My son's school is boxing him in to being a bad kid, help?

I need advice about this situation. My 5 yr old son and I are having a really hard time with his school. I feel like they are centering my son out as the bad kid. Everyday when I pick him up they always tell me he did something wrong. Never what lead up to it or what the other kid did. Today when I picked my son up his teacher was out side too I was asking him about his day like I always do when we walk home. He started crying and told me his lip hurts a boy kicked him. I was so angry because when I picked him up his teacher was out side and didnā€™t tell me anything but if my son was the kid kicking I bet you she would of told me. I turned around and walked back to the school. I ran into The vice principal and he made up a bunch of Excuses for the teacher. He said we will talk about it tomorrow. Also Iā€™m so great full I have a witness who saw the boy kick Jayden. Tomorrow Iā€™m going to make a big Beal about the teacher not letting me know. About the school not calling me. They call me about every little thing my son does wrong but you guys canā€™t call me when my son gets hurt.
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Set your foot down. How are they going to tell you everything your son did wrong but not notify you when your son gets hit? See how you feel after you go back & if you still the same way I would enroll him another school. Thereā€™s no reason for him to stay when even the vice principal is making excuses for the teacher.

I went through this exact situation with my son being bullied with racial motivation for 2 yrs, the school was made aware of the situation and did nothing claiming they had to see the other child do it before they could do anything. How were they not seeing it. As I had to watch my son go from very outgoing , popular, got good grades and liked school to being very withdrawn, didnt want to hang out with his friends any longer his grades went from all Aā€™s to all Fā€™s and then he developed Anorexia. It was horrible so I ended up going above the schools heads and met with the superintendent of the school and the next day the boy was suspended and I put my son in a different school and the superintendent arranged bus service for my son even though it was a different school that wasnt in the district where we lived. So unfortunately it sounds like you may just want to go to the superintendent instead of wasting your time with the school that doesnt have your sons best interest at heart. And it sounds like getting him in a different school may help also because now that has happened kids are just cruel and he may adjust better where no kids are aware of the situation for him to be picked on or made fun of by others.

Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My son's school is boxing him in to being a bad kid, help?

I would definitely switch schools now itā€™s obvious your son has already been traumatized if heā€™s crying he is only 5 he should be Happy every day to go to school

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I would have him transferred to another class if that doesnā€™t help new school.

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All I have to say is this if your kid is the one constantly causing issues the teacher is bound to notice your child moreso than other children. The other child who kicked yours honestly this might have been the first time he did anything like this and the teacher will probably talk to that kids mother about what happened.

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My son is also 5, in school for 4 days and this kept happening. I decided to pull him out because seeing my son and hearing him be so happy to go to school to getting picked on, kids being mean and teacher picking on him and him coming home sad and irritated was not worth it to me.

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Changes schools, doubtful it will get better, and your boy will have no end of school related trauma if you donā€™t. If you do it now you have the chance of wiping away the bad memories.

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Maybe your kid is badā€¦

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Stand up for your child!!! My daughter had an instigator at her school that it took me getting involved to fix the problem. She was labeled the bad kid because the instigator played the victim or would destroy evidence (notes written to my daughter at lunch and such).

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Good for you! Make sure you leave that line of communication open for your child so they know that they can tell you anything!
Keep advocating for your child always! There are a lot of crazy people in the world and some of them are in education. In fact, a surprising amount are everywhere! Just because someone is a teacher doesnā€™t make them a mature adult. People will do this. They will sing a lot of child and make that child the bad kid or they will believe one kid over another just because they favor the other child.
At one point, I had an entire faculty pressuring me to put my child on meds because they all had diagnosed him with ADD. Except I explained to them that my child does not have ADD he is exceptionally high IQ and he has a very hard time concentrating in your class because the state will not allow me to put him in the grade he deserves to be in.
Several teachers and even a school counselor for trying to put get me to put my first grade child on my way none of them are qualified to make a diagnosis like that. Not only that but that is absolutely and utterly illegal! Teachers and faculty members at schools cannot ever tell you that your child has ADD or that they should be put on meds.
My child was given an IQ test and he tested into a school program that was a 5-day a week program for high IQ kids. I wanted to send each and every one of those teachers of bouquet of middle fingers.

