Get different Dr. Meds do help. If one doesn’t seem to help tell your Dr. Sometimes it takes a few tries to find one that works for you. Depression can have a physical cause. It can be an imbalance of chemicals in your brain that causes it. Just like there is no shame in take antibiotics, there is no shame in taking antidepressants.
Start with a therapist and a psychiatrist. They will guide you from there. But be careful some anxiety meds like benzos are highly addictive.
I have depression and anxiety and I have tried almost all of the medication in my class group as I have epilepsy and they have to work with my meds for that. I am currently on sertraline and I have been on it for almost 10 years now. It works for me, the only side effects are weight gain, but watching what you eat helps with that. The answer to your question is that you need to try the medications(through your doctor) until you hit the right drug or combination of drugs to help you. I have tried to go off my meds more than a couple of times. I cannot function without them. Some people need help for a time but I am a lifer.
I had anxiety. I’m a religious woman so I prayed about it. I had several attacks before I even knew what I was dealing with. But as I prayed and asked God to deliver me he showed me this simple counting technique. He told me to start from the worst step which if anybody has anxiety they know the worst feeling is that you’re gonna die. For me I had to start from the worst scenario and count backwards example. Like I stated the worst And last step of my anxiety was the feeling of death I was gonna die so I started from that experience and then I realized I never did die so I check that off. But I learned to recognize the symptoms of anxiety. First Symptom was, I just felt like something was wrong. It was just a feeling. Second my breathing started to get off. Third my heart started palpitations . I begin to want to run I felt claustrophobic. And last I felt like I was just gonna fall over and die. So as I stated I took the last step the worst case scenario. And I checked back till I understood that I had some truth to that I was not going to die because I hadn’t died. But I learned to count backwards to the point that when I just felt weird like something wasn’t right I didn’t go to step 2-3-4 and five etc. whatever your symptoms are. I am anxiety free and I never did take medication. My faith in God Helped me and healed me. He gave me instruction and I pray this will help you as well. Don’t get me wrong anxiety tries come on me every now and again but I already know what it is and I recognize it and don’t go with it. Because my biggest fear was I was going to die and guess what I’m not dead!
First thing is to find a good psychiatrist/psychologist.
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I suggest gotukola and CBD for anxiety and depression. Rescue remedy is great for anxiety/panic attacks.
Take one day at a time, surround yourself with people that care about you,expand your comfort zones. Don’t take those suicide pills, I have lost many friends who where so numb from the pills they couldn’t do it anymore…never rely on big pharma to save you
Pray. Ask God to guide you
Please talk to your doctor
28 here. I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression mist of my life but it was almost a background buzz until 19 when my mom died. I held off for so long, not because I didn’t want to be reliant, but because I was scared I would try all the drugs and none would work and I would be that miserable and scared for the rest of my life.
After talking to my husband for months, I finally decided to seek medical treatment. I did some research on different drug therapies and decided I wanted to try Welbutrin as it’s side-effects seemed lesser to me than ssri meds. I got very lucky and the Welbutrin works well for me. It is in my top 3 best decisions I ever made so seek medical treatment. The anxiety is still there, but it is so lessened. You would not believe the relief.
Some people aren’t as lucky to get it right the first time. My friend is on her 3rd medication. Be patient and hang in there. Feel free to message me if you’d like to ask questions
I’m sorry you’re struggling. I’ve battled ocd and anxiety since I was 5. My anxiety became very severe when I was about 21, my last year of college. My doctor prescribed me Paxil, which caused drowsiness, but I stayed on it because it did help me feel better and stopped my panic attacks. It wasn’t until I was 26 that I was formally diagnosed with OCD. It was such a relief to know why I thought and felt the way I did! I was taking medicine and unfortunately my husband at that time, was not supportive, looked at me like I was weak and I was ashamed. I sought out more info and came to realize that if a little pill improved the quality of my life, gave me back my confidence and helped me feel at ease again, I’d happily be on it forever! I’m 47 now, take Luvox for OCD and a low dose of Prozac for anxiety and I’m happy! Mental issues are so often caused by chemical imbalances in the brain, so there are medicines to balance them. A diabetic takes medication to balance their insulin level, no one thinks twice about that and neither should anyone about mental health. Talk with your doctor, see if they’d be willing to do a complete blood work up, if they’re not responsive, ask if they could recommend an endocrinologist. That would show if it’s related to your thyroid or some other internal cause. Whatever medicine they do start you on, be patient and don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t work for you. Many times, it’s trial and error in finding the right med. Also, possibly seeing a therapist in addition can help. Just hang in there and know that you are certainly not alone! There’s a ton of people that have been in the same place you are and have come out better and stronger! I can attest to that! I pray you find comfort and the right treatment! Sending you hugs 
Please consult a doctor ASAP. Take care of it as soon as you can. Prayers and well wishes.
