Wow!!! Yes you need to buy her 1 better fake then the real thing 
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Yes get her one so she might not go out and have sex with different boys
I was having sex at 14. I’d much rather my daughter come to me asking to buy her a toy so she can masturbate and explore her own body rather than tell me she is sexually active with boys.
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Get that gurl that toy and be glad She’s not having sex. Definitely time to sit down and have a good safe sex talk.
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I’m not sure how I’d react as when we are young we have ways of getting stuff like toys" so be blessed she actually can be open about it ti you" as I have three daughters one 1219" and a 24 year old!
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At least she came and had the confidence to ask. So at least consider it because most won’t talk with their parents about it. I was glad mine asked and we openly talk about it.
So the first question you ask. Is it because her best friend has one or because she’s started masturbating and wants one. Second, don’t shame either answer. She came to you and trusts you. 3rd. Healthy conversation time where you talk to her about toys and masturbation. Then set boundaries and if you’re okay with if, buy the toy.
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Look… she came to you. That’s a huge deal and my girls are going through puberty and we’ve had the healthy masturbation talk and when the time comes that they ask about toys… I will buy them a bullet. I would rather them feel comfortable with themselves and trust me for safety. I remember how I was at that age and I would rather the communication and safety than them find something else to use and get hurt or worse. Sex is natural. It should be treated as such. Now I’m not going to buy my girls 9" dongs but a vibrating bullet of course. I think it all depends on how you are raising your children. Just talk it over with your child and maybe suggest a bullet and go from there. Have her help pick it out with you on an adult site like Adam eve. Your child trusts you and that’s a big deal.
Can I also just throw in there… she’s going to masturbate. Like, let’s be real here. Best to get her something used for that sole purpose, instead of something foreign that could hurt her or give her an infection. Also a great opportunity to discuss hygiene and cleaning.
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I would do some toy education first, but would start with a small vibrator. I’ve been there, done that; would we prefer our kids to not know or explore this young, sure. But the reality is our kids explore whether we like it or not, so as long as safe materials are accessible (sex education books focusing on our anatomy and what we can do as a singular individual to pleasure ourselves) and etc, then just be glad our kids are being safe.
Buy it. She can learn about her own body, take her time to approach sex and not be impressed by some egotistical teenage boy hell bent on coercing her into sex.
14 is actually an average age for girls to explore their own sexual needs. Sit down and educate her on all sexual things. Make it known that it’s normal. Keep the doors open for communication.
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It’s great for her to learn about her body now than have years of disappointment before she figures out what she likes!
One way to look at this is the safe exploration of her own body and she trusts you enough to tell and ask. It’s a shock, I’m sure, to ha e a child ask. However, as an outsider, I’m able to see how awesome it is that she is trying to communicate her needs in a safe way and to someone with whom she feels safe.
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Look on love honey or amazon. Clit vibrators are good. She just wants to explore. Make sure she knows to clean it well after every use. Never share toys. If it’s a vibrator or dildo that they have a base and don’t go to deep to hurt
As uncomfortable as it would make me I would get her one. It took a lot of courage and trust for her to come to you. I also think it’s better than her going and having sex where she could get pregnant or get an std or a reputation even if it’s just one boy because they talk
I think she should learn to love herself … before she learns to love and be loved by someone else. Get her the toy. Talk to her about life and keep talking to her. Don’t forget to talk to her about cleaning her toys and lubricant… lubricant is very very important with friction… good luck
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Kids are losing their virginity younger and younger. If she could come to you with that instead of just going and doing it then she probably has thought it over. Just inform her to not expect that to be what sex feels like.
I would probably do it. She came to you and she didn’t have too she wants a toy meaning she’s not having sex. . .yet yes birth control wouldn’t hurt. Just talk to her and be open with her and honest.
I was sexually active by 14. I feel like that’s a normal age to start experimenting. Explain to her this is for her, so she doesn’t feel the need to get sexual pleasure or explore her curiosities with a boy this young. I think when kids trust their parents to come to them, it’s a great thing. Shaming or saying they’re too young when she’s clearly curious, will cause her to find that elsewhere. I’d allow her to pick something out. And just talk about using it vs the risks of sex. Sex is normal. And I’d never want my daughter to feel shamed or uncomfortable at a reasonable age. Good luck mama.
Nowadays they are curious and starting younger. Better to have the honesty and be able to protect them and have chats. Ur not gonna stop them bc they will find a way. It’s a toy and can’t get her pregnant so it could be worse. I would consider getting her on birth control as it seems she may be entering that time of need
Shouldn’t even be a question. She’s too young. Let her be a child.
