Personally when I was younger I preferred hanging out with the guys. There was so much less drama
I did cause it was way less drama!
Seriously? Guys and girls can hang out and be friends without it being some kind of sex party
Ur definitely old school. It’s just fine have friends of the opposite sex. I grew up mainly with male friends bcuz it was less drama.
Get them in birth control
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My best friends were guys growing up, girls cause to much drama. Trust them and keep communicating.
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I think I had one friend that was female from age 12 up. The rest we males. Females were to much trouble to be around. My guy friends all knew there wasnt going to be any romantic crap from the get go. And none of them would ever let anything happen to me. One occasion I had a severe stalker and he tried to kidnap me. Let’s say he didnt even come close to completing his objective and spent several weeks/ month in the hospital
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They’re 100% right. Don’t let them have sleep overs with boys but they should be able to be friends with boys. lol
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Supervised is just fine. All of my friends in high school (with a few exceptions) were boys. I get along with them better- less drama! I’m also 60 so this has been going on since the 70s dear.
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Not the 14 year old. But birth control might be needed.
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My daughters – 17 year old twins – also hang out only with boys. The girls are tomboys and, when they did hang out with girls, had nothing but drama and headaches. The other girls also didn’t like playing the sports and doing the things my girls like to do. Since they’ve started hanging only with boys, there is no more drama, the girls are constantly busy playing baseball, swimming in the river, lacrosse, football, etc. They have good heads on their shoulders. You raised them right, so allow them the ability to choose.
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Wtf, there is nothing wrong with having opposite sex friends. When I was 16-18 my two best friends that I hung out with every single evening were guys. 
For me, hanging out with boys was normal. More so in high school than in my younger years. As I got older, I didn’t really get along with other girls. I had 1 or 2 really good friends that were girls, but other than that, they were boys. There was no pressure hanging out with them. They didn’t gossip behind my back about me, or any of that type of stuff. It was simply just hanging out. I was never allowed to be alone with them. Which is totally understandable. My mother wasn’t necessarily a fan of me befriending boys. She thought that there must’ve been other motives for the friendships. I went to a vocational school and ended up switching from cosmetology to auto motivate technology. The reason I switched was because of the girls. They were judgy, catty, and so damn competitive over literally everything. Boys on the other hand, were not.
I had mostly guy friends. Totally normal. And why is that not ok? You aren’t that old.
In my house we didn’t date or hangout with boys alone until 16 and could drive our own car… I did the same for my girls. But 100% they need to be on birth control if that’s in your belief system. Cause teen hormones are outta control. My son had a girl best friend. I walked in on them kissing after 3 years of friendship. 
friends don’t always stay just friends
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I definitely hung out with a lot more boys than I did girls and I wasn’t having sex with them so this is pretty much the silliest thing I’ve seen in a while posted on here. Which says a lot
ok the 18 year old is now officially an adult. as far as the 14 year old if you are worried about her having sex talk with her and maybe get her on birth control. there is nothing wrong with being friends with boys
I hung out with all guys my entire life till my 20s … And i only slept with one guy befor the age of 23… There is nothing wrong with hanging out with all guys and it doesnt mean they are sexually active or anything guyd are just less drama and happen to me more trustworthy at yhat age … Girls back stab and cause drama and lifes so superficial for most at that age …
My bestest friend is a guy. We’ve been best friends since we were 8. Still talk to this day.
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I had alot more guy friends than girl friends growing up. I was also a tomboy and had brothers. Those guys would have protected me at all costs. Some of the best friends I ever had and still to this day would be there for me if I needed them and most of us haven’t talked in years.
Yes its perfectly fine, that’s all i hung out with, times r different, please let themb normal teens, sounds as there situation is anything but normal and I mean that in a respectful way, they grow up so fast, let them have fun, just give the information and tools if anything happens they will respect u, and u will have passed down a memory that they will share one day❤
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Less drama hanging out with boys. Most of my friends were guys. I don’t see what’s wrong with it. Still to this day i connect more with guys then I do females. Like I said less drama.
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Why shouldn’t kids/teens have friends of both genders? They will work with men & encounter them in many ways. It’s life. By saying a kid can you socialize with their own gender you’re teaching them to be uncomfortable around the opposite gender. Let them choose their friends. The important thing is that they choose friends who respect them vs those who will get them into trouble or bully them.
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New generation grandma!!
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My teen daughter decided she wanted to hang out with boys so I decided she was going to get birth control first. So far so good 
she’s happy I’m happy.
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Well I was different, I had 8 brother’s who were boxer’s and I hi g out with them and their friends on the fields,tracks,gym all the time being in the middle of the 8, lol was so much fun we all became law officer’s, retired now
I feel like most people saying hanging out with boys is wrong, doesn’t remember that lesbians and bisexuals exist. My first sexual experiences were with girls at sleep overs that were deemed “innocent” because we were all girls.
