We used an egg timer and jellybeans to potty train pretty soon he was going on his own every 20 minutes and he was almost 2
My daughter pooped in her room 3 times and each time i left it there for an hour and she soon realized she did not like the smell next to her toys and she then went to the bathroom. I did this after exhausting all the " parenting" tips on potty training lol
Try the big toilet and take her when you go too. They enjoy washing hands afterwards too.
Maybe if you tried having her put on her undies by herself that will help solve one issue.
Wait a few months & try again.
Our toilet trained 3 year old has gone backwards - regularly has his 4 o’clock shit in his pants …
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Yes! Had same problem with my toddler. I introduced pull ups/ underwear at 18 month, then 2 years old. It’s been a battle, she’s now 3 1/2. She had the pooping good, it was pottying that slowed her up. She would wet herself constantly, no matter how often I took her to potty chair. I tried stickers and candy and all that. What worked for her was a present each week (dollar tree toy, dollar tree socks, color book) then we switched it to a special show on Netflix if she did good all day. Every kid is different , keep trying different rewards that she can stay dry for.
My daughter was three and still in diapers. The Doctor told me don’t sorry she will go when she is ready. One day she asked me for pretty pants do I got her dome. It worked.
She may not be ready. Try waiting a little longer.
Yup. My son, but only w/ poo. Got to the point when I would know they had to go badly and they’d wait me out until one day I just set up camp w/ them on that potty until they went. 2.5 hours of him screaming at the top of his lungs and a call to the police from a neighbor for the noise disturbance later, he finally went and was amazed at how much cleaner it was! It was over before the cops got there. They saw that everyone was fine and chatted about their struggles w/ their own kids and left. Since it was the second such call from the same neighbor, they told dispatch to chew them out for misuse of police resources if they called again. It was a good day!
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Does she have a hard time relaxing on the potty? Maybe give her a toy that she can only play on the potty or something. I know mine has a hard time going unless she’s relaxed and confident enough to go
I found it tough training my youngest. I got him to watch the potty song a few times on youtube and just kept trying and trying until he just did it. I think we made 3 attempts with a few breaks in between coz he just wasnt ready the first two times. He was v shy about it and also felt the toilet was “dirty” and was scared of germs so even after he was potty trained he still wouldn’t poo on the toilet for ages. (Toilet is cleaned regularly btw lol) but hes doing well now. The whole process prob took 6 months my eldest was trained in a week
Patience is indeed a virtue! What worked for me over the years with children, grandchildren, etc is just to stop trying to change your child’s idea of when it’s time to potty train or deal with any problem that becomes a battle between parent and child…in this instance keep her in diapers and don’t sweat the rebellion until she decides she wants grownup panties and lets you know she will cooperate! Trust a veteran Mom…it won’t be long before she reaches that decision on her own!
Put on pants will not like them that’s the I potty mine done in a few days as for potty then won’t like them wet her pants and I use a plastic under sheet at night I did
Turn the water on while she’s on the potty. Worked every time for my kids. They hear running water and have to go. Someone else said to put their hand in warm water and that sometimes does the trick.
We tried at 2 and 2.5 yrs. She just wasn’t ready. When she turned 3, she got it down within a week with a couple accidents. To each their own!
When I was potty training I tried to find videos of potty training g with characters they knew or liked. It actually helped a lot! As others said she may just not be ready! I know people act like they have to be trained by the time they are 1 but sometimes that is just unrealistic. Not every child is the same. All 3 of mine were different and I just went with the flow!
Tell her you will sit with her for x of minutes. If she hasn’t used the potty there will be no treats of any kind that day. I wouldn’t serve any special foods either. Stick with it. She will get the message really fast. When she asks for something, reinforce that she hasn’t done her part to earn the privilege.
Didn’t give the age of your child.
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Best advice if the child isn’t taking to it just stop… if your getting frustrated your rushing it and she isn’t ready… I have 5 and I rushed the first ones and stressed myself out…the last ones I didnt rush it and they did it when they were ready…
She’s not ready, I always said , if they are ready you can do it in 2 days , if they aren’t ready it can take 6 months. I potty trained 4 daughters, and that’s what I learned.
She will do it when she’s ready.
