it sucks that the resentment sets in… not judging you at all… just sucks because they’re kids … my older 2 spend a lot of time with their grandparents and luckily those grandparents have taken my 3 little ones (not related to them) as their own as well… they don’t do/spend NEARLY as much but they aren’t expected to and they always think of my kids and include them where possible
Yeaaaaa… Thats not good. Talk to them and ur bf at the same time.
Any way to pick the kids up from grandparents just them and tell them you like their new things but not to make a big deal out of them at home because not everyone got some? I mean that’s a crappy attitude to have in general whether they are at school or home. No one likes the one uppers and the “I’m better than you” people, so it’d be best to get those attitudes out of them now.
I’d also suggest joining a step parent group (even if not officially the step parent yet) because answers there are from people with similar experiences
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I dont think the OP has an issue with the grandparents buying the step children nice things or even not buying her kids things too? I think its just the fact that the kids come home bragging everytime and it probably makes her children feel left out and less fortunate. I would have a conversation with my bf if I was in the situation and if he refused to do anything at all I would consider separating or at least going back to separate homes.
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My gk go to there moms and there are 3 of them , and her bf has 3 , they cant take anything to her house bc of them, and if they do it’s taken away from them …
My parents are broke so I don’t have to worry about my daughter getting special treatment and not my boyfriend’s daughter lol
Not really their fault their grandparents shop for them . You cant force anyone to do anything for anyone they dont want to .
You and their father should sit them down and explain that rubbing material things in the other kids faces is hurtful, maybe even talk to the grandparents…
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So this is just about them bragging? Not like bringing it home and flaunting it? I agree children should be equal in the home but there is nothing you can do about the rest of his family. Just explain to kids how inconsiderate it is to brag because yours don’t have family that can treat them
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Teach the children not to brag
Why dont your kids go to their grandparents? If you havent been together long then they arent going to be tret the same and rightly so… thats them kids grandparents they can buy them what they want
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your boyfriend should step up and speak to your boyfriend should step up and speak to his parents point out that you are a family all together is he can’t do that then I think you better move on
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Hmmm…its better to go thru hardship together, than to go thru it alone or hopeless. Every hardship in life has to come to pass…what’s inside of a shoebox will never fill true love.
Kids are gunna brag whether u like it not🤷♀️
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That shouldn’t be expected when they’re not even married. It sucks yes but that’s the truth. We don’t even know how well they know the kid’s. It shouldn’t be expected for their grandparents to have to fork out their hard earned money on kids they barely know. Where’s mom’s parents? Do they not do for their grandbabies? What I’m saying is if they do anything for her kid’s it should be because they know them and love them not because it’s forced or because the retaliation will be they don’t get to see their own grandchildren if they don’t and because mom think’s it’s not fair.
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Wah!! Life is not always fair. If you want your kids to have more and better things. Dont whine about it. Get out and work for it. Dont complain about it.
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I dont have any advice but I can relate. I’ve been with my fiance for 5 years living together for 3.5. My kids are 13 and 10. His are 6 and 11. We have one together now who is 1.5. My inlaws treat my kids differently then the rest. Recently shes been sending stuff over for the baby but nothing for my kids. Hes to young to care and she doesnt see him so I just toss it or give it away. If it continues he’ll tell her again to stop sending stuff to our place. She can keep it there for if we visit. Which we won’t. I’m no contact currently and hes limited contact cause his parents are awful.
Hmmmm. Maybe they are a little old fashion and just doesn’t consider them their grandkids yet. I mean, you did say he was your boyfriend…yet you called them your step kids. As a stepmom myself, that is a Title you EARN. When you get married, they are your step kids and you are their stepmom. Until then, although I am sure your love for them is real…you are truly not their step parent. Maybe that is how the grandparents feel, as well.
