Shes 2 she doesn’t understand the concept of sharing yet and spanking is only going to add to her confusion. She’ll outgrow it. In the meantime I’d offer the baby her own toys.
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That changes in time . I would just get stuff for my little and refuse to let the other play with it , that solved most the issues there.
Maybe play with the 8month old and when 2yo wants to play too, explain they have to share. Then play together, explaining as all I would think to do
I deal with the same situation with my one year old and three year old ,always fighting . I would try separating them even if it’s for a hour or so
Just so you know, spanking won’t help 
terrible way to discipline lol.
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It’s sibling rivalry. My kids are the same ages and both girls . It’s part of their age stage and the fact that the attention isn’t all on the 2 yr old anymore . So they will battle it out … just make sure they aren’t harmful to each other and teach them sharing is important and to live your baby sibling a lot a lot
Welcome to mothering 2 kids… they will always fight over toys😂
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Every time shewon’t share a toy take it from her. It worked for me
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All these people saying toddlers just cant share 
my boys are 5 3 and 1 and they have problems sharing with each other. Sometimes I have to remind them but they’re usually really good about it. I only ever have to say “your brother wants to play with it for a little while. Can he have it for a bit and then you can have it back when he’s done?” And then they share. They each have 1 toy that is only theirs which are their favorites which I don’t expect them to share but they know they need to share everything else.
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Get the baby her own toys and dont let the toddler touch them. Keep the toys separate and dont let them play with eachothers toys until the toddler learns to share. If the 2 yr old wants to play with one of the baby toys, let her know that she will have to do a trade for a little while and let the baby play with whatever toy she wants. It will teach the concept of sharing without all the punishment.
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Don’t let her touch the baby toys, show her how it feels
If its a special toy fair enough but I would take the toy from the 2 year old n give it to the younger. Then send her to her room.
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Spank a two year old? For something that they can’t understand? 
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I have a 17 month gap. Learning to share is a long lesson but you have to start somewhere. I used to get miss 2 to find baby sister another toy she might like so that everyone has something to play with. Also starting with taking turns as opposed to ‘sharing’ might be good. Rolling a ball to each other is a good way to start cause they get there next turn quickly
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Non violent communication, I don’t spank my toddler. If you want to hit someone hit someone who can fight back not a helpless child.
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2 years olds are not the best at sharing… give her some time…
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Give them separate toys. Remind her that’s sissies toy
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My little guy who is 4 has a hard time sharing with his 1 year old sister. The best way I deal with it is I have him build her something out of those big mega blocks and have him give it to her if she’s playing with one of his toys. Every time she happily takes whatever he gives her. For now, it’s keeping the peace and keeping them playing together well.
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I work with 3,4 and 5 year olds who are still learning and accepting the concept of sharing… you cannot except a two year old to be doing things she is not developmentally ready or able to do! Spankings and punishments are way out of order…would you spank a two month old for not walking because you want them to despite the fact they are developmentally not able to???
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Just take the toy from them and let them throw a fit. Tell them they can’t play with it if he can’t share
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It’s a 2 yr old they dont like doing nothing they dont want to trust me i have one
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I allow my son not to share specific things. If it’s special and he doesn’t want it touched he can go put it away. That way he feels like he’s in control and and can choose what to share. But cannot bring it out if he doesn’t want to share it.
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Consistency … give back to younger child , and give another toy to the other .
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I don’t understand the need or even the reaction of spanking a 2 year old for not sharing. She is 2! In her little world that toy maybe the only thing she feels is hers. Why take that away? She has the rest of her life to be molding into right and wrongs. Let her have her toy. As an adult I share when and how I want. Why put higher standards on a toddler?
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They’re in 2 different age groups so the toddler shouldn’t necessarily have to share. I learned this and it changed my perspective. My older toddler is very specific with how she plays with figurines and keeping them lined up and orderly that it visibly upsets her when her younger sister destroys it. She does share with other kids her own age though so I wouldn’t punish if she wants to keep her imaginary play to herself until the younger one is a little older to understand.
