I’m 43 i have a 12 year old daughter and 14 18 19 year old sons . My daughter best friend is a boy they hang out only if parents or older brothers are around never alone. My older boys don’t even date because I’m old school on that too lol
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I have a quite a few friends that are male that I grew up with and still talk to on occasion. I’m so lucky I have an understanding guy. He also has friends that are girls. These are not people we hide from each other. We hang out. They come over. We all have a great time together. Nothing wrong with opposite sex friends as long as everyone is respectful of your relationship.
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My 2 best friends growing up were boys and still are now and I’m 37. We grew up together and I find males easier to get along with. There’s not the bitchiness that I can’t be doing with. As long as they are being open and honest with you, that’s a good thing
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I have always gotten on better with boys than girls. Girls can be a lot more bitchy. You need to trust your granddaughters (mire so the 18 year old) just teach them that they can always come to you if they need to and that you love them. My 11 year old daughter prefers to hang out with boys and for me that’s absolutely fine as I trust her. You don’t want to push them towards girls they won’t get along with as well as the boys as they will resent you later on. Your oldest granddaughter can do as she pleases though as she is an adult so you don’t have much room there but with the 14 year old allow her to have male friends. There’s nothing wrong with it at all.
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My best friend at that age was a guy. We are still really good friends. We just don’t get to hang out as much anymore because we dont live in the same town. Guys don’t stir up drama as much as girls do.
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I grew up with mostly male friends. Loads better crack haha. If that’s there friends then let it be. Girls are too much chew.
I’ve always gotten on better with males. When I was 18 I was in an all male work environment so I worked with all males, I was in the army cadets from 12 and I hung out with males. My best friend of 14 years is a male, and 3 years ago he became my partner. I think your being very old school and very presumptuous that the boys are bad or that your girls would do anything. They will do it even without you agreeing, they will just do it behind your back and no longe me feel like they can talk to you
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Tbh most girls are bitchy & cause so much drama where as boys tend to just be easier and less stressful to be around as mates. It’s completely normal. My teenage daughters have alot of male friends and a handful of girl mates. There is nothing sexual or concerning in it. Honestly I trust my girls and IV met the mate they hang around with.
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Agree with your granddaughters I have always preferred boys company they are so much more fun as friends trust them
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I prefer males in all situations. Living, playing, working,ect. They are just more laid back and easier
to get along with. They also make loyal friends. My best friend growing up was a guy. We never progressed past friendship and we are still great friends to this day.
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Wish people wouldn’t laugh- she’s concerned for her grandchildren. I grew up with my nana, and grandad. They raised me from 4 years old. I’d often hang with lads, as long as they weren’t horrible, or getting intro trouble they shouldn’t my nan didn’t mind much but she did trust me, I was a good kid when I lived with her. Did make it easier when I got to 19 and brought a boy home for her to meet mind 
trust and just guide them. It’s absolutely normal for males and females to have friends of the opposite sex x
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Pretty much all of my friends were male when I was in my teens, my daughter also prefers to play with boys, I found girls super bitchy and didnt fit in. Now being an adult I have friends that are girls, still would never fit on with typical females though 
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Most of my friends are male and my best friend back home is too, nothing wrong with it women can be friends with males doesn’t mean there is anything sexual in it x
There is nothing wrong with hanging out with boys boys can also be friends just as girls can
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Gender should not be a barrier for friendships. My 19yo has a lot of male friends, and her circle of friends often take small trips and vacations together.
My perspective is this:
When we raise our children to believe that girls shouldn’t hang out with boys for certain reasons, without realizing it, we teach our sons to believe that said behavior is expected of them. I don’t want my son to think that is ever ok.
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Almost all my friends in hs were guys. Still are to this day 10 years later. They are less dramatic than girls. I dont see an issue with having all male friends:woman_shrugging:
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When I was a teenager I was always with 1 other girl and the rest boys. There was less bitchiness and they was more fun to be around. Maybe ask her for you to meet her males friends? They do look after you a lot more x
Most of my friends were all boys growing up, and for the exact same reasons i always got on better with them, no drama with boys and it was never anything more im 26 now and we are all still very close! Trust what they say! My parents used to think i was up to no good and i hated the fact they couldnt trust my word! Dont think you have anything to worry about 
I understand what you are saying, in this day and age, girls and boys mingle alot more than they did in your and my day, most boys are quite pleasant and safe, maybe you should meet these young lads, you would get a feeling, I hope you don’t worry to much, your grand daughters are probably good judge if characters, don’t stress, take care.
