My boyfriend and his two kids moved in with my three kids about four months ago and me. He works Monday through Thursday, and I work part-time and stay home with kids. His kids go to their grandparents every weekend while mine have nowhere to go. They come home bragging about name brand shoes and clothes they are bought while there. Also, I was told they would all be treated the same at birthdays and Christmas and was far from true. Now my kids and I are and were just fine with not having a whole lot because we have each other. But now they’re resenting the other children for this and so am I.
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They’re their grandparents. Not your kids 
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Those kids are just excited about receiving those things…resentment towards children out of jealousy is an issue!
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They are allowed to brag about what they recieved.
You seem to have the issue.
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Maybe ask their dad to tell them that bragging isn’t nice. How are they going to know, otherwise. You really can’t do anything about the gift giving, and it’s definitely not your place to put a stop to it.
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I deal with something similar but the kids are not at fault. And as an adult you shouldnt feel resentment. I use it as a way to push me to work harder so I can provide everything for my son. Not the kids fault you should not feel resentment towards kids
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Just remind your kids as always what is important to you all, each other.
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Not your kids grandparents. You aren’t married, his parents do not have to do anything for your kids.
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This is a tough one because I’ve seen it from both sides. It’s not so much that they’re bragging about what they got, but excited about what they were able to receive. Perhaps it could be a learning experience where you could talk to them about having a little understanding for those who have less, But also to talk to your children about how to be grateful for the things they do have when others have what seems like more.
Neither side of the situation should feel bad about where they stand
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If grandparents are your partners parents id stop them going every week or get hubby to have word with his parents nicely and explain. We want all 5 treating same as you are now family unit.
If grandparents are on mums side then really its upto them how they spoil them. Its past yours and hunbys control. Its down to you to explain to kids, and make kids see they dont have to buy for your kids as not related
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It’s not the grandparents responsibility to buy gifts for children other than their own grandchildren. Teach your kids that they don’t always get what they want, especially people from people that have no relation to them. It sucks as a kid to not get everything you want but it’s much much worse to be living under the roof of a resentful step mother.
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Wtf you resent kids because of this?? Do all of you a favour and just let them go, or work more so you can buy your kids things too. The grandparenst can buy whatever they want for their grandkids. Your kids are not their grandkids…
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My kids were by two different husbands . My boys never got a whole lot and my daughter has gotten to travel the world and always has had everything done for her by her dad and his parents . My boys never felt sorry for themselves and were always happy for my daughter . I am so thankful they weren’t jealous of her . Maybe because she was a girl and they were boys ? I don’t know . I hope your kids can work through this . It will be hard , but it can be done . Lots of luck to you and your kids .
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Just try and explain to your kids that some people have more money than others and at weekends do things with them so they feel special doesn’t have to cost alot of money either . Swimming cinemas park(depending on their ages ) . My kids are 4 and 5 they couldn’t care less about brand stuff but do love spending quality time together . They also might feel abit left out with other kids coming into your home ect . Give them extra tlc they are your propriety
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It won’t change until YOU STOP IT
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Girl grow up! Those are your children nobody has to do for them but you. You to damn grown to be resenting children than your bringing your kids into this.
How petty…let it go and stop being so jealous.
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This is a hard one. When you have kind of a mixed family with different parents/grandparents it’s bound to happen. Your step kids shouldn’t have to hide excitement but your kids shouldn’t have to feel left out. My two boys have different dads and I’ve had to explain to them both that they won’t always have what the other has. That’s just how it is unfortunately BUT with that being said… I am lucky because both sets of families within reason try to make sure the other doesn’t feel left out. That’s a really shitty situation … maybe dad can explain to the others that they are hurting your kiddos feelings if they’re at an age of understanding?
If I where you all kids are to be treated the same. Meaning those kids might not be biologically their grandkids but those are still their grandkids. All kids must go with grandparents and if they refuse and dont treat them all the same then I would speak to your husband and not allow grandparents to see the children until they accept all the kids!
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I’ll be the one to be different on this post. I totally understand your feelings. I have my daughter and married my husband with his son. He goes to his grandparents a lot and my daughter felt the same way. My parents treat my “son” just like their own and I expect the same from my in laws. It’s not about they aren’t responsible for buying your kids things. But you guys are together and they should want to. He needs to have a talk with his parents.