Sadly my childā€™s struggle with being pigeon-holed by a teacher did not end there. Unfortunately, because my child is mixed race his gifted class teacher was singling him out and trying to make him out to be the bad kid. Mind you, and none of this has my child gotten violent with anyone throwing any kind of a tantrum or anything of the sort.

We moved my child is still in a gifted program and is really enjoying it and the racist teacher was pushed into retirement. Apparently my son wasnā€™t the only student of color that she was harassing.

If your kid acts different. If your kid yells at you after school, donā€™t get mad be patient because itā€™s a sign that something is going on and it may take them some time to figure out how to say it.
There is nothing I wouldnā€™t do or wouldnā€™t sacrifice to make sure my son is in the right place with the right people. Do not be afraid to take your child out of that school! Do not be afraid to talk to a lawyer and see if you have to have the school pay for him to go somewhere else out of the district. Do not be afraid to homeschool your kid if you have the kind of support that allows that. There are great virtual programs that also have the kids from the program get together.

Stay on your kids side! If your kid is acting wrong then tell them theyā€™re acting wrong and help correct their behavior, but never be afraid to stand up for your kid to a teacher or even a whole faculty if you have to! Your kid is the most important person in all of that

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Do what u gotta do , donā€™t let them do u or him that way ā€¦ some school system are hush hush about things because in todayā€™s world itā€™s all about who knows who and how they treat people ā€¦ put your foot down and stop it today before it gets worse , if not they will try their damned to push it away

Please stand up for your son. If the teacher is always telling the bad, the teacher should also tell the good!!

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Stand up for your baby be his voice

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Ask for the district superintendent to be present at the meeting!

Been there. We are African Americans and my grandson was in a predominantly white school coming home ucked up everyday. No phone call no nothing. Big ass scratch down his face in kindergarten. I told him the next kid that puts his hand on you you better fight back. Well guess what my phone was ringing off the hook from the good see all teacher. I told her where was the call the day before about that scratch down my grandson face and to get the hell off of my phone because he fought back. I am not ok with teachers not doing the right thing and you have to advocate for your child. Sadly we donā€™t know who is in the classroom and have to wonder if there motives are pure. Sidenote after my grandson defended himself the lil bad ass bully and all of his friends never bothered my grandson again. As for the teacher she left the district.

Defnitely time to switch schools or class if possible. You are so right about centering a child at school and is so common these days. Stand up for him if heā€™s right. Keep advocating him. Teacher should have kept the balance but she seems to be favoring one. Thatā€™s not like it!

Sooo my son is the bad kid. Gets in trouble everyday. Got suspended in 1st grade. Literally unbearable. (I love him so much and he is so kind. He just has some issues and we are trying to deal with them.) I know it sucks when they make that name for themselves because yes now he is going to get in trouble for every little thing because the teachers are watching him closer. But as far as her not telling you about the other student I think you need to think of it in reverse. If my son hits another kid yes his parents have a right to know. But now they know heā€™s a bad kid too and they are not as forgiving as their child Iā€™m sure is. Now if my son is constantly hitting the same kid then yes i feel like it needs to be discussed with both parents. But kids hit (kick, etc.) but when it comes time for play dates and other things Iā€™m going to remember that one time your kid kicked mine and be Leary about letting them play even if my son totally forgot and thatā€™s his best friend in the world. Just my thought process on it. Iā€™m definitely a burst in guns blazing whether they are in the wrong or not kind of parent so I probably donā€™t know what Iā€™m talking about. :sweat_smile:

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Email the teacher and principal!
Explain in that email with full details everything thatā€™s going on. Make it clear that you will stand up for your baby!

