She sounds wrong in the head. Maybe he’s not trying to poke the bear? Is he generally a non confrontational guy? If so, I’m betting he knows she crazy, and he doesn’t wanna fight with you, so he’s just telling you it’s fine. Either way, talking to a woman who doesn’t hear the word no, and is willing to put her kids out over this, ain’t gonna hear anything you have to say. He needs to confront her behavior, but if he doesn’t… tell him you will, only you’ll make a full blown scene over it. The whole thing is ridiculous… like she a stalker or something. Very weird.
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She sounds psycho and your husband is pretty much encouraging it.
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Um why was he nervous and sweating?!? You need to go with your gut and pay attention to this situation…there is more going on there than you know about. She isn’t just some crazy stalker…he was nervous for a reason. I would start by having a chat with your hubby…HE is the one that needs to squash it and if he doesn’t then you know why…I would not let this go tho…
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Mhmmmmm mhmmmmm mhmm mhm uh yeah you need to talk to her. Because shit is MAD sketchy, either her and your man did something or he gave her the wrong impression, nothing is more dangerous than a woman who doesn’t give af about doing that in front of you and her family.
Either shes crushing on your husband or shes in desperate need of friends/attention. Honestly just talk to her. 
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Don’t talk to her, she’s not married to your husband. If he chooses to step out, it’s on him. Talk to him, have him return the gift. She refuses it back, tell him to donate it. Why was he sweating and appearing nervous? A confident and secure person wouldn’t be like that. Why does she feel that comfortable? Why would she throw the fit? Around you. She’s second, not first.
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No, you’re not… I’d put her in her place very quick!
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That is how it start i am in the same position
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If ur gut feels it follow ur gut …my ex was with his now wife a yr til I found out … Then too late
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He’s probably cheating with her, which is why he was getting nervous and sweating about the situation. Being in a committed relationship stops no one. But, let’s be honest… would you leave him if you found out that was the case? Probably not. They never do. But, confronting her also probably won’t stop anything. You’ll just look like the crazy spouse.
Make sure to not be an accusatory bitch to him and make your home a place he wants to be, for reasons other than the children.
…Or maybe she’s just a flirt and your hubby is innocent.
Good luck!
I’m wondering what she bought him. Honestly, I wouldn’t care what he was saying. If she’s gonna be that bold, I’d ask her flat out and stare her in the eyes.
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Listen to your guts chick sounds crazy and it seems like hubby is either in on that crazy B or he’s enabling her. Either way I would be putting my foot down with both. Make him put his foot down with her and have him tell her to get the hell lost. File harassment at work if needed. But she needs to leave him the hell alone, sounds insane.
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She trifling.
Maybe talk to her husband and see if hes noticed anything then have a meeting all together. You and her husband set it up and corner them both without either knowledge
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Hell NO !! I would invite her to lunch and while your enjoying your meal tell her to pay attention to her own family … maybe tell her you know how to run a shovel and wink 
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Yes she has a crush on him, tell to get over it. That happened in my relationship, husband thought I was jealous. But she made a pass at him, and he let her know that he was happily married. She made a fool of herself
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You are not overreacting I would have cut it off at the get together. He owes you the loyalty so talk to him but damn sure put her ass in her place.
I would tell him that you are uncomfortable with the relationship. If he loves and respects you, you trump her and he will end it immediately. She will likely have a meltdown, sucks to be her 
Tell hubby it needs to stop now!And tell her the same thing,I don’t want you near her,or her near you.That is effing crazy,ask hubby if she does that shit at work?If so that’s harrasment,and can get her in trouble.Can your husband move to another area at his job to get away from her?Tell then in no certain terms can they hang out together,and tell their boss about her crazy shit
I would be livid and I’m not a jealous person. I would definitely ask him. Maybe even casually ask her husband what’s the deal?
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He needs to have the conversation, not you. She sounds a little off though.
Something isn’t right!! Why would a mother not want to walk with her kids and husband home?? He was sweating why??? Nervous she might say or do something more extreme in front of you and her husband? What did she buy him?