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Never had this problem, my boys each had there own things, if they decided to share with each other they did and they are as close as two brothers can be.
Same here my 4 year son wont let his 1 year soster play and then he teies to take her toys to iam at a lost myself
I have 3 girls and they never want to share, one girl gets a toy and the other 2 want to play with it just bc their sister has it. I just tell them to play with something different or share or they have to put they toys away. I’m hoping it will work someday, lol.
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I think forcing kids to share is weird.adults dont share why would we make kids
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Us parents sometimes think our kids are older than they are. We see them form from cells into a baby, a baby to a toddler, etc… and because of this we see how smart they are, how fast they learn, and then WE EXPECT TOO MUCH. I look back on pics from a year ago, her first mardi gras parade and i thought she was so big, and i look back and she was soooooo small. I was seeing her through my MOM EYES, but i should have been seeing her through HER eyes. At 2 ur child has no idea about disrespect or not sharing or fairness or anything that emotional, they only know it is theirs!!! Kids is already sharing parents, house, food, etc. Give the kid a break if they dont want to share. WorrY about that at 6 or older lmao. Never a 2 year old.
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Take it away and make it the babies toy. Eventually when she has nothing left and the baby has everything she’ll change her tune lol
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- Stop hitting your children
- She is allowed to have her own things and not have to share! She probably feels like shes losing mommy and daddy which she is, she now has to share time and affection, she should at least be able to have SOMETHING that is hers.
Imagine having someone come along and say “you have to share everything or I will hit you” welcome to Communist Russia 
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This is terrifying and incredibly sad. Take a freaking parenting class, learn something about child development, stop punishing your child for NORMAL behavior.
Disgusting.
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My daughter had issues like this, I simply took the toy from her and gave it to her brother every time. Eventually, she started coming around. She still takes toys from babies… not her brother tho! Lol
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I never wanted to share either. But be consistent in what ever works for you and your babies.
She’s only two she’s still learning and she will learn she’s just got to get use to it spanking her isn’t gonna help either she’s not really being naughty she learning and getting to the age to understand.
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My grand kids went thru this but she finally came around at sharing with her little brother.
Toddlers are greedy! Its natural! And punishing them will only make it worse! She was there first! She is sharing more than she ever expected in her life time! Your time! Have her pick a bucket of toys that are just hers and when she is being greedy with the other toys get her to have some alone time with the toys that are designated just for her! She will eventually come around.
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Model positive sharing behaviors. Spanking and yelling are not helping. Use your words, she will learn to use hers as well. Redirection and parallel play is normal play for this age they will not necessarily share right now.
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Why would you yell and spank? Jesus. Kids don’t always need to share. It’s something we instill in them that really isn’t necessary. Adults don’t share. Go easy on the kids, they’re 2!
Why would you spank a 2 year old for that? She just had a sister when she was still a baby herself. Now she has to share her things with her. They’re two different kids at two different ages. Get the 8 month old some baby toys for her. Sharing is nice but not a requirement and two year olds really don’t understand the concept.
What if you buy two of the same toy?
I’m pregnant, but do not have children besides my step son. My niece lives with me though (she’s 5) and her 3 year old sister comes often as well. Their parents aren’t around much. They all fight a lot. And I have to deescalate the situation. I do not hit anyone. I might have to “sit them down”, which is where I pick one up and sit them in a chair - nicely. And we talk about how they are feeling and how they made the others feel. I let them cry it out and we talk. It usually works.
Once though, my older niece for no real reason shoved her sister down really hard. I yelled at her then - but we then talked it out.
My nieces have some emotional issues because of how their lives were before I got involved / started living with them. So I have to be patient. I suggest the talks before any yelling (I know it’s hard!) and try to not use as much punishment - unless the situation really calls for it.
For toys, if they don’t stop after 2 times. I take the toys away and they have to have a time out and then read or color.
I also don’t make them share depending on the toy. My niece has a right to her things and the others do too. We teach them to ask and respect the answer. If they share, they are verbally praised as well. It’s just all about mutual respect.