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I have actually been in this situation. My daughter was being blamed for everything. One day she was getting ready for school she was in first grade she refused to go to school crying and it was a field trip. My son who was in kindergarten said this boy kicked her in her private she showed me it was bruised. I asked what happened and she said the two boys held her down and one boy kicked her. The teacher then yelled at my daughter she lost her lunch pale and her jacket. The teacher punished her. Well needless to say I lost it. I went straight to the school and signed myself in. On the way to the class room I ran into the officer who was assigned to the school. I was so mad. I walked past told the teacher to come outside the class I told her I donā€™t know who you think you are but this is the last time your gonna ignore my daughter she tried to tell you not once not twice but 4 times that she was kicked and hit. You told her to be quiet and sit down. I told her I really feel like knocking you out. By then the principle came back with the officer and I told them in front of her. My child has been traumatized by this teacher she is always putting her down and from weeks she was being abused and yet she blamed her and I could not figure out why all the bruises. I said this stops now either she gets fired or im going to the school board and parents to raise hell. Well not more then a few seconds later here came another mom who got into it with the same teacher. Her daughter had same issue. 8 pressed charges on the boy and the teacher two weeks later was fired. What I found out is there is always more to the story then we know. At such young age they donā€™t give that great of details. My daughter was traumatized for awhile to the point her brother would go to the bathroom on her lunch or break to check on her. His teacher thought he had a bathroom issue but when I asked him he said he has to look out for her and I told his teacher she was really nice about it. Donā€™t go mad go determined and tell them that they are always pointing out the negativity and he is showing signs of discouragement and he cries alot. Tell them they better get 5heir crap together and pay attention to whatā€™s really happening. Remind them they are responsible for his safety and you wonā€™t have this continuing it is not right and you want something done about it. Tell them you do not know who is bullying your son but you will press charges when you find out and everyone involved will be held accountable. That will put a stop to it and if it doesnā€™t talk to superintendent and tell them the school is causing mental duress for your son

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I HATE schools. So muchā€¦ my daughters school luckily know we are a force to be reckoned withā€¦ Iā€™ve already pulled her out to home educate her before, they donā€™t like thatā€¦
I used to have to kick off at the teachers in years R up until year 2, now we are in year 3 and now theyā€™re fab with usā€¦

When the teacher is telling you that heā€™s done XYX ask them, and why did that happen?

If they donā€™t know then Iā€™d suggest a safeguarding issue is present and ask to move classes at the very least

Definitely address it nowā€¦.if you donā€™t he will literally be labeled (even at this young age) as a bad kid and it will follow him thru his schoolingā€¦.you are your sons voice, so you need to use it and address this stuffā€¦.I have seen teachers not like kids because they are boys or vice versaā€¦.itā€™s crazy when they single kids out and take a dislike for whatever reason they thinkā€¦.support your son and be his cheerleader :two_hearts::two_hearts::two_hearts::two_hearts::two_hearts:

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Fight for your kid, mama! this sounds like a load of BS on their part!

Maybe address this now with behavioral therapy? Better to get it started now when so young. My kiddo is a pain in the ass at school not so much a trouble maker as annoying lol. His ADHD IS BAAAADDDD. he takes meds twice a day and some days heā€™s still unbearable. Love him and heā€™s just the sweetest boy but he needs help to control his body. He is in OT, behavioral therapy, has a talk therapist and a psych. Rather catch onto whatā€™s going on now then when heā€™s 12.

Virtual school if you can

Yeah. I have to agree with you on this one. Do they have an app that you can communicate with the teacher through? As adults, we gotta be better listeners. Heā€™s probably really good at dropping his head down and not vocalizing the unfairness because all heā€™s hearing from other adults is heā€™s bad. Poor kiddo is probably super confused about being hit and it hurts and itā€™s bad and so Iā€™m bad. And had to wait for his safe person to finally cry about it. Thatā€™s pretty harsh when you look at it from a 5 year olds POV. :flushed:

I had the exact situation happen with my lad and only way to stop it was changing schoolsā€¦ His new school couldnā€™t praise him enough how good he was at school and couldnā€™t believe what he went through at his previous schoolā€¦

Changing schools donā€™t change anything. If this persist sometimes you got to be the bigger beast without physical violence. Everywhere there is a chain of command and like chess be the knight(horse)ā€¦jump over Their heads. If all chain of command exhausted inside Their departmentā€¦go out to media, protest, investigation, and supreme court.

