Run the other way. It only gets worse
Time to have her pack
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She needs to be put in a rubber room for her own sake
Respectfully, your wife sounds bipolar. I’d consider speaking about your feelings regarding her behavior while she’s in a good mood and bring up counseling/a therapist.
The fact women have laughed at this says it all. DV is just not to do with us women but also men! If it was the other way round you’d all be telling HER to leave. Sort it out 
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Just ask her straight out what the problem is
Narcasists shower you with love and adoration and then take it away over and over to get you addicted to the love. Then they have control over you. After that they can manipulate any situation. From now on everything will be your fault even if she fucks up it will be all your fault somehow and she will have a perfectly good reason why. I know this because I live it every day.
I spent 17 years married 2 a man who did this. Never wanted 2 talk about the issues but loved 2 punish me by days of not speaking. Most miserable years of my life. I suggest she needs counsoling 2 learn how 2 articulate her feelings into words. But this type usually balks at any counsoling. Idk what 2 tell u. Whatever u decide 2 do is ultimately ur choice. I had many other issues with my ex but I finally had my limit n divorced him even tho I was stil very much in love with him. Im very much happier on my own.
talk to her & if she wouldn’t tell you why she does this, why she is like this, Then sorry…you have to leave, This is toxic & the kids, both of yours will only think this is how all relationship’s are & they aren’t
Maybe shes got depression. (Yes sometimes it shows up as anger) as much as I hate to say this give her an ultimatum of seeing a Dr or you leave. It might open her eyes especially if she refuses to talk about it. In the end whatever the lord has planned for you will find a way to you but you need to listen to him and not ignore what hes telling you. Also pray for her.
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This does not sound healthy and does not seem like a good environment for your children. I would try counseling first but the issue needs to be addressed.
Sounds abusive… does she have mental health issues?
She probably needs help controlling it. And i dont mean your help. I mean professional help. Not saying anything bad about that at all. Sometimes people just cant handle things by themselves
Sorry please get rid of her. So much abuse and its going to get worse
That is super toxic behavior. My mother does this, and I can tell you that it made growing up around her difficult, and I always felt like I had to walk on eggshells to avoid it. This is not a healthy environment for you or those kids. You absolutely need to address it and tell her how it makes you feel.
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Get out of it. This is the beginning of a toxic relationship.
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Personally red flags are there walk away
Could she be bipolar?
Not acceptable x Get out if she doesn’t change no one has to stay in a situation like this xx
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Start by praying for her!!!
I was very angry for a long time and had no idea why (I still struggle sometimes), it was depression! I didn’t even know I was depressed and was even embarrassed to get help/admit it BUT I found out my husband had noticed and started praying and keeping a prayer journal. I cannot explain it other than answered prayers!
Our life is better, our kids are happier and our marriage is stronger!!!
Praying for you both!!
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Could be something really bothering her that she thinks you were unfaithful or she needs to see her doctor for some meds. I got really angry and impatient when I finally saw my doctor we figured out it was anxiety and meds have really helped me. Good luck
That’s abuse and manipulation. Seek help.
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My husband stonewalls me. We were near divorce. I really didn’t want to as a Christian and a mom of 2 very young children. I told him he had to go to counseling or we had to separate to figure out what we both wanted out of our relationship which could mean divorce. Mind you I had been seeing a therapist for 6 months. He started going. We have a long road and are doing better.
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Theres 2 things going on here… one could be she is negative and has a sour attitude… or two, as bad as this sounds… and im sorry if its true:( she might be cheating… sometimes girls act like that when they are guilty. Its a defense mechanism… I’ve seen plenty of people do this
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Honestly it could be depression. You can have outbursts and maybe she realizes after the fact how she acted and then just wants to put it in the past and not want to talk about it cuz she’s ashamed or embarrassed by her behavior.
