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There’s nothing inherently sexual about opposite genders sharing friendship. What’s the harm? I bet you’ve done an amazing job with them, give them the freedom to prove it. 
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Its very normal…growing up 90% of my friends were make and i was raised by my single father who watched us like a hawk lol …now as a mother both of my teen girls seem to have more male friends then female friends…hormones are raging so just be vigilant and very present
It doesn’t matter if they are male or female friends, at the end of the day they are just people regardless of what gender they are. One is 18, so is legally an adult, the other one is nearly there and is being open with you. Lots of people have friends of the opposite sex in this day and age. I personally think your being a bit old fashioned if this is actually a real post. Maybe lighten up and just keep the lines of communication open with them
Girls and boys are allowed to be and are able to be friends with nothing more to it. At all ages. They are right.
How are you raising an 18 yo?? Lol she’s an adult at this point. And it’s okay for girls to have guy friends. I actually get along with guys, than I do females.
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I’m older than you (65) and as long as I can remember I have had more guy friends that gal friends. When I was in school on the playground I always played with the boys. Because they were there to play not cause playground drama. Unless you think they are being promiscuous I see nothing wrong with them hanging out with guy friends. Give them a chance and see where it goes If they break your trust put a stop to it.
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Girls can be more dramatic/drama…more even OVER boys. Guys can be good, better friends sometimes than a girl as a friend. Let it be.
The girls are right. Boys are easy to get along with and there is less bitchyness and drama. Especially at their ages!
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Most of my friends are men and have been my whole life. Welcome to the 2000s
I was allowed to hang out with guys just had rules to go along with it
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I always got along with boys better. Girls are too catty soo
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Most of my friends were boys in high school. 
My daughter 18 has one lifelong girl best friend and the rest are about 7 boys of the same age, there’s respect, love qnd protection for her, they always make sure she gets home, is never cold and treat her to food if they are eating… but she’s so independent she’s never in this predicament… they treat her like a sister, shes never messed about with any of them…etc…
Show them you trust them, I mean if anything is going to happen, then its going to happen even if they are surrounded by girls or not xxx
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I’m almost 30. When I was both of their ages I hung out with more guys than girls simply because girls are too dramatic. I was never one for all the cliche girl world and definitely clicked better with the guys. And didn’t get in any boy girl trouble as a result.
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Think amix of both at that age is fine. But must be hard for you to know…dont think id be up to raising teenagers at 62
I had close friends of both sex’s but I was always closer to my male friends and because of them I was safe where ever I went, they always had my back and it was never anything sexual we were just best friends! We’d sleepover each others, share a bed even and it was absolutely no different to having a female friend stay over! I’m still best friends with them now 12-13 years later, one of them was a groomsmen at my wedding and they’re both god fathers/uncle’s to my 2 sons
I hung out with boys a lot more than girls in high school. They were easy to talk to, less quick to judge me and it really helped, because I didn’t have a male to be there for me. My father lived all the way across the country away from me. Being with the guy friends and getting hugs between classes, that was just what we did. Some were closer to my heart than a boyfriend but nothing physical happened. We just were always together. Try not to read a lot into it.
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I’ve always had problems with girls. Drama and what not. I always got along better with guys. That’s still true for me. I would stress to them how important it is to be careful who they hang out with, make or female, because people are crazy these days, but as long as they’re being smart about their choices, I dont think it’s that big of a deal. Just pray over it daily. 
You’re almost inbedding into them that they can’t have male friends without it being sexual… sad really
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Lol I always found boys were less drama than girls.
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Let them hang out in supervised situations. I had more guy friends than girl friends at that age because the girls around me were extremely dramatic… It annoyed me
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Lol I tell my daughter to have more guy friends less drama
Girls start drama, talk about you. Guys chill and play video games.
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They’ll have more trouble with girls…
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You are caring and lmust love them very much. Have the boys over and meet them. Then you will get a good idea of who they are. Best of luck.
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I was friends with more boys than girls growing up. They were less drama and completely platonic. Girls and boys can have friendships without being sexual and romantic.
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Most of my friends were guys because girls were mean to me
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Meeting their guy friends might set your mind at ease, AND it’s good for both you and your granddaughters if you know who their friends are. I had more guy friends in high school than female friends, and nothing inappropriate ever took place.