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Take your kids to do something fun while the other’s are at their grandparents. Even if you don’t have much money, go sledding, for a walk/drive, etc. Adventures and experiences are priceless 
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They shouldn’t have to stop spoiling their grandkids because you and your kids cane into the picture . I personally think you are being petty and jealous . Stop
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Kick the man out His family obviously doesnt want your children, you need to find better for them. Find someone that will treat them like their own. Blood doesnt make you family, love does.
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I would talk to my bf and explain that if we are going to be a family, I expect my children to be treated equally by everyone in the family. If it doesn’t change, I would not stay with him and that’s just because I’ve seen how being left out by “family members” makes a child feel. I wouldn’t put my children in a situation to be constantly left out. If you get married, they become family and family shouldn’t have favorites.
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“His two kids” 
You guys are a blended family and you call them “his two kids?”
My husband calls my son his son; none of that stepson bullshit. Treated the same? But you call them His Kids?? Lol I wouldn’t expect anyone to treat my kids like their own if I couldn’t even call them “my kids/ our kids”
They are all yours now.You do for all of them equal on your part.You can’t control what others do for the step kids.Just make sure what you do is equal
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As someone who grew up in a blended family… I was the stepchild who was added in and I was always treated equally. I think this needs to be a conversation between your partner and his parents because the favouritism isnt right. Yeah they’re blood but stepgrandchildren are still grandchildren…
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Most grandparents like doing things like that for their grandchildren, you are a blended family but do not forget that your stepchildren have a different side of family. There will always be differences, you cannot expect your stepkids to be treated the same way as your children, that would just be a silly expectation. To deprive them of clothing or shoes simply because their name brand is ridiculous. You and your husband can most definitely decide to treat your kids to specialties on the weekends that the other children are away as well. If you choose not to do this then you can’t resent the other children for receiving gifts from their biological grandparents.
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In my thoughts they should buy for all kids the kiss the same it’s noticed your kids fault that he’s not there father. That’s just heartless
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Remind you kids what’s important and material things dont make a bond of a person any stronger and that the love does
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Well teach your kids now that things aren’t always fair and not everyone just gets the same things just because one person has it. No one wants to see their kids sad over what another kid has obviously but just redirect it maybe and definitely talk to the husband about the other kids being happy about what they have but not needing to rub it in others faces too
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Do they go home and tell them “look what I got and you didnt” are they literally bragging about it to their face? If so, that’s not cool and needs to be corrected. If not then you need to check yourself and your kids. Jealousy is not good and will lead to something more violent. It’s not their fault they have grandparents to spoil them and your kids do not. Y’all are not married, and personally I wouldn’t expect their grandparents to treat step children the same. If they don’t want to, they don’t have to. Some people are like that, it may not be nice, but it is what it is.
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My children have the same issues. My daughter is much more spoiled by her grandparents and mine, while my son is not. I personally think it’s a healthy feeling as a parent to feel “resentment” about the situation. You want your children to at least feel equal. It shouldn’t be targeted at the children. And I don’t think that those kids just not bragging about their stuff would change it because the kids might end up just “looking down” on yours. But maybe you could spend more time doing activities and maybe crafts with your own children to make them feel special in place of all the new gifts. Maybe going to the movies without the others regularly. What does boyfriend think?
Are the grandparents your boyfriends parents. If so I would talk to him about it. Tell him that if he’s parents cannot treat all the kids the same and spend time with all the kids that they can no longer spend time with all the kids. All children in blended families deserve to be treated the same.
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Thats a grandparents right…to spoil their grandkids…
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My fiancé’s parents treat all my kids the same. They have one grandchild from my fiancé and I have 4 children. You couldn’t tell who the real grandchild is and that’s how it should be!!
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You chose to blend a family. You chose to bring these children all together. You chose this. Dont punish children because your jealous.
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I’d just do one on one time with my kids while their away … memories mean a lot more then house hold items!
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My kids grandma buys the other ones things all the time. She spends time w them and helpful in all kinds of ways. My kids don’t even get a phone call. It’s cool. I just remind my kids that these people aren’t that important to us and they let us know that. Just don’t be mad when my kids don’t give u the time of day
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Just match the items and buy your kids the same
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its sad that as a grandparent or step-parent u wd b so immature to have preferences…if my son ever married a woman that had kids, or my daughter a guy w kids, i wd buy ALL of them or NONE. to the ones saying that they dont have to buy them anything, of course, but moral and humanity should b stronger than logic. how can someone just sit there n say, o those are not my blood, but these are, so i will buy them all this n not care how the other children feel?? that is in-humane! those children are my son/daughter’s stepkids, therfore they are my step-grandchildren! if we as parents dont teach our kids not to make that division how d heck are they gonna do it when they’re faced with that time? I will buy them ALL equally. if i dont have enough to buy all name brand then everyone is getting no brand. i cant believe this world!
