I’m raising three grandsons n one of the twins was having trouble with a girl at primary school as he moved on to college. He got into the nba for basketball but that’s the only trouble I’ve had. Not too sure on 14yr old girl though. Sorry I’m not much help but 18yr old can vote so not much you can do.
Shouldn’t be going on about old though,plus your home your rules
Get both of them on bc, like yesterday.
Ive always preferred to be around and hang out with males over females. Im 34 and still do…but…14 is a sneaky age. I think it would all depend on the maturity level and how trustworthy they are. Birthcontrol is probably a good idea, just to be on the safe side. Kids are gonna do what they want, rather it be openly or sneaking. I would much rather my kids be open with me about whats going on, than trying to sneak around.
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Nothing wrong with girls hanging out with guys
Dont fall for it take it from a mom who is helping her 15 year old get ready to have a baby. We will love that baby but if I’d have been more strict she would be thinking of high school not diapers
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We have a granddaughter who does not relate to girly girls and has always had a lot of boy friends while growing up. Is now happily married and raising a family. By the way we raised her and are now 75 years old
Yall birthcontrol is not always the answer. Birth control babies are a thing!
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I’m old school too.of course they can have friends of the opposite sex .and not in there bedroom tho .in common areas
I never had male friends, as I was raised that way, but these days, it’s the norm, all you can do is raise them to make responsible decisions and to do what’s right, id get them both on birth control too, but they are telling the truth.
I definitely had more male best friends than female, I worked as a mechanic later in life… I felt they did not judge me as much as girls… I would definitely be supervising those visits at their ages.
I hope you love being a great grandmother
My kids have friends borth male, female, trans, non-binary, etc. Are there rules? Absolutely. No sleepovers, doors are to stay open at all times.
What do they mean by “hang with” boys? Is it a good guy friend that they like to skateboard, watch movies, do homework, etc or is it romantic
Well, I’m 38 and I had mostly boy friends when I was a kid. Not so much as I got older.
It’s ok to hang out with either gender. Telling them no will only make them do it behind your back and makes for risky behavior. The 18yr old is legally able to hang out with whomever she chooses. Open communication and trust is so important if you want to get through to your teen.
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Ive always had more guy friends, their easier to get along with less drama. I’m 33 and still considered one of the guys
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I always hung out with the boys from a young age there was more boys where i grew up then girls but non the less i always got along better with boys anyway to this day i still do and am still friends with most the guys i was! The 18year old you cant tell what to do she is an adult! As for the 14 year old leave her hang out with whoever she wants who cares who they hang out once there happy? You tell teenagers not to do something they are going to rebel against you so you would either rather know who they are with or youd rather not have a clue who there with or what there doing theres your choice🤷♀️
I sometimes think boys make better friends than girls. I always hung out with boys. It was much simpler and less drama and backstabbing etc
When I was a kid we hung out with boys and girl my brother had boys his age and older my brother is only 3 years younger than me we were always close together when I brought home a girl friend my brother hung out with us allso
Teach them to be responsible and respect and the rest should take of itself…times aren’t that different when it comes to having babies before 18…
I always hung out with the boys as a teenager in the 80’s. Boys are less drama, and if they consider you “one of them” they are more themselves and you learn a lot as a girl about how they think and how to deal with them.
When I was there age I always had more guy friends than girl friends fast forward 21-25 years I still have one of the same guy friends and found out all the girls I thought was my friends were using me. The ones who weren’t my x husband made me cut all friends period… Now my husband wants me to make friends. I struggle to make friends at all but trying find female friends . I don’t really want many guy friends since I’m married but I’ve found a few and my now husband is fine with it.
I have more male friends than female. Sometimes it’s hard for girls to get along with other girls. Girls tend to be cruel… at least they were to me.
I still only really hang out with guys. Girls are full of drama and most of the time aren’t interested in the same thing I am . But guys do.
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I kinda agree with them. Most of my friends were guys growing up. Less drama for sure. Just sit down and have on open discussion about the topic.
I think it depends. I personally have always had more male friends than female friends. And I have never been a very promiscuous person. Out of all the male friends I’ve had, I only slept with one of them and we were together for 6 years after that. I still have plenty of male friends while being married. One of my best friends in the whole world is a male I’ve been friends with since my freshman year of high school.
I would let them unless the guys gave you uneasy feelings etc. The guys are probably very protective over your girls.
It’s ok to hang out with guys usually they r in groups.
Boys have less drama!!! That’s probably why they enjoy hanging out with them.
All depends on you & who you hang with and what draws you to one another.
My mom had a keep the door open policy if a guys over…it helped.
My best friend was a guy and nothing ever happened between us ever. You can just be friends!!
Depends on how respectful they are.
I have more male than female friends but I’m much older.
I would want to make sure at their age that they had good communication that friends is all they are & everyone is cool w that.
Guy friends are the best!
Less drama!
Supervised no matter who they hang with
God Bless you for taking on that responsibility in the first place. Teens are hard. My daughter is allowed to hang out with boys in a group of boys and girls. Every family is different. Good luck!
