Gey a divorce and move on. If the kids don’t want anything to do with you, then move on. Maybe they will eventually come around
Do not see him again. Your daughter is very young. If you have nothing further to do with him she will soon forget him. Cut him out of your lives. Think of yourself, and your daughter.
Kick his ass to the curb. Sue for alimony (if it warrants it) and child support.
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I would just do something at home for her, she won’t remember when she’s older but why not celebrate a little? Make a small cake or cupcakes maybe a present or 2 play around with her. Shes not missing out on anything over there so don’t worry 
he’s an asshole and you deserve better so does your daughter.
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So you were still sleeping with him even though he is seeing someone else?
If you’re not dating you’re not entitled to be invited to a party he is having for your shared kid…
You can have your own party for her.
You telling him she isn’t going to the party he planned is beyond rude and ignorant. I think you need help.
Is this for real? I can’t believe you people are answering this question. He’s a loser, and you’re a sucker. Your life will always suck if you stay in that relationship.
Let your daughter go to the party, throw away the whole man, and get you someone who shows you off like will Smith shows off Jada
That’s not your spouse booboo… That’s another woman’s man. You need to sit down and let that man see his child. Don’t punish her bc he’s a whore and you can’t stay in your own lane.
Your daughter one day will find out what her father is all about. Stop sleeping with him, your just a booty call & the woman he’s with is an idiot, if she knows he’s sleeping with you. Build yourself up & be a strong roll model for your daughter. Do something for yourself to give you self worth & you’ll forget about what your daughter’s father is doing.
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I’d drop that zero and self sooth, health, improve my self esteem so I’d be ready for my hero.
My gosh that’s too much.
Its TIME to replace him, as obviously he has you ! Buy a white cheap trashcan and put his name on it and his shit inside… set in on the porch.
Kick him to the curb !
Dump him and get him out of your child’s life as soon as possible, she does not need to be raised that way, find someone else before there is another child to be raised to not love you, What is wrong with you that you would continue to sleep with a man and have his children when you are not married… and he is seeing other women… have respect for yourself, start overcoming what ever makes him ashamed of you, love yourself , Raise your stateion in life and you soon wlll be above him and ashamed to be seen in public with him
Maybe don’t have a child out of a commitment
No because he is teaching that behavior to his children as well… you can still let him see her obviously but throw her the party you were planning and fuck his she ain’t going
Shes only one years old ? Dump him. Get a good attorney , adultery is a crime, take him to cleaners & supervised visits only …
Put him in ck. Child support & alimony, you get counseling for his abusive relationship.
Dump his ass If he is ashamed of you then he isn’t with you So you may as well be free of someone so cold hearted
Going to sound harsh.
What you should do is not care so much about what an ex thinks of you, he’s an ex for a reason. Who cares if he doesn’t want to be seen with you? You’re his ex not his current. He’s under no obligation to include you in anything, even if the child is involved. He’s allowed to do things for her that don’t include you. Plus maybe it’s awkward for him and his family. Grow up and stop being petty she’s his kid too, if he wants to have a party for her, he’s allowed to do that. He’s also allowed to not invite you. Give your own party. You can’t keep his child from him because he hurt your feelings, so stop. Be a grown up for Pete’s sake.
You started it off with saying he is your spouse? The only issue here seems to be that you are not moving on.He is not your spouse…he is sleeping with u when he feels like it
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Who gives a shit what he thinks of you. I if he wants to be around you or be seen with you. What matters is, is he a good Father?
Intercourse or a child doesn’t sustain a relationship and stop building yourself up to think that it means they care about you. The fact that he has already leveled you down by seeing someone else is already a sign he isn’t and doesn’t want to be involved with you other than for the purpose that is obvious.
He wants to be there for his child but not you, and he’s got sons also so…Seems like you’re missing something because he moved onto you and then someone else, and he’s got kids and he’s only there for the kids. Let him be a father if he wants to, but remove yourself from his life because it seems like he has already done it before and doing it to you too. He’s only holding onto the children and intercourse with the mothers of his children, all while seeing someone else now.
So is he ur spouse?? Or is he seeing someone else??
Wait…is he still your spouse while openly seeing someone else?
Well you don’t get to tell him that either. Sleeping with the guy signs you up for 20 years of dealings if he participates.