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Sorry to hear that but, shes not gonna change. I know we all want a second chance, we deserve to be loved, and give our love again, and we need to feel safe in the new relationship but we really need to earn that. Its a two way thing to do, if one partner doesn’t do their job, its because he or she doesn’t care anymore, or feel so superior that thinks the other one has to do all the work, or she is just cheating and shes making you feel bad.
I piece of advice, if she keeps on this behavior, do not marrie her, its going to be so hard later, better suffer a bit now for once, than be miserable all married and with all the money that you spend.
That’s not ok at all
I think she needs to go to counseling and find out. What is borrowing her she maybe had problems with her first husband and she is remembering. If things. Continue this way you will not be together and it will also affect the children Pray. Pray. Ask God for help. Go to counseling Pray.
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Definitely there is someone on the side sounds like she dont want it but some one smoothed her over and she cant over come the situation. If her time spand si getting latter from coming home from work gets longer or she has to gos in eailer or even notice the type of cloths she wearing if the different then whst you normally see there is a problem.stay away be alert eyes open watch for different routines during the day.sounds like your doing your best but actually with her wanted to fight all the time is not a good sign some time people do that to force you hand figure you will leave first. Hope for the best good luck on your journey.
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First i thought shes just depressed but the deleting of comments where u compliment her is another red flag. She could be cheating. And possibly resents herself or you and takes it out on you. She probably needs you to watch the kids. Idk these are purely speculation but ive seen it before unfortunately. Sit her down and tell her you can’t do it anymore. She needs to let you know where her head and heart are at. Put your foot down otherwise this is how your marriage will likely be like if not worse. Good luck.
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Maybe she feels overwhelmed maybe she feels like she’s doing to much ? People say get out of it but maybe give it some time some work if u love her. I wish my ex would have I was young and now a single mom of two and I’m a whole different person then I was before.
Future wife? Well since y’all aren’t married yet maybe God is showing you her true colors and to not marry this woman 
continue to pray on your situation.
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Sounds like depression and built up resentment and anger. She is upset and has resentment about something and isn’t telling you because she expects you to know what happened and she is salty about you not figuring it out and then feels guilty and upset that she’s been angry with you and can’t get herself to communicate with you properly because all she’s ever known is holding shit in till she explodes. I’m just guessing, but I suffer from manic bipolar depression and am a very bad communicator and unfortunately I tend to do this too. I’m a work in progress.
Follow your gut feeling. Maybe she is bipolar!
I couldn’t stay with a person like her/him. Communication and Respect are number one in any relationship/marriage. Pray about it .
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I do this sometimes to my husband. I realize it isn’t good to do and have tried to be better at communicating my feelings, but this absolutely comes from my past relationship. I wasn’t allowed to show emotion or I was labeled crazy or laughed at. So I shut down until I could put on the mask he wanted to see. If she was with him long enough to have 4 kids, it’ll take a lot of patience on your part to help her move past it.
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She has past unresolved issues which are troubling her personality. Ask her to face up to her traumas and deal with them.
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Silent treatments are a form of control. Look into narcissistic abuse.
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My first thought was she is damaged and has a lot of issues and has a hard time getting close someone even though she wants to self destruction is part of that and instead of communicating correctly she takes all her anger out on you I say this from personal experience it’s a working progress and takes time but maybe sit down and talk or try counseling or she could just have that shity personality and won’t ever change so better to cut your losses now
sounds like you got a true narcissist…
my narcissist was/is my daughters father and I had to distance him from us, and since then my daughter is more happy and less stressed…
he simply had to go.
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The same thing I would say to a women…silent treatment as a form of punishment is emotional abuse!!! Get counseling and try to work through this or run…she isn’t a child and communication in a relationship has to be present.
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Nah dude that’s not gonna change. Trust me.
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u r in my prayers 
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You always take out your frustrations on the one you love the most. I think you might need some counseling.
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Maybe she is just feeling unappreciated. Or she could just be bored maybe not with you just bored in general maybe she needs either a time out from you and the kids or more together time with you sounds like what ever is going on she needs a change from something and some women have trouble expressing what they feel to their spouses because we sometimes don’t think they listen to us or wouldn’t understand where we are coming from so there for we either hold it in and get angry or break down and cry .but you really need to let her know you love her and your willing to listen to her and try to help fix what ever is going on but you don’t run away from the person that you claim to love .