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Nothing wrong at all with boys and girls being friends, I had alot of male friends as a teenager and there is so much less drama involved in hanging out with boys and they tend to protect their female friends aswell. With a 14 year old I can understand pulling the reigns in a little bit but with an 18 year old there is not much you can do as she is already an adult.
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I think it’s healthy and safe for children to have friends of all genders. I’m never sure of some of the people on here who say hanging out with guys is less drama though, I think you just need to take a look at the world to know that in fact is not true
Women who don’t like women are weird.
When I was a teen, we hung out with guys as well as girls nothing wrong with that.
I got on better with boys than I did girls growing up nothing wrong with it in my opinion girls are very bitchy while boys they were more fun especially at there age as long as there happy let them hang out with boys
Im 60… I hung out with boys when I was a teenager… They were more trusting then the girls…
Be happy they have friends, all too often kids can feel left out and alone.
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I was a tomboy and still am although I’m a mother of 5 beautiful adults now. All of my mates were males. My mom felt safe letting me out with my mates as they looked after me. The best mates any girl could have was males as some females are nothing but bitchs. So as long as there “what we call now” the good type of males then your grandchildren will be safe. Invite there friends round get to know them. That’s what I did with my girls as they like me have more Male friends that look after them more than female friends x
Your granddaughters are right it’s normal to have male friends doesn’t mean there’s more to it xx
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Most of my Friends were males when I was growing up n still are , girls were so bitchy and always drama , I fit in better 
my youngest best friend is a boy and she’s 11 ,she hangs round with mainly boys for the same reason, if she’s playing with the girls there’s always a drama and she can’t be bothered with it all 
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You need to find trust in your granddaughters, the more you say no don’t do this don’t do that the more they will rebel and then your relationship will be ruined. They’re still young and figuring life out if you don’t let them make mistakes they won’t grow.
I always hung out with the boys when I was in high school due to girls have so much drama
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It’s fine. One of my daughters hangs out mostly with males, she’s one of the boys.
My best friend from an early age was the boy across the street. I was never in to dolls, prams or dress up. I liked go karts, pool and video games so it suited me.
As long as they realize what is right and wrong is even as the males are concerned and I don’t see a problem most of my friends and I was growing up with boys most of my friends now or male no flirting no sex no nothing just friends as long as they understand that then I don’t see
If the girls sage and you feel they are so then I’d say it’s fine.
All my closest friends are male apart from a couple females and have been since I was 14 x
I always preferred hanging out with boys. Less bitchyness. Nothing wrong with it. Xx
You’re all right, girls and boys can be friends only but is that the case ur 62 ur not “that old” shouldn’t have to tell to you trust ur gut xx
I get on better with guys, plus there is way less drama!
Growing up and even now (60) now
I have a lot more make friends than I do females.
Not every wants to mess about.
If she a teenager then she knows right from wrong .
Just trust, .
Or meet said boys or tell her to hang out in the garden or inside with them (not all the time) you might find that they are v decent ppl
And not out for one thing,
Any how a group of girls are bitches and a group of boys can be the same
But some times boys do cool things as a laugh girls are boring as we nature quicker .
Thats a decision they need to make im afraid
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My girls only hung out with boys. Less drama lol
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Granddaughters are right, I get on better with males then females. Females have so much drama around and are so bitchie.
My son who is six , he has two best mates and they are both girls and he has one who is a boy. Let them be friends with who ever. Let them be happy x
I’d rather they have friends than none.
My girls have boys as their friend. And they get along well. As long as they don’t cross their limits kids can choose their own friends. And yes even I have many male friends I get along with them more than female friends
Being a parent myself I can see why you wouldn’t want them to be, because they may or may not be interested in sex…. But that’s also a topic you need to teach them about at home vs letting them learn about it from their friends. Friends their own age are going to try to convince them that “if you don’t have sex before a certain age you’re not ‘cool’ “. But at the same time NOT every child thinks that way!
I see no harm in girls have male friends, as long as their not pressured into having any type of sexual contact before they’re READY to make that decision for themselves. If you’re really worried about that, have the boy(s) come meet you& hangout at your home where you can supervise them a few times before you allow them to hangout by themselves. That’s just my parental advice
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It is a different time from when you grew up and it was frowned upon. Look at the boys as humans instead. Children can be friends with other children regardless of their sex or how they identify. If your trying to avoid teenagers “experimenting” you can’t. They can also “experiment”with girls. Ensure you are teaching them boundaries and getting out of Difficult situations that can happen with any child.
I had one female friend growing up and 5 best guyfriends i spent almost every weekend with. Stayed the night with them. No pregnancies what so ever imagine that! Guys carry alot let drama and are alot more supportive than girls sometimes.