Thats SOOOOOO fucked! Omg!!! Not petty at all!! What a fuckin piece of shit. That’s awful. I’m so sorry you had to go through that.
Find someone who is proud to be seen with you!
Leave him he is not worth crying over!
Sounds like he’s a piece of shit and you need to find some self worth. Get a life !
Get out of that relationship, if that’s what it’s called.
Go. Walk out the door. He is a waste of oxygen.
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Well let’s stop sleeping with him, giving him your time or anything else. He’s an ahole.
Y’all saying don’t keep the kid from the dad: the kid is o n e lol she not gonna remember shitttt fuck that asshole
So sorry you have such a horrible person in your life. You and your daughter deserve so much more. Do what you can to end your relationship with him and get your own place. Work with the courts to establish a parenting plan and child support. He’s abusing you and is teaching you daughter to be the same way. Get out of this ASAP!
Move on. Leave him and forget him. He is not a decent, honourable man.
Leave his ass and move on every bread have its cheese that is sour cheese its not for you.
Kick his ass to the curb,he’s playing you and could care less about you. If he loved you he would be just the opposite of what he is !
That’s not being petty!!!
I’m just sitting thinking:thinking:
This Mfer had a nerve & balls to plan & set up a 1st Bday party for the daughter you 2 share together without you:triumph:
Where Tf we do that at & what made him even think you was going to let that go down–Fuck no, my daughter wouldn’t be going either—you have no need to feel bad about anything…
Him even making that move was a big 
to your face, smdh:pensive:
If this ain’t a eye opener to let “her” ass have him & give your heart peace & the will to let go, I don’t know what is:woman_shrugging:
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I don’t care how much time pass–Aint No Expiration Date on Disrespect—Fuck the both of them!!!
Stop sleeping with him and divorce him.
Kick him out & wave him bye bye 
He’s a loser dump his ass!
no bs emotions drop the loser there are better men out there who would be proud to have ya as a with
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Take your child and take her outta day
Your spouse or your ex. I’m lost here
He sounds like an asshole and I wouldn’t let him within a mile of your kids
Treat him the same way, see how he likes it.
Move on! Once a cheater almost always a cheater
I would kick his ass to the curb, you deserve to be treated better than that!!!
Kick his ass out the door you deserve better than that scumb bag
Get some mental health help. And dump his nasty self.
First thought…this has to be a joke!
Second thought…FU”K HIM
Last and final thought…DIVORCE HIM FAST!!
Leave. You deserve better
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Talk about a situationship, good night.
Tell him to piss off !
Alexander S. Grzenia i truthfully cannot believe this is real. But it is
Kick his ass to the curb
d i v o r c e is final today
Find someone else !!!
Get rid of him that is awful
Kick him to the curb
Dump his ass, asap!!!
Divorce him for starters!
Dump him he is.a.nouser
Exactly what you are doing…
He doesn’t deserve you !
Kick his ass to the curb.
Dump him hes a piece of garbage you deserve better.
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You are NOT petty. He’s a COMPLETE and utter dick. Keep your child at home, she really does not need this kind of crap in her life. Block and delete him from you and your daughter’s life. What a scum bag.
blocking this site now
Join the narcissist group it will help you
Get custody and run. End of story.
Yep. Be glad for your baby, dump your asshole and move on.
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Stop sleeping with him bc all you were and all you ever will be is a sex friend, nothing more. Seek out a therapist for your self esteem. You are worth more than this loser
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Leave his ass immediately!
Find a new relationship
Excuse me! Stop right there, he’s taking her to be with another woman? No sweetheart, tell this loser goodbye and take your daughter away from this pathetic human being. You will never get any respect from him and he doesn’t care. So do your own thing with your daughter, he’s not invited.
Nothing petty about it
Petty my ass. Get a lawyer.
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He sounds like a real winner 
I would keep your kid with you. Fuck him and that stupid party.
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Prayers sent that Man is a boy who needs God.
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You are worth more than what you’ve got. Realize he doesn’t want to be with you. Let it sink in n then let him see his daughter n leave him alone. You need to work on getting to know yourself n find something to do that keeps you busy n learning s skill at the same time. You are worthy of happiness
I hope you love yourself more in ur trying time don’t be depressed over someone who dint see your value and replaced you in a heartbeat… your someone’s prayer babies grow ul tcr of urself ul be better than what u were 
peace&lyt
What you do is up to you. Only you can decide what you were willing to tolerate. Personally, I would rather be alone.