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Depends on how old she is, she might not be ready. It’s hard to say not knowing her age
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We’re dealing with the same thing with the potty. Everyone just keeps telling me she’ll get there. I know it’s frustrating, but just keep calmly letting her know it’s okay and let her know to tell you when she needs to poop.
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I told mine that there is a good fairy that lives in the potty and he needs the pee and poopie to feed his pets theyre so hungry and when her tummy feels like she needs to potty thats the pets saying theyre hungry they need the poopie to go down the potty. You only have to keep the charade up long enough for them to get the hang of it but it sure did help with mine so it was worth it lol 
My kid was a late bloomer as far as potty training, however when she was ready, she was ready! Just give it some more time momma. Keep practicing and it will click for your little one.
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Maybe ditch the pull-ups, I’ve heard they can just be confusing while trying to potty train, my son was the same way and held his poop at first so we gave him some extra fiber and prune juice and he got over it within the week, good luck
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No more pull ups! My daughter was the same way. She was 3.5 whe she was finally fully potty trained. We ended up taking away pull-ups all together and stayed home for a week. We used a potty watch so she could try and go every 30 mins. If she had an accident she had to clean herself up (with me supervising clean up and of course helping if she really needed it). She got over that pretty quick! Wet or soiled big girl panties are pretty yucky! By the end of the week we had no more issues and started using the potty.
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I had to get mine back in daycare in order for her to do it. They said she was ready to wear panties and then we also had a big plushie that we got and put on the fridge and told her after 3 successive poops in potty she’d get it.
I really second the mothers who say they will when they’re ready. My daughter showed signs at 2, but she didn’t fully commit herself to potty training until a little after 3 years old. Now she’s almost four and is fully potty trained. She doesn’t even wear a pull up to bed
The 3 day program worked amazingly for both of my kids!!! Check it out
She’ll probably do better once life is settled down
I had to take my son whenever he’d start hiding, and I also gave him a foot stool so he could sit in a squatting position and that’s helped wonders. He still will hold his poop until he’s home
With my eldest I had to stop using pull-ups unless she was sick and at night, or we were on a long road trip, to get her to stop pooping her panties I made her wash out her panties in the toilet (granted this was 24 years ago and I cleaned the toilet before having her wash them in the toilet) after having to clean out her panties twice she started using the potty, she was 3. That is what my mother did with my brothers she did not have that problem with me she said. So I used it on my 3 kids and it worked, they all did pee in the potty chair and no accidents long before being trained for pooping in the potty chair. I think the #2 struggle is very common. Just don’t yell at her and when she does go poop for the first time in the potty chair make a huge “I am so proud of you!” out of the moment.
With potty training several kids like (5) , I NEVER used pull ups . We always went straight to undies, I felt like a pull up was just like a diaper so we didn’t use them .
I didn’t use pull-ups. I waited until they were ready and they never had an accident after… you may be rushing her if she’s just not ready.
I never used pull up. They learned pretty quickly wet undies aren’t comfy.
My oldest, 19, did the same thing. Her ped told me it’s normal because pee they cannot see, poop they can. They don’t understand why their poop comes out of their bodies and they’re scared of what their body is doing. Be patient momma, she’ll get it.
Expo marker. Sit her backwards on the potty and let her draw. If she goes give her a gummy bear. Potty trained my kids in a weekend doing this. Good luck mommy
I gave my kids a ball and put laundry basket in there and let them throw ball in basket… tried to get their mind off what they were in there to do…it worked!!
I say all panties all the time, because that’s what the pediatrician told me. Only 2 things kids get to control 1) what they swallow 2) when and where they go potty. Buy a mattress cover to save your mattress. If she never gets a pull up she can’t pop in it. Secondly take her with you every time you go. Pay extra close attention if she goes to hide you can stop her.My doc also said as nasty as it sounds make her clean up any messes. Then you clean up her hands when she is done. Worked. When she finally poops in the potty go crazy screaming clapping great job potty dance. Best of luck she will eventually get it.
My youngest wanted to buy big girl panties and I told her she had to be accident free for a week and we would go get them. 7 days later…
What is it she wants? My oldest used to tell me she loved her diapers. It took her deciding that she’d wear the big girl pants and her sister would wear the diapers.