So safe sex talk for both, birth control for both. And don’t shame them into cutting you off when they are able to
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When I was their ages, back in the 90’s, about 1/2 if not more than 1/2 of my friends were boys. Yes, it’s normal. It’s not normal for kids that age to only hang out with their own gender.
It’s ok just remind her of her personal morals and respect for herself around boy’s,
In this generation girls are so much more drama my daughter is 13 has guy friends an thats it before I got sick I’d take them to movies hang out at the mall go to parks but I been very sick the last 4 months so they come in front of my house or just talk over the phone it’s way to much drama when hanging out with girls always wanna pick fights talking crap about each other so much more u said the oldest is 18 right she can basically do what she wants as she is legal age too the more strick you are on them the more sneaky they are but just set some rules
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I was the same way growing up I got along with the guys I was more tomboyish then was girlie but qt 18 I met a guy I did like and now I have a soon to be 10 yr 
wouldn’t change love my son and big finger to the guy bit hey my son best part of it. But talk to them or even message me for video chat im 28 and I STILL REMEMBER THOSE YEARS 
It’s normal for girls to have and hang with guy friends but there are limits that should always be in place and birth control
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I grew up with mostly boys as friends. I had male roommates who were better, neater and more respectful than my female ones. Yes, they can be just friends.
You are older and wiser. And you are right. Hanging with boys will give you something that you may not be ready for. This generation is in no means the same as before. More stuff for them to get into. I’m not saying they can’t have male friends. But there is always a reason as a teenager, for what they want. But at 18, not much you can do.
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You shouldn’t have male friends as a teen but in 5-10 years you should marry one & start a family 
It’s important to have friends of both genders & backgrounds or else you’ll be closed minded & uninformed like you 
no offense
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Why is it wrong? They are 14 and 18 and they are free to choose their own friends.
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When I was growing up I would always hang out with the guys then girls … there’s less drama and issues … to this day I get along better with guys then girls and I’m 25 … I don’t blame them at all …
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I had more guy friends than girls. Girls are mean and full of drama and emotion
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Wow. It is absolutely okay for kids to hangout with the opposite sex. The one is technically an adult. Yes things are different. All through high school I got along with the guys so much better than the girls because they’re alllll drama. As long as they know about sex, saying no, and being safe there shouldn’t be an issue. Keeping them away from boys will only cause troubles.
You are the adult and you have enough wisdom to know what you want for them. Yes we can have friends that are guys and do stuff with them. You know to always trust your gut. If they are ganging up on you to get their way that’s very sad and something must be up. Good luck.
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So… You’ve never had a male friend in your life? That’s not a generation thing that’s a you’re-just-weird thing.
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God bless you, !8 is a adult so unless she is still in HS, she can do as she wishes, The 14 yr old WOW, tuff age, she does have to listen to you, But sometimes, boys are easier to talk to, I had some really good guy friends (and no I never ‘went’ out with them, we were just friends) Girls can be really nasty & be bullies, as boys can too, But the fact that they are living with you, How do you not know whether some girls are teasing your granddaughter & making fun of her because her mommy or daddy don’t love her & she has to live with grandma!!! Sit down with both of them, talk to them, listen to them, If they won’t talk to you, you talk to them, And set some rules, Curfew time, bedtime, chores, dinner time, Again if the 18 yr old is done with HS, she needs to get a job & follow some rules if she is going to live under your roof, And if she is still in HS, she still can get a PT job
I’m 39 now and when I was a teen I hung out with mostly boys. They all lived in my neighborhood. Girls can be mean and full of drama. Guys aren’t. Let them have their guy friends. Just talk to them about sex and let them know that it’s unacceptable, or maybe talk to them about birth control. I wasn’t having sex with my guy friends. But you never know…
Kids are going to find a way. After 14-18 all you really can do it guide them and hope they choose to do the right thing. Get them on birth control and hope for the best.
Well I think boys are okay. My 14 yr old daughter acts like a boy and doesn’t mean good with girls so she has lots of boy friends
everyone should be able to choose their friends as long as they aren’t harming them . there’s nothing wrong with being friends with the opposite sex. and 13 yr old girls can be brutal so she may find theres less drama and intimidation with boys than girls
It was normal for me then, and still normal for me now. It’s always been difficult for me to hang on to girl friends.
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My male friends were always better than any female ones. Girls are just drama while guys are cool and laid back for the most part. Why wouldn’t you have a male friend? That’s just odd. Females can be a lot harder to hang out with while with boys it’s just more comfortable.
