Sounds like adhd or autism. My grandson is 3 and just diagnosed. He was high strung and doing things to wear us out. He is in an autism school and does amazing. Need to get it checked out. If need to chat pm me. I am a nurse too
Kinda sounds like a normal kid and you need to lighten up…
Has he been tested to see if he is on the spectrum there are so many types of autism and asperger’s I have a 45 yr old and an 18yr old children plus a grandchildren 12 all different type and function differently. Your step [hate that word] Son sounds like he has similar needs. Make and spend time together one on one maybe have him read to the baby. Let him help cook make him feel wanted and needed. Your the adult it’s not what you need it’s what your children need. You married his father he never asked for things to change from his birth. My son the 45 completely shuts down with major changes still lives at home. My 18 is on her own and her and her boyfriend are having a baby but she has her meltdown issues in crowds and noises. Please just love this child and have him tested.
What does he do all day? Sounds like a normal 11 year old with some pent up energy.
Oh I’ve beem there. Just be patient, one blink and he will be 15 with all diferent interests, another blink and he will be 20 and will show up just now and then. And your girl will still be a child
Sounds like an 11 year old to me…it’s an annoying age but they do grow out of it. Be patient.
get the boy help and have a time out from him, never get involved with a once married man to begin with, always put your daughter before your own needs.
My son was the same adhd diagnosed since age 6
If you cant get him checked then read up on it learn about how to be a perent to a child with adhd theres more to it than taking meds anyways. Make changes in your home to accommodate. Help him.
1.5 years ki bachi ko kya pata annoy kya hota hai.
might be the boy is only trying to play with his younger sister.
Positive look do app
app bhi bohot khush rahoge and bache bhi.
Your partner isnt being fair to this boy sounds to me he needs to be seen by a dr an tested to see what is wrong with him its sad there are things that can be done to help him just be patient no matter what he cant help it talk to the school to see how he does just help an love this kid as much as you can not his fault
Sounds like autism spectrum… Maybe someone should look into it… Sounds just like my 7 yr old and he had combined type autuism .
I am so sick of everyone complaining about their step kids and treating them like outsiders. You wanna know why you have problems with them? Because you call them step kids. Because you don’t treat them as family. You treat them as your husband’s kids. You married him, those are your kids too. He’s a kid. I have a brother. Kids are annoying little jerks. And I say this as someone who loves kids. It’s just a fact. They can be annoying, especially boys that age, or any age really. You get used to it. You suck it up. You have a meeting with his parents and figure out a plan for parenting so there is no resentment. And most importantly, if you can’t or won’t love this child as your own, you have no business in that family.
If you guys arent married then he isnt your stepson an not your place to be punishing him! If his father is the one paying rent then it’s HIS house an his son can do as he pleases when he sees fit!!! If you dont like it an the boy has been treating you this way since the first day you an his dad got together then that should be a wake up call for you to know that you being in their life isn’t acceptable an you should leave bc y’all dont belong!!!
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If you cannot love this child unconditionally, then you need to leave. He deserves love and patience and support.
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Change your attitude. Show him some love, hes a child! Geeze
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How would you feel about the new spouse of your ex saying anything negative about your child to you? True or not true the mama bear instinct is bound to kick in automatically placing you in defensive mode shut off from any reasoning. You choose your spouse who comes with this child as package so if speaking to him about honest concerns not meant as attack on his child and work to find a resolution to help both you cope with your inability to manage your emotional response to his childs behavior and find healthy ways to help find reason behind the child’s behavioral issue and participate in providing the structure, love, compassion , and understanding your role and careful not to cross boundaries, possibly you should reconsider the situation and relationship. Also from the way you mention your child is even annoyed at him ,it most definitely comes across as bullying mentality and more of a place for criticism than from a place of love and concern.
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That’s a lot of words for “I’m a bitter step mother that hates my step child and should’ve found a man with no children”. Do them both a favor and leave them
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Talk to his counselors at his school about if he might need testing for ADHD
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Umm he’s 11. You can’t compare a 11yr to a 1.5 yr old.
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Entertainment, get him something that will capture his attention and keep it
I aslo had my son see a therapist
You gotta show him love and most importantly LOVE
Sounds like a little boy to me… They all act that way. Lol
Uh that’s super tough! Hope it gets better!
Sounds like he’s being a kid
Poor boy is suffering with ADHD(?)and you’re worried about yourself? Do you have any idea what the inside of this child’s mind even looks like? Like stated several times prior. Love him. Don’t be that disgusting step mom.
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Give him love an acceptance maybe communicate on how downtime and personal space is important but you need to be understanding that all children are full of energy you can tell them to sit still and they will still wiggle. Whether he has ADHD diagnosed or not medication isn’t always an option and they will have you continue to try to work with him without medication anyway so I don’t see that that is necessary and I understand why the father isn’t pursuing for it to be checked. Although it would be good to know it isn’t anything that has to be known just treat him as if he has it and that in itself means more understanding and acceptance. The years ahead will even harder as he starts to grow into a teenager they go through many changes and moods as all kids have changes as they grow through different ages and sometimes need re-taught things that they already knew, just set rules and repercussions and have an award system and you should have Improvement. My advice may not be what was wanting to be heard but it’s just my opinion and I am a mom of 5 ages 10 12 14 16 and 20. And my youngest son who is 10 has late effects of chemo from blood cancer when he was young that have left him with epilepsy ADHD neurocognitive disorder and intellectual disability
Leave. You’re not ready. If you were then you wouldn’t be talking like that. Secondly is there anything you like about him? If you’re constantly thinking about all the bad what do you expect him to feel? Nobody likes it when your constantly saying negative things about their kid. All in all it’s their baby and they will figure it out when they are ready.
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You seem very cold and not a single mention on how you’ve tried to bond with this child but yet bragging about ur child not liking him. At that age if you came to live with me I would have been annoying as fuck to you too, and no I don’t have adhd
He is a kid. How the hell would you feel if someone said this about your child? Get to know him. Find out what entertains him, take him and your 1.5 out and about. Go to the park. Go outside and bounce a ball. Some parents dont believe in medication or getting their child labeled as something. Some cases are worse than others. And no dont condone bad behavior learn how to discipline the right way.
Wow… he’s still a kid give him love!!!
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Listen girl, my son is ADHD and when he isn’t on his meds it’s hard for me to be around him and he’s my own son!! He makes annoying sounds. Says ridiculous shit. He messes with the younger girls just to be a jerk. When I reprimand him he laughs. So I can’t even imagine what you’re going though. When my now husband and I first got together he said it was so hard to stay with me and he only did because of how much he loved me and that’s because of how obnoxious my son was. Now that he is on meds he’s an AMAZING child. He’s caring and kind and honest. He never gets into trouble. He’s in the top of his 3rd grade class. He is such an amazing big brother. They are failing him by not getting him the help he needs. Eventually he’s going to feel out of place. My son is 9 and how you are describing your step son sounds EXACTLY like how my son is whiteout his ADHD meds. No amount of attention or love or understanding stopped the constant annoyance of him making noises and jumping around and saying dumb stuff and doing bad things and not paying attention and crying over dumb things. I wish you luck girl. A lot of luck.
Omg I hope your SO leaves your ignorant ass