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I have 4 kids with a set of twins. I never forced them to share. Owning something as their own gave them a sense of power and control. I had communal toys that when there was a fight over them I put them away and said they can only come down if they can be played with nicely without a fight. My twins laid claim to their own parts of a doll house and often would trade on their own terms. They are all older now and share clothes belongings. It became their choice, nothing every demanded of them. When friends came over they would put away the toys they didnt want to be touched to keep them safe. I firmly believe forcing sharing and using violence to enforce it will not get the outcome you desire but instead create more panic over possessing items
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I am 32 years old & guess what I hate to share… Kids don’t need to share everything!!
I’d assume spanking & yelling aren’t helping because they’re not every good parenting treats…
Adults expect children to do things no adult does… Sharing happens to be one of them…
Just don’t make her share… Let her have her own things…
This made me feel bad for your kids 
2 is so little to be spanking and yelling. They need to be taught everything they dont just know. All you are doing is teaching that poor baby hateful behavior. I am one for spanking kids but not at 2 and certainly not yelling either. You want your kids to be loving kind and share it’s simple do it yourself. You are modeling behavior that is angry.
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Get the baby her own toys. Shes 2 she doesnt understand having her stuff taken over by another person, sister or not.
I never gave my kids an option. If you dont want to share, then its mine. Take it away.
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Shes 2, whats wrong with you?
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Have a few specific separate toys for each kid then have “company” toys that anyone can play with. Make it clear company toys are for anyone
It’s simple if she’s playing with something then that’s hers to play with if she goes and takes something form the baby it needs to be made known that it’s not ok and to give it back and that goes both ways because the way your going with your parenting lol you’re showing your baby that she can get whatever she wants from mom n dad and the older girl is feeling rejected maybe you and the father need to change your tune and anyone on her that agrees with her because what she’s doing ain’t even close to right that baby has a right to her own things the baby should have plenty of other things to play with maybe it’s the parents fault why she’s acting out towards not sharing with the baby 
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This is a common issue with toddlers of this age. Everything is “MINE”! I suggest you get two baskets. Set up different toys or some can be the same toy but different colors or type doll/stuffed animal etc… Then you need to explain that these are yours and those are your sisters. They respond to this tactic pretty quickly. More than likely though one or both may attempt to test you and the boundary you have set on the issue of toy ownership. They will push to see what you will allow. This battle will be won with consistency, patience, and a firm stance. Good luck!!
Me over here laughing at moms on here “why would you spank Jesus, disgusting, take a class”… While you should take a class on how not to parent shame.
For those of you with constructive criticism 
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Either get more toys or buy identical ones
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Make sure they both have their own toys. And let her know if she doesn’t share hers that she cant play with her sisters. Talk to her about sharing something she isn’t playing with right then. But make it a firm rule that if she wont share her toys then she cant play with her sisters. If she takes something and wont share, give it back the the baby and send her to timeout. Be consistent and she will eventually learn the she can share a toy she isn’t playing with to play with something her sister has.
It’s hard at that age to share. Toddlers are not thinking how it makes others feel just that it is theirs. I would redirect the baby and give her a different toy.
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Why does she have to share her toys? Get her different toys and tell her it for them both and leave her to her own toys. Poor kid.
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He’s 2,he only sees that she wants to “take” it from him. I always spoke to my kids and said take turns. A little bit of time for him and then her. And if they fought the toy went into time out.
Lol,my niece and son once were fighting over a toy and they toppled off a low bed. Last time they fought! When I had 2 boys I bought one of each,but it was a mess because of toys and wasted money. They learned to share. And also that they don’t always have to share.
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Oh wow, you spank and yell at a CHILD FOR NOT WANTING TO SHARE. Parent of the year.
Idk maybe teach your child to share.
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Why are you spanking a two year old baby? Now, when the 2yo smacks the 8mo baby, don’t get angry at the older child, she learned it from you.
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- Toddlers are greedy.
- Don’t ever tell anyone you spank your children on the internet. Some people consider this abuse.
- Do what you think is right. Two year olds still need to learn right and wrong. Allowing her to be greedy won’t help her in the long run.