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Why would you resent the kids for what someone else is doing for them? Your kids are not there kids and they don’t have to do the same for your kids as they do for there kids. It sucks yes, but your a adult and need to teach your kids to be happy with what they have and not to be JEALOUS of what others have. To me it sounds like you need to grow up a little.
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Take your kids out/ get treats while the other ones are over at their grandparents fact of the matter is that those kids are their grandchildren. His son decided to be with you and I think it’s unfair to expect them to take on your 3 kids as well y’all are just dating yes moving in is a huge step but probably in their eyes they don’t know what’s going to happen. Hopefully with time this will change.
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You can talk to them and their father about it, but also have a talk with your own children about the resentment. Kids get excited about things they get and his kids should be allowed to be happy about it. Meanly bragging about it is wrong. If they aren’t being mean, that’s different.
I was on welfare, food stamps, hand me down everything until I was 18. The Salvation Army even had to get us Christmas one year. I wasn’t resentful of friends who were well off. With all due respect, it wasn’t their problem that I couldn’t afford things.
Since you were told your kids were getting things, talk with the grandparents.
Resentment and meanness need to be thrown out. COMMUNICATE.
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Maybe you should start taking them to get themselves small things. It doesn’t take much to make a kid happy. I think it seems like they’re bragging simply bc your kids are empty handed. I feel like they would share their findings if they both had something to show off. You can literally go buy a $5 pair of flip flops & a kid will be happy.
I think they’re just overly excited about what they receive. I still come home from shopping & pull out my stuff like I won the lottery to show my husband. I’m not rubbing it in his face or anyone’s face , I’m just happy about it. 
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Do something special with your kids when the others are gone. Something that’s just for them.
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Well, is it your boyfriends parents or their mothers parents? It reads like they see their other family on the weekends, I would never expect my husbands wife’s parents to do anything for my kids. It’s their right to spoil their grand kids regardless of your financial status. My step kids grandparents spoil them rotten, as they should. Just this year my parents moved in state and are able to spoil all our kids together. While it sucks, life isn’t always fair. I’m sorry they don’t have anyone but you.
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This is something that your boyfriend should man up and discuss with his parents. Of course the kids brag. They’re kids. Your boyfriend needs to put his parents in their place, or stop letting his kids go over there.
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I’m gonna let you in on a little secret, they’re probably growing resentful because you are. Kids feed off of adult energy. You really can’t get mad at what these people are doing for their grandkids. You didn’t mention their mother, is she still in the picture? If not maybe that’s why the grand parents go the extra mile. In any event maybe you should teach your kids that some people will have more than them and some people will have less.
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You’re dating you’re not even married? Your kids have a set of grandparents just like his kids do. Kids are going to brag regardless. You’re resenting his kids because they’re set of grandparents give them nice things and not your children? You really should leave if you’re resentful towards his children for something so small. How unfortunate to have to grow up in a home like that. I hope the boyfriend see it and leaves to better his children. Their grandparents are being good to their grandchildren. Stop being jealous and explain and teach your children that sometimes its just the way the cookie crumbles
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I have actual kids that this happens to. My son lives with his dad and my girls with me, he’s always going on holidays and doing cool things, he owns his own pair of nikes (that he saved up a bought) but he does have heaps my girls don’t have and he brags, kid all brag. It’s a good learning experience. Turn it around and of your kids are getting upset just remind them of something they DONT have that your kids do.
I always use me as an example haha then I treat them to ice cream or something. Try defuse by brainfarting them too. it’s not going to last forever
If your children are not being bought for by your boyfriend’s parents then you need to buy them whatever it is they need and not expect the children’s grandparents to be grand parents to your children. If they are doing that now it’s probably not going to change they know how it must hurt your children’s feeling’s. Just teach your children not everyone is compassionate.