I had this issue with my son from the moment he started there was a problem. 1st it was he couldnā€™t hold a pencil and he doesnā€™t speak properly. My son had a speech impairment because of his hearing they knew. Then the bullying incidents began my son being the bully 1st couple times I was kinda like OK. 3rd time I turned up he had be pulled from class I instantly noticed he had sand in the creases of his nose eyes mouth. I asked him what happened. Because he new people didnā€™t understand he would just agree. He then said he rubbed my face in the sand so I pushed him. I lost my shit it was a particular little.sh*t and a teacher. He was pulled from this big flash school and put into a school of 120 kids. He hasnā€™t had 1 incident heā€™s now in his last year of primary and I have never ever had 1 bullying incident since he began.

I would also let know that if they do not solve it you will be contacting a lawyer and the police to be pressing charges on the child and the school

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Remove your child asap. They will build a case and continue to label. Just pulled my little one out as all of this was going on the first few days. Very targeted and very punitive. Remove him immediately. Keeping him there will break his confidence.

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You canā€™t get upset if your child doesnā€™t voice the issue. My son has asd and he wonā€™t voice it so Iā€™ve found out a ton of things and had to notify the teacher. You can be upset I get that but if they donā€™t see it or voice it how is the teacher supposed to know.

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Did you ask your son if he told a teacher?
Honestly if you think the school isnā€™t a good fit for your child, move him. Teachers donā€™t see everything, but I can see why you would be upset. However try to be open minded and not defensive. It isnā€™t criticism.

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What is going on with schools these days, kids do this sort of thing itā€™s up to the teacher to tell the kids what is right and what is wrong and it is defo up to the teacher to tell the parent when a child has been kicked :flushed:, Iā€™m shocked both parents should of been told what there child has done.

Talk to your son get his side they did same to my daughter. Turned out she was being bullied, I went and had my say. With the principle more than once threatened to sue for gross negligence, was told its not all about your daughter. I said wrong. Itā€™s all about my daughter and itā€™s all about every child in this school, if you cannot fix the problem I will. No more issues after that.

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Go the superintendent and demand answers

Ya itā€™s the bully situation where itā€™s like if your being bullied tell a teacher. Kid says Iā€™m being bullied teacher dosenā€™t do anything. Bullying continues school does nothing. Kid has enough ends up ending himself and then the school goes and says oh if only he spoke up

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Advocate for your child for sure we have to be their voice !! I always say mess with me itā€™s one thing mess with my kids you are going to see a whole new level of crazy !!! I hope you get it resolved and your son can have a good school year, most schools seem to forget these are our children they teach them yes but they do not own or control them they need to do what they are supposed to do and teach them and definitely be teaching them right from wrong if you donā€™t get anywhere with the principal I would take it to the superintendent :heart:good luck :four_leaf_clover:

Thatā€™s how my sons school was last year. Seriously the worst year. We switched schools and itā€™s going 1000% better at the new school that actually tries to understand him. Hehas adhd & some behavioral stuff we are working through and the new school actually cares about the SpEd kiddos succeeding

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I went through some stuff like like that. Pulled my son out of school. Kept him home that year. Found him a school I love. They work wonderfully with him. My son excel at and in school now

Change schools or at the very least teachers

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You absolutely need to get your kiddo out of that school if it is possible.

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The only thing worse than kids bullying your child, is when their teacher does it. Theyā€™re supposed to be able to go to their teacher for support and it sounds like sheā€™s the worst one. My husband was that kid growing up. Even though he had a HUGE heart, teachers were always just so mean to him. His mom never did anything, but you can go to the school and make noise! Do that and I guarantee theyā€™ll get themselves straight REALLY quick.

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You have to change school or it will go with him the rest of his school life

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My son's school is boxing him in to being a bad kid, help?