I work in a nursery so different potty training ideas are of a vast majority… have you noticed any signs of when she needs to go for a number 2 i.e facial expressions etc xxx
She will be the good girl …just keep on training her and don’t ever give up on her.
I don’t have advice because I’m in the literally in the same position, new military man and all. Are you me? 
Good luck with your little!!
If you can, I’d increase it to every 20 mins on the potty. But she knows what she needs to do it sounds. Give her time momma. She is confused and stressed just like you.
Mom she will on her own time ,trust me she will get tired of pooping in panties or pull-ups ,
I’m going through the same thing. She will go when she’s ready. I know it’s frustrating just hang in there.
We bribed our daughter with temporary tattoos
Also put her in underwear right away so if she went then she realized she was uncomfortable and didn’t like being wet, that was probably the thing that put her head into the mindset of using the toilet the most
My daughters were the same way. I was losing my mind of trying to figure out how to change that. Then my mom gave me an idea and it worked with all 3 of them. She told me to let them go ahead and poop in their underwear and then have them clean it out in the toilet. Just by dunking the underwear into the toilet. They all got grossed out over that and stopped doing it
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Put undies on her. When she poos on herself make her help u clean it… It works
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For my great granddaughter I got a pack of different color Mardi gras beads and if she went poop on potty I let her pick out the color beads she wanted. No poop no beads. It really worked.
My son did the same thing. He would poop on potty sometimes and most times hide somewhere to poop in underwear from age 2.5-3. He slowly got better and it all of the sudden just started pooping in potty every time now at age 3.3! He just needed to get the hang of it
Read the book oh crap potty training
No more pull ups except at night
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Relax mama. She will do it when she is ready not when you are ready. To put it into perspective the best advice I ever got from my grandmother in law was " ive never met a teen graduating from college who hasnt been potty trained" or " ive never been to a wedding where the bride still needed her binki" and if you think about it like that its nothing but a thing. You and your daughter will get through this.
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I suggest you just keep asking her if she has to poop when you see the signs and offer her to poop on the potty. Don’t stress it or pressure it. Just keep saying things like it seems like you might have to poop, would you like to use the big potty? If she says no thats ok. Eventually give her a naked day and lots of fruit and water and when she has to poop get her to the potty. Mine refused and screamed for the diaper but I got him on the potty mid poop and once he realized it wasn’t scary, he was interested.
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That’s the hardest part of potty training…it took awhile for any of my kids to poop on the toliet
I had the same problem hide in corners to poop but pee like a champ…unfortunately i have no advice i think it traumatized me i have no recollection of the solution 
My daughter would hide to go in her pull-up and the hiding turned out to be the key. She wouldn’t go if I was standing there watching her, but would go once I left the room so I waited outside the bathroom.
I don’t have that issue YET cause my son is only six months BUT I have a friend who told me she would let her son go commando and when he had to poop he wouldn’t rely on the pull up to catch it so he HAD to tell her he had to poop so they would run over to the toilet and go poop… the only thing is if your baby doesn’t communicate with you on that then you’ll be cleaning up poop 
My 3 year old physically can’t poop on the toilet and he will only poop in a pull up other than that he is fully potty trained they all take different things differently my daughter was a year old and using the potty all the time but my 3 year won’t I’ve been told to let him do it in his own time and let him feel comfortable being able to do it
My daughter will be 3 next month. I worked with her off and on but didn’t want to force her. She basically woke up one day and potty trained herself. Her twin brothers will be 6 in march. Same thing with them. I wanted them to be potty trained by the time my daughter got here. We made it with 4 months to spare. But I think they were easy because they had each other. I just finalized my divorce with her dad. She tells me when she has to go potty but he basically has to re potty train her at his house. She wont always tell him so he gets frustrated and puts a pull up on her. Thankfully when she come back home she jumps right back into underwear all day and all night. I show her I’m excited and proud and at the beginning would take her to either sheetz or dollar General since theyre both very close to our house and let her pick out candy or a toy. And when I go to the bathroom with her, we’ve made it a game and are very quiet waiting to hear her pee and then we both put excited faces on and cheer and sing. The time will come. Be patient and good luck!
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My oldest wouldn’t train unless she was in big girl panties. Since urs is waiting I wouldn’t put a pull up on her. It’s impossible 2 keep an eye on them 100% of the time but when u notice shes done it do u dump it in the toilet? Or just clean it up? If u can try dumping it in the toilet and explain 2 her that big girls do both in the potty.
