He can not do this when he hits school. Your so needs to realize this is not behavior that can be let slide for that reason. If you dont nip that in the butt now he can deal with the calls from school.
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I’m wondering what’s going on at home! That’s usually learned behavior. Not good! I hope he gets the help he needs. He’s so little too what the heck!
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Something needs to be done my boyfriend oldest like to try and boss the his younger brother and my daughter around but i am allowed to punish him thats part of being toghter cause my boyfriend will punish my daugter if she gets out of hand if he keeps getting away with it he just going to keep doing what ever he wants and its only going to get worse
How long has this gone on? Your child’s safety is the most important and if the dad won’t discipline his then you need to leave. If you’ve seen him terrorizing animals, you definitely should have called some type of therapist in already.
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Honestly I’d tell me husband that something needs to be done or I was leaving with the other kids 
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Schooner daycare will eventually report it if he hurts other kids and then they will all be at risk. He needs to man up and handle this now
It’s like this… if hes in your house, he’s going to mind… or his little future delinquent ass can sit down and not move… no tv. No nothing… if Dad and bio mom dont like it… tell them to take chucky jr and get out of your life… btw… I would never let father have unsupervised time either with your little ones.
Your unborn child is at risk to develop scary behavior as well if dad think “rough personalities” are ok. You need to get this resolved NOW. Your children are your 1st priority. This little boy is potentially dangerous and he’s NEVER going be out of your new baby’s life. He will forever be their brother. A divorce will not fix it. Even if you leave dad that doesnt take away visitation. Help your stepson if you can. If you can you have to prove his clear danger somehow and protect your children. All of them. It’s not solved by divorce or just leaving. Sorry
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I would put him in time out or something u cant nit displine him at all bc thats why he thinks its ok to do it bc hes not getting in any kind of trouble but i feel like he may need some professional help n maybe if ur husband dont argree u tell him ur leaving till he gets his sons help bc its not safe for the other kids . N maybe he sees that behavior somewhere so i would make look into the living situations at his moms house
If he is hurting your children, you have to step in. Even if it was a strangers child. Your children shouldn’t have to leave with an aggressive 4 year old who obviously is lacking discipline when needed.
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Honestly I’d tell him I fear for the safety of the other children and he’s going to get the boy help for his temper and issues or you need to leave.
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You have a baby on the way!! And young kids ! Think about how harder it may to keep an eye on what’s going on when theres the added responsibility of a newborn in the home. You are responsible to protect your children. You also need to keep your own stress levels down there are little people depending on you to do whats right. While this is sad and that kid need serious help your kids cant suffer in the meantime it isn’t fair you need to get away before someone gets hurt. Best of luck x
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I’m Sorry But I Would be disciplining Him.
Ive had to many losses to let any hurt my child/Children.
And if my husband was that sort of person. I would be leaving.
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Sounds like a serial killer in the making 
. Your husband and needs to realize that this behavior is not normal. And if he doesn’t do something a out it someone will get seriously hurt. If he doesn’t do anything a out it I would either discipline him anyway because he is in my house or I would leave. Don’t put your kids lives at risk.
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Of course he has a rough personality. No one stops his bad behavior. The more it is ignored, the worse it will get until even his own parents will be afraid of him. You need to keep your children clear of him. If he makes little threats now, what will the threats be when he is older? This child needs discipline and or professional help.
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That childs biological parents are being too prideful if they wont admit that there is a REAL issue here. Also, the child needs stability and that includes boundaries and discipline from all guardians.
If you can’t discipline him, you need to leave. It’ll only get worse as he gets older. Most likely something is going on at his other house where he is witnessing this kind of behavior. Make an anonymous CPS call while he’s over there so they can check it out.
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Quite frankly if you’re allowed to look after him you’re allowed to discipline him. Dont sound like it would do much though by the sounds of it. Have you spoke to his mother she should have the same concerns.