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I bought my first one at 15 or 16 at spencers😏
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The fact that she’s comfortable asking is a huge win for you mama. I would do it, masturbation is normal and I feel by saying no. She would probably find another way to get one. I know I did when I started getting curious. I stole some from the Spencer’s . . Also Took part in sexual activity at a young age to try to meet those needs before resorting to toys 
that’s just me tho
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Better she has a toy than a baby. You can literally buy them at Walmart.
Better that than her going out and exploring with boys and ending up pregnant. I’d buy her the toy and explain it’s not to be heard or seen. At least she felt safe enough to come and ask you about it.
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Honestly, I’m not opposed to this. But I agree that making sure she’s on birth control and has condoms would be part of my talk with her.
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Ok so if course we never wanna shame and id rather that than having sex but i dont know that sex toys are appropriate for a 14 yr old. Im usually the free spirit when it comes to this stuff and i know that at 14 a lot of kods are having sex already but the toy seems a little overboard for me. Also, whether i decided to be ok with it or not, if someone elses mother bought my 14yr old an adult toy i would absolutely lose my $htt! That is overstepping all kinds of boundaries.
Totally got one for my daughter when she was 16, great opportunity to teach her that she doesn’t need to look outside of herself for pleasure or acceptance or any of her other needs.
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My daughter is almost 9 and I already decided I will buy her a toy when she asks(not younger than 14 though) because I lost my virginity at 14. Kida get curious. I’d much rather they explore themselves in the privacy of their own room rather than being used by boys and getting an STD or pregnant.
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Kids hear & see much more than they should and are swayed easily. If marijuana is a gateway drug (I don’t believe it is), we might wonder if an “ADULT” toy is appropriate for a teenager (meaning, would it make her want ‘more’ of the experience?) I may be considered a prude, but…just because her friend’s mom is really open minded - it doesn’t mean she’s a good mom.
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I would talk with her, especially about other kids influencing her, because that kind of sounds like the case here. Most importantly, vagina health and how to keep the toy clean before and after use, how to use lube and why, and just about listening to her body when using. Maybe look for something easy to clean/ body safe and quality. Better than unprotected sex or household objects and it’s good she felt comfortable with talking to you.
I say buy it.
At that age I was already very curious.
I could never trust my mom with things or go and speak to her so openly about anything.
I lost my virginity at 14 and got pregnant by 16.
Better her explore and use that then go and do it with a boy already.
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Your child your Choice who cares what others think or cps , social media and television are showing our children that teen pregnancy is normal why not have that conversations especially when we have to speak to our children at young ages about it not being ok for adults to touch their private why not teach her it’s ok to explore hers and not others to explore it! My oldest is hyper sexual from sexual abuse and the best thing I did was sit her down and speak to her and getting her a toy was brought up and was probably best thing I did cuz after everything at 16 she came to me saying how she feels she needs to become more comfortable with her body and get to know it properly
Children start experiments and exploring their own bodies at such a young age. I personal would have a talk with her, and nothing that penatrates. You Are doing a great job of she can turn to you in times like these. It’s better then her going out and trying the wrong thing with the wrong person. and look into birth control just to be safe.
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Honestly the fact that she felt comfortable to ask you is amazing. It’s better to have her discover her own body then sleeping around with other people in secret
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I was using toys at 14 but didn’t have sex until 18. I don’t think she’s too young, and I think it’s a safe way to explore her body. I wouldn’t have a problem getting my kid a toy if they asked.
It’s better then a baby. Nothing wrong with masterbation
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Better a toy then the real thing I would buy her one
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Better she use something designed for that purpose. I’ve heard me some horror stories…
Yes! I would get her 1 but also talk to her. Just because she is 14 doesn’t mean her body is not having urges. If she is curious at that age she is going to explore. Ppl making it seem so damn bad when us women know what pleasure feels like… It’s sex that she is to young for not pleasure Besides she would learn how to please herself… Without a male… Without getting pregnant… Without stds.
As uncomfortable and awkward as this is, the truth is she’s either going to learn it from you or somewhere else. That’s just reality.
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Why is it any different then a boy masturbating? No one makes a big deal about that. Heck people even say it’s natural. Well it’s natural for girls too. Get it for her! It’s way better then her using random things she “thinks will work” or getting one from a friend or by herself. Teach her how to clean it instead of her trying to figure it out on her own and be grateful she came to you. Me as a teen I hid all this from my mom because she made me feel horrible for having these feelings and desires. Don’t be that mom.
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I love the fact that she was able to come to you about this. I say go for it. As everyone else has said, better than a baby. Now that you know she is sexually active or curious, it’s probably a good time for birth control and condoms. I’d so much rather my daughter approach me like that and not have me wondering whether or not she’s sexually active.
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This is just my opinion don’t come for me!!
