I need some advice… I’m at a loss… my SO lost his old IPhone and for some reason its saying it’s at the apartments next to us on his ”find my iphone” app on his other phone but we never go over there and he now thinks I’m cheating and told me he’s leaving me for it, I have a 2yr that’s not biologically his but he calls him dad and it’s literally breaking me that I have to hurt my 2yr old because my SO won’t believe me when I say I’m not cheating on him, I’m pregnant with him baby to I’m due in two weeks… two weeks… but yet I’m cheating on him and I gave my side piece his phone which I’m not cheating but that’s what he thinks and now I’m going to be a single mom to a 2yr old and a newborn because he won’t believe me… idk what to do…
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Bye find someone better. He needs to grow up and your kids deserve better. If he’s that quick to bounce let him 
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Sounds like a guilty conscience.
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Sounds like the trash is taking itself out. Let it happen
Been through this exact thing. Leave before it’s too late. I ended up loosing my kids for neglect bc I allowed them to live in a abusive situation, even though it was just towards me. It’s not easy to leave and I had no other options but please be safe. It’s very difficult to get back on your feet and not worth ptsd
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count your blessings he’s showing his true colors, using any reason to leave
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Sounds like he’s making an excuse, he’s making a problem to make it your fault .
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Possibly it’s him cheating
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Sounds like he’s cheating and projecting it onto you
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Get him followed to see his movements
As he must be the cheater
As evidence so that he can’t get away from responsibility on his Unborn baby
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If he is smart enough to look at find my iPhone, he is smart enough to know that it isn’t always accurate. He likely knows exactly where the phone is. He likely is cheating. He is definitely 
selfish and toxic to throw all that at you pregnant with his child. I personally would force him to take a dna test, and go for support on the baby, I definitely wouldn’t keep defending myself. Like I said, odds are he knows exactly where that phone is and he would rather you drive your self crazy trying to prove something when he already knows the answer, likely so he can do what he wants and you don’t notice, bc you are to busy being upset
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Sounds like he is guilty of something to be accusing with literally no proof? Find my iphone is literally a general area. RUN. this sounds so toxic. Does he have trust issues? or have past trauma with cheating? this seems so out of the blue.
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I second the sounding like a narcissistic ex husband, 13 years of projecting i was cheating, all while he was the one doing it. Call the number and see where it rings then go through it
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One time I got super mad at my son bc his said he was three blocks away when I thought he was still at his friends house across town. Turns out he had gotten home when I was in the bathroom. So when I called him, I heard his phone ringing and him pick up from his bedroom. Definitely not accurate. Sounds like he’s just making excuses. Leave and never look back. Sounds like in the long run you will be better off.
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Wtf if anything that sounds more like he’s cheating. I would flip it around and tell him he’s cheating and you don’t have time for it.
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Y doesn’t he go get rhe phone sounds like an excuse to me
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First if he think your cheating he’s cheating why is his phone more important than respecting you whys so worried bout his phone I hope u find it I’d be looking at his phone now omg 
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Sounds like he may be the one cheating or is trying to get out of this relationship and blaming it on you. Either way if he is going to leave you cause he misplaced his phone and is coming up with all these crazy accusations it’s probably best he leaves.
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Find my iPhone isn’t completely accurate my daughters iPhone always has her as next door, my son is across the road and we all could be sitting next to each other
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Maybe you or he should knock on the neighbors door and ask if they found an i phone. Not that “find my phone” is pinpoint accurate anyways.
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If he is being hostile around your two year old, his pregnant girl, and a soon to be newborn, I’m sorry, but there is no question here. Leave his sorry ass now! As fast as you can. By the way, the find my iPhone app is not pinpoint accurate, so his iPhone is probably in your house. Tell him to find it his damn self
He’s the one cheating girl
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Sounds like he’s projecting.