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Stand up for you and your babies. It will only get worst if you dont.
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Somebody needs that butt pop a few times
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You’re the wife you’re the Stepmom you have every right to discipline a child as long as it’s coming from a place of love and if the husband can’t accept that then tell him to get his kid and get on
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Maybe yall should talk to the mother to see if he acts this way at her house with siblings or family members…then go from there in taking him to his pediatrician and sharing your concerns and let them refer you to a therapist if need be. I also agree you should be able to discipline the child if in your care and you are filling the mother role for him.
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Make a phone call to cps and protect YOUR children at ALL COSTS, it is your job!
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If he doesn’t man up and do something about his son id be gone. How is this protecting your kids? How is it fair on them?
Wow that’s crazy and boys are rougher but that’s totally uncalled for. Your kids are in danger for real. Spankings or not if that kid touched mine Id wear his butt out every time. Sorry not sorry I prefer all the kids be safe but if he couldn’t do what hes suppose to do he couldn’t come around. Being a child or not that’s ridiculous and he needs disciplined. He isn’t being corrected for his behavior and sorry to say when hes a teen no one and that means no one will be able to handle him.
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The dad needs to do something now and not allow it. Take things away and time out
Discipline doesn’t mean hitting or abusing the child, you the dad and mom need to sit down and come up with a behavior plan (he’ll be in school soon seek medical and iep advice) if you aren’t able to discipline by time out or taking away fun toys/activities then Mom and Dad need to find a sitter
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The kid is gonna end up being a sociopath or psychopath and hurt you and your family
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You’re not allowed to? Umm no sorry . You’re allowed to stand up for your kids. If this was my situation and my husband wasn’t willing to do anything about it I’d be gone. Sorry
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Screw that! You better be willing to end your marriage to stand up for the kids! Just my opinion. Hopefully it won’t go there, but this is nonsense.
I’d enforce some appropriate consequences toward the little boy. Also I’d question if he’s being abused at home or at school?
You have to teach your kids… how to behave, and respond… and defend themselves.
I wish y’all the best!
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THAT KID NEEDS A THERAPIST ASAP! Shoot, i think any kid having issues needs a therapist, it’s not a bad thing but for some reason people think it’s so taboo. my daughter had a therapist from 7-8 because she was starting to destroy ALL the doors in the house by slamming them (SHE WAS 95 POUNDS AT THE TIME SO SHE WAS STRONG! but she’s not overweight at all, just super tall) and would shove us and kick us on the couch, then she finally tried to punch me an i grabbed her hand, and called a cop friend i knew to come over cuz he was off duty to tell her the consequences that could ensue if she keeps it up when she gets a little older. and she stopped for like… a month or two, then it came back much worse punching holes in the walls when i told her no. so we said enough is enough and put her in a therapy program and she had to go 5 times a week for aggression and turns out she had severe ptsd from my ex husband and it was starting to grow with her rage problem. she is oing much better now and m,y mom actually got MAD i sent her. she said YOU NEED TO BUST HER TAIL!!! but the problem was, she was already in RAGE mode, and she was almost as big as me, so that just was NOT an option lol. best thing i ever did. we just moved so i’m going to get her into another therapist to help deal with the move and she also just started her period and she’s 10, so we wanna help her learn how to deal with it better given her past rage issues.
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I would get some cameras around the house as well.Last thing you’re husband needs to straight up and discipline him
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Sounds like you and your husband need to sit down and come up for ground rules and consequences for ALL the children. If he’s in a house with no rules or consequences that explains it all. That’s an adult issue, not a kid issue.
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I’d take my kids and leave
If there is no discipline towards his behavior and your husband wont budge…I’d protect my kids at all cost.
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What in the rosemarys baby…
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Negative attention is still attention. What do you do together when he is around? And how old are the other kids?
Awe hell no put him in another room by himself if you can’t punish him keep him away from your babies and if your hubby says anything tell him to watch him himself your babies ain’t punching bags
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Had I been you and the husband does nothing…me and my kids would be out the house from the time he comes and back home when he leaves.