How is he your spouse also how is he ‘ashamed to be seen with you’ but somehow it’s about a birthday party? It sounds like she’s living in some kind of fantasy land where she thinks they’re more than they are? I’m so confused by this post as a whole. It sounds to me like she was a side piece who got pregnant and she thought he would treat her as more than a side piece because of the kid and now that he’s not she’s mad about it?
Is he really your spouse if he is seeing another woman?
Or are you just having trouble accepting that he doesn’t feel the same way about you as you do him?
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He’s not your spouse in the real sense of the word. Chuck him
I’m not being smart or rude but if you haven’t figured out what to do by now I really feel sorry for you living in this time of life whose opinion would you need other than yours get it together sister!!!
Why would you sleep with someone who won’t be seen in public with you and seeing someone else. Where is your self respect. Make your own party for your special baby and dump him
I’m sorry you are going through this. It sounds like a toxic relationship. You definitely need to move on and don’t let him define you or your self esteem.
But HOW DARE YOU punish your daughter for your dysfunctional relationship. Your daughter didn’t have a choice on being brought into this world. She has a dad that obviously loves and cares for her. You do not keep your daughter away from her birthday party because you were not told about it. You are not in an actual committed relationship with her father so he has no obligation to tell you. If you start this “game” now, it will never end. And your daughter will end up resenting you someday.
Find a way to maintain a cordial relationship with her father, but understand boundaries. There are too many kids who grow up stuck in the middle, don’t let your daughter be one.
Kick the pos to the curb. It’s obvious he doesn’t want anything to do with you, so don’t keep hurting yourself by chasing after something that will never happen. You deserve better than that. There is someone out there for you that will love you for who you are. For now focus on your daughter and keep her away from him. Good luck to you sweetheart.
First of all, NEVER keep a child from their father because you are mad at him. You do not use an innocent child as a pawn to get even. EVER!!! Secondly, you need to work on your self-esteem. It sounds like you’re getting your self-worth based on how this man sees you. That’s destined for failure. How can you expect a man to love you if you don’t love yourself? You don’t need a man right now, you need to be a mom and work on you, little sister. Learn to love yourself. And stop sleeping with this man, he’s using you. 
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People treat you the way you allow them to. Stop allowing him to disrespect you. Realize that you’re just a side piece and baby mama to him. If you’re not ok with that, then you’ve got to stop sleeping with him and stop discussing anything with him that doesn’t have to do with your child. You can have a healthy, civil co-parenting relationship without being “friends”.
Let your baby have her party, it’s about her - not you. Then you can do something to celebrate her yourself.
Kill them w kindness n go to the party n bring a guest . Enjoy your kids party too. But most of all make it about your daughter.
Is he your spouse or your friend?
Let go of the birthday party stuff…
Figure out if you are married, separated, or divorced with benefits.
It’s very easy for someone to say: “ah, just leave him” but it goes deeper than that.
You are suffering from a very serious condition called “bad self-esteem”. It seems like you need validation from this man about some aspects of your life.
Woman, the best thing you can do to yourself is to learn about your own self, study your psychology and be interested in YOURSELF.
Get self-help books, go to seminars, practice yoga, meditation, get a new haircut, a new job, etc.
Now about him… you have to learn how to deal with him because he is the father of your child and your little one deserves to have a father. So you have to deal with the consequences and develop a healthy relationship with him.
By healthy relationship, I don’t mean by sleeping with him. Far from that. I even advise you to stop doing so because it doesn’t do any good to yourself.
Become an independent and strong woman is the best thing you can do for yourself.
He doesn’t want to be seen with you? F#k it, you can do better with your time. (this is the attitude that you want)
I’d not let her go either unless you were invited.
Really you need help? I think your the one that has a problem. The right thing to do is common sense. Lead him to the door, and tell him Adios! And don’t let the door hit you in the ass on your way out!
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Dump him he is no good he doesmot respevt u if u continr your self esteem will be short take back yor like dont be the victum
Take your baby and leave, he is not worth the sadness
“With a woman he is seeing” are people actually this fucking dense?? Move the fuck on!!!
Walk away. You own yourself a better life
Show up there anyways