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Sorry to hear the kids are being treated too nice by family. How thoughtless of them. (this is all sarcasm)
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How long have you all been together? Before you moved in?
I didn’t take it as she has resentment, her children do towards the other children. Which is normal, kids want to feel included and I’m sure it doesn’t feel nice to be left out. They don’t understand how things work, they’re kids!! I would suggest maybe taking your kids to do something nice while the other kids are with their grandparents. Doesn’t have to cost much, maybe ice cream before dinner or something like that where it’s fun and out of the ordinary and they feel like they have something special too
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You need to have a talk with your boyfriend/husband and fix it if it then leave
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It’s only been a few months. It’s going to take time for everyone to adjust to the new dynamic. I would just point out to your bf that your kids are feeling overlooked, because their feelings are valid.
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Tell them it has to stay there🤷🏻‍♀️
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I don’t know maybe I was raised differently but when your married or are in a long term relationship with children. Those children become your family. Kids especially if they are young don’t understand.
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You’re resenting children over their excitement of having nice things?
Children see behaviors in adults…i would change that immediately!
The children are not to blame. You should be happy that they have family that cares especially because you know what it feels like to not be in a position to give that to your own. Unfortunately its not going to be equal unless you create something special for your kids. Time is worth more then money. Make arrangements with your own kids while the others are away so they have something to look forward to. Like picnics,movies,beach and park trips. It takes very little to please a child and hopefully in return it will please you.
Even put some nice shoes for the kids on lay by.
Family support and cheer each other on. You need to bridge that gap before it damages your family.
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“Treat me like crap but don’t treat my children like crap!”
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The family has grown. Now they are a unit. And lets be honest how would you feel if you woke up as a kid at christmas with a small amount of toys but the other kids got way more for the other family member. Blood or not its not right. So all you fools keep telling her shes being petty are not looking at it from all sides. Like it wouldnt feel good at all. Its about the kids not the grown folks ffs. To the momma bring it up to your husband and let family memebers know , if you buy for one you buy for all. Equal. Other wise your gifts are toxic and damaging.
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I think Dad needs to talk to his parents & let them know that the kids don’t need to be bought things every single week they are there. It’s nice helping out but these things should be saved for holidays or special occasions. Seems like it’s making these children out to be spoiled. Grandparents also should explain to not go home and gloat.
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I know if my step children are home at our house and my parents/ sisters buy my children something they will also buy my step children something as well . My sister just bought my daughter dress boots and my son a sweater , she also bought my step daughters dress boots . My 2 kids are home with me all the time as well . So if anything is bought for my kids and if my step kids are home as well they will get stuff to ( most times even when they aren’t here as well ) .
Only really time it bothers me if my step kids come home and brag about what I got is If their mother bf got it for them . I have a pretty good reason why it bothers me tho and I am sure other mothers would feel the same as well if they new
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Well, coming from someone raised by divorced parents with both step and half siblings, sometimes people just don’t realize until you bring it up. And the grandparents don’t know the step grands like they do their own. Kids will be kids. They are allowed to be excited about their new gifts. Instead of getting upset with the kids, maybe you need to have an adult conversation with everyone about this. This was an issue at first until my grandparents started buying everyone just a few gifts each and then giving all of the grands (including step grands) money to buy themselves something so that their was no fussing or hurt feelings. They may not realize that there’s a problem. Talk to them.
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I know of some eerie people that purposely do this. My oldest son has a different gma from the two younger ones and the gma always makes sure to get all 3 the same things. Or same amount. Some people can be hateful even though they say they aren’t that way. Their actions say otherwise. I guess just get your kids stuff too? Then again I wasn’t raised off of materialism either. And it is annoying. So idk what you should do here. Best thing I can say is to ignore it. But idk my mans daughters parents do the same thing so I know how you feel. My son always asks for stuff too but they make it a point to be stingy with him it is something else. As long as it ain’t you I guess that’s all that matters. Just have to keep moving and hang in there. In the end, your kids will know the value of things.
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Sounds like a good lesson that everything in life isn’t fair. Try showing your kids to be happy for them, or try not to take notice in these material things at all. You can’t control other people’s actions. Good luck!