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Looks like dad need to step up an stop trying to be a friend!
I raise 3 family’s under one roof! An that met one set of rules for all children! Bad behaviour needs to be nipped or it with get worse!
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Fuck. No.
I’m sorry but that is not okay. My boyfriend is my children’s stepdad and he is allowed to punish my kids and that includes giving them spankings. I’m sorry but if that kid is just allowed to do whatever without punishment then he is just going to get worse
This is honestly a relationship deal breaker. Your husband needs to step up and take his child to see a therapist. This is in no way normal behavior. Poor kid has issues he can’t deal with.
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Your not allowed to discipline a 3year old
WhaaaaaaaaTTT
I hope someone will step up and discipline this child
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You are ABSOLUTELY correct that this child needs to be seen by a professional for the safety of EVERYONE in the home. It definately needs addressed before your unborn child comes too! Your husband is probably taking it as a personal attack on him and not really seeing the big picture. I work in the criminal justice system. A young child that preys on animals is also a BIG DEAL! This child is showing some serious signs and symptoms that need addressed ASAP!
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The fact that your husband doesn’t let you say anything about it is also a big no in regards to his child’s behavior. I would tell him to do something or shut the fuck up when you do. If he can’t father his kid, then his kid doesn’t need to be there being malicious toward your others.
Um nope! This child needs discipline and mental heath evaluation! Ur a mom period step or bio. It needs to b addressed
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There is something wrong with your marriage if you can not discipline this child. You need to take a stand and protect your children above all.
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why don’t you try therapy and maybe some alone time with the child. He could be acting out because he doesn’t feel he’s getting the attention he needs or worse it could be a a sign of something going on at his moms house. Instead of being furious because it’s not your child, try acting as if it IS your child (because technically it is) and have sympathy and get to the root of the issues.
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It’s hard for the non custodial parent to say their child may have issues but the children and his siblings health and safety are always first, he may need a strict schedule/routine to prevent behavior problems also consult a doctor if a child is showing violent behavior
Leave. You’re not " allowed " to parent your step child ? You’re not " allowed " to defend your kids? No leave now before that controlling bs gets worse
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I’d leave him and take your kids. If hes willing to let his son hurt yiur babies hes not worth staying married to.
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If he abuses people and Animals at four,he most likely has some bad issues and will get worse as he gets older. Someone needs to wake Dad up.
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First and foremost you need to check your husband’s a** real quick. There’s NO WAY that he would be coming to my home unless I could discipline him. Period. It’s ridiculous of your husband to get upset if you try to say something to him and the other kids shouldn’t have to be terrified. He wouldn’t be allowed back in the house until he got some INTENSE counseling. You are ultimately going to have to put YOUR foot down before something happens to one of the other kids.
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Get a security camera.
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Starting with animals and cruel behavior, I would run. This is only the beginning of a nightmare.
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I honestly think he’s crying out for help.
It’s common for children to act out when they aren’t being treated right themselves (not saying you two)
Check with the mom! Make sure he’s getting enough attention from her. And make sure you give him attention too.
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This is a serious sign. I would flip my shit. Your husband and you should be a team. I would leave
Both dad and child need help
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If you’re not allowed to discipline him then move out.
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I would not let anyone hurt my kids maybe you need to flip out just once before one of your kids get really hurt!!!
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No way. Protect your kids. Let your husband be mad if you discipline. Better than your kids getting hurt.
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By the way he could seriously hurt your kids. He’s four years old and doesn’t understand consequences yet so he could suffocate, hit with something heavy, or anything like that without understanding his limits.
If you can’t discipline then he needs to stay where somebody can
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Who cares what your husband says. Discipline him. Your kids safety comes before your husbands ignorance.
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Your going to have to put your foot down with your husband about discipline. This behavior is not okay and by not disciplining him hes being led to believe its okay.