Go to the school and meet with the principalā€¦after yā€™all discuss whatā€™s going on tell the principal you want a meeting with the teacher included and a guidance counselor. You cant let them them run over your son so dont let them put you off or act like itā€™s not important. You need to start documenting the dates something happens and what happened. You may need this.
Plus itā€™s really sad that the teacher can only criticize and not brag or build up your child. Sheā€™s tearing down his ego,confidence and ability to make friendsā€¦not to mention the big part A CHILD CANT LEARN WHEN THEY ARE SCARED AND UNCOMFORTABLE AND EMBARRASSED.

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Give the school hell, but take your poor little boy out and find a place where he will be happy. It makes the biggest difference in their lives if they happy at school, changed my little one completely around

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We had this same issue in Primary School! It was my sons last year and he did not see eye to eye with his teacher, all the other years though my son had glowing reportsā€¦ the last year was hell for him, he was branded a homophobic, he was out on report, every single day there was a bad message from his teacherā€¦ and never would my son receive sympathy or equality if somebody did something to him! So I did the same as you, went to the head mistress who was completely uselessā€¦ he cried and wrote me letters of how this school was killing his light :broken_heart: it broke my heart that nobody would help him! And I felt powerless! Heā€™s now in his 1st year of high school and he absolutely loves it! Weā€™re seeing his sparkle return! Fight for your baby! I wish I did more! Best wishes xxx

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Call her say exactly what you told us see what she has to say and work something out if not talk to the superintendent protect your child

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You can make a big deal about it but honestly in the end I think youā€™re just going to look like your the ass

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Stay with thisā€¦Schools donā€™t like Parent involvement. Even offer to volunteer so you can see what your childā€™s interactions are. All parents want their child to be their best Schools should too

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I would ask to be able to sit in the room or volunteer for reading time.
This happened to my son when he was in kindergarten. The teacher was indeed out of line, long story short, the teacher was having personal problems at home and didnā€™t realize how she was behaving Ended up taking a break to sort herself out.

Two seperate things here. I think you need to work with the school to get your child to do as heā€™s told to avoid him getting into trouble. Second thing is every time your son comes home and tells you heā€™s been hurt or anything chase up with school every time theyā€™ll get the message to keep you informed eventually Iā€™ve had to do this with my childrenā€™s school when my twins had a teacher that literally ignored everything that went on in the classroom :neutral_face:

I pray for calm mind for u ā€¦ Cos I knw Iā€™d be so angry probably punch the hole school board ā€¦ Cos thatā€™s unfair treatment towards the child ā€¦ Tht just how I feel

Honestly I probably woulda went looking for the kid n his Mumma :woman_facepalming:t2::weary::rofl: no joke tho. Good thing I have a few years to work on my angry n reactions before my son starts school.

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If the principal doesnā€™t do anything move up!! Go to the school board if they donā€™t then move up and so on!! Donā€™t give up!! This bullying has got to stop! And donā€™t take this wrong but is your son mixed, black, Mexican etc? That could have something to do with it and that would not be ok!! Us as mothers have to stand up for our kids and donā€™t take no as an answer no more!!!

You should have made a big deal about it since the first incident, but its not too late to fix it. Have all the necessary meetings but change his class, you never know if the teacher may hold something against him

Demand a meeting with the teacher and head teacher and let them know if this isnā€™t sorted you will go above them to sort it Iā€™m so sorry u are both going through this bullying at any age is not acceptable and kids can be the worst with it stay calm itā€™s hard I know failing that go put your foot up the teachers arse for playing favourites!

My god mom. You get in there and sort them out. He canā€™t do it for himself.

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Home school. I pulled my daughter out, best decision Iā€™ve made for her.

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Its the teacher, sounds like you have a highstrung child. Some teachers do NOT know how to deal with that. So maybe change teachers, homeschool or change schoolā€™s.

Fighting the school will only waste your time and energy. Look into other school options. Homeschooling is amazing if possible.

Thats wrongā€¦ they should have told you asap. I would have alot to say tomorrow

There really is nothing you can do except change schools.

WTH? Tell them youā€™re going to sue them for negligence and child endangerment

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Go above their head and go to the superintendent. No child should have to deal with that or the favortism!