If you lady’s had a real man. He
Would not be cheaing on you in
The first place why are you hanging in there dump that guy
Have you seen the movie obsessed with Beyonce?? Giiirl I’d whoop that chicks ass!!! Left , right, up and down 
Me personally, I would confront her. As a matter of fact I would’ve confronted her a long time ago. Maybe there is something going on, maybe not but she OBVIOUSLY has some type of feelings for him. Not to mention she’s being REAL DISRESPECTFUL to you.
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I would put her in her place or she would be facing some serious problems
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100% HIS responsibility to put her in check. If he doesn’t then he’s enjoying every minute of the chase.
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No woman pursues a man just to be friends. Knowing me, I would tell her off.
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Something is going on between the two of them. Only other explanation is that she’s crazy…
But you stated that they’re very close. And that your husband was “sweating” .
And that she bought a gift specifically for him.
Follow your instincts, Girl! You already know what’s up bc your instincts have already told you. Don’t doubt them or try to get others here to talk you out of what you already know. Talk to your husband.
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Worry, but don’t accuse. Also, tell your SO the truth. You told him you’re not concerned, but clearly you are. Just tell the truth.
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No stick to your guns girl and tell her to back off, anyway what does her husband say about this surely he has noticed.
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They slept with each other. Your spouse ain’t nip it in butt yet? So something going on.
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Yeah you need to step up and speak with her And your husband. If there was nothing up why would he be nervous and sweating?? He’s obviously entertaining her when you’re not around. Sounds fishy
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Tell her to back off if she dont. Knock her ass off he should’ve already done put a stop to this unless if its a side piece
Why would your husband get nervous and sweaty?
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It’s not her that’s the problem…
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How did this woman’s husband react to her behavior is what I really want to know.
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They hooked up for sure
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There’s probably some flirting and some closeness happening. He was sweating n nervous that at the get together she didn’t know how to hide it and was exposing the situation to be obvious.
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I would defiantly put both of them in their place. Talk to your husband and say that it’s not on and also talk to her in front of your husband and mention that you know what she is trying to do. Tell your husband if he doesn’t put her in her place that your not going to stick around. It’s he’s job to make it obvious that he’s taken and not looking for anything or anyone else.
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I would of been saying something. Shes been very disrespectful towards yall relationship so if it was me I would of been pissed and said something.
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I’d be having a word with your SO first, it’s his job to put her in her place, however I have a feeling this woman has a reason to think it’s ok
I’d be suss.
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Something similar happened to me. She is acting that way for a reason. Go with your gut. Get the truth.
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The minute your husband told you that you were overreacting about the card after all this woman has pulled that means he is hiding something. If he is not willing to say something to her and keep her in her lane then you know he has cheated already or is planning to with this women.
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Wtf lol your husband should of put a stop to her behavior the first time she stepped over the line
He’s forsures cheating
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If she feels comfortable doing these things, it’s because he hasn’t shown her where the line not to cross is. HE needs to sack up and tell her to back off.
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Your husband cheated:cry:
she’s having a hard time being the side chick…
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You should get her husband and yours together as well as hers and see how she acts set them up and see what happens. Stick to your guns though that sounds fishy like something might have already happened
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My SO knows that I’m a little off and sometimes crazy so, he wouldn’t get nervous because he wouldn’t let it happen to begin with. I’m that type that will call you out in front of your significant one if you’re acting like this and if my man was acting the same as yours, sweating, yeah, he knows he’s not sleeping that night as that 3rd degree questioning is coming on and he will be lucky to sleep in our bed again. I don’t play that way. Respect works both ways. Respecting you is telling her to back off that he loves you and it will NEVER happen. Respecting you is not allowing her to be beside him as that is your place. Respecting you is no attention in her direction as the attention is strictly on you and your family. However, some don’t agree with my thinking but in the beginning I said I was a tad crazy and a little off 
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Shes deff into him and ur husband has probably led her on. Who tf in their right mind let’s their partner and their kids walk home while they drive! What a twat
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No your not overreacting… obviously somethings up… this is not normal behavior. I wouldn’t stay quiet about it… I’d talk to her and if things persist I’d take it to her husband. Then deal with my SO later
I was in a very very similar situation once with my husband…long story short I haven’t seen or heard from him in well over a year. Trust your gut instinct, I’m sure it’s saying what every other person is posting on here, something isn’t right. Good luck
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Men r stupid. Sometimes they honestly just dont get it and just take it as " girls being girls " or whatever. What i mean is u should talk to HIM. tell him it makes u super uncomfortable and ud appreciate it if he put her in her place. If he chooses not to then u have an issue
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No you’re not overreacting, why in the hell would he want to be friends with that immature bimbo?You both need to shut her out.