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Prayers and God Bless 
Welbuterine is good too
I do understand more than you know
Hi, long time depression sufferer newish (8 years)to the world of anxiety. I’m 37 now started when I was a preteen, somewhere around 8. I also have ADD. I started my antidepressants when I was 18. The doc put me on Zoloft, my Aunt told me not to take it anymore as she could see it making me a zombie, I was on the lowest dose. I was without medication until I started going downhill during my second pregnancy, really serious, suicidal, self harm. The doc put me on something I could take while pregnant but had to stop taking it at 20 weeks as it causes the lungs to under develop. I was 28 at the time. Don’t ask me what it was, I can’t remember what it is called. I have been on and off this new medication, I usually take it as I feel like I’m spiralling out of control. About 7 or 8 years ago I started suffering with anxiety. All I can say is find the right doctor for you. When making the appointment ask to speak/see to a doctor versed in mental health. You might not need to be on antidepressants for the rest of your life, you may just need someone to talk to
I know I’m not a mom, but I do take trazodone and sertraline(Zoloft) both of which help me immensely. But as others have said, different meds work for different people. Don’t be scared to “rely” on something. We don’t give that same stigma to a diabetic and insulin. Like in the way the pancreas can’t properly produce insulin, your brain doesn’t produce the right chemicals, these meds help with that. Zero shame in that, honey.
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Getting on medicine was the best thing I ever did. So there are medicines that basically just block things out on the outside while you still feel everything on the inside (we call them band aid medicine). There are also medicines that directly regulate your brain chemicals how they are supposed to be regulated. The brain regulating ones are the ones you want. I’m on lexapro and holy cow, I am a much better person and life is so much better. They don’t suppress my emotions or anything, just helps me clear my mind and cope better and not go into a panic attack as quickly or easily
Im on them now without them I don’t think I would be here now . I’m learning to live with it . I serially feel better taking the meds
Check out Dr Kelly Brogan on You Tube. She can help you.
Go to your Doctor!!!
I’ve dealt with anxiety/depression my entire life, I actually wasn’t diagnosed as bipolar until my 25th birthday a couple years ago. I’ve been on countless medications, therapy, all sorts of different methods. The main thing is to make sure you take your medicine at the same time everyday. Be honest with yourself and your doctor. Whether it be side effects, or it’s just not working. Not all medicines work for everyone. Just give them a few weeks and see how you’re feeling then. If anything changes whether it be a month or a week down the road, call your doctor. Don’t stop taking the medication just because “I’m feeling good”, because that good feeling will go away very quickly. The other thing I know helps me a lot is waking up in the morning. Making a pot of coffee, taking a shower, and getting ready. When everyone is asleep and I have time to just be me, and not mom and wife. Medications can do wonders, but you still have to take care of you.
Best of luck mama💞
Well I felt the same way as you especially since a lady at church told me to pray more and get over it. NOT helpful. The doctor explained to me that my body wasn’t making enough of something and would I think my husband could just pray away his diabetes? A chemical imbalance is a chemical imbalance. We had to try several before we found the right one for me. Several years later my doctor referred me to a psychologist and with God’s help,the meds and some therapy I feel better than I have in years. Don’t give up help is out there.