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That is so sad to here and heā€™s so young I wish him there best of luck I think he needs some one on his side now

My little girl starts school next year. Im so afraid of school these days. Many reasons and then i constantly see moms posting these sorts of troubles and it kills my soul.
When i was growing up school was bad. Im 36 now. But the worse got even more worse. The bad has changed to a diff kind of horrible.
I ended up quiting high school because of a bully almost killing me. A story i have never told except my mom even after all these years thats the 1st words i have uttered of the event. I dont know if I can do home school or not. But this makes me not want anything to do with public schools. Im soooo sorry your childs going through this. I know your rage and anger and hurt is wild because of it. Praying you figure out whats best for him.
I would be on that office 1st thing. Go calm. But go mama bear. Make sure you have all your ducks in a row. Donā€™t let them bully either of you! If we donā€™t stand up for our kids, who will?

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Iā€™d change schools immediately and raise hell in that school. Teachers like that usually arenā€™t a fond of the child thatā€™s why they tend to tell you bad things theyā€™ve done and not tell you when the child has been hurt. This is one of many reasons why I cannot work in a school, some teachers are amazing but my experience working alongside a few was that they spoke absolute trash about some kids and found it funny to single a child out that they didnā€™t like.
A 5 year old, you canā€™t treat them like rubbish! And for them to always give you bad news is ridiculous! You must wonder if your son even enjoys going to school if all the teachers tell you is heā€™s a bad boy when he probably most likely isnā€™t!

Find another school. They shouldnt be calling you for this stuff. My daughter has been in school for 4 years and only twice did i get a remark about a Bad behaviour that I should discuss with her at home.

I have had bullying issues with my son, however, I cannot understand your post. Please clarify. It sounds like a drunk person.

You need to go above them. Sounds like your son is a target.

Poor little guy! plz donā€™t let them get away with this.

Teachers seem to do this a lot when boys behave as boys should. Boys are impulsive, loud, rough and rowdy. These are things they learn to control as they get older but not at 5.
Both my boys where labeled the bad kids. Not from being rude or hurting themself or othersā€¦but because they were loud, talkative and did random annoying things.
Iā€™ve had teachers tell me my kids need medicine etc.
you should have seen when I was done with her!
Now they are giving med degrees in teacher school??
The main thing I can tell you is donā€™t let them bully you. Stand up for your son. When hes wrong talk to him. If the teacher is ugly or singles him out repeatedly ask for a new class. The kids follow the teachers lead. I had kids on my sons soccer team that told me my son was the bad boy in class. From there he would get blamed by other kids for stuff they did cause it was believable he did it.
I definitely talked to him and worked on self control but I know adults who have none.
Those boys are now in middle school and collegeā€¦ most of that behavior stopped by middle school.
My point is every person is different and should be valued for those differences. Some people forget kids are people too. And some personalities donā€™t mesh.If a teacher dislikes a child just admit it and have him moved. We have gotten some of the most patient and best teachers this way.
Now if your son is being rude and disrespectful or hurting others that is different.
Good luckā€¦ long battles comingā€¦

id find him a new school if I were you. thatā€™s not right

I was in your shoes. Get a different school ASAP! Or contact the superintendent and DO NOT stop until you feel itā€™s been resolved 100%!!!
My son was getting picked on and retaliating, all the teacher and school seen was my son causing problems and were telling him he was in the wrong, which in turn pissed him off and made things worse due to them not listening. No issues when the other kids werenā€™t there, or he spent time in a different classroom. But every time it was my kids fault. They lied to me repeatedly and tried to make it seem like they were taking care of things and tried to tell my sons councilor that he needed medication. I raised hell when we left that school and do not feel sorry for the things I said and who I got fired :woman_shrugging:

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I dealt with this with my oldest son. I went right into the school and asked them if their zero tolerance policy on bullying protected everyone and if it was necessary for me to contact an attorney. I didnā€™t have one single issue after that.