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My daughter is 14 and I let her hang out with friends her age that are males and when I was growing up I had all male friends I was one of the guys who even played football with them but then again I had all male cousins a brother and sister growing up
I agree with grandma !
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I’m 32. When I was their she’s I had more guy friends than girls. Teenage girls are mean and just awful.
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Why can’t they all hang out together 
if they’re grown up enough
You don’t really have a say with the 18 year old.
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I have female and guy friends. In college I hang more with guys because they were a lot less drama. Most of my female friends went to different schools. I had no sexual desire for them we were just friends.
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Yea, I don’t see anything wrong with being friends with a boys. I’ve had male friends since kindergarten……
I think your both wrong. I always hung out with way more guys as a Tom boy don’t mean anything nasty or sexual. At the same token your granddaughters should be trying to respect your wishes. But maybe come to a compromise with the 18 year old shes old enough to date n whatever else
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I hung out more with boys. If you are worried they will mess around. Some girls just genuinely find guys more fun to be around because they share same interests… cars, video games, sports, and some honest advice. No backstabbing, drama, or any other fake girl friend drama.
My dear you are on a tight position.Having to care for two hormonal teenagers.They are young,beautiful and have to seek the best in life to make them happy.The young one’s today are very streetwise.They love to have surrounds with friends they can trust.That includes young men just older than them.Do not give up your concern.You love your grandies.You care and you do not want them to be hurt.Let them be friends with boys their age.Speak to the girls about the dangers and keep an open mind about it.You can always keep the conversation friendly so to make the girls feel that you approve their friendships with both sexes.Should there be any strange insinuations the girls will openly tell you.
All the best!⚘⚘⚘
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I had more guy (and still do) friends growing up believe it or not the right guy friends are better girls will bring trouble and drama
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Girls can hang out with boys
I’ve never really gotten along with girls,
I think they’re spot on, the times have changed, we’re just people hanging out with people now. 
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Regardless of their reasonings, they will find a way to hang out with boys with or without your permission regardless of the age. In my opinion, you need to focus on making sure they know how things work in reality. Sadly you cannot protect them forever and they will have to live for themselves. The 14 year old of course cannot drive so it will either be you, her sister or the other parents doing transportation. The 18 year old, she is technically an adult and as long as she is helping around the house or has a job or plans to go to college, you really cannot dictate other then if she can live with you or not. Try to think about it from their perespective. Two girls trying to find out about their life but grandma does not understand. In this case you really do not understand because the generation gap is huge. Grandparents werent meant to raise their grandchildren. Times have changed just in the time that I have been alive. It is hard to keep up. Just keep an open mind and love and just talk to them.
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I was aloud to hang out with whoever, guys or girls. But I was also the teen if I was told I wasn’t aloud I would sneak out. So there’s that issue too. She is right, it’s not the same when you was growing up, although it may be ‘worse’ than when you was younger lol. I’m 28, just had my first little at 27. I would let them hang out with whoever, as long as you approve of friends. Eventually they’ll rebel and it could be or make the situation worse.
18 is an adult but 14…no way!! There’s a big age difference between an 18 year old adult and a 14 year old child just becoming a teenager…my cousin used this same excuse and has her first baby at 14…
If you trust the girls to be truthful and have met the boys I would let them. However, I’m assuming they’re respectful to you and the boundaries you set.
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My girls Have have guy friends wikiand so did I in my day to!
Who cares who they hang out with as long as their friends are good kids. Gender doesn’t matter. As for the 18 yr old she an adult and can do whatever she wants outside the homes
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The 18 yr old is an adult and can make her own decisions by now. The 14 yr old needs adult supervision around boys or males of any age…until she can grow into an adult in 3 or 4 yrs…They shouldn’t be hanging out with males until they are on their own…as long as they live with you. You set the rules and they are supposed to follow them in your home…in a few years you won’t have to worry about it as they will be adults…and can move out on their own and set their own rules…
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I used to say something very similar to my mother. She was a lot like yourself. In hindsight I wish I had listened to her more. I can’t imagine, from the fact that you are reaching out for others opinions in this matter, that you are being all that unreasonable. Trust your instincts, you know what your doing. Good luck x not an easy job raising teens
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Trust your gut if not right it isn’t! If they can’t be together around you and YOU are comfortable then something is absolutely brewing! I have and still live this with 3 girls from 22 to 16!!!