She is 14, chances are she is going through puberty. Her body is changing, she has discovered something new & is curious about how her body works. I don’t personally think that she is old enough for an adult toy but she was open & mature enough to come to you & have that kind of conversation with you that was hard enough for her, so props to you mama! As much as I want to say don’t get her the adult toy, it is ultimately your decision. If you get it for her & explain safe masturbation it may prevent her from finding it from somewhere or someone else. If you don’t get it for her she may become more distant from you & more curious & start having sex at such a young age which could lead to pregnancy or an STD if she & her partner are not careful. She may be too young for a toy but she is definitely way to young to have unsafe sex! Do what you think is best mama, after all you are the only one that can make this decision she is your child.
I think I’d rather it be a toy then boys trying to get the same feeling. Look at a pure Romance book online at where where it’s comfortable. You can buy else where but just get a feeling on what she is talking about. My daughter is 16 and already getting condoms from her gyno, I’d much rather buy a toy!
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Box of crackerjack
Tell her the toy is inside
Lol I’d rather this than preggo sorry
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I agree with the comment better to masterbate than end up pregnant 
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I’m shocked at the amount of people saying no… firstly well done on the fact you’ve patented her so that she feels she can talk to you about these kind of things! Patenting goals! People are sexually active at that age. As much as I’d die a little inside that my child wanted to I’d also be so happy she came to me with something so important! Xx
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This is great! Go and teach her about self pleasure and vibrators. Teach her to please herself so she doesn’t need to be pleased by a teen boy or girl! No stds, pregnancy concerns or heartbreak! Seems like a perfect set up!
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I think it’s a good thing that she’s coming to you to talk to you but she is definitely too young. But to each their own. She’s still just a child. Just because her friends moms aloes it I wouldn’t be. I’d have a talk n explain your reasoning why n say no.
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Yes she is way to young,my opinion only but I don’t think a parent should buy there child that
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- I’m wondering how this even came up between her and her friend and how far did it go? Did her friend show her and tell her about it?
- You all honestly think because she gets a toy she won’t wonder about actual sex or want to go out and do it? If her friend is talking to her about sex toys it stands to reason actual sex will come up at some point and be curious about that. Then what? She says “I’m good I have my toy”? When i was 14 sex never crossed my mind, I had a boyfriend but I was busy with sports and school and home watching a younger sibling and whatever else going on keeping me busy. I think the mother needs to have a conversation with her daughter about sex and sex toys and really see why this has come up and go from there.
My sister bought her daughter one when she was like 13 because she had taken one of hers and she wasn’t comfortable with that at all. My daughter is 14 going on 15 and has a couple. Sex is healthy and they are safely exploring themselves without some fuckwad boyfriend to do it for them lol.
I told my friend to get her teen one after finding out she had been using random objects that could cause injury
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Also gold job mama. That shows the trust and no d you created 
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I’d much prefer a toy to a pregnancy.
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My mom got me one at like 13. She was and still is the coolest mom and I can talk to her about literally anything, without judgement. Be that mom. Your kid deserves it & you will be so glad she feels this comfortable with you in the future. Teach her about toy hygiene, tell her what she can’t use, etc.
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Dont do it make her be a kid fuck what other kids are doing dont join that crowd and do it be different I’d never let my kid do that but that’s me my kid isn’t allowed to even date I refuse to be my parents I was a whore at 14 and I’m surprised I didn’t get pregnant bc my mom was carefree of my decisions so I could fit in forget that
I bought my 15 yo son a pocket puss#. Spencer’s at the mall had it. But adult stores, Walmart, Groupon, and many places have them. Get a small basic one. Maybe have another conversation with her before you buy one. As to why she wants one or if she’s been active already
She isn’t too young if she’s already asking for it. Exploration of your own body is normal and shouldn’t be shamed. She felt safe coming to you so if you aren’t comfortable discussing with her, find someone who would be.
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My opinion…let her discover her likes and dislikes BY HERSELF ALONE, or let her do it with others🤷🏻♀️ get her a toy and let her experiment. Don’t leave her curious tho. Help her build her confidence and learn who she is.
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I wasn’t sexually active at all at that age so everyone is different… you can just talk to her and let her know about the importance of her body and virginity and whatever you want to tell her. I’m not exactly sure why she wants a toy? Maybe she needs new friends lol… you don’t have to go with the flow when it comes down to certain topics
I think it’s a great compliment to you to that she felt comfortable and safe enough to talk to you and ask you… I’d say buy it for her … it’s a good sign to know she’s not out having sex and wants to just do it herself … kids start thinking about this stuff younger and younger and kids talk to each other … when I was 13 I had a boy who pressured me into sending pictures … and that’s before technology took off the way it did like now where they literally see this stuff everywhere… good for her to want to do it herself and learn herself before giving herself to someone else
Rather a toy than the alternative
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I found one in my 14 year olds drawer. Along with a porn dvd.