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If you have resentment towards them you have issues. It’s not the kids fault and no one is obligated to give your kids the same as others . I would teach them to not be jealous. Maybe do More activities with them outside the home to make them feel more loved or included. If it’s material things you’re worried about then maybe get a fukk time job to provide those things for them .
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I would have a talk with the kids who are bragging and let them know its super rude. Then I would have a talk with your spouse and let him know you think this isn’t right. I would then try to make it up to the other kids some other way you can. I have this issue because I have three kids with one dad and three kids with another dad. so I feel for ya
I mean there are other ways as well. Perhaps a play day for all the kids. Not just half. No wonder these kids are growing up feeling so abused and left out. I have a 14 year old step daughter and she gets the same amount as our other two kids. I couldnt even imagine. You want all your kids to bond not have resentment towards one another. And proud to say this is how i was raised. We all got the same! End of story! And today we all love each other and truly have built lasting relationships. So you choose.
Do fun things together while thye are at grandparent so they can brag about wuilty time instead of money time ur quilty time will last a life time and not their material things with come and go
If they cant treat your kids the same then I wouldnt let any of them go over there
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My grandparents didn’t treat all the grandkids the same. They had there favorite.
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Teach your children that everyone gets their own good thing. For example: they have you. The other kids don’t have their mom in their lives. Life can be pretty unfair at times. You could also mention to your boyfriend that it hurts your children’s feelings, but keep in mind that they may not change their behavior. We always have a choice: we can allow someone’s behavior to bother us or we can choose to change our perspective and see what really matters.
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My inlaws treated my 3 Son’s equal to their blood grandchildren. They were always invited to family functions for the kids … hiliday cookie decorating etc… my husband at he time didn’t have his own children. We were a very busy lil family with sports so we didn’t alway participate. Maybe start inviting “those” grandparents over the following week to visit the ALL the kids and or offer them to feel free to have your kiddos over to their home too. Make it happen. . Time sure can be a real thief. This is your new blended family so make it work if not with them, then work with what you have. A good suggestion is… tell your kids they can’t miss what they’ve never had. Coveting they neighbors is not healthy bc God always provides. No enviness♡
It’s important to learn the importance of being happy for another’s blessings and not to be bitter and jealous and instead simply be happy for them. This is what you want your kids to learn in order for them to be happy, otherwise they will think happiness is found in items and will never learn how to find true happiness
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Sounds like you’re grown and need to pull a full time if that’s what it takes to make you feel better. It’s not that Man’s Parents responsibility to spoil your kids. Spoiling their own grandchild is costly enough. This entitlement crap is ridiculous. If you don’t think they get enough… GO GET IT YOU MADE THEM
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I think that the talk should happen behind the scenes. You need to work with the boyfriend and the grandparents (depending on your relationship with them). Kindly. Slowly. Talk to them about how you feel.
But at the same time you also need to be teaching your kids to be great full for what they have and also spend extra time with them. I would try to have them out of the house when the others come home so it’s not then coming in the door with a bunch of gifts. I’m not sure how old the kids are but mine are 2,4,5 and 8 and they get upset when another one gets something.
We are working on it.
But it’s a natural feeling for kids to not understand why they aren’t getting something. My 8 year old gets it. She is so good at being that full for what she has when her sisters get something new and not taunting her sisters when she gets something new. And at just having the item like it’s not letting her sister really know it’s new or special at all. But it is.
My 5 year old gets it most of the time. But it’s hard for younger kids to understand.
I would work with all of the kiddos on their role in the situation. Including to help the others know that sometimes it’s not fair for someone to be sad that we got new stuff but we still need to respect others feelings. Especially our family members.
And not let them know that it upsets you. It will make the taunting worse and the hurt feelings deeper
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My mom would out do herself on my sisters two girls birthdays and every holiday. My boys would get a toy to share like a bottle rocket off a shopping channel that was missing pieces. While her girls got expensive jewelry, clothes, makeup. My boys bdays were never acknowledged. Still aren’t to this day. We just stopped attending get togethers of any kind, with any of them. I got what I could for my boys and they knew I did my best. When I asked my mom why she treated the grandkids so different? It was a simple answer,” it’s my money I will do as I please with it.”