I think everything you’re doing is right. Try not to lose your mind and have a glass of wine with dinner. Good luck.
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Thats just wrong to spank a 2 yr old for simply wanting her own things. That is not right. Its a phase. The baby should have her own toys and your 2 yr old should have hers. I have 5 daughters and they have always had their own toys. You have to wait, be patient. They will eventually start playing together and sharing their toys on their own. You cant force a child to share her toys if that is hers and she knows it is. As long as shes not taking your babies toys and being a bully about it then everything is fine. Let her have her stuff, after all she is already having to share her mom and dad and time together. Atleast she loves her sister like you said. They will be growing together, and as they grow, sometimes they arent going to want to share things with each other because it may be sentimental to them. And then sometimes when they realize that all they have are each other to play with, they will share everything together. Just wait it out, but stop yelling at her and spanking her. Thats not right. Shes only 2!!!
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That’s completely normal, she’s a toddler. She’ll grow out of it.
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A toy to a child is like your car to an adult. Will you loan your car out to a sibling.? I know I wouldn’t. Just try to redirect.
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I tell my 2 year old that if she doesnt want to share with her brother (8 months old) then she needs to keep her toys in her room where he can’t get them and play with them there.
She was used to having everything to herself… now she has to share her mommy, daddy, home, pets, toys, etc. Could you imagine being 2 and all of a sudden you have to share everything that was once only yours?
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Stop making children feel obligated to share. They’ll share when they feel like it.
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Take the toy away and dont give it back. Sending her to another room to play with the toy says okay you can have it buy only in here. So she wins.
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Spanking a 2 year old? Wow…parent of the year award…DOESN’T go to you! She’s 2! Stick to 1 method of teaching (ideally that doesn’t involve hurting her!) and not several different ones!
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You just need to give her the same attention as the baby. Sit and get her to play with the baby with the toys. Stop punishing her she is still a bang too. She doesn’t understand at 2 why you are taking her things and giving them to another child. If you continue the child will start to resent the baby and the baby will know that she gets whatever she wants.
By spanking her you are saying it’s ok to hit. Parenting is tough.
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Leave the toy that she won’t share, in the room with y’all. If she doesn’t share it, she shouldn’t be allowed to play with it, either m
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Never spank a child for not sharing take the toy away then noone plays with it then after a while when she wants to play with ask her are u goin to share if she says yes give it to her if she says no then dont give it to her
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She’s 2, really get your 8 month old her own toys. You should be ashamed of how you’re treating your 2 year old.
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Why are you trying to make your 2 year old share her toys with your 8 month old. To me, that’s an accident waiting to happen. Kids are rough. Yelling and hitting her isn’t going to help. Get age appropriate toys so your oldest doesn’t have to share with your youngest.
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Don’t worry… It’ll get better in about 16 or so years…
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Why in the world would you ever yell and spank a 2 year old??? This method will never work.
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Okay… These comments and mom shaming are disgusting…
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It’s important to realize not sharing a toy she is using is not bad. Taking a toy from the sister because it is hers is bad. Just because the younger one wants it doesnt mean big sis has to give it up
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I do not force my kids to share. If one is playing with something and someone wants to play, they have to wait until its not being played with anymore.
As an adult. I am not obligated to loan my stuff to anyone I don’t want to. I will not make my kids do it either.
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Buy 2 of each toy and keep separate toy bins. Teach the toddler which one is there’s and no exceptions on getting into the baby’s bin.
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She gets alot of attention for not sharing.
She isn’t suppose to share at two. I am 35 amd still don’t like to share lol
Replace, redirect, and phase her when she does. The 8 month old will want EVERYTHING she has at all times. Say ___, sister wants a turn can u tell me when your done?
Or ___ sisiter loves that can u play with ___ until she is done? Make sure two year old has a.lot of table time to her own thing with u close!
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Our OT said they do not actually understand the concept of sharing until at least age 4🤷🏼♀️. Set times for each to play with the toy then when the timer goes off its time to switch and they can be given a different toy for the duration of the timer for the other child. Make it a fun positive game where the timer is a positive way to “share” the toy. Kids respond to positivity way better.