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I had this situation. I spilt money given to me & my kids for Christmas with my stepson. Then he went to his mom’s house & was given hundreds in gifts. So not only did my kids get less than they should have they had to listen to him bragging about what he got. For example I gave both older boys an inexpensive tablet. He got an iPad then busted up the tablet I used my son’s money to buy him. We were very resentful towards him & his father. We broke up shortly after. But I swore I wouldn’t buy that ungreatful child anything for future holidays.
Your bf needs to talk with his sons grandparents. If they can’t tone down their giving then the kids need to stop going.
You need to teach your kids that not everything is “fair” and the other kids are allowed to be excited over what their grandma buys them.
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First of all, those kids should not be allowed to act that way towards your kids. You should all be family. If they can’t handle not belittling their siblings then they don’t need given stuff. That’s how spoiled brats are created. They brag about it, take it away until they learn decent behavior. Second, where is your boyfriend in all this??? He should be disciplining his children for acting that way (if you aren’t allowed/comfortable) and should have said something to his parents. Treating some children better than other children is awful behavior
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That’s a tuff one but at the end of the day dream and build, only success can beat off certain things. Never stop winning
Sorry it’s not their fault they get treated this way, they are kids and should be able to be proud of what they get
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They’re not your step kids if he’s just your boyfriend.
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Those people aren’t your kids grandparents they are his kids grandparents and it’s their job to spoil his kids.
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Maybe you and your boyfriend could consider getting full time jobs to provide all the kids things without depending on the grandparents.
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All these remarks about grandparents will gift their own grandkids and kids will brag how many of you would say the same things if your kids were i their place ? Nobody wants their kids hurt and the grandparents need help
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There’s some rude ass people on here condoning these children bragging just showing you’d raise a child like that. That’s why so many children are entitled brats. That brag about what they have and know others don’t. Its a damn fucking shame… Disgusting.
The kid’s are probably just excited to get new things and aren’t bragging. A lot of kids will go on and on about something new they get or a new experience they went through. Just because your kids don’t get the same things doesn’t mean his kids should be prevented from expressing excitement. Let them enjoy the innocence of childhood.
Start acting like an adult and stop resenting kids for being kids because I’m pretty sure you’d feel differently if the shoe was on the other foot.
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The ages of the kids are a need to know here. Are your kids not old enough to understand those people are not their grandparents? Maybe your boyfriend could talk to his kids about not gloating so much. I’d understand if this were a relationship that’s been developed over years and you’d been a blended family living together for a while but you can’t seriously expect people to be so invested in your children when you’ve lived together for 4 months. Next year, the year after even, sure, if birthdays and Christmas aren’t starting to become a little more equal then say what you have to say but i think it is so premature to even suggest it
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Get a better job… You are teaching your kids resentment, and apparently raising them with the “that’s not fair” mentality… Well, life ain’t fair, and you are their mother. If you for one second think your kids are happy having nothing, because yall have each other, then you are being delusional. Clothes and shoes regardless of what name is on the tag is a necessity…
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Honey, I have been there and done that and it Does NOT WORK!!! That makes UR kids feel Less Than when they r NOT!!! I dont knownhow tight ur relationship is with Boyfriend, but I dont that u wld really care cus ur kids r always gonna b 1st. I would ask him 2 move out and take his kids with him, cus Honey that is WRONG as HELL. I hate that 4 ur kids, but mine lasted about 3 mths n that shit HAD 2 END!!! And my husbands Ex still tried to cause problems for my kids after me and he divorced, and her kids tried to bother my kids n school. She moved her kids 2 my kids school n wld call n start problems with school 4 my kids, then I called Board of Education, that she didnt live in the jurisdiction, so they got moved out. But 2 this day, my almost grown kids so NOT like them, at ALL. Do it for ur kids honey!!
A lot of these comments are OUTRAGEOUS! Why does it matter who works part time or if they are married? Either take on the whole package or not @ all. If name brands are bought then there is enough to go around for each.
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Well, this whole comment thread screams entitlement… This next generation is going to be great. 