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I bet the farm on it …He’s messing with that women just keep your eyes and ears open lay low because something is fishy here .plus once a cheater always a cheater just stay on it and sonner or later you will catch them …good luck…
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Kindness kills invite them over for some strong shots it’ll unfold
either way, if the foundation is strong ur good if not then your future might belong elsewhere and count your blessings you caught it!
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Watch obsessed with Beyoncé.
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Sounds like a lifetime movie, lol! I would talk to yr husband first! Then, have him tell her with u there that it’s strictly business with her nothing more! (If that’s what he wants!) She def has issues! And if he said no twice to her about the ride then, she’s the problem!
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You are NOT overreacting
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I’d definitely say something! I would not like that at all we don’t even speak to the neighbors without each other it’s out of respect I have a good man he’d never cheat nor would I
Follow your gut. You are not over reacting. Talk to her boss! File sexual harassment even! 2nd party sexual harassment?? She sounds like a stalker and your SO sounds sneaky!
Either 1. He’s getting nervous because she makes him extremely uncomfortable or 2. He’s getting nervous because he’s hiding something and doesn’t want it slipping out. It could go either way but you both need to get away from her.
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Yo kids can walk??? Tf. Honey no… Don’t put your foot down STOMP that bitch down.
Your man was sweating because he slept with her and she can’t handle being the side chick.
This isn’t going to end well
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This sounds really dodgy to me…
I don’t understand why your husband was getting nervous enough to sweat but says you’re overreacting?
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Eek she’s all signs of a homewrecker. I can smell one a mile away. They have no shame and want what they want no matter whose In the way. Saw it happen to my brothers it nearly ended their relationships. Yes men are idiots.
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I rather enjoy when chicks try my husband… It’s too funny but in your case, if he’s not telling her to get bent, you should talk to him first. If he doesn’t fix it, let her know what’s up.
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She is stepping WAY over the line …How dare she show a total disregard for you and your family , just so disrespectful. I’d be having a word with her, cos it sounds to me like both you and your hubby saying No to her is just not sinking in.
And i have always included on my xmas cards work colleague name (& family if they have one.) She is clearly trying to get onto your man, 
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Me personally, I would be suspicious and definitely talk to her.
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Sounds VERY SUSPICIOUS to me!
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He started getting nervous and started sweating… You told him it’s fine and you’re not worried about it?!
I think he’s already crossed the line with her and you need to really think about talking to him.
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Have you ever watched the movie obsessed with idris Elba and Beyoncé um does that ring a bell
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Better have a talk with her and your husband and hers
She’s obviously obsessed with your SO. He may have given into her whims and she’s gotten even more obsessed. Be careful, she sees you as an obstacle and an obstacle can be removed.
I wouldnt talk to her I’d talk to her husband🤷 ask him why she aint satisfied at home cause she trying to come in yours? If that don’t work…just throat punch her and tell her to step off.
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A young neighbor went loopy over my husband, bragged about a trip to town with him to purchase herself a new dress, lunch at a cozy little restaurant, the whole 9 yards. When we got home later, I asked him why they went to town. He told me that she begged a ride to the doctor because her baby was sick. He waited almost 3 hours in the parking lot in our truck. I repeated her story to him and told him that I loved him and trusted him, but what would some of his friends’ wives do? He took care of that lying mouth!!
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Sounds to me like they had an affair and she has fallen for him and he was just using her.