Nothing wrong with male friends. Just because they are hanging out doesn’t mean they will.open their legs to them. Guys are.less drama to be around. I’ve always preferred male company to female
Do not let them hang out with boys
Why can’t your granddaughters be friends with guys?? What’s wrong with that? Growing up I was friends with more guys than girls because quite honestly girls are bitchy n disrespectful whereas most men say it how it is and can take a joke. I think by you saying that can’t be friends with men actually puts you in the wrong they can make their own decisions it’s not for you to control. You can give your opinion but ultimately especially the 18yo their gunna defy it more because your saying they can’t. Men are not the all evil thing in the world! If your worried buy them a rape kit with the alarms spray etc and teach them to use it properly teach them the warning signs teach them when to say no don’t just tell them they can’t be friends with men. Like I’m sorry but that is super old fashioned
Don’t let your them railroad you like that.
The 18 yrs old is an adult now so kindly tell her, get a place of her own if she doesn’t respect you.
The 14 yr old will rebel, let her make her choices but make it clear that she will face consequences.
This is your time.
You raised children and you don’t need the stress of worry, especially if they talk back to you.
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Tbh boys are less bitchy (some of them) at there age I’d of took chills with boys than girls I only have like a handful of girls I actually like
My best friend is female I get along with woman more than I do men I don’t know it’s anxiety or not but I feel like females understand me more
Its totally okay that girls have guys as friends at that age!
Boys are better influences these days then girls.
Doesn’t matter gender, religion, ethnicity or weight anyone can be friends as long as there is respect.
Dont let them ,sneaky
Boys are less bitchy I hung round with boys as a kid they are easier to get along with and don’t care about things like girls do
Follow your instincts. You are right
They can get jobs and stop acting like little brats! And, unless their grades are superior, they can study til they drop! The world has enough little whores, they need to pick another vocation besides tramping!
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Boys are far less bitchy than girls I’ve always got on with males more than females
My daughter was the same. As long as you get to meet them and have some idea of where they are I think boys take more care of their girl friends less arguing and bickeringx
I’ll be honest:
I felt that way when I was young and in my teens. Girls were so much drama. HOWEVER, having said that, almost every single “guy friend” I had, had a crush on me and wanted more. No matter how platonic I made things, they never failed to slip in comments or sneak a hand grab or a “friendly” hug. Always saying things like, “well you know I’d never hurt you like that.” Or “if you were my girlfriend”, etc. While I think it’s MAYBE possible for guys to see their girl “friends” as just friends, that wasn’t my experience. One of my best guy friends and I actually fell out after a 4 year friendship because I’d broken up with my longtime boyfriend and started dating another “friend” of mine about 2 months later, who I’m happily married to now. My “best” friend was LIVID that I started dating him, because he felt he deserved a chance??? It was all bizarre and, looking back, I wouldn’t let my daughter put herself in those situations; going off with them by herself, etc. I’m in no way saying it’s impossible, just that I feel it’s highly improbable that these guys are hanging and doting on these girls without an inkling of interest. 
Maybe meet them, supervise them, and make discretionary decisions based on individuals. Good luck
trust your gut grandmom
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We were a half and half group in my neighborhood when we were teens…I preferred hanging with the guys because the girls were 2 faced and talked about me behind my back so I would just go hang out and play video games with the guys instead
I agree with you grandma!! They hollering it’s okay, but as soon as they get hurt , or some happens they going to come running to you!!! Or you will be blamed!!! Screw that!! you have every right to set rules if they’re living under your roof!!
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Why cant they hang out with boys? I had more friends that were boys then girls growing up. In fact I had 2 twin boys I was bestfriend with until they moved away. I think you should chill out just a little about it!!! I mean girls can get in trouble with girls too and sometimes we even have relationships with each other. So dont think that you can force them into something they dont want to do.
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I hung out with boys. Nothing wrong with that. Two of them were gay, so it’s not like I was messing with them.
Friends are friends.
I’m 34 growing up all my friends were males except one and to this day I still have all the same Male friends and only 1 female friend. Girls are mean vile creatures to each other. I would hang with a guy before a girl any day.
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I have always got on better with males than females. I had more male friends as a teen than I did girls as always found them too bitchy. If they’re good, respectful lads, then I don’t see a problem. My daughter is coming up 16 so I understand where you’re coming from.
You’re definitely in the wrong. You don’t get to to tell them who they can and can’t be friends with. And I always got along better with guys too. I was a huge tomboy and didn’t have anything in common with the girls in my school. Boys and girls can be friends without trying to screw, ya know.