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Wow these comments are absolutely horrible!! And just because they arent married doesnt mean her kids should be treated this way. Doesnt mean the grandparents should be ignoring her kids. Just because they arent married doesnt mean they arent family
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You need to think of it this way as his children are going to grow up expecting nice things handed to them and most likely be entitled little brats if the spoiling is truly at the extent you are stating as your children will grown up with the knowledge to be thankful for what they do have and understand you cant always have what you want. But seriously have you thought of looking at second hand stores alot of them have name brand items that looks new and are half the price or even less might be a good option to even out what your kids are not getting that wouldn’t be to much for your budget just a thought.
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boo hoo cry me a river…
dont like it, contact grandparents on both sides of your children and ask them to have a relationship. If not, don’t be jealous that the other kids are loved by family. Resenting them, and teaching your kids that tells me you don’t love these kids either.
Also, you want nice things - WORK. Part time don’t pay bills … pathetic
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Are they bragging,or just happy and excited to get stuff?Like normal kids.You shouldn’t expect other people to treat your kids the same.It’s sad,but true,as most people don’t.You as the parent need to make sure your kids have what they need,not your boyfriends parents.You’ve only lived together 4 months,that’s not a long time.Work more to afford better stuff for them,instead of demanding some else buy it.You’re acting very childish that you’re kids are left out.Then get off your butt and take them out.Libraries are free,parks are free.Teach your kids that the world doesn’t owe them anything.Shame on you for how you react to your “step kids”
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As a grandmother I would remember my son’s girlfriend/babysitter family in some way at birthdays and holidays however… you are not married and they are not her grandchildren. I know that may not seem fair but it is what it is. People have to realize what they put their children through when they are in these relationships. Believe it or not I’m not old fashioned or a prude and I am sure I am not the only person who feels this way.
I can understand your frustration. But…it is not your bf fault that his kids actually have active grand parants, who is allowed to spoil their grand children. Why does your kids not go to their own granny? You will need to learn that everything cant change now that you are in the picture. You chose to be with a man with kids and it wont be easy, if its a problem you shouldnt date someone with kids
Those grandparents don’t have to spoil all the children or none. It’s their right as a grandparent to spoil THEIR grandbabies. What child doesn’t get excited about getting something new? They should have to not brag and be excited because you haven’t taught your children that they will not get everything that everyone else has. Do they all get gifts on each other’s birthday as well?
So this is a two part answer. First, the kids should not be bragging about getting all of these things. This is a gentle conversation to be had with your husband. I’m sure he can have a talk with them about not bragging about what they got (and I’m taking your word they are bragging, not just excited). This I believe should be easier to resolve.
Second, you cannot control what the grandparents of these kids give nor how much they give. They are enjoying their grandchildren as they should and I’m sure it comes from a loving place. That being said, you do not have to break the bank nor compete with these people. Take your kids out on the weekends. There are lots of places and cool projects you can do at home that your kids will enjoy. Very rarely are biological grandchildren treated the same as step grandchildren but it doesn’t mean that the grandparents are bad people. They are probably not used to your family dynamics so it’s up to you and your husband to make it work in your household and I hope you can resolve it. I’m not sure why in these threads women are ready to toss a whole husband away for a disagreement lol.
They are proud of what they got,why is that wrong🙄 get over it!
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Wow an adult saying this about kids; grow up!
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I have a stepson who also always goes to his grandparents on the weekends. They will take him places and occasionally buy him brand name things. I would never expect them to buy my son anything, since he is not their grandson. The difference is my step son doesn’t come home bragging about it, he will show us if we ask what he got and that’s it. I feel like maybe your boyfriend should talk to them about that, but it’s not the grandparents job to also buy for your kids.
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Do a picnic with a treasure hunt doesn’t cost much but time and money can’t buy that 
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Has anyone thought the grandparents are the mothers parents not the fathers
You must have known this to some extent before you moved in together?!?!?!