This is a pretty sensitive topic. Its not the other kid’s fault for what they get. Let’s start there. Your resentment towards them is misguided. How can they control that? Perhaps you and dad could sit them down and explain how them “bragging” isn’t very nice and makes the other children feel bad. Then perhaps you could both sit the grandparents down and explain your feelings to them. Maybe say… You don’t have to stop doing nice things but consider how the other children feel when they are left out…
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Married or not, it’s just rude behaviour from the kids. They should be taught better. Now, what we don’t know is, it it on purpose? Is it intentionally to hurt feelings? How old are they?
It’s one thing to be excited, it’s another to purposely be rubbing it in, knowingly to hurt feelings. Tell your kids to ignore them and not make a big fuss over it. If the other kids start bragging, just say that’s nice and walk away. They’ll eventually stop.
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Sadly that’s just part of living in a blended family. It sucks, but life isn’t always fair. Have A discussion with your SO about the kids bragging when they come home and just explain you understand that his family has the funds to go and buy nice things for his kids, but they really don’t need to rub it in your kids faces when they get back.
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You can’t buy love. (I am not saying this is what they are doing) Remind your kids to be grateful they have each other and a family that loves them step siblings included. Their siblings will out grow those shoes/toys. My family became blended when I was 12, my step siblings were 6,4,and 1. We grew up in 2 totally different ways and my stepdads family never fully accepted us. I never put that on my siblings only on the adults who think it’s “against their beliefs” to treat a non blood relative like family. You want to teach your kids to be bonded like siblings if you and your boyfriend do decide to get married. Siblings are who you have and I am seriously blessed that I was able to gain a sister out of my moms marriage. (I always wanted a sister, got 2 more brothers on top of it though lol)
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You have only been in the picture as a live in for 4 months. Its not ever going to be equal to their bio grand kids who stay with them every weekend. Be glad you dont have to buy the extra shoes & clothes. If you want more for your kids then work full time or have their grandparents pitch in If not be happy they have grandparents who are involved. Life is NEVER going to be equal. In reality you are not even legally married to their son.
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Thats a hard one. Ive been threw it with one of my kids. Sadly it happens more than you think. You should at least tell your partner how this affects you and your kids and i made a rule where whatever the grandparents bought including clothes stayed at their house for when they were over there. Works out much better.
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Im so sorry your kids are not included. This can hurt, my step grandmother did me the same way. She would let my cousin stay the weekend with her and my Pawpaw. But i could not stay. But my daddy would go by and see them on Friday evening and my cousin would show off the shoes, or a doll, but got me nothing. I would go to the car and cry.
If your boyfriend could take to them tell them that the kids have to keep there new thing’s at there house that its not right for the other kids. Or dont do for one if you cant do for all the kids
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It starts with you mama. Teach those other kids it’s not nice to brag. I teach the kids at school not to brag about their clothes or shoes.
If no one asks, why are they talking??
Make them understand. They’ll also feel better when someone compliments them rather than having to boast about themselves.
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Teach your kids to be happy for others, and grateful for what they have. Have a good time all the time!
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Wait. What? You are resentful that your boyfriend’s children get nice things from their family? Are you serious? Now why should his family have to buy for his girlfriends kids to be able to buy for his kids? That’s crazy. Honey get a full time job and support your own kids. If my brother told me I had to buy for his live in girlfriends kids to be able to buy for my nieces we’d have a huge family problem. Those children are very blessed to have a generous family and as a grown woman you should be thankful they don’t have family like your kids. Grow up and let those kids be happy for God’s sake.
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I would have a talk with your boyfriend and he can have a talk with the grandparents, even if children understand the terms be happy with what you got it’s very hard when your other siblings get more stuff and are treated better.
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Maybe resent the boyfriend’s parents… for not holding true to their word… not the kids
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Maybe u should try and talk to the grandparents,& explain the situation and if they have any type of HEART or empathy , maybe they will see its causing problems for your WHOLE family!!???
