretty sure he’s fine.
You cannot control your exes even if you have a child with them
That is not abuse! You are just petty! As long as tour son is healthy and happy who cares is he shares a room with his dad when he is there
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Is your ex engaging in sexual activity while your son is in the room? Your son is at least 10 so if that is happening, yes report that. Otherwise no it’s not abuse.
He is lucky to have a father. Not lucky to have a petty mother .
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He has a place to sleep. Most State laws are two heartbeats per room. They are the same gender as well. Legally that’s not even close to abuse or neglect.
Be thankful he has somewhere to sleep and a dad that loves him. A lot of children aren’t that lucky.
There are kids out there who have hungry bellies because their parents are neglecting them, kids who have broken bones and bruises because a parent beats them, there are kids who put themselves to sleep last night and woke themselves up this morning and got ready for school alone because their parents are out drinking/doing drugs/whatever, and you think that just because your son doesn’t have his own room at his fathers residence that that could be a question of child abuse.
Knock it off and get with reality. Be thankful that your ex is able to provide him with a roof over his head, food and water, and cares for him on levels that are so much greater than having his own room!!!
Hell, be thankful that his dad is in his life. Plenty of kids don’t even have that…
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Its probably okay, but just closely monitor the situation to be sure of no abuse of your son. Loneliness can really twist any mind, adult or child.
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get it together chic…he is clothed, fed, taken care of, and obviously has a good relationship with his father and grandparents, dont go tryna fix something that ain’t broke! Good luck and God bless!
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If thats the biggest problem going on with your son at your ex’s house then you have nothing to worry about. Your child is fine. Stop creating an issue that isn’t there.
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The grandparents aren’t abusing the kid by not turning THEIR junk room into a bedroom. The dad should move out and get his own place so the kid would have his own room…it sucks for the kid if he’s living there full time, but if he’s only with the dad on the weekend or a few times through out the month, he will be okay.
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Seriously, my own father grew up in an attic space he shared with 3 other siblings. No problems. I do believe Dolly Parton and her Family lived in a two room shack.
No , personal space doesn’t equal to abuse.
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Many people live with less space then this and make do. I know someone who lived with her mom in a 2 bedroom apartment, she had 2 children who were maybe 7 and 1 when she moved from there into an even smaller space. The 7 year old had a toddler bed and the baby slept with mom, when they moved all 3 shared one bed. It wasn’t abuse, just what they had. You can not force someone else to give someone a room in their home. My stepkids also didn’t have a room at my house, at first they shared with my children and then we got air mattresses for them. We didn’t have the space to accommodate full time arrangements for part time residents.
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I would think it’s more important that the child have his dad and grandparents in his life than his own bedroom. Have they ever been abusive? If not then this is just looking for trouble.
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Really? Your sons father actually takes him and spends time with him? Yet, you’re complaining? Thank your lucky stars and stop being so petty! It is not a form of abuse! You’re just looking for problems!
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Each state is different on their housing laws. I’m in Florida and the Florida law is 2 “heartbeats” (people) per room and a room is defined by a space that has 4 walls 1 of the walls being an exterior wall, a door and a closet.
So many people like to complain about unnecessary stuff geez get a life
Just be thankful he’s in your child’s life. 
If this is your only complaint sounds like dads doing pretty good!
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Not all kids get their own rooms. This is not abuse. He has a place to sleep and food.
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No ma’am. Especially of he doesn’t have custody of him. Mt son was made to sleep on the couch and they had a spare bedroom
In the state I live in, it’s not. As long as he’s safe, warm etc it’s all okay
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If your in NY State a child must be provided his own bed. And I personally think it’s selfish they haven’t provided a room if they have a room
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The REAL issue is he is grown man who lives with his parents…
Sounds like someone needs a case and needs to find an excuse to take to court lol 
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how often and how long is he with his dad? My grandson comes visit us every other weekend and he sleeps in the den on a day bed.
As long as your son is eager to go . Stop trying to start stuff .
No, that’s not abuse! Stop belittling real abuse!
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Each state has different laws. Talk to a lawyer.
Have him live with you!