Find treats that are special to you
How are you expecting your children to be treated the same as his children after 4 months of moving in together? Why should they be treated the same anyway? I would never expect grandparents who weren’t my children’s to treat them the same as their biological grandchildren. That’s a immature thing to expect. So they come home and “brag” about what they have. Maybe they are lacking validation somewhere else and feel they’re getting it through materialistic things. Maybe they’re also dealing with living with you and your children and adjusting. Take your children when they’re away and nurture their souls so they won’t even acknowledge what the other kids come back with. Sounds like your resentment is rubbing off on them.
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I think the point she’s trying to make is that the step kids are bragging that they get a lot more than the others to try and make them jealous and feel left out. It’s not a nice experience to have people who have a lot more than you constantly brag that they (in my experience) come from a family who can afford to give them what they want when they want when you’re a family who is less fortunate
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They are your children, you buy the stuff.
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Where are your kids grandparents? Sounds like they need to step up their game.
My ex got upset over my daughter coming home from her dad’s with stuff he bought her, it got to the point to where my daughter could not bring anything home that her dad bought her because it was unfair that his kids’ mother abandoned them and they didn’t get anything…surprise, surprise, we aren’t together anymore…it sucks that your kids don’t have family to buy them things or spend time with them, but it is not the other children’s fault and getting into a relationship with someone who already had kids you should have known this…
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This is what happens in broken/ mixed family’s.
You better stop letting small material things get under your skin or your going to be a bitter person and teach your kids to be bitter
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Talk to your partner about how the bragging about their gifts is bullying.
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Not really anyone’s business what their grandparents buy them. I don’t send my stepdaughter off to my parents house, nor do I not buy things for my own kids just cuz she might want it when she sees it or whatever. It’s not the kids fault they have grandparents in their lives that buy them things
First year of me and my boyfriend being together, his family bought my kiddos Christmas & they get them Birthday gifts. If they was invited to the event by the people that held the Christmas gathering & they excluded the kids then that is a issue in my eyes. Next year I would just tell your boyfriend to take his kids and you go do something special with your babies. And as far as being a split family, everything my child gets at their dads stays at their dads so their is no hurt feelings.
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As a grandparent i treat all grandbabies the same. If i buy for 1 i buy for all.
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Then you need to call your parents or their paternal grandparents and tell them to step it up. You can’t expect after 4 months of living together for there to be equal treatment. Are you delusional? Also this had to of been a “thing” before you moved in yet it didn’t bother you then? In fact you went on ahead and decided to move in with them??? So… Perhaps you should take a long look at yourself sounds a bit selfish on your behalf to just move in with your children and they obviously feel some type of way 🤷 I’m assuming you were dating this guy for at least a year before moving in… these issues had to be out on display for you during that time. The fact that you are holding resentment towards CHILDREN is also extremely concerning and a possible indication of Narcissistic personality disorder.
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Some people on here a really crappy people. I cannot believe some of the comments on here. Some of you people really need to get a life and back up.
We have a very blended family. All of the kids get something at some point while the other kids miss out. It’s about teaching everyone that “hey it happens” life isn’t equal. Let the kids be happy about thier stuff but teach them the fine line of “wanting to show off thier new stuff” vs “rubbing it in everyone’s faces” on the weekends the grandparents takes some of the kids do something special at home with the others. Doesn’t have to be expensive. Make a pizza. Do thier nails. Go the park.
Why should your boyfriends kids have to feel guilty because of what they get from their grandparents? It’s not their fault the your children family is shitty and it’s their job to do for yours!! If they do then OK but if not then oh well.
Gifts from grandparents stay at grandparents house, talk to your BF and tell him what’s going on.
take your kids somewhere fun or buy them stuff while his kids are gone… you cant hold it against them for being excited that they were bought stuff…
He’s your boyfriend not your husband. You can’t expect the grandparents to treat them the same. You and your kids could be up and gone out of their lives at anytime. Not a family yet. We grandparents protect our hearts
I would take your kids somewhere special every weekend or buy them a new toy.