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The find my iPhone app isn’t super accurate. It says my kids are up to a mile away from where they actually are. I can see them on camera at my house… and the where’s my iPhone app can still show them a mile away from where they are at times or even show them next door or up the road from our house. If he is so concerned, why doesn’t he ping it? He can make it make noise so he can locate it. How much you want to bet he either misplaced it or the two year old got it and was playing with it…. Why did he also jump to assuming his phone being missing meant you’re cheating? Does he have a guilty conscious?! Something is wayyyy off here.
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Sounds like duty protest too much. Transference.
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He’s cheating. Guaranteed
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Sounds like he is cheating but because your pregnant he doesn’t want to up and leave. He doesn’t want to look like the bad guy for leaving his pregnant gf. So he is telling everyone your cheating. 10 to 1 he is also telling them that the baby may not be his. I went thru this with my ex husband.
If he already acting like that, bounce. It will be better for you and your children.
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Go look for the phone that app find your iPhone is not always correct. He’s doing something shady and is trying to blame you let him be. You May be the last one to find out but the truth always comes out.
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There isn’t a good looking lady next door is there ??? Maybe he is trying to cover his tracks ? I’d just knock on the door and ask
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Sounds like my narcissistic EX HUSBAND.!
He accused me and turns out he was cheating! Two young kids, I packed up and left. Never happier! Always resources for mothers in community. You and your kids deserve better
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UM. The 2 yr old has their own dad not his problem, But Y’all better figure that ish out real quick when it comes to the baby that is his. Just make sure to get a DNA test before you leave the hospital!!!
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That alone would make me want to leave him, how many times will these accusations come up? One time when you spend longer at the shop than you usually do? When you just go out for some you time? People that find any excuses to accuse you of cheating, will always accuse you of cheating. Weather he’s just projecting because he’s cheating, or not… you’ll end up very unhappy with being accused all the time.
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Walk away. That’s a him problem… not a you problem…
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He probably dropped it and someone picked it up lmao 
I wouldn’t tolerate that shit.
He’s a giant walking red flag. Tell him go knock on some doors since he wanna act crazy. I think there’s something else going on and he just wants out of the relationship.
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Girl he’s cheating and projecting it on you. Leave. Good riddance.
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Get rid of him he is the one cheating
Guilty dog barks 1st… sounds like he’s the one cheating and looking for a way out
Chile his ass cheating and he is trying to play you. Leave his ass
If he’s accusing you, most likely he’s the one doing the cheating . It happened to me .
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Sounds like it’s about more then a phone for real or he’s psycho and you should probably let him leave because it won’t stop with this it’ll happen again over something he made up in his head.
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You’re really just better off without him. He’s looking for any excuse to go. Get yourself to some lawyers and figure out custody and support.
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I’d turn it around and accuse him of cheating and leaving his phone at his side piece’s place, before I left his dumb ass
I’m so sorry you’re having all this stress just before having a baby. Is he supposed to be in the delivery room with you? Maybe find an alternate birth partner if he’s going to stress you out or not show.
Ask him if he’s afraid of the expense or responsibility of two kids. Tell him he’s been doing fine with your 2 year old. Ask him what he thinks would make your relationship better.
If he’s evasive and accusatory ask him if he no longer finds you attractive/loves you. Ask him what’s on the phone that’s irretrievable. Ask him the name of his side piece. Then see his reaction to all the questions, don’t just listen to his words.
And remember his answers are all about his childhood traumas, his guilty conscience, his self esteem and feelings of inadequacy and have very little to do with you. The phone is just a red herring, a stand-in for what’s really bothering him.
Do you work outside the home? Are you completely financially dependent on him? Don’t do anything until you’re feeling like yourself and your hormones are settled after the baby’s born. Ask friends or family if they can come support you as you recover. If he’s going to be a pain in the butt avoid him as much as possible or ask him to leave if he stresses you out so much.
Then contact a lawyer, social worker, women’s center and gather your “village” around you and make your exit plan. Long-term be sure to have nice men who stay in your daughter’s life (grandpa, uncle, friends) so she doesn’t think all men abandon her. Is her bio dad in the picture?