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Ok. Despite the fact that you guys aren’t married yet, you ARE living together as a FAMILY, and you’re the mother role while your step kids are there with you. All kids in the home deserve to be treated equally. The Step kids should NOT be bragging and gloating like that. Its super rude and very cruel. Your kids have a right to feel hurt and they’re valid for it. Your feelings are valid too. You can feel however you want. It’s what you DO with those feelings that matters and it doesn’t sound like you’re doing anything unhealthy because of it. Grandparents don’t have “RIGHTS”. The parents do. Same goes for aunts and uncles. I’ve had to make that clear myself before with my own family. If I say NO, i have the final say. NO means NO. We have a blended family. I expect my family treat my step son the same as my biological kids and my husband feels the same about his family. If you do for one, you do for all. We are all a whole family now. It’s not my husband and step son as one family, me and my kids as one family, and me and my husband with our baby as another. NOPE. That is NOT how you have a successful blended family. We are one family unit and expect others to respect that. They are KIDS. They have a whole different perspective. No child deserves to feel like they are less important than other children. It’s not about the stuff, the amount of it, or what it costs, it’s the principal of it all. And going overboard with kids and buying all this expensive stuff frequently isn’t necessarily healthy either. ESPECIALLY if it is making them brag like brats and act entitled and better than others. My kids would NEVER!!! I’d put a real quick stop to that nonsense!
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I can’t stand grandparents like this…my husbands parents do this constantly with our 9month old son and it erks me
4 mo of dating/ living together isn’t enough time to see if y’all are going to be together forever or not. Personally I see it as don’t get attached in case you break up. As for the stuff yes it’s rude they brag but I mean it’s immature to think that your kids deserve the same treatment when y’all haven’t even been a mixed family for half a year.
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I’d make them leave anything bought at the grandparents house
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Its not the kids fault, that their grandparents want to buy them things everytime they see them… and it shouldnt have to stop, just because your kids feel some type of way… you should be explaining to your kids, what the situation is, and help them understand whats going on. As your kids get older, ppl around them wont always change their ways to satisfy your childs feelings, and you need to show them that
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You need to have a talk with them because to me it sounds like they’re being real disrespectful, on purpose in YOUR home.
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If your resenting the bfs kids & your children are as well. This could be th beginning of the end. If you want to work this out, there needs to some agreements in place.
I know I don’t know you, but I worry about your future in this relationship. You said you& your kids were just fine with just a little, now your not. That’s sad. That’s sad you gave up your happiness
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My son has a girlfriend who lives with him. She does not help with bills. Or clean. But when I get my. Granddaughter I take her child and I spend the sam on both. I buy them both school clothes and summer clothes.
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she’s a girlfriend so she has no legal say on if the kids go to their grandparents or not… not to mention it’s ridiculous that his kids be punished for their grandparents being in their lives just because her kids grandparents aren’t
the relationship is only a few months old so it’s a little unfair to demand/expect his parents to suddenly have a bond with her kids the moment they started dating
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There is nothing you can do about how the grandparents treat your kids. Maybe if your kids went also they’d be treated as well. This is an issue that happens unless they change.
I have pros and cons about this situation. I was a step mother to a 5yr old (i married his father). We had two children at home and one other out of the home he provided for on a regular basis. The 5 yr old and the other child out of the home had siblings at home. There was no way wr could afford to buy for all 6 children on a regular basis. We did however include the other children for birthday parties etc. Granparents are often on a much fixed income and want to help out but I don’t think it should be exspected of them to do the sam for all the kids that aren’t their grands. That’s when the parent has to do a little extra to make it even out. I was that parent too. I understood.
Grandparents will buy for their grandkids. Nothing you can do about it. You have to explain to your kids that those are those kids grandparents and they buy things for them. You guys are just bf and gf. I wouldn’t expect their family to buy my kids the same stuff or anything at all.
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Talk to your boyfriend about it so he can talk to the kids about the bragging they are just doing it to rub it in your kids faces. There’s no point in kids bragging about that stuff.
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Send them with a list of stuff u need!! Haha!! Let them spoil those kids! Dont deny your kids memories etc with their grandparents…unless they’re not safe, you need to let them have that relationship
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The problem is with you.
Not those kids or those grandparents.
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You need to talk to your husband about the situation first and set the grandparents down explain to them how the other kids feel seeing this all the time make it where maybe they just restrain themselves and buy things on birthdays and so forth, but if you’re a blended family and your married, They need to start keep treating your children’s the same.
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Some of these comments are so rude!! If you don’t understand where she’s coming from then lucky you. It’s cool to have a difference in opinion but there’s no need to be so nasty… just move along
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This makes me sad. And a lot of people going against the poster because they aren’t married yet. It’s the kids who have to suffer here and that’s what’s sad. I guess I’m lucky. I have two baby daddies. My sons grandpa always buys for both my kids even though my daughter is not his grandkid. My daughters dads side is all blocked. They are psycho. My husbands mom treats my kids as her blood and sends them stuff or sends us money to buy them stuff. She treats them with all the loving kindness a grandparent would.
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