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I had to change my sonā€™s school because of this. I did research on schools in my area and got him in one that could support him the way he needs. Things have been way better for my son since then. Good luck

I had to pull my son out of kindergarten last year because his teacher was awful!!! She literally messaged me nearly everyday nit picking everything little thing my son did wrong. One being we needed to teach him how to open a carton of milk because he couldnā€™t do it during meal time. Why couldnā€™t they teach him how to do so? Why couldnā€™t they give him guidance and show him how to open a carton of milk? Because Iā€™m sure like us a lot of people donā€™t keep cartons of milk at home they keep gallons. :woman_facepalming: why call me complaining about that? He was so far behind in kindergarten and his teacher didnā€™t included him in a lot of the rewards. Students would get rewards for doing their work and he never got anything. Also she had a kindergarten Facebook page and during the whole time he was in her class she maybe posted four pictures of him. It was always multiple pictures of the same kids mainly kids who had parents working at the school. She also referred him to a therapist because he was a ā€œtroubledā€ kid and I needed to get him tested for ADHD and that he needed medication. She picked favorites. I pulled him out and his whole attitude and everything changed at home. This year he got put back in kindergarten with a new teacher and heā€™s doing awesome. His new teacher is amazing and treats him so good. I havenā€™t received one call (yet) where last year they called me on the third day of school. He is coming home happy and actually talking about his day. Where last year he was just completely shutting down at school and home. He never said good things about his old teacher. Thereā€™s so much more that happened but itā€™s to much to post. Now she has me blocked on Facebook which I find very odd because we never communicated through Facebook. It was always through the school communication app. So I know for a fact my son wasnā€™t the problem. She was! Still to this day I havenā€™t heard very many good things about this teacher. Other parents have told me similar stories.

So did the child tell an adult-any adult? Usually when kids are at recess the teacher is inside having lunch. Was he taken to the nurseā€™s office? Hmmmā€¦I want to hear the other side. And looks like mom and teacher need to work together and come up with a planšŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø

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Tomorrow ?? Oh no momma. Today. Right here right now. Youā€™re crazy for leaving.

BOTH of the kids have to be held accountable for their actions, period! If the class/school is not a good fit , then take him to another school.

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Welcome to public schools. If heā€™s not in juvenile probate by the 7th grade, youā€™re both doing good.

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First of all as mothers we tend to overthink and over protect itā€™s in our nature, before u go to war get him a spy type necklace they literally have little cameras on them. But also be prepared to see you a side of your kid u may not want too

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You d@mn right mama! Stick to your guns!
And say everything you just said here, to them !
If youā€™re not satisfied, go above themā€¦:ok_hand:t5::+1:t5::100:
My moms done it several times

I would switch schools

Sounds like the elementary school i went to

Thatā€™s not right.They need to let you know everythingā€¦.but I do know how you feel.My son came home the other day and said two kids were mean to him and hit himā€¦of course the teacher didnā€™t tell me anything,until the next morning when I Brought it upā€¦saying that she didnā€™t see any hitting.The same day I pick up my son,the teacher says right awayā€¦we have a new ruleā€¦we hit we sitā€¦
In my four year olds pre school classroom thereā€™s at least 18 kids and two teachers.I feel like every place needs helpā€¦.but Iā€™ll be damned if my kid comes back again and tells me heā€™s been hit. Next Iā€™ll make sure I find out who the childā€™s mother is and approach her nicely :rage:

My daughter went through this at her middle school. My daughter got a bad rep from a assistant principal that knew her dad from when he went to school. They would always call me or email me about something so small. There use to be a group of girls that use to tag team on my daughter & my daughter would be the blame of the drama. I had enough & started speaking up for my daughter. After that the phone calls & emails stoppedā€¦

Unbelievable! My son gets into trouble also, but his teacher and the school is great with him and always positive. Look for other schooling options ASAP! I got lucky and found a great small private school.

Contact the school board file a complaint against the school and teacher. Tell them your expectations ect.

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My oldest years back. Was in 6th grade (middle school) in one of his first period classes he fell in gym onto a mat during one of there activities. He new something was wrong and said something to them, even went to the nurse. They gave him ice and had him go back to class. All day long!! Never once called me to say anything!! I new nothing til he came off the bus and told me. Brought him to Drā€™s after xray he had broken a bone and cracked another in his wrist. I was bullshit! We as parents should be informed with things that happen they are our children!! I was def in that school the next day, switched his school and I have made sure none of my other younger kids never had to go there.