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Sounds like she needs to learn proper communication…
Get counciling before you get married
I know a lot of people won’t understand this but, is she feeling okay? Is her blood pressure high and she is not aware? Sometimes if you don’t feel generally good, or body is tired or aches, it makes you mean. You don’t mean to be mean but, every little thing can frustrate you and you’re getting the blunt of it.
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Man up, sounds like you need a spine, to have a conversation on childish behavior … sounds like a very immature person your dealing with…
I’d think hard about marrying someone like that.
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Honestly she’s probably pissed that she has to work and you don’t or at least you didn’t mention any type of work in the paragraph I would probably guess that but at the same time if she isn’t willing to talk about what makes her angry you really don’t have a clue but I can tell you the longer it goes on the worse it’ll get and another thing I saw you mentioned you both are religious and go to church and in most cases couples that do that seem to be happy although you don’t know what goes on behind-the-scenes and in your case it doesn’t seem to matter.
Its either abuse or something lacking like different love languages. Also I used to be a great partner but after I got pregnant I became super depressed and got snippy to the point depression took its toll on me. After I had my child it gradually got worse also I have postpartum for sure but im thinking bpd also. Maybe just maybe ask to see a counselor or a doctor that could possibly help? I’m sorry you are going through this.
Counseling I would try, if not leave and run, u do not want that type of woman! U will b unhappy for the rest of ur life
The person to speak to is her… Try to get her to open up to you and see whats going on with her… We all do things out of anget and sometimes stupid things. And she may not know how to communicate…
Don’t walk, RUN AWAY. Now . It won’t get better and she doesn’t care.
Up until you said the thing about her deleting your comment off social media I thought maybe you were just taking it personally that sometimes she just didn’t want to talk, especially since once she gets out of her funk she is lovey dovey again. But if she doesn’t want people to see you calling her beautiful on social media, it’s either because she is cheating on you or talking smack about you and that doesn’t fit with her narrative or both. Neither are situations I’d stay through.
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Nothing kills a relationship faster than lack of communication. Tell her we need to talk. Don’t let her leave the room until it’s all out. You shouldn’t have to mind read. Hug her lots. She’s gonna cry. She sounds stressed and it’s not healthy. Its stressing you. Get everything out.
What she’s doing to you is emotional abuse and that’s one of five major things that will break up a relationship. If she doesn’t learn how to communicate effectively you will have this for the rest of your life and it will only get worse with time. I suggest you guys go to counseling and if she refuses then you know you have to put up with this for the rest of your life if you don’t get out of the situation.
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Run while you still can
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Life is too short to be treated badly. If she is unwilling to address your concerns or engage in open communication, then let her go and move on with your life. It will only get worse.
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Go to get loaf of bread and don’t come back, trust me!!! There’s someone else
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You seem to have different models of love and communication. She likely doesn’t understand how she’s alienating you or the degree of damage she’s doing. Counseling would be a wise course to help y’all clarify some things pronto.
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Got to ask why? why is she angry? Did her own father up and leave at a very pivotal point in her life? what about the father of her other kids? sometimes humans sabotage, because they feel they are unworthy - therapy and counseling help for both her and then together as a couple –
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In my opinion, having been in a similar situation I think it probably stems from the feeling of wanting more financial support from you but being torn knowing you are watching the kids and allowing her to work. If you were able to find somewhere local that was maybe even walking distance and outside of the hours she is committed to work so that you can alleviate some of the financial obligations and allow her to take some time off to be with the kids as a mom vs always feeling like a work horse, again, speaking from experience, I think it would help the relationship. Best of luck dear, God bless you and your family.