I can’t offer any other advice that what has already been said. But that reminded me of this video. And I’ll be honest I laughed entirely way too hard watching it.
I found this app worked
Sit on potty longer. Read books.
She just isn’t ready yet. My first born did the same with holding her poop and not wanting to poop on the potty. After I took the pressure off her and gave her some time she was ready. Be patient momma. She will be using the potty and growing up before you know it
Mine daughter refused until it was her idea. Then within 2 weeks we were done with diapers.
How old? My son will be 2 and I let him decide when he’s ready. When he has a dry diaper on he lets me know when he needs to pee, but after it gets dirty he doesn’t let me know. He’s also scared of the big boy potty, so I bought him a trainer and he sits on it before every shower and every time he tells me peepee or poopoo. He pees, but doesn’t poop yet, but I’m not rushing it
I was having this issue with my son. He literally would go out a pull-up on to poop & would hide in the corner to poop. My pediatrician recommended that we move his pooping location. He still put a pull-up on, but I made sure he’d go poop in the bathroom. He could have privacy and poop in his pull-up in the room we go potty in. Then we slowly transitioned to him pooping on the potty by himself. I’d peek in, but he literally wanted privacy, because he was nervous. It took a while before transitioning to the toilet & after I got a stool he had no problem. He didn’t like his feet dangling. 
Give it time & patience. We did a sticker chart and after 5 consecutive days on pooping he got a toy he really wanted.
Depending on her age I’d say its normal alot of children wont want to poop on the potty right away my daughter peed from the start at 2 but wanted a diaper/pull up on to poop for several weeks she would ask to put it on scwat in a corner then immediately want it off by the time she was 2 and a half she was completely potty trained she’ll go when she feels more comfortable or confident about it
It’s gotta be their idea or it’ll be plain frustration for both of you. When they’re ready, they about figure it out themselves.
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Ny kid wasn’t potty trained until 4 I think she just didn’t want too and it was too frustrating trying to force something that just wasn’t happening. I’ve actually had my kids doctor show me a lot of research about pushing too hard and the reality of what age kids are actually potty trained
If she is peeing no problem on the potty that is a great… get rid of the pull ups all together…(that may be confusing her) Don’t let her hide away from you… if you notice she is up and leaving the room., chances are she needs to go,put her on the potty keep her there a little longer…(how old is she?) She will get it soon enough just need patience and keep encouraging her…she will be a big kid in no time.lots of books about the potty and even kid videos about potty may help
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Children do things when they are ready. Most children are potty trained before they are 5. Try not to stress about it.
Regular underwear. No pull ups even at night. It might get messy or it might not. Just be prepared for a messy couple of days but my guess is she will not go in the regular underwear.
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Put undies on first and then the pull up on the outside. This keeps the floors dry if she has an accident, but it won’t be absorbed like wearing just the pull up.
Have you tried letting her pick out big girl panties? That helped me. Also it may just be too early. 
I have a friend who her daughter was potty trained at 1 with no issues. I had one at 2 and one that waited until she was 3. Nothing wrong with it.
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Put panties on. It’s more work for you. But they hate having it on their skin once they go
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Potty trained three girls like that
Don’t force it. My oldest was potty trained by 3 but wouldn’t poop on the potty til almost 4. I took pull away thinking he’d use the toilet and that made it worse. He’d end up really constipated. I quit trying to force it and one day he just did it on his own.
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I have 3 girls, with the first 2 I just told them about the baby coming and how the baby could do anything, but she could. That worked for them. My youngest however still has issues with not pooping on the potty. She is now 5, goes to preschool for 3 hours and has no issues. She just doesn’t want to stop doing whatever it is she is doing to go. She did good for awhile but then all the stress of covid happened and she regressed. It will come with time, it is frustrating, yes but it will come. Just breathe Momma, get thru the hard stuff and show her just how proud of her you are when it does happen.
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Sounds like you have a lot going on in your lives. My now 12 yr old daughter would stool hold because she knew it was something she could control and she had been thru some major trauma prior. It took this single momma time and patience to get it all worked out. Try to give her a book while she is on the potty so she doesn’t think about pooping or something to just distract her. Just a suggestion it’s hard to know at that age what is going through their head and what the reason is for what they are doing. Best of Luck!!!