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That school absolutely sucks. Every single time my kid gets hurt their ass is on the phone with me. I felt bad cause even the one day they said he was skipping down the hall.and tripped. And I wanted to laugh cause it seemed like.such a small.issueā€¦ I truly hope you get it resolved

This happened to me a few years ago my son was maybe 6 I spoke with the superintendent about the teacher and principal and it never happened again - I didnā€™t care I made sure my son was protected it turns out it was a child bullying not only my son but a few more the student was removed from the school

I make it a point to ask what led to my childā€™s actions. I always ask what the punishment is for the other child. Puts them on notice that I know my kid isnā€™t always to blame.

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Thatā€™s bs. I am sorry you are dealing with that. I would definitely raise hell with the school donā€™t let them bullshit you. You are your sons advocate stand up for him.

I dont wanna be ā€œTHATā€ person but ā€¦is your kid black in a white school?

So, I have 3 kids. 2 are mixed with black and they look more black than white Hispanic until they start speaking spanish.
They are also child actors. My kids highly educated, smart and well behaved. My son back then was 8 and he was in the third grade. He had a horrible teacher that tried to say he had learning disabilities. He wrote him up for hitting a kid, for pushing a kid bla bla bla. My son is friendly and goofy as shit. He definitely does not have learning disabilities. He is a nerd and wants to be an astrophysicist since he was 5. This kid self taught himself how to read in Spanish and English before he was 2 and I have videos to prove it. Anyway, samething. I made appointments with this ā€˜Karenā€™ of a teacher. Had meetings with the principal and it was obvious that she didnā€™t like my son. I was mad and she even threatened me to call the cops on me because I cussed her out. I told her she was mad because my son has a higher IQ than her and she didnā€™t know how to teach him. I mean, our nick name in the house is Sheldon Cooper. This kid was reading at 6th grade level at the age of 5. I remember one time they went on a field trip and my son really wanted to go. I said OK and gave him the money for the trip. He calls me and tells me that he didnā€™t have a permission slip. Ok. I CALL the teacher. She tells me that I could just write it out and email it to her. So I do. She emails me back and tells me that I need to do it ā€œrightā€ by adding the date and the name of the field trip. She said she would wait. Well I emailed her back immediately. Well she left my kid. She didnā€™t wait for my letter. I was pregnant back then and on bed rest. I had crashed my car so I was carless. I was so angry at that heartless cunt. I uberred my angryass to school to pick him up. He was so disappointed. I had even packed him a lunch box with his little juice, fruit, cheese, crackers and water. I knew that teacher was trying to put marks on his record. These monsters truly fuckin exist to ruin peopleā€™s lives. I, then moved to an area that was further North in Georgia. The school he was in was Roswell North Elementary. Itā€™s in a nice richie rich area. I moved to Acworth and his new school was white too and a area that seemed like it would be more racist. I WAS NERVOUS. Well, turns out both my kids loooooved that school. The school mascot was a union soldier. :rofl:
JORDANā€™S teacher calls me immediately to have a meeting. So my husband and I go and meet with her and she tells me that he is doing well and that she is going through what the other teacher recommends for him, she is going over his history and said that she does not see anything that the other teacher said about him. She did say that sometimes my son got bored and he starts doodling and drawing. She thinks he is friendly. She even suggested to add him to the ā€˜loopā€™ program which meant that she would have him again and again until his time in elementary school was done through the grades. Unfortunately, the pandemic hit and school year was cut short. Then we had to move again and this year Im not at all loving the school theyā€™re at. I think the kids are bad and the teachers arenā€™t the sharpest tacks on the wall but at least theyā€™re not trying to get my kid in trouble and stain his record.

You arenā€™t going to fix a broken system. My best advice is move if you can.

Are you sure your son told them about it? Thatā€™s the first thing to be certain of. If he didnā€™t tell anyone then thereā€™s nothing to be mad about.

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Donā€™t back down. Donā€™t let them do that to your baby.