You will never make someone change their behavior by continuing to engage them. Every time she is angry remove yourself from the situation. The only thing you can control in life is your surroundings. Do not hang around an angry person. Even if you have to leave for the night. Do it. This worked for me. I would even walk home (if we were out) if need be. Trust me. I tried everything else. DO NOT BE AROUND HER WHEN SHE IS ANGRY. I’ve left for a few hours. A few days. A night. It works. It will save your relationship.
I suggest you run like hell and don’t look back, this is trouble for your future you don’t need to talk to anyone it’s just common sense leave her, wish well and her kids but you didn’t sign up for this. In other words hall A** know counsel going to help you’ll she has dirt some where. Know in world I lay down each night with you in anger, wake up and smell the coffee.
There’s probably something going on with her. My anxiety can present as anger sometimes but I am seeking help for it and I am able to recognize what’s going on and take a step back and work through the issue.
If you cohabitate, share expenses and you share her child care responsibilities to her children without question, she should be respectful of your generosity. If it is taken for granted, and belittled, when you need support perhaps separate living arrangements and counseling is in order to get to the root of the issue.
The enemy will take advantage of the fact that you may be willfully fornicating. He will create division whenever he can.
Close the doors to his access to your relationship and seek Christ as mediator between the two of you. He will help you to disagree peacefully and work out reasonable Christ honoring solutions to your divisive issues.
I’m confused…is she your future wife or are you already married? You say she works during the day…Is it possible she may be interested in someone else?? Maybe at her place of employment??
Run out of that relationship as soon as possible if she keeps taking advantage of you or playing with your feelings…is not gonna get better without counseling.
Counseling and if that doesn’t help, time to move on.
I know us woman has a lot of mode swings but this sounds like she may have an undetected medical condition. Please take her to get a full complete examination including MRI. All jokes aside.
Silent treatment is usually a narcissistic trait. But, try to talk with her and I wouldn’t even let her hug you until she’s willing to talk about stuff.
That is called passive aggressive behavior. I didnt heed those warning signs with my husband before marriage and do i regret it now.
Classic NPD. The silent treatment is abuse, and a form of controlling behaviour. You need to get out NOW, and worry about your own kids. There is no positive outcome in this relationship and you CANNOT fix her.
My opinion: she wants you but also does not.
If she deleted your compliment comment off social media & got mad, she is 100% cheating or talking to someone else already.
If she doesn’t have 1 couple picture of you on her page then she doesn’t want anyone to know she’s with you
There is always counseling or maybe it is just not to be!
It is sad men and women make poor choices when choosing a mate, including me. I am going to listen to my instincts from now on, so I say now.
Take her on a long vacation away from home and kids! Don’t tell just surprise her!
That’s called silent aggression.
Unless you work it out, it will only get worse, you may consider counseling.
Sit down and let her know how hurt you feel and how harmful her attitude is. Put everything that is upsetting you in the open. Let her agree to deal with with her anger. I.e. as soon as she starts raising her voice at you give her a look if she continues turn around and either go in the garden or around the block. Find ways to stop her abuse against you.
Seems like she needs a counselor
If you marry her it will just get worse! Break it off!!
Sounds like honeymoon is over.
She sounds like a Giant child !
Get her thyroid checked. My husband had a similar problem
Symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder
If you have communication problems now it will only get worse… tell her counseling now or you need to walk… communication is key to a relationship and clearly she has issues that she doesnt know how to address…
You have to remember when you first meet and for months to a couple of year it’s the honeymoon period and people usually act their best, I suspect what you were slowly seeing over time is the true her. x
Run, run long and hard. This is only a prelude to what her temper and personality will be like after marriage. Don’t run and you will go through hell. Keep up a relationship with the boys but from a distance. You have your own children to think of. Pack your things NOW and RUN!
That is quite the conundrum. Counseling may be in order.
Bitch slap her. Get some respect man!
Refer her to a good therapist and run like a scalded dog
Who on earth would deal with that nonsense run haha
Sounds like you are with a narcacis my friend 
i would run 
Just be glad she doesnt talk. Can you imagine what she might say?
Get out while you can it won’t get better