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Ugh and he’s only four? He needs to be in play therapy. He should be kept busy at all times. So he isn’t too involved with the smaller kids harassing them. Clearly he’s jealous acting out and wants attention. Give him one on one time. Speak to him and give take him on dates. As well with good discipline when he hurts the children.
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Protect your children!
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Just me maby…but id be catching a case over this cituation.
Not allowed to? But youre allowed to care for him, cook, clean, all the other things a mother does? If I couldn’t discipline him, I’m not caring for him either, let dad take charge of his brat, and yes definitely keep your kids away from him
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Protect your babies and him if they won’t do something call child protective services ASAP
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You got to protect you and your kids. If you can’t discipline him, then I would pack my stuff and leave.
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That’s BS! I would allow him in my house if I had no say with discipline. Esp if he’s displaying this behavior. At age 4 I’m concerned he might need some therapy. Lack of discipline is likely a culprit but he’s expressing serious anger issues. He’s getting that from somewhere. You need to put your foot down. Also buy cameras so you can show him what the kid is doing. This is not ok to just let go and ignore.
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He definately wont be around my kids hell no
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Your hubby NEEDS to step up and step in and discipline him. It doesn’t matter who’s child it is they all need to be SAFE and treated equally. How would he feel if it was YOUR child doing this to his? This goes far beyond typical roughhousing. I’m sorry but sounds like boy may need therapy. But I say THIS if my significant other did not care how my children were treated and didn’t defend them I’d LEAVE HIM/HER. Children are just that they are children. They deserve to be safe and treated equally. If he CAN’T or WON’T do that… Time to go.
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Always remember your kids come first, its your job to protect them. That kids is allowed to run around and hurt them and that’s not okay. I have a step son as well but I have never whooped him but there are other ways to displine as in stand in the corner or sit on the couch in time out, if your husband wony agree to atleast that then you are going to have to leave. I hate to tell you that but your kids deserve better than to be treated like that and they will blame you for it when they get older and hate that you allowed it to keep happening. All the kids should be treated the same. He shouldn’t be treated different and allowed to get away with that just bc its your husbands son. Do something and stand tall for your babies.
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Discipline the child. If your husband tries to give you a trouble, tell him that if he won’t do it, you’re walking. It’s absolutely not okay that your children have to grow up and live in fear. I don’t normally say this, but honestly I would tell him that if you aren’t ‘allowed’ (gag) to discipline him, then he’s not ‘allowed’ (double gag) to be around the kids without your husband there. Rough personality or not, it’s not excuse for him to ABUSE the other children. Because make no mistake, that’s exactly what he’s doing and exactly what he’s getting away with.
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I’m mostly concerned by your husband’s behaviour because not only is he enabling violence, he’s excusing and downplaying it as violence at all. Which in my opinion, is scary in an adult. His son has a chance to be taught before he becomes a grown man who believes violence is just a “rough personality” without consequence. I would separate him from the rest of the children whenever these incidents happen, get down to his level and firmly explain that violence is not tolerated in your home. He may rejoin the family when he’s going to be gentle and loving. If your husband takes issue with that, I’d honestly leave. Children should feel and BE safe in their own home.
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He needs to see a child psychologist ASAP and family counseling. Tell hubs to wake the F up
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I have a son similar to this (he has gotten better with therapy and medication over the years). You NEED to be able to protect your children, and if your husband isnt on the same page then your kids need to stay away from that child. You need to sit down with your husband and tell him the child needs help, or you’re going to take your kids and leave. You’ll regret not doing anything if he seriously injuries one of the children one day! And absolutely, a child like this is fully capable of much more than hes doing now.
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Your husband is in major denial or else he’s a lot like his son. Your marriage can’t survive this. So get mama bear on the kid, his mother and your husband! NOW !