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When I was younger I had more guy friends than I did girl friends, I just got on with the boys better
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I hung out with boys too because of this same reason. Girls are mean as hell regardless, they will find a way to hang out whether you say its ok or not, so i would get on the side of where they will remain telling you the truth.
If you had grandsons instead of granddaughters would you still be as concerned? You have obviously raised a son or a daughter to have the grands so how did you handle things then? If they haven’t given you a reason not to trust them then they should have friends that they want to have…even if they only had female friends it doesn’t mean crazy things wont happen. Friends of any sex can influence the girls. Let them have their friend male and female but you set the rules in your house…curfews…how long company can visit etc. Until they’ve done something that shows you can’t trust them let them be.
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So I still have more male friends than female. I did when I was younger too I’m 35 now. And I have always. I was 18 when I met my best friend and he’s a guy and I’ve known him almost 20 years now. He’s been there for me through everything more so than few female days friends I do have.
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Children are taught that its not okay to hang iut with the opposite sex and its wrong! Who cares what gender they choose to be friends with.
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They aren’t wrong. When I grew up all of my parents friends had guys my age. I grew up with them out in the woods doing stupid redneck stuff. My best friends are guys. And there’s 3 of them I would trust with my life. My absolute closest friend has been so since we were 5 years old and I’m 23 now.I’m friends with their families as well. It has never ever been sexual. I also work in a body shop so I work with 4 guys all day every day and I can say without a doubt they have my back no questions asked. You might not understand or agree but you’ll definitely appreciate them having good guy friends because I can tell you now my best friends have no hesitation to throw hands to protect me - even if I can do it myself.
The 14 year old shouldn’t be hanging out with boys unsupervised but the 18 year is an adult and can technically do what she pleases as long as she has protection and can protect herself if boys don’t listen to the words “no don’t touch me” but if they just hanging out has Friends and have known each other since 1st grade there shouldn’t be any problems.
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All of my friends were males, it was always less drama and we never got into trouble. All of my close friends that I see daily are still males.
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I raised a granddaughter and she used to bring all her friends home so I could meet them. She had more male friends than girl friends cause the girlfriends were catty. All her friends called me gramma. From the time she turned 15 she was allowed to go on weekend trips with the friends families.I got her a phone when she turned 15 and she always checked in with me! She turned out well, she is now 27 and a mother to a 4 year old daughter and is self employed. Her marriage didn’t work out once she had her daughter, some men don’t mature as well as women! Her and her daughter are the loves of my life!
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I am 36 and have 4 kids, oldest is 14. I allow them to hang out with friends of the opposite sex, why not? When I was growing up I decided who my friends were. The adults in my life taught me the best they could a d put trust in me.
Also the 18 year old is an adult. You honestly can’t and shouldn’t say no to her.
Times have changed.
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Nanny is right they need a steady hand on the wheel
Just because you happen to have made it to the age of 18 doesn’t mean you think and act as an adult should. And it is foolish, to say she can do whatever she wants, when she is living under someone elses tab. If you want to be an adult and do what you want to do, then move out and pay your own way. I moved out at 17. Had my own job, apartment and car. I’m 75 now, so I’ve been around the block a few times, raised my kids and now have 4 of my youngest grand kids (10, 8, 7 and 14 months) to raise. I have great grand kids older than they are. I can tell you from experience, most kids these days don’t have much common sense. And nothing magical happens just because you reach your 18th birthday. Hormones are much stronger than good intentions. Girls, if you want to hang with boys, bring them to your the house. Don’t like it? Why not.