I have more guy friends than girl friends. My best friend is a guy. You can’t dicitate who they are friends with. The 18 yr old is an adult
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They are gonna find a way to hang out with whoever they want no matter what you say. Put them on birth control, teach them how to be safe and that you will always be there for them if they need you no matter what. It’s better to be on their side and they are more likely to tell you the truth, and bring the friends around you, so you know what’s going on…
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I mean. Yes and no. Depends on the kids in question. But more than likely theyll end up pregnant
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I think it’s okay. Especially for the 18 year old and I have a 15 year old and 13 year old they are very responsible. They hang out with boys… they arent into guys like that. They are just friends. I’m 32 and when I was their age my mom let me hang out with boys. I didn’t do anything inappropriate. I agree with them…
Lol. They can hang out with whoever as long as what they are doing isn’t illegal. 
male or female doesn’t matter. One is 18 so you can’t really do anything about that one but why would you want to stop the other from having friends? All my friends as a kid were boys
My bff at this age was a guy and if she has found a friend like him she is lucky as hell. Don’t instantly act a fool about any situation with your kids
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What is wrong with it. 18 year old is an adult. She can do what she wants.
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I would meet all their friends. Check if there is a group for grandparents raising grandchildren in your area
Have them meet at your house for a while. 62 is not way out there of touch
Sit down for a serious talk about hanging out and sexual activity. Expect honesty. What was home like. Maybe talk to the counselor at local high school for what is normal
Enforce curfews
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Guy friends are not as dramatic and impulsive as girls are.
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Sorry grams, but that is very old school!
Girls and boys can definitely be friends and to think otherwise is kinda gross
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It’s perfectly fine for boys and girls to be friends. The 18 year old can actually do whatever she wants as she’s considered an adult. They are right times aren’t like when you were growing up. What is the problem with boys and girls hanging out? As long as they are supervised it’s all good. The 14 year old is old enough to have boyfriend’s anyway.
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Oh goodness. I’m almost 30, and when I was in school our groups were all mixed together. We hung out with guys and girls together. You absolute can have male friends as a female Definitely very old school way of thinking. You’re doing great! They know they are loved and you are just trying to take care of them the way you know to be true 
Reaching out to ask was such an awesome thing to do!
Most of my friends are guys
Girls now a days cause to much drama
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You are because we know what goes on with boys and girls, be very careful you might be rasing your great grandbabies.
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I am grown and married with kids and still have guy friends, females were always too much drama for me 
all you can do is educate them to make good decisions.
I am your age and I’ve always had male and female friends. Its fine, but have them come over so you can meet them and they can get to know you. Besides, the more you tell them not to be with someone, the more they’ll want to be with them. They’ll just be sneaky about it.
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I had all guys friends growing up and honestly girls are drama and competition that is not needed during those years. So I don’t get the problem
I will always have rules if my kids live under my roof
It’s perfectly fine for boys and girls to be friends. Just make it a point to meet their friends. Make them feel comfortable so they don’t feel they need to sneak. Set rules and you should be okay.
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I had a ton of guy friends in high school. There’s a huge difference between guys friends and a boyfriend. Some of my best friends were guys. It was also good because they’d stand up for me if another guy was getting pushy.
lol nah the difference is now everyone is fucking everyone. Back in my day girls and boys could hang out and play and it was innocent. You might’ve had one girl or boy you had a crush on and it never went further than a peck and holding hands. Now it’s all one big orgy with these fast ass kids. Everyone’s eating everyone’s ass and sucking everything thrown in their direction. However that 18 year old is semi grown so she’s going to do what she wants. The 14 year old too. My best advice is give her some freedom but controlled freedom and allow them to confide in you or you’ll be raising great grandkids too.
I didn’t like hanging out with girls…girls can de degrading and just down right mean…Im a tomboy and hung with boys and did boy things…fishing,
dirt bikes,paintball…I enjoyed the company of boys…it was more fun as far as drama…I didn’t date any of my friends…but it was so much less drama then the few times I tried hanging with girls…the gossiping,lying,
backstabbing,and just dirty ways that girls can be so mean and hateful to other females is harsh and kinda sad…my parents were the same old school but they understood me and of course if I found I guy I “liked” and wasn’t just in the buddy zone I told my parents…being with boys and almost one of the boys is one thing…and hanging with boys to be a type a girl you shouldn’t be is two different things…I’d just sit down and talk with them…a friendly talk see where they are at in there heads and calmly just ask the reasons for hanging with boys…and ask them ( by being supportive and someone they can talk to not judge them and belittle them) about when they like a boy vrs just hanging to let you know as well…my parents and I were pretty open and honest with each other so it helped ease off the omg she is taking off with a bunch of boys again…they knew what was up,what we were doing,and if and when any boy I liked was going to be there or if I had plans with just the boy I liked…but try to communicate with them…and then be understanding and supportive when they talk or open up don’t turn into a judgemental monster where they start hiding things from you…but I personally really enjoyed the company of boys over girls in middle and high school and even now…it’s a bit different now being in a relationship and older but there isn’t the drama,or the degrading behavior that girls put on each other…girls are mean…and degrading and disrespectful to each other and it’s sad honestly…boys really do just like to hang out and have fun…girls really seem to find a way to make anything dramatic and self involved and can be unpleasant…esp if you like fun things like outdoor things or whatever…
It’s just fine to have guy friends
I was a tomboy had more friends that were boys in highschool.im now 43.i can drive a forklift run a hoist im a journeyman butcher managed a meatdept for 16 years.im strong bullheaded and now tell my guys how to do there job.i think i turned out allright.ive got 4 very close female friends lots of male 1s.ive been married 20 years.i have 4 beautiful girls 1 son.girls in highschool are often very dramatic and judgy.