It’s just a name but I do know what u saying I always taught my kids if u like something u get it other who care what name it is.
All kids should be equal…two months, ten years it does not matter…A family is always fair
I’ve been in this situation. And I was married to the guy. His mom would buy his girls nice stuff for christmas and buy my girls shit from the dollar store. She would do things with his kids and not mine. I dont call it jealousy I call it trying to be fair. And I know how bad it hurt my girls for his mom to do those things. My family treated them all the same. I talked to my then husband at the time about how I felt about how his mom treated my girls. Maybe you just need to tell bf how you feel about all this. And maybe he can get his parents to take your kids also.
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Are the grandparents only his kids or all the kids? Because i mean is not their fault:woman_shrugging:t2: no ones fault actually 
so your only concern should be how to teach your kids on how not to hate on their step-siblings and learn how to be grateful for what they get. If you are hating on those kids your kids will learn how to hate on others. Be careful. i have gone thru myself when i was a kid i learned that having food on the table for everyone and a home was all I needed , I didn’t even care what kind of shoes i wore as long as my little brothers were good i was good. As a parent i would work harder for my kiddos and try to buy them all the cool stuff we want to see them wear. I know its hard to see your kids with old shoes and other kids with new but that’s our own problem not the kids or anyone elses. As for dad he needs to talk to his kiddos about humbleness.
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I have step grand kids i buy for them as i would my own blood.
No exceptions when it comes to children and the love of children.
These grand parents should get them a little something is better then nothing at all.
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As a grandparent I have this advice. 1. If he’s your boyfriend, there should be no expectations of the grandparents, especially if they do not see your children. 2. BF needs to have a talk with his kids about being sensitive to your children’s feelings since they aren’t fortunate enough to have involved grandparents, and 3. When it comes to step children/grandchildren, grandparents sometimes feel like they can’t win no.matter.what.they.do. No thank yous, not one call, not one bit of gratitude … the gimme, gimme attitude with no manners has to stop.
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My mother-in-law buys for my son from a previous marriage. However, I don’t require it. She does it because she loves him. You can’t force people to love and do for your children. Maybe you should sit down and talk to your boyfriend and his parents. Communication is the key to everything.
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I didn’t see a question posed, so I’ll just say this. You are entitled to your feelings, however, you CANNOT dictate HOW someone chooses to spend their time and/or money. The kids are their grandkids. You guys aren’t even married, you said boyfriend, so they might not feel it necessary to invest emotionally and/or financially your kids not knowing what the outcome may be between their son and you. The best thing I can tell you, is to start having quality time with your kids while his are gone. Honestly it’s a blessing that they are so involved with their grandkids bc now a days it’s not like that. As an adult and parent, you shouldn’t want to be the one to cause dissension in his family.
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Lol try watching ur OWN parent/parents treat all the other grandkids like gold besides ur own…we as mamas just gotta keep it moving and show our babies that NOBODY will/can love them more than us!!!
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It’s ok that the other kids go to there grandparents and they get things. But they should be told it’s not nice to come home and bragg about things that they get . But u got to understand it’s not the other kids fault they have there grandparents in there life.
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It seems like a little bit of jealousy or envy. It’s their grandparents there is nothing wrong with that. It sounds like you’re expecting these things for your kids just because you’re with the father who is your boyfriend as you said. I don’t see anything wrong with grandparents buying THEIR grandkids things. You shouldn’t expect it. You’re an adult and to be resenting kids for what they receive is childish. I’m sure it would be different if it were the other way around.
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Maybe while they are with their grandparents you plan to do stuff together.
Not sure where you love but picnic at the park or walk around town.