I’ve been on Baylor no side effects helps
I’ve been clinically depressed for many years now. Being clinically depressed isn’t bad, it just means that you have a chemical imbalance in your brain and that the medications that are out there form a bridge that connects the serotonins and such that it needs for you to feel normal. Whether it’s for a short time or like me, for life. I’m on two anti-depressants and 1 anti-anxiety medication to help me fall asleep at night and if I need it for any anxiety attacks. I wouldn’t be able to function if I weren’t on these medications and they have been a life saver. I see a psychiatrist for my medications and I see a therapist (a licensed clinical social worker) anywhere from once a week to every other week just to vent and get answers to why I’m feeling the way I do if I’m feeling bad, sad or angry. Good luck to you.
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My doctor started me on a low dose and then upped it after no side effects. Your doctor should listen to your concerns
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- Choose a new doctor and a counselor
- Get extensive blood work done you may have a vitamin or mineral deficiency causing your depression like a lack of Vitamin D because it’s winter.
- If you have deficiency take supplements
- If you dont have a deficiency or supplements dont work then consider a very supervised transition to depression and anxiety medication. I suggest Marijuana but you and your health care team will find what is best for you. Also, don’t give in to the stigma of getting counseling and medication for your mental health. Its just the same as a broken leg and no one would think twice about a cast and pain pill for it.
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Pristiq was my savior. The pill can only do so much. You have to help yourself too. No pill is a miracle drug.
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I got some anti depressant medication which helped a lot I wished I would have had them when I was raising my children I would have had more patients
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The biggest thing i can tell you through my experience with both depression and anxiety is its not your fault , its a chemical imbalance of your mind… I had it severly and my pastor spoke with my husband and told him that. I am a Christian and didnt even pray or anything. My pastor said its okay we will pray for you. I now take celexa and am doing fine. Its a battle. Feel free to pm me. I will talk to you anytime.
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Medicine changed my life!! My anxiety has been a struggle since I was a very little girl. I am now 62 and thankful there is medicine for it! I wish there would have been meds like this back then, I could have actually slept, and lived every day to the fullest instead of worrying myself over “what if’s “.
Go on the medication. I have been on anti depressants for many years and believe me they will help you immensely! You can always go off meds if not helping. Good luck to you:+1:t3:
No shame in taking medication. The shame is not getting help. Call your local mental health Center. Take this old psych nurses advise.
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When my anxiety got very bad, I talked to a Behavioral Therapist and he gave me techniques with which to manage the thoughts in my head. Was super-helpful, and worked so well that I didn’t need medication. And, I still use those techniques today, 10 years later. Wishing you all the best.
my first advice is to find a therapist who works with a phychiatrist a therapist is not allowed to write RX. don’t just settle for any therapist or Dr. sometimes you may have to see several to find a good fit but when you find that fit you will begin to feel so much better. the same with meds I take two meds one for depression and one for anxiety. neither one is addicting and it does help. until then try some journaling it always helps.
I just read a good way to journal.
three things to do journaling are
3 things your grateful for
6 words to describe your life
3 three wishes
do this each day I am interested to see how mine change.
I also reach to God. it truly fills that empty void in my life and always journal in a prayer way.
Good luck to you. you will be in my prayers.
Life is harder or some than others; I have never been a person who wanted to take meds to control my emotions, I would rather have counseling; simply because you need to talk and hear what is going on inside of your head. Someone needs to patiently listen and play it back and help you to figure out how you got here and why; and help you figure the way out. I see some meds as just something to medicate or control; and as long as they are prescribed and taken everything seems okay. But if you miss a dosage or decide to stop; there are consequences, after effects. So, you make the decision for your life if you want to get better. I believe also in prayer, and faith, because it makes me see hope for myself, But, that has to be your mindset, and I pray you will renew it daily!
Your inner voice sometimes is your guiding light. If you have been apprehensive about medication for all this time, maybe it’s because it’s not truly the answer to your problem.
Trust your instincts.