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I would leave immediately. Your husband obviously doesn’t care about the other childrens safety or wellbeing so that would be an absolute deal breaker for me. On another note, if I am not allowed to discipline a child then I would not be watching them period. When is his breaking point with the out of control child? When he puts one of his siblings in the hospital or worse kills one of them?
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If your children are disciplined and his aren’t then id tell him to make other arrangements for childcare. It’s not fair to put your children at risk especially when the boy knows no matter what he does there will be no punishment… Do something now before he really hurts one of them 
well done for being so patient also xx
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Sounds like he needs some therapy to help with some behavior and expressing himself. Also your husband and you Have to be on the same page backing each other up. He needs to learn those boundaries before he goes to school or he’ll just have such a rough time of it. He’s lashing out, need to find out why and how to better redirect and allow him for better communication and interaction. Definitely therapy and maybe some family therapy to help you all with some back up and support and extra tools for redirecting him so all using same methods.
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Get him help before he hurts somone bad beside he is teaching the other kids how to be abusive as well It needs to stop now
Oh, hell no! I would have had a conversation with my husband a long time ago. His father needs to be a father and discipline his child. They may want to also look into therapy. This kid has some major issues already. He sounds like a sociopath in the making. If he does not start addressing these problems now, that kid is going to end up in a lot of trouble. Meanwhile, I would go elsewhere with my child for the days the stepson is there. Maybe your husband would feel more of an urgency to take care of this situation.
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He’s lost 
doesn’t know where he fits in and where to turn to regarding his place in the family. Love him equally but have boundaries for him and be positive about his mum.
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I see the ‘i’ in your ‘team’ & it’s in the ‘a hole’… Js.
Whoop that boy!!! He’s hurting your children. He does this because he is not disciplined. Fuck what my husband says that child is your to discipline as well. Step up for your children sake.
Why is he protecting his son and not his other children??? This is unacceptable. Speak to your pediatrician and get some information about therapists (child and family). If your husband won’t agree to get his son under control and the much needed help, you may need to leave. The other children need someone to protect them if he will not!!!
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Not disciplining him is just not going to work. Your husband is going to have to come to reality and see that there is a problem here and it has to be addressed. The only people that can address it are the parental figures in his life, if he won’t allow that then you have a serious problem. How is that going to work with the new baby? Y’all are gonna have to be on the same page with discipline.
You need to have a conversation with your husband about him, make a list of all hes done, and show him, if it was me and i saw him doing something id be telling him off straight away, qnd if your husband doesnt like it or do anything about the situation youll have to atop your stepson from coming
Not to go extreme. But if he’s torturing animals. That’s the first sign of some deep psychological issues. I’d have cameras in the house. (Dont tell husband) and then when you catch your step son doing these things, show your husband and the mom. Express your concerns. And if need be tell him you’ll leave!
I’d be disciplining his ass whether his dad agrees or not… you shouldn’t have to tolerate it… If the dad had a problem with it then he wouldn’t b welcome in my home anymore… You need to be able to coparent as his step mother. Its ridiculous you’re not allowed!!
So this is how serial killers start.
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Take your kids and go. Seriously, that’s unsafe on every level and a severe level of neglect on your husbands part. It’s not a rough personality it’s a serial killer in the making. Idc, that don’t sit with me well.
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Fuck that I’d leave the husband and all, child is the makings of a serial killer, tell ur hubby and run 
If your husband can’t see what’s happening he needs help as well as his child. Best of luck with your new baby and hopefully a new life 
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Hes pushing his boundaries and dad is enabling that. Tell SO if you can’t discipline him then you won’t be watching him nor will your kids be around him.
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Put your foot down,either the child gets discipline and help,or he is not allowed at your house with out your husband there in person watching him.If your hubby doesn’t then leave,or kick him out.It’s up too you to make sure you’re children are safe.
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Are you expected to babysit him? If so, stop.
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Set up a camera where the kids play. Maybe being confronted with exactly what his son is doing will open dad’s eyes.
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