Ok so when my son and daughter fight over toys or games, I temporarily take away the toy when they refuse to either resolve their fight or let it go. I explain why it was taken away too. With kids people say consistency is key, which is true for the most part. Sometimes though you just kind of relate to the kids and see what would be the best thing to do in that moment
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Why spank a 2 year old for not sharing… she’s 2 for gods sake!!!
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Jerry Davis I don’t make any of the kids share toys. But when it comes to taking toys from eachother then they get yelled at. 
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Next time you buy a toy for the 2-year old, tell her the the 8-month old baby picked it for her. Now if she shares, the baby will get her more toys!
I don’t make me kids share. They each have their own toys.
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I dont make my daughter share things. If I buy them for her, its hers and she has a right to not share. Maybe by some toys for them both? Your toys are yours and the ones over here are for both of you.
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Work at a daycare and they teach you right away that it is not developmentally appropriate at all or tuna rolls or eight-month-old to share the concept is way too large for them at this age you just have to teach some soft touches when it comes to them getting angry
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The earlier a child learnd to share the happier child will be. Each child learns differant. Taking the toy away may work for some, a spanking might work for others. I feel that a child learns by actions, their feeling my get hurt, but message will get across. Next time the child takes a toy away and they dont want to share give the toy back to the child that had it. Then sit and play with that child. After awhile invite the child back to play if they can share… It might take awhile to catch on.
Maybe you guys should read up a little on kids at those ages. Your 2 yr old is acting 2… that’s ok. Your 8 month old is acting 8 months…you are punishing instead of teaching… it’s not something they learn once or twice (cuz they don’t have memory like that) it is going to be you having to teach them for the next few years. I have 4 kids. The is time to share and time to play neither is all the time. ALL Kids want everything ALL the time. You have a long road in front of you… read up a little it seems it could really help you
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She is allowed to say no. It is not sharing if it is forced.
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I have the same problem with my two-year-old at my statements a little boy she will not let him play with anything at all. I understand. A Mom over here That understands you!
If the 2 year old is playing with it at the time the 8 month old wants it then I wouldn’t allow it to happen. Now if the 8 month old is playing with it and the 2 year old wants it, just tell her not at this time. You were not playing with it, when your sister is done with it then you can have it back. For the people who are shaming you for spanking your child, don’t listen to them! There’s a difference in spanking and taking a belt to a child. But spanking them with your hand I believe is fine! I spank my son because I WILL not have a little hellion running around in this world. That’s what is so wrong with these damn kids these days is bc they didn’t get their ass whooped enough! You have to teach a child when they are young in order for them to understand what they can and can’t get away with. I can remember when I was young and getting my butt tore up! These days parents just want to give their child a damn cell phone and money to go to the movies or skating ring just to get them out of their hair bc whatever they want to do is more important!!
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What you have to consider your 2 year old is still a baby and only 24mth old, the focus has been taken off her snd her fill attention that she haf has now got to shared, make time for each of your children individualy, im sure that you as a parent love them the same as i did my 3 children but you hhave to spread your time now
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If you’re busy doing something on your phone and someone comes along and claims it… would you “share”?
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Their close in age. She didn’t get to have enough mommy time or time to be a toddler before your second one came along. I went through this with all three of my kids. All birth control babies at that. You have to adjust everything. Give her big girl toys and then the baby her toys. Teach your two year old to introduce the big girl toys to her sister. Let her be the big girl. I can’t help but laugh at ppl that are saying shame on you to spank and such. .as if none of us got her butts spanked growing up or a beat down with a flip flop or switch. Sometimes a kid needs their butt popped or their little hand. No means no. My household survived the three toddlers in the house stage. Their now 10,11,13 and let me tell you what they have respect for not only me but everyone around them including respect for their toys, phones and such. Sometimes they gotta have a reminder. But I don’t spank them anymore haven’t in years. 
could be because all three are over 5"2.
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When you find the answer, lmk. That’s most siblings
Sit down and show her how to share
I do not make my sons share.