I “borrowed” them and never gave them back.
Funny…she never asked me if I had come acrossed them. 
Teens are sneaky…they will find a way to get them,whether u approve it not! Mine did! 
Ok so I had a boyfriend at 16 who bought me one, my parents found it and was mad, my mom said if I had just asked it wouldn’t be a big deal!!! My twins are almost 13, if they ask for one, yes I would buy it
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If you dont buy her one she will find a way.
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Get it for her, it’ll normalize masturbation and give her the opportunity to explore herself rather than relying on others to pleasure her.
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Agreed but it’s better a toy than a boy My daughter knows I’d rather her ask me for a toy than to ask about being se***** active with a boy a toy won’t get her pregnant something to think about and appreciate her asking for a toy instead of condoms 
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I was very fortunate that all 3 of my girls waited. But as an open minded mom, I would have discussed it and I would have gotten what they wanted. NOT because I am scared to tell them no, but because in this day and age, I would rather them be safe than sorry. That’s just me though.
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Well…idk how I’d react but my daughter is only 8 so I don’t wanna think about it. Honestly I think it’s better than her going out and risking getting pregnant. She is comfortable enough to ask you which is great. It may be awkward but be appreciative that she came to you about it and not anyone else. Kids nowadays see and hear a lot more than we did when we were kids. Protect your daughter and talk to her about the safety of everything and go from there. It’s natural part of growing up and exploring our own bodies.
I’d rather my child explore their own bodies then have someone else help them with those urges. At least a toy won’t get them pregnant, give them an std, or run around school telling people what they did.
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rather a toy than the real thing… also rather a toy than her using a random object that could cause harm
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Ultimately, I’d be glad she came to me so we can have that conversation, but me and that mom are going to have a different conversation.
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Talk to her. As a parent, have her tell you why she wants it other than her friend has one. Does she know anything about it. Have you had a safe sex talk with her. Just talk to her momma. She already trusts you enough to ask.
Give her an Amazon gift card and let her explore her options.
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It’s either a fake one or a real one 
… At least she came to you wanting a toy instead of with a pregnancy test
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Ill give you a big fat NO!
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Ummmm no!!! She’s only doing it because she see her friend have one
She’s too young for that and you need to tell her I mean it’s good she came to you about it but just explain it’s not the right time
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A toy or a boy? Easy decision
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Her friends mom? That’s the only weird thing here. Otherwise don’t forget she’s got hormones influencing her body… people are so uncomfortable with sexuality.
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I mean I guess it’s better than her having sex…. I guess buy it. At that age I was already having sex so I mean I guess that’s better…
Kids are having s*x younger so I personally think this is way better
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safer to teach her and buy her safe toys!! I remember putting condoms around hair brush handles and shit. You’re a great mom for listening & her to be that comfortable to even ask you!!!
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Please sit her down and talk to her, let her know she is not her best friend and you are not her best friend’s mother…let her know she is special and doesn’t need that for now…
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If you don’t buy it for her she will. Self pleasure should be celebrated in a healthy way.
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As a female that tried going to her mom about these things and quickly got shut down. A year later I was giving birth to my son before finishing high school. Maybe a good , educated talk… does she understand what these are used for? If you don’t get her one will she end up using her friends and catching something ?
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I’d be so humbled to know she felt at ease coming to me. Honestly.
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Bad idea imo. She could totally desensitize herself and develop sexual dysfunction/inability to orgasm without it.
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I thought at that age girls and boys "explored " their bodies with their hands. At 14, I didn’t even know about adult toys. I was to busy listening to music and playing soccer outside.
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She needs a talk not a toy
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I wouldn’t… because why is that what you are focused on? Your only focus should be school and enjoying life 
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She’s keeping the lines of communication and trust healthy. Why not a toy as oppose to the alternative
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I belive I accidently commented on someone’s post instead of the main thread y accident… if you got a random message about ordering from AdamandEve.com I apologize! 
But seriously to the main OP (or anyone who needs it 
) Adam and Eve is a great place online to buy stuff. And the ship it in discreet packaging
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She’s keeping the lines of communication and trust healthy. Why not a toy as oppose to the alternative
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In my opinion she is too young, but if she already asked you that means that is curious about it , to be honest I will but it and let experiment with herself, is bettet to full fill her curiosity that way than she exposing herself to having sex .
And I will definitely have a conversation about safe sex , the correct way to use protection, pregnancy and very important stds transmissions
We were buying them at Spencer’s younger than that. Lol. Would you rather her pleasure herself with a toy or with the boy down the road and end up knocked up by 16?
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Buy it let her know that communication is open between you and she will come to you with any issues that she is having and that’s what you want speaking as a mother of five girls all of my kids are grown now but we had that relationship and even as they’re grown we still have that relationship
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