Tell him his options that’s all. Adoption or keeping it.
Get him a job take him to work everyday make him pay for diapers and formula if not breastfeeding get him a checking account make sure he pays for at least one bill. When she’s done with being pregnant get her a job and yes you’ll probably be taking care of the baby for a bit but honestly this the best thing you can do for them. And if there are excuses as to why they are not working then they don’t deserve to live with you even if you have already decided on not allowing them to. I wouldn’t alienate them because of age or yell at them it’s time we all work together and make sure you sign her up for WIC now that she is pregnant. Make sure you also sign them up for HUD it’s Housing assistance based on income. Anything that would help them.
That’s our grandbaby love it and help no matter what
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Still your son. Help him. Teach him how to be a good parent.
Just be there 4him. Let God deal with his consequences
Get a paternity test asap.
Wow. Mother of the year. I have no words for how selfish you are. How could you put yourself first when he needs you the most. This is not about you and your financial support. They’ll make it regardless of your financial help. There is something called a job, school, even general assistance. This is their time to make the biggest decision of their life and you made it all about you. Wow. Disgusting! You ought be a shame of yourself.
as a parent you should be ashamed of yourself, it shouldnt matter if they are adults you should still help them as best an as much as possible an get them on the right track for success, beasically you are ready to throw out your child an your grandchild thats awful!
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First off I’m shocked on all the comments about her letting her 21 year old son live at home. Why are parents so ready to throw out their kids and set them up for failure? Hes 21 we have no clue on if hes in school or if hes working or struggling or his situation at all. I for one would never just throw out my child without knowing they were set up for success. Second off it says he doesnt know… this could mean many things. He doesnt know if shes pregnant or if it’s his. If he barely knows her he knows nothing about what she wants or is going to do. Marriage is not the answer. First step I’d to see if shes really pregnant and then if it’s his. Hopefully this scares him enough that hes learned his lesson about having unprotected sex with someone he barely knows. If anything that would be the lesson needing to be learned.
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If she does turn out to be prego, maybe the best decision is to sit with her family and yours and see what the best thing to do for both your son and herself, I raised 2 kids under 2 between 21-22 and it was hard on me and my fiancé, we moved into his parents for help but we both had jobs and helped out, how ever I do think 18 & 21 is a very young age, I don’t regret having my boys but I did miss out on a lot being a mother so early. No one talks about all the options that there are available, and some are frowned upon but at the end it’s your sons choice and mostly the girls choice…over anyone’s else’s.
I have read this over and over. NO WHERE DOES IT SAY HE IS NOT WORKING Or GOING TO SCHOOL
Ask him, and listen.
Well this won’t be the first time this has happened with my grown up children I never expected to know exactly what they would like to do with the next step to adulthood! I gave them advice on choices what they could be 1 go to college 2 trade school 3 work 4 military after they tried college and working they started seeing how hard it can be with time and management and money so they talked to someone who was in military still young enough to make choices they joined the air force this was good for them not easy though! But it gave them a step of organization it helped them learn a trade it paid them learned how to live away from parents and take care of themselves! They learned how to manage there bank accounts and money! They learned how to travel! My 1 daughter put in 6 years and while learning hands on nursing did college for nursing and is now in emergency unit in hospital and the military taught her and paid for all college! My 2 daughter followed her she did 4 years and is in nursing administration my son is still in and went to learn jets! He has done 10 years plans to retire with them and he’ll only be 38 when he does he can get a job with airline but wants to be a gym teacher which he is going to college for also! Hope you can talk to your son give him suggestions on what his choices can be and how he needs to think about financially if she is having a baby how he can take care of him/her let him know you will help anyway you can but he needs to make a move on what and where his life is heading his choices today will set his life up for all the tomorrow s to come! There is help for the girl for care for herself and baby and hopefully her parents will help her along the way! It’s not the end of the world it’s actually a blessing in disguise being a grand mom is great I have 5 grandchildren with all that experience with my children! Mom to be has decisions on what’s next! She can still go to college work learn a trade! There are programs out there for mothers to go to with help on going to trade school! Good luck to you all!
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