Sending hugs and positive chi to you and comfort and calm for the birth of your little one. 
First, you have a child, and soon a new precious life. Do nothing. Absolutely nothing. Take care of your child and the one that soon to be. Let Mr. Can’t Find His Phone…alone. You don’t deserve any of this and you need to show your child you don’t deserve any of this by acting like an adult. Take a deep breath and don’t talk to him anymore. I don’t know this man, and I find it hard to believe that a secure grown man that would be so silly, and stupid would leave you over this ridiculous reason. Something deeper is happening here. Kick him out or you leave. Don’t worry about the two-year-old the child has you he doesn’t need a useless child man. Get child support from the baby daddy, and get your life together. You have strength you have never tapped into. Get on with it.
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Honey… these are called red flags. If it isnt this situation, hes gonna keep finding other situations and accuse you of stuff you havent done. Its because the problem lies within HIM. Ultimately at the center of this, he has no or low self esteem and in a nutshell, He Doesn’t Trust You.
Do you want to go more years being treated this way? I guarantee you it isnt going to stop.
Do you want your current child and the new baby to grow up seeing this dysfunctional relationship and the way he treats you and you are putting up with?
This is 100% your choice and nobody can make you make this decision in a way that you don’t want to go.
Choose wisely. This will impact your children for the rest of their lives, not just what its doing to you now and as it worsens.
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It’s probably lost in your apartment. (That’s not an exact location.) Or maybe he dropped near by. Who knows maybe a neighbor found it and picked it up? But irregardless he’s showing you who he is… believe him.
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He sounds like a jerk. Sorry to say hun but everyone knows that find my phone isn’t always super accurate and if he’s so concerned he can go knock on their damn door. But to be honest, I think he’s just using this as an excuse to run away from his family. Tell him he’s being absolutely ridiculous and extremely hurtful and if his family means so little to him then yes it’s best he leave because it’s not right what he’s doing, not in any way shape or form. And when his phone turns up in a washing basket or something stupid lob it out the window.
He don’t want two kids, he’s bailing unfortunately
Sounds like he’s cheating. Men usually accuse their significant other of cheating when they’re the ones cheating.
He’s looking for an excuse
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He’s probably freaking out that he lost it bc it has stuff on it, he doesn’t want you to see.
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He’s the one cheating and trying to deflect OR he’s on drugs and being irrational.
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A) GPS isn’t always accurate
B) what you do is get out of that relationship NOW
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Sounds like he is making an excuse to leave, the app has me next door
The phones in the home somewhere but you’ve just not found it. It’s not pinpoint accurate just close enough so it’s there somewhere. Who lives next door? Is there the potential there’s someone there he’s interested in? He seems pretty flakey to end things with no proof like this. Looks like he was after a way out and is using you to do it. Make sure he agrees to support you and his child financially then let him leave. He’s the one spoiling things for himself not you. Smile and wave and let him go
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The “find my iPhone” & location are always off. It often says I’m at someone’s house or in the middle of a field & I am not.
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Sounds like your partner left his other phone at his other partners house and he’s deflecting!
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He’s looking for an out and this is the best thing he could come up with. He’s wanting to leave is what he’s truly saying because no would honestly leave their spouse over something like this.
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Call it… if it’s next door check it out
He is cheating and accusing. If he is making the accusations then he is and needs the excuse
I’ve learned the hard way that the one doing the accusing is normally the one doing the thing they are accusing the other of doing! Sad to say this is a narcissist trait and probably not going to get any better! Prayers for a healthy and safe delivery for you momma!!
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The location can be slightly off. You can make it make noise off find my iPhone
You need to find that phone and search it
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This guy is definitely deflecting & acting like a child because he’s got a newborn coming, he needs to stop blaming u for things, grow up & be responsible for he’s wife & children & be blessed & forever grateful he has a family that loves him.
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If it’s connecting it should have the option to play sound.
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Girl let him go and become stress free
Can you be like, bro… chill out. Like look for it better before you accuse me of sum that you’re prob doing. Those things aren’t precise to a T anyway so he sounds crazy.