Stuff that you all can pick together. So even if they don’t get “new stuff” they have experiences and memories to remember forever. Letting them learn it’s not the stuff but the memories you make. It can even be like movie night in and “themed” food or sleepover in the living room etc. Good luck
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The dad needs to speak up. Kids see when they are treated differently and it hurts the kids. I have 2 bio kids and my husband has 1. In the beginning his mom would only get for my husbands child. Now we are married and they treat all 3 the same because they didn’t know my kids in the begging… I think your husband should tell his parents that if they get them things they should keep them at there house unless they include your kids now as well. That’s what’s wrong with people today. Playing whose blood and whose priorities over the other because who the bio parent is just to hurt another child is just sad.
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I think it is time to have a talk with your boyfriend!! After all, he moved in with you. It is your house. If the grandparents want to give their grandchildren presents, I see nothing wrong with that, because it is their grandchildren. Kids have a tendency to brag. I think it would be good to talk to your boyfriend and let him talk to his kids.
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This is a new family situation and this is your boyfriend and not your husband. Maybe as time goes on and the grandparents see that this is a permanent situation, things may change. I can understand how your kids feel left and you feel hurt for them as a mother. Maybe your boyfriend speaking to his parents about this would change things but you can’t blame the other children for this, it is out of their control. They do not have the same connection with your children as they do their biological children and talking it through is the best solution.
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I can see both sides. I have 3 kids & 2 bonus kids (all are grown now). My parents and my husbands mom (not Dad) financially treated the kids equally. But that was after we got married. I’m ok with that. Why should they be “in” all the way when I wasn’t? Meaning living together vs married. Also they didn’t really know the kids. I wouldn’t expect a stranger to spend $100 on my kid just because I know their son. As a mom your just sensitive to your kids feelings & I understand that and my advice is to help your children understand that they shouldn’t feel bad and your boyfriends children need to understand that bragging is rude.
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I don’t feel like there is enough information to make a fair statement. For instance…how long have you and your bf been together, how old are all the children and are the grandparents able to afford to purchase gifts for five children…blended families are hard. These grandparents are not doing anything out of the ordinary and the kids should be able to be proud of what they have. I’m sad for the situation. Age appropriate conversations with everyone might be a good thing and if the kids go every weekend maybe keeping some of the things there at their house instead of bringing them home. (But this just punishes the kids for something that isn’t their fault) 
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i have two biological grandchildren from my daughter. my son, who lives in another state, lives with his girlfriend and her 2 children, not his bio kids. they are expecting a son in may. at Christmas each child got $50 and i have never even met my bonus grand kids. my sister met and married a man with 2 kids and they had 2 more together and i never saw my parents slight either of the non biological kids. and even on Christmas and those 2 bonus kids were with their “other” grand parents, my parents still got them gifts.at least that way everyone was included and there was no arguing…blended families are hard enough
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Move out. That would be the only way you and your kids would not be jealous of the relationships his kids have with their grandparents, and the material objects the grandparents buy for them.
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Either your husband needs to speak up or you do. It’s part of life to be envious but it’s not ok to treat children differently. I would draw the line and either they treat them all the same or none at all.
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That is their grandparents. Their blood. Sorry, they will not ever be treated equally. Your kids have their own grandparents which I’m sure will not be buying for his kids either.
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Put a stop to it! Your home your rules. Make the kids leave the things at grandparents house unless grandparents get for all kids equally. (Period)
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II don’t let anybody treat my kids differently. Biological Foster adoptive step. It doesn’t matter all kids should be treated equally by the adults in their lives.
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He is your boyfriend. Grandparents are grand parents. Maybe you should let your kids over there as well and they would probably receive the same. If not keep them home and care for his kids too. Then everyone is treated equal by you. Maybe the grandparents are trying to make up for what the mom or dad are lacking. Sometimes they don’t mean to be hurtful.
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I guess my question would be how long have u and your bf been together?? Honestly it’s seems like you have more of an issue with it. Your not married to the guy there for have no ties to the grandparents…they don’t have to buy your children gifts…
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