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My daughter did this. I finally told her that she either had to poop in the potty or clean it up herself if she goes in her pullup. Same goes if she poops in her underwear. She now goes poop on the potty
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Have her every 5 to 10 min for only a few min at a time. Don’t make it seem forceful.
I started potty training when my son turned 1. I also had a new baby so i quickly gave up because it was hard always doing bathroom runs and hin not being very verbal. Anyways i am one of the lucky ones. He just turned 21 months and he decided last week, he is done with diapers. He still isnt very verbal but he points and grunts and says popo when he needs the bathroom. We are also 1 week into no diapers at bed time and he has only had one accident in the middle of the night. I just know that when they decide its time it is so easy. Trying to force it takes time and comes with stubburness.
Going to the bathroom non stop becomes redundant. They probably dont want to keep sitting on the toilet so they hide.
Patience.
Lots of it,kids do things when they are ready.
I also really struggled with my 3year old, I let him watch videos on YouTube of kids using the potties…
Too no avail, one day he just went there all by himself and called me.
Mummy I want to pee, and hes been using the pottie.ever since then, just refusing to poop in it.
But I’m sure that will come with time, so im.notforcing it.hang in there.
Your little one might suprise you too😄
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She’s not ready. Just keep praising the pees on the potty for now.
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My daughters loved watching the YouTube video princess polly, about toilet training. Could buy a sticker book too
My sister told my niece that if she didn’t go potty, then she wouldn’t be able to go to school. Huntley started going in the toilet that day.
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We have carpet all thru our house so when we were potty training our daughter we put underwear on first and then the pull up and it did wonders! She was good on peeing on the potty but not pooping. But once she figured out that she didn’t like how her underwear felt when it was “dirty” she caught on pretty quick to go on the potty for pooping too
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Does she have her own potty you can move into the living room?
My son couldn’t be forced into anything. It took some serious issues with pacifiers for us to realize it. I kind of just followed his lead and praised him when he went to the potty. And little by little he did it on his own including giving up pull ups at night. He was fully potty trained with no night accidents before he turned 4.
We have a 3 yr old who will only se when we go to pee he hasnt popped on it at all he tells us he has to pee but won’t unless we do he dint like his underwear at all nd dont wanna give up the pullups untold her to stop his drinks at night an hour before bed so hell always wake up dry nd not have accidents but he still wets plenty threw out the night even cutting off liquids he wets enuf to wake up nd tell us he needs changed I have no clue what to do with him I don’t remember my kids being this hard o pity train but that was about13 years ago
I used to bring mines travel potty into the living room sometimes. She was really stubborn & didn’t want to stop playing to go potty. This helped her to be more cooperative. It’s okay if she takes awhile, she’ll get there. Every kid develops at their own pace
i didn’t take away my daughters dummy until she was 2 and a half, and when it was time to potty train i didn’t rush. i got told to start her before 3 and she peed herself a lot because she wasn’t ready and didn’t fully understand it to her own capacity. i stopped trying a while and when i moved into my new flat i put her potty in the living room and every time she did a wee in it she got 3 of her favourite small sweets. i didn’t really make a big deal out of the potty itself we just knew it was there for when she needed it and then when she needed to go toilet she did it without any hassle or fuss. she didn’t poop for a while on the potty and so i had to put her in nappies sometimes to give her a chance to go because i was worried that she would hold it in and give herself a tummy ache but she pooped in it soon enough randomly and she was well excited. i’d say if you have wooden floors, let her walk around in knickers and let her know her potty is near and that she cant poop in her knickers because she isn’t wearing a nappy right now. tell her if pooping in the toilet while you hold her on it makes her feel better then do that. my daughter done a month on the potty and then straight on the toilet as normal and has been perfect ever since. she’s still peeing in the night with a nappy on, and even with encouragement just remember they will only truly get the hang of things when they are ready mentally and physically don’t stress too much over it. my advice is don’t let it take over your day and become too much of a routine, have the potty local like in a room you and daughter are always in eg. the living room maybe, and let her know she’s welcome to use it and if she does she can have a couple sweets or her favourite drink or whatever but keep it casual if you can afford to mess wise x