If you haven’t already maybe first explore the root of your anxiety and in the interim try natural remedies/herbs, look into breathing exercises, journaling to get your emotions out. Have a little girl dealing with anxiety at the moment and she has come a long way with the above that we have explored.
I take good antidepressants. They’re called Effexor Lamictal and Latuda. Three very good medications. It’s trial and error but it’s worth it to find something that helps. Be cautious of the ones that make you gain weight! If that’s one of the main side effects don’t take them. Ask your dr for something that doesn’t cause weight gain. Unless you’re ready to gain 30 pounds. Good luck
I dealt with depression and anxiety for about a year thinking I could manage it myself and with no luck I finally talked to my doctor and she prescribed me know dose zoloft and I take it at night , it took a while to get use to taking the meds but once I did it has helped out alot
Listen find yourself a good counselor and psychiatrist for your meds. Taking the right ones help. They can run tests and make sure you are ok. If you have side effects let your drs know… The dosage might be to high. Good luck
See a counselor… one that also has a nurse practitioner… she can prescribe what you made need … there’s a lot of meds. On the market … she can help with the right 1 …
I also suffer from the depression I take meds . some days are good , some are bad … please seek HELP !!
Good morning. I’m not sure if you’ve ever considered therapy (or whether you may be on your parents insurance at your age). There are some very good therapists who will talk and only prescribe medication if they feel you really need it. You have so much life ahead of you that will bring you happiness, so remember to celebrate the little things every day!
Don’t wait to seek counsel! This is so good and encouraging that you are already asking! Be proud of yourself for that because that alone can be difficult! I would encourage you to seek counsel first. Do you know the Lord as your personal Savior? I would encourage you to find a Christian counselor before seeking medication. (I know you mentioned already that you would like to avoid it if possible). I’m not saying it may not be necessary, but I’m also not saying it isn’t. I will pray for you as you go through your journey.
There won’t always be easy days so keeping yourself accountable to seek counsel will be so important. I’m not sure where you are located but I’m sure if you google Christian counselors near you, you may find one. If you haven’t sought the Lord yet, they should not judge! They should be helpful by helping you by meeting you where you are. I’m proud of you for your courage to ask questions! If you have any questions for me, feel free to reach out! God Bless you! And all who are on here being encouraging!
Side note I can attest that alcohol will not help control either anxiety or depression. I tried that route for more than 25 years. By the grace of God I never hurt or maimed anyone.
Dealing with depression in my 20s was a way of life. After I lost my daughter of 9 months, I spiraled. Did a lot of self medication in drinking. It was nothing more than escapism. I’d wake up feeling a bit better to only start over again. I had more children and loved them with all my heart and made some changes. Starting with talk groups. That’s when I realized I did need help. Prozac was my first. I did fine. Felt better, talked more, and was doing so well the doctor and I chose to ween off and see how it goes. After my 3rd child, post natal depression set in. At first I ignored it and thought I could handle it. After 6 months I went for help. Group meetings, and finally meds. 1 yr later felt well enough to go off them. Periodically still did groups. In my 40s I was back there. Depression had set in again. Did meditation, herbs, vitamins and read every self help book I could get my hands on. Had other health problems and didn’t want more synthesize meds. Realized was post menopausal. Struggled for a few yrs on my own. But now cbd, herbs, cleaner eating, exercise, and writing a journal help. Use a doctor to guide you. Get your thought and feelings out there. Most important.
I suffer from major depression, anxiety, PTSD I have a psychiatrist and psychologist, and take medication. I find walking is wonderful drug… I also just started doing Diamond art which has worked for me a lot. I do take two medications and talk to my therapist 1 week:heart:
I have take depressant and anxiety meds for a very long time. Don’t have any effects from o
It. At.first while.you get used to the meds u will.feel drowsy but that goes away.
Well I have no idea how you lasted so bloody long Thank God I never got it when I was a kid Take the tablets Your anxiety mustn’t been as bad as mine Are you sure it’s ANXIETY!!!
I am biplolar and take seroquel xr. works good, little side effects. have been taking it for about 10 years now. best i have felt, minus covid shit.