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Not gonna lie, I’m a little more pissed off that she would leave her kids to walk… 🤷
But that’s definitely suspicious. Tell your husband that he needs to tell her to back TF off. If he argues on it or doesn’t, well then you have your answer.
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You are not off base. The card and whatever the gift was from her needs to be returned to her in front of her husband. Drop in at work and see what is going on. Just say you wanted to take him for lunch. A surprise. See what happens if you drop in. Don’t warn him. She seems obsessed and why? Husband can’t shrug this off. You are not being extreme at all, need to find out ‘why?’ Most women would not ever do this!! She is brazen and to much so!!
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I would go and ask the coworkers about how they act at work… Lunches together or goofing off etc. and see what they have to say about it. I mean they were at the “get-together” too right? They may have seen the behaviour and They might know more and be willing to tell you if it’s a concern that is brought up
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I wouldn’t talk to her, no way… I would talk to him.
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Yea id put my foot down and tell him to make sure she knows her place and if he doesnt I’d be suspicious…
The fact that she invited everyone around is what throws it off a bit … maybe she has a bit of a crush on your husband or maybe she is just over friendly with people. If I was with my partner and some girl was getting too friendly I would be sweating too even if there wasn’t anything in it.
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Sounds sketchy especially that hubby was that nervous.
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Burn down the work place! Ain’t no working with her no more!
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Sounds like she’s obsessed with your husband. I don’t think your husband is doing anything wrong but he needs to put her in her place but I really don’t think she would take any notice of it. Time to distance hubby and family away from her out of work hours
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I think she wants something to happen with everything you described except the card. I’ve never addressed a gift I bought or card to the family just the coworker because that’s who it’s for. The secret Santa or whatever includes one person not the entire family…lol
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No you are NOT over-reacting!!! She is obsessed with your husband & needs to be told to “back off!” If she does not, I would let the woman’s husband know that his wife is making you feel uncomfortable with the “unwanted attention” that she is giving your husband! That will definitely get a reaction! Your husband may be oblivious to the woman’s attention but, I would also be on the lookout for the possibility of infidelity. This woman is definitely a problem though regardless of your husband’s involvement!
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They are either already having an affair or he has done or said something to make her think that they will.
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You in competition with his work wife. Snap that neck sis. #done
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Watch out!!
Those types homewreak!!!
And of course men don’t see it or think it’s wrong
They like attention!!
I know
Pushy bitch took my man!!
Have you ever watched the movie “Obssesed”? This shit reminds me of this. Watch it. Crazy bitches man.
I don’t get the thing with the card of it’s a gift for just your spouse but sounds like there is something up or the chick crazy and your husband sounded sorta nervous so maybe he could be allowing whatever it is. She is behaving possessive of him. And he sounds kinda scared of her possibly just spilling the beans on what’s going on between them if there is something going on. Look into it.
I wouldnt automatically assume your husband instigated this. Workplace harassment happens to men to, they just tend to hide the effects of it until it way way too late. She may just be obsessed and he is trying to keep some decorum by not calling her out at work or work functions. Does not mean he is inviting or wanting said attention. I would definitely have a talk with the woman about the inappropriate nature of her interactions with him. You have every right to try and protect your marriage and to help your husband rid himself of a handsy coworker. Some women just do not understand boundaries.
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Your gut instincts are always right 🤷 if something dont add up right its prolly cause it aint right … Trust me
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Really you need to ask? And hubby needs to wake up too. You need to confront her and say go away now thank you.
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Id pull her and tell her to keep away x
Reminds me of the movie obsessed
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Your husband doesn’t seem interested, he seems to be telling her no at every pass. Talk to him about the situation and get his take on it, he might be getting constant unwanted attention at work. He needs to report her.
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They need to one, stop hanging out outside of work. Second I’d confront him about it and see what is going on. Maybe he’s into it or maybe she’s just obsessed. That needs to be cut off and reported at work if needed. If he’s having an affair… see ya! I’d probably confront her myself if I had to but guys like be be all nice and sugar coat shit. I’d be like go away or I’ll bust your face. Lol. 
Good luck. I hope your husband is being faithful.