Its normal. I only hung out with boys really. I’m 32 now and only really ever hung out with boys, I mean I was also always playing sports with them. But its changed alot. The 18 year old can see who she wants but if shes under your roof i would need communication if she isnt back by a certain time. The 14 year old should be allowed to hang out with who she wants regardless of gender but within normal reason for a 14 year old. Are they going to the mall? Park? Stuff like that? If you push her now she will most likely rebel and her guy friends WILL be on her side cause they’re teenagers.
I dont think it’s got to much with age just more what your used to. I’m 42 and growing up I had more male friends and also now, girls are just bitchy most of the time and this day and age they seem to be worse. I found males to be more real. I have 5 girls myself, 22, 18, 17, 14 and 2.
My 14 year old has more male friends, and goes out more with them. Personally I dont see a gender I see friends, if there happy then that’s all you want, isn’t it. X
My son hung out with more girls than guys as a teenager so it is true, with that being said, birth control is a must even if they weren’t hanging with the boys it is a must in these days and times…best of luck to you grandma it’s not like when we were growing up for sure…
It’s perfectly fine to have boy friends But at these ages it can be deceiving. Set boundaries & stick to them is my advice.
I hung out with boys sll my life, in my 60s I still have more male friends than female. I was never a girlie girl.
The 14 year old is too young to be alone with boys , the 18 year old I think she’s old enough and should be accountable for her actions
They should be allowed to hang out with guys or girls as long as they ain’t breaking the law.
You are right. Some things never change.
put them on birth control
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Keep doing what your doing our generation doesn’t understand
I’m 66 year old woman I alway hung out with the guys they were more fun. Still have more guy friends than I do female
My sons 13 and has a small friend group in our neighborhood and they all hang out. Some brother and sisters, some just girls. They’ve all grown up together for the past 10 years and get along great. My son adores his God sisters and hangs out with them also, 1s his age the others younger. As far as it being outside a group or a close connection, like if they just met and the boy wants to come over and hang out at the house. That’d be a no for me! But the 18 yo is grown, she’s expected to be sexually active and possibly dating. It’s the 14 yo you should be more worried about. They’re in 2 separate age groups, can’t give have the same expectations for both of them.
Now a days women just suck. Not all but some. Its all about back stabbing, drama, what thry can get out of you or when you’re convenient to come around. I personally have a few guy friends. I also grew up with no sisters or a mom so men were easier to get along with. I guess in your situation I’d come up with a deal with them. Like you can hang out but down stairs or something.
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I believe kids need a mix of both. My 15-16 yr old son has mostly male friends and the females in his life are his cousins that are close to his age, or kids in his shop class at high school.
All my daughters friend groups consisted of males and females. Do your due diligence and get to know all thier friends. Sure boys can get them Pregnant but girls can break them. BTW, my daughters best friend in the whole wide world is a wonderful boy we all love very much. And The last friend she was forced to stop hanging out with and being friends with was a girl.
I was raised by my grandparents and sometimes we struggled with the generational gap.
The funniest/ most obvious was when I transitioned from a single to a double bed- My grandfather couldn’t wrap his head around the fact that I no longer needed the pull out bed in my bedroom because when my fiends came over we would just share my bed.
You are doing an amazing job with them I’m sure and only have their best interests and intentions at heart xx
When I was 14 15 I had lots of really close male friends. Nothing romantic or sexual with them, I had female friends too, but less drama with boy friends x
Majority of my friends growing up was male, even. Now they’re mostly male, less drama, they don’t give a fuck about certain shit, they ain’t bitchy, you can actually be yourself and chill snd have a laugh. I loved growing up with them, always felt protected too xx
To be honest I only hung out with boys. Girls are too much. I never did anything wrong or “played” with them and no baby ever appeared. Might need to meet these boys and find out what they are up to so you can feel safe with this. They may be bsing you to hang out and run a muck but you need to find out for sure. Start tracking their phones.
3 of my best friends in high school were boys. I’m still best friends with them a decade and a half later.
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Boys come with much less drama than girl mates!!!
Nothing wrong with having boys for friends.
Ok in mixed groups , not alone
Get with the times lol. Sorry 
They’re all friends until the pants come off
Milan Fearon “think it’s not right for girls to hang out with boys.” we’d be fucked then 
KAREN
Ma’am, your grand daughters are 14 & 18. They don’t need to be raised with sexist traditional values, based upon the constant suspicion, and assumption of their wrongdoing. Just because boys and girls are friends, it doesn’t mean they’re going to jump into bed together. You need to trust your granddaughters, and learn to pick your battles. This isn’t the hill to die on. Believe me. If they had a brother, would you destroy the family bond just to keep them separated, too? You’re not running a school for girls, in the 1930s. You might be in your early 60s, but you’re still a bit young to be ascribing to Southern values that haven’t existed since the time period of To Kill A Mockingbird. Furthermore, one of your granddaughters that you’re trying to control is an adult. Why do you think you can control the gender of her friends? C’mon lady… You knew the answer before you typed the question.
As a girl who grew up in a home with other girls and was a trouble maker myself I would highly suggest parental guidance if they hang out with the opposite sex. You also don’t want to be too strict because that’ll just create sneaky children. Coming straight from a sneaky kid herself, my parents tried very hard and I think that’s why I got pregnant at 17. Best advice I have.