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I’d say let them hang out with em just meet them and see what u really think about them b4 just cutting them off from probably really good guy friends but the 18 yr old is an adult so yea she’s gonna b wanting relationship it’s that time I’d look into some birth control and at there age there more than likely gonna sneak if they have too. I always hung with guys bc girls are trouble 2 faced drama QUEENS that’s always been my experience with girlfriends. Talk to ur girls and see what steps you must take maybe they b open n honest with you. Good luck for y’all sweetie
I use to say that and I was a teen mom at 15 I’m 22 now and it would be a hell no inless they were at home in the living room or something where my eyes could see
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Well, you’re the adult and parent in this situation so it sounds to me like you have the ultimate say so until they want to provide a way for themselves. Maybe I’m old school but it was always “my house my rules” growing up and we always obeyed that. If you have a gut feeling, go with it.
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It’s perfectly okay to have guys AND girls as friends!!! If you’re worried about them engaging in sex, alotta times that just AIN’T happening!!! I was a single parent to 2 girls, & alotta the time, i’d trip over all sortsa legs, & “snowy” television. @ least i knew where my girls & their friends WERE, & NOT on the streets!!! Don’t worry so much, & give ‘em more HUGS!!!
I am a mom of 5… two of which are girls aged 13 and 18, my girls prefer having boys as friends too and it has been absolutely fine. Ive found that the boys are like their brothers and nothing bad happens. When they have girls as friends the girls always seem to hurt their feelings where as boys dont they take care of them.
I am not going to speak on your granddaughters behalfes but my self I personally do not mess or be friends with that many females AT ALL!! Majority of females are too hateful on each other and jealous af and claim to be your friend but actions speak louder than words. I am one of the few real females I would rather ride solo than be around drama and gossip etc. I remember my last two years of high school my BFF was a guy and yeah he did have a thing for me but he respected our boundaries. I had guys that were only friends no bs or anything than I had guys that we did mess around. That’s me and my preference. I don’t do other females as close friends. 
So they could possibly be telling the truth or they may be lying but just putting it out there cuz not all male/female friends actually fuck around lol
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Lighten up grandma. Girls and boys hang out now. Especially the 18yr old adult. Just set curfews, no boys in home when you’re not. No closed bdrm door with boys there or not let boys in bedroom at all. For the teenager, group activities, not one on one dates. But yes boys and girls can be just friends. Trust your girls to know right from wrong
I agree with you grandma, 54 and mom of 5 , grandma of 9, mixing too much with the opposite sex can put them in situations they’re really aren’t ready for or don’t want, my youngest is a 14 year old daughter and I don’t let her engage with males as friends. Got to protect them, they don’t like it though, however,one day they’ll understand.
Almost all my friends are males and have been since I was 10 yrs old. My girls also 17 and 14 have a lot of boy friends as well. Gender shouldn’t matter. Keep it supervised with the 14 yr old but as far as the 18 yr old you really have no say what she does when outside the home
I had a boyfriend at 12 who I was with for 6 years so I don’t fully see a problem with it. But I’d say have them hangout at your home and not away, so you can keep an eye on them 
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Probably the reason you raising them. To nice. Be the parent. It their friend.
I always hung out with guys and not girls. Girls are mean at that age
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That 18 year old can find her own place to live if she wants to continue not respecting you to be honest. Or get a job and start paying some bills.
The 18 year old should be allowed to see who she would like as she’s old enough to make her own decisions
At some point we as patents and guardians need to trust our parenting skills and let go and believe we have done our job well
Having said this, I would advise on the emotional maturity of the younger child.
In my home my 15 year old is mature and so responsible so I don’t mind her having guy friends (also covid restrictions in south africa don’t allow for physical socialising now) but she has been to a co Ed school and has loads of kids who are genuinely her friends
My 14 year old on the other hand, I feel he isn’t ready emotionally to interact with girls.
Just trust your intuition. You know them best, but everything in moderation. Allow for a discussion, allow them to make decisions in other aspects of their life and then guage the correct way forward on this one 
Supervision 100% ! At least 1 adult needs to be around.
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Are they sexually active yet? If not, then it’s not a problem to have friends that are boys. You can always just have a heart to heart and share your feelings on the pros and cons of having boyfriends at that age. It’s a huge responsibility, and an adult privilege to have a boyfriend at any age. Best wishes.
U can’t decide who there friends r u just gotta be more supportive n trustworthy with them u shouldn’t tell kids who they can be friends with or not
I love my girl friends but I also had many guy friends growing up. Nothing wrong with having friends of a different gender.