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They are right, all through high school i had mainly male friends as they were less drama xx
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I always liked having more guy friends than girl friends… usually less drama.
Your house your rules
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I always hung out with the guys. I only had a few girlfriends in highschool.
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My sisters and I always had boy friends. That was who lived in our neighborhood, easy access to gather up and get out the house.
You are wrong. I always hung out with boys. Boy cousins or friends and nothing wrong took place. I found myself getting along with boys better because of interests.
I had alot more guy friends than girls. Girls are moody, mean, and jugemental at the teenage stage of life… So i say its ok for them to hang with boys as long as u know/have met the boy(s) and know where they are going to be at… But def no overnights
Some of my best friends in those years were guys
My son is 16. He hangs hangs our with girls and boys. One night he was invited to a bonfire. He listed like 15 girls and like 4 boys. I just asked if he needed condoms. He said no. Times have changed. And apparently it’s not all about sec anymore. From what I told by other kids parents his age.
Personally, I made better friends with boys/males. Girls are so caddy and mean. Plus, I didn’t outdoor things, so we just had more in common. At 16, I had a good boyfriend, and I preferred being with him and his friends over being with a group of girls. Mainly because it was drama free, fun, and simple. To this day, I still feel more relaxed with males. I don’t fear judgement and games.
I had mainly male friends and even at 26, male friends are better than female friends. You’ll thank them for not giving you drama later in life!
I think it depends tbh. I don’t see anything wrong with them having male friends but only if it’s for genuine reasons
Keep them away from boys and they will be more boy crazy…
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I agree with the girls, but would recommend getting them on birth control also. Sincerely, a once upon a time teen mom who hung out with boys more than girls 
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The18 year old can make decisions for herself. The 14 year old is at a place where she is exploring everything. Guide her, and educate her. Teach her that it is healthier to have both male and female friends
Honestly boys have less drama and honestly us girls can be B’s…
My daughter has mostly guy friends .
If they have been taught right they know the yes and no’s
And really anyone can be not the right person to hang out with
I always felt those guys would never let anything happen to her
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When I was in highschool my best friend was a guy. Girls are backstabbing and drama. Boys know how to be a friend without stabbing you in the back or trying to sleep with your boyfriend.
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I hung out with guys at that age. Friends and nothing more. I didnt get along with the girls,too much drama.
My daughter is 15 and her best friend is a boy. As long as you trust them and if they are over with doors open and not being sneaky, I don’t see an issue!
BOYS AND GIRLS CAN BE FRIENDS WITHOUT HAVING SEX. Stop assuming that’s all teens do. I had friends that were boys when I was a teen. Not once did I want to have sex with them.
I’m 36 & even when I was a teenager I hung out with boys instead of girls. Girls at that age are horrible!
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I have 4 daughters, and one prefers to hang out with the guys because it’s way less drama.
There’s nothing wrong with girls and guys hanging out.
I’m sorry, but really? Is this serious? Because it’s not that serious. I understand that you are old school but this is a different age. Boys and girls can hangout innocently. Most of my friends throughout life (31 years old now) have been males; I have found that most females that I have come across were/are very difficult to get along with; though every once in a blue moon, I would find a genuine female to call “friend”. And one of your granddaughters is 18 years old? She is legally an adult - if she wants to hangout with guys, she’s going to whether you like it or not and you cannot stop her of it. If you want to try and dictate who your 14 year old granddaughter hangouts with because of their gender, I wouldn’t advise it - I believe it is wrong to do that. Boys and girls can be strictly friends and you withholding friends from her is not right. Believe it or not, being that age, there is a lot of lessons of life you start learning and that is when memories really start to be made. She is a kid, let her be a kid and have fun - but that is not saying to be blind of the possibility of the negatives; teach her about self respect (and self love) about her mind, body, and soul. Teach her that “No” means “No” and don’t ever be afraid to voice out her feelings. You cannot keep them in a bubble forever.
Guys can be just as much drama but at least they don’t try to sleep with your boyfriend. The 14yr old though idk guys are still sick these days too.
Thats normal I had more guy friends then I did girls .
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I had a ton of guy friends who were just that through middle & high school- good friends 
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Is this a joke? Or are you actually serious? I feel like you’re trying to provoke a debate…. Even at 62 you cannot be this naive. I’m confused.
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I hung out with more guys than girls in high school, especially my last 2 years… sorry but it is 2021 lol you are being a little silly 
(in my opinion)
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There is nothing wrong with them hanging out with boys. My best friend in high school was a guy. Girls can be catty and don’t always have anyone else’s best interest on their minds but their own.