Run. That will never change. It will always be something else you did.
Run as fast as you can from that.
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Cry it out mija. 
Don’t hold in your sadness, those babies deserve better and it help you release stress. My culture says that out unborn babies can feel it all too, but that not crying hurts them more. Pray if you are a person of faith and be patient, the Lord will hold you. Cast your worries onto Him.
It sounds like an excuse. Cold feet about the new baby possibly…
He means he gave his other phone to HIS side piece!!
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My husbands phone says he’s in the middle of the street right now, he’s sitting next to me… on his phone…. The app isn’t completely accurate. If he’s jumping to conclusions like that and willing to up and leave, it sounds like he may be deflecting
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If u go to find my iPhone you have the choice to make a sound. It will ring.
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Sounds like he’s looking for an excuse. Do you guys live in an apartment? Maybe it’s in a room in on the same wall as the next apartment?
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I’d send him next door to find the phone!
That’s a big reach when he lost his phone. Either his mind is very imaginative or he’s hiding something. Both are plausible but in reality I think he’s showing you his true colors.
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Mine said my husbands phone was in the middle of our yard one day but he was in the bedroom asleep.
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Go next door and tell them that it shows its there 
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Sounds like he wants to use this as his “out”.
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I would get someone to follow him. Sounds to me like he’s trying to find an excuse to depart because he is the guilty one.
He’s cheating boo. Been cheating on you cause he’s projecting. 
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That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard in my life.
So he sounds like he’s absolutely unhinged. Leave him, it’s not worth it if he’s going to be accusing you of this because he lost his phone in your apartment. That’s where the phone is, in your apartment. The find my phone app isn’t going to be accurate, so it might be slightly off and not show it in the exact location, but it’ll be close enough. That’s why it looks like it’s in the other apartment. Your boyfriend definitely needs help if this is what he jumps to when he can’t find his phone. Leave his ass.
That’s his excuse to leave, he has came up with a bogus excuse put the blame on you. Not enough of a man to say he doesn’t want all this responsibility. Just my opinion
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He’s looking for a reason to leave.
Tell him to pack his stuff and leave.
Go today and file for divorce if y’all are legally married. Don’t wait
Don’t let him on labor and delivery. And don’t add him to the bc… without dna test. If he’s on the bc he can take off with the child. And then you could need to wait till court to see the child.
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He’s cheating. No sane person without guilt would just assume a phone being somewhere means youre sleeping with someone else. He’s using this as an excuse and you need to be tough and let his sorry ass walk out that fucking door
Take your babies and yourself away to a place rooted in love. This isn’t home.
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I would be tearing the house apart looking for it while he is home so he can’t accuse you of going next door to get it then when I found it I would…
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Yeah he’s likely cheating.
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Sounds like he’s trying to find an excuse to leave you. He’s most likely the one cheating.
Girl sounds like he is cheating. Better to get away now. You can do this I promise. Good luck to you
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The one who accusing is normally the one cheating…it’s all excuse to not feel guilty for leaving. He’s passing blame. Let him walk, but then when he finds truth…keep the door closed.
That’s called projection….
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He knows you’re not cheating. He just wants it to be your fault He leaves. He is not mature enough to be in an adult relationship;having responsibilities, etc. 
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That thing is not accurate. My bf did the same thing to me but said I was at an outa shop on 1 street when I was never there. I was the next street over. I’m not sure if your saying it’s at the apt next door or in another complex completely. If it’s at another complex he probably dropped it and someone picked it up. People go back and forth from different apts all the time. Especially kids. Nor if it’s saying it’s in the apt next door that phone is probably sitting in your house and he’s going to feel like an idiot when he finds it.
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Sounds like he’s just looking for an excuse to leave. Let him.
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Yup…time to bounce. And maybe HE lost it, and the neighbor found it! Take your kids and leave. Find someone that is worthy of you and the kids. Good Luck😊
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