Well. To give some insight. I’m 31, I have 2 female friends and the rest are males. I have always gotten along with guys more than girls because I was raised in a family full of boys. I was the only girl cousin in my family until I was 11. My mom never threw a stink about me hanging out with guys and I didn’t lose the V until I was 17. I just simply cannot do the drama that some females thrive in.
As long as they respect your home and your granddaughters, their gender does not and should not matter. What does matter is how old they are. The 18 year old is obviously fine to hang out with whoever cause she’s an adult. If the 14 year old is hanging out with adults, then it’s not fine in my opinion cause some adults, whether male or female, can be manipulative towards younger people. If you’re concerned about the 14 year old being alone with boys during hangouts, simply tell her to keep the door open so you can supervise or they can hangout outside so there’s no actual privacy. If need be you can befriend any boy’s parents/guardians to make sure they’re aware of the rules you have for your granddaughter when they aren’t in your home.
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We gotta stop this nonsense of cant be friends with the opposite sex…
18 year old…cant do much about her. Practically an adult,but the 14 year old…no.Dont let her go off alone with boys or go to boy’s homes. Doesnt need to be a mom that young. Maybe have them both babysit for extra cash so they can get experience with real babies and kids so know what they get into when have sex. No protection equals dealing with that situation 24/7 instead if going out with friends and being young. Let them know…most friends ditch someone that gets pregnant and ends up with a baby bc that person can no longer run around all the time. Be a kid while you can. Boys arent worth being chained to a job and staying home all the time at a young age.
Boys and girls can be friends.
Ok… So… I in high school had all guy friends… Nothing sexual and the guys I hung out with were always seriously respectful to me! I’ve always said I’d prefer guy friends than girlfriends… Why? Because boys/guys always have your back! My guy friends always came to me for advice with a girl and rhey were forever my protectors! I think honestly you should sit down and talk with the girls and maybe take some time to meet their friends… Sometimes we can’t be so closed minded… If you see something you don’t like with the guys… Bring it out to them… Girls are catty and sometimes just plain rude! Guys are pretty laid back and don’t beat around the bush… Just my honest opinion…
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I always hung out with boys more , I was never a girly girl and never was into sleepovers or shopping like the other girls. I literally have 2 friends that are girls and the rest are guys
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When I was a teenager I hang with all boys. To this day I don’t get along with to many women
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I always hung out with more boys than girls mainly because that was just how our friend group was. It was me and two other girls and 5 guys. We were always together. Girls and boys can be just friends. I wasn’t ever good at “being a girl” and hanging out with boys was what I was used to since I only have boy cousins and brothers.
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I was the girl who prefers boy friendships I went to an all girl’s school poor grades bullied etc begged my parents to send me to a co-ed school grades improved better friendship etc.
No my parents wouldn’t let my guy friends sleep over or me at theirs but they allowed me to have friendships (my parents were born in 1945&1948)
I see no problem as long as their are rules and expectations and honesty. Boys are chilled they are fun and they actually do try teach girls “boy” stuff. I wouldn’t know how to ride a motorbike jetski or drive a manual car. I can take an engine out and put it back together because of the guy friends I had and they always made sure I was safe!
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You are… your providing food, love and shelter and until their 18, you call me the shots…
These comments make me wonder how a lot of you do parenting.
Boys are easier to get on with, they don’t sit there judging if you have the right skirt, shoes, hair colour etc. Girls are just bloody evil these days.
It doesn’t mean you should be worried. I didn’t have any female friends growing up, I used to be constantly in male company.
I had my first child at 26.
Thing is, these girls will do it without you knowing if you don’t allow it. My advice, sit them down, talk to them about sex (because it a a natural process of life) I’m sure they could tell you more than you could tell them tbh but for your own piece of mind, talk to them.
They will respect you for listening and allowing them to associate with who they want too.
I would rather this than know both of them are lying to me
I always hung out with boys … less drama
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Not enough information. One would have to know the girls better than you do.
If the 18 yr old lives in your house, She lives by your rules, regardless of age.
Until they move out and pay rent then they can hangout with whoever.
People are gay, Karen.