Even in high school, 15ish years ago, I preferred my guy friends because there was less drama. I still to this day hate the drama associated with girls. There was never anything sexual between us.
Let them have friends that are boys 
There is nothing wrong with having guys as friends. You need to trust them and give them the tools to make sure they make smart decisions. Other than that, it’s out of your hands. I know it must be hard but you have to give them the benefit of the doubt unless they give you a reason to have to step in …e.g making poor choices.
Ain’t nothing new under the sun, it’s all the same stuff.
Yeah you have two girls trying to trick you it’s ok I guess under adult supervision the girls that’s 18 well she’s legally an adult but that’s being said If she living under your house she needs to still respect your home rules as long as they aren’t super crazy like your only allowed to get out of the right side of the shower you must dry every drop out of the sink when done using lmao these are real things people demand lmao that’s to far I think
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They need friends, girls and guys
Your house your rules do not give in they think they can ok St you around
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i would get them a 5 year birthcontrol.i had one it was the noraplant but they changed the name
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I am 58 and I had way more guy friends than I did female friends when I was growing up. It was OK then, and it’s OK now. With guys, way less drama!
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I was the girl with a few girls who were friends but more boys as friends… there isn’t an issue with then having friends of the opposite sex just make sure that’s all that’s going on
Your extremely wrong. People can just be friends without it meaning anything more than that. I had and still have more guy friends (prob Bc I game) and not a “floozie” been married for almost 17 years.
Girls can be so hurtful to each other. Took me a long time to get used to the boys being friends. I think the boys were more honest with the girls.
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Um well you have a 18 year old that is now an adult and can do as she pleases but I hung out with mostly guys growing up and nothing wrong with it. Girls back stab other girls way to much. Let them hang out with boys it isn’t the 50’s anymore. Don’t be such a hardass or you will lose it granddaughters.
You are very wrong. It’s normal and good for their social/mental development for them to have friends of both genders and hang out with both genders.
Guy friends will stick up for them…be there…protect them…you definitely want them to have male friends…
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Its ok but they need to be supervised
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I still would rather be with men than women. There’s a big difference in conversation, expectations, and jealousy.
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It’s the same as when you were young, they just coming up with ways to make it seem ok to you
Boys are less drama than girls. But 14 is a sneaky age…I’d lay down some rules for your home concerning boys being there or being in situations left alone with boys. At school okay…as a group ok, but never alone…as for 18…she’s an adult but she should abide by your rules for your home.
I trust men as friends BIG
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Just make sure that they’re on birth control! Otherwise you’ll have kids raising kids.
I had lots of male friends growing up. With the guys there is less drama so there is nothing wrong with hanging out with them.
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I would first put them both on birth control. IUD is best. Then get to know them.
I have a 22 year old granddaughter that ,even as a young child, didn’t hang around with girls. She always said all they do is cause a lot if drama. She does have a few friends she is close to. She has always been a good girl and made good choices. But I get it on your part. We will always worry about their safety and well-being. Grandmothers feelings are the same with our grandchildren as they are with our kids❤️
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They’re right. But get them on birth control for sure
When I was in hs it was just easier to hand out with guys. Less drama. I did get called a “wh@re” a lot but I wasn’t being sexual with any of them. We did stupid stuff like after work we would go be stupid at a Walmart. You know use a hula hoop. Try not to get kicked out. So much less pressure with them. My most fond memories was when I was hanging out with my guy friends.
Ill keep u in prayer 
Take them to the library get them involved or interested in the air force or sumthn get birth control girls are sneaky an think some parents were born last Night but nooo we were born at night boys always an will be a troubling distraction i just hope they respect themselves as welk as u an hopefully they listen to all advice hoping they don’t find out the hard way im raising a 23 year old daughter with her 1 year old son my14 year old daughter an as well as 11 year old son I wish i had all boys truth be told !
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I grew up around boys, and most of my closest friends growing up were boys. I was way more comfortable around them than I was with girls my age. I see nothing wrong with it. I agree that birth control is a good idea, regardless of whether they’re hanging out with boys or girls, but forbidding them to be friends with boys jusy because you’re “old school” will only cause issues for them or they will just do it behind your back. Trust them first.
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