We used temporary tattoos … they were a walking poster board … so proud to tell everyone how manny times they went potty … I took them to pick out their own tattos … it worked pretty good for us
You divorcing and now seeing another man is chaotic and something she has no control over. Pooping is something she can control. She may not fully potty train until life settles down for her, and is something she can feel at ease in
I’m old school… make her clean her self up. If it gets on her hand remind her where she should go potty. Don’t give in!
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My daughter basically potty trained herself. We tried and tried and NOTHING worked. I finally let it go. She was 3 when she started using the potty. One day she just did it by herself and it went from there. She done it when she was ready. Every child is different, so if you try and try & nothing works, just let her do it on her own when she is ready. Of course still ask her if she needs to go, etc. but don’t push her to sit on the potty.
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Oh crap potty training book or also on audio. Worked great first 2 weeks sucked but stuck with it he does awesome.
Don’t force it. She’ll start pooping when she’s ready. This is something she can control. You can keep asking her though
Get rid of the pull ups. They are holding her back. The only method that worked with my boys was the naked method. 3 days and they only wore diapers at night. During the day put them up out of sight out of mind. Don’t give her the choice to poop in a diaper.
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A majic mirror opposite the toilet to majic any scary feels away
Oh and sing poo poo poo 
No pullups, to undeewear! If when wearing underwear if they still go, let them wear a long shirt, and go cammando. Might sound odd, but 2 of mine wouldn’t potty train, even with pan is on. I waited years letting them ‘do it when theyre ready’. And most will grow into things naturally with coaxing and reminders. But wearing nothing, having no protection, something about that makes them understand ok i need to go to the potty lol. It still may take a couple more accidents BUT that did the job quickly for my 2 rebels. Good luck!
A lot of kids struggle with pooping on the potty for a number of different reasons, it could be a control thing, psychological, or maybe she’s not ready🤷 but when they’ve got one done and not the other I usually start with constant reminders, encouragement (which it sounds like you’re doing great), and when she poops in her pants/pull-up have her help you dump it out of the pull-up and into the potty. It helps make a connection, and re-inforces that poo belongs in the potty.
Ditch the pull ups. She most likely won’t like going in her underwear! For my daughter, it became a battle of the wills. She liked to hide too and is a private pooper. I would literally follow her around and NOT give her the time to hide and go. If she tried to hide, off to the bathroom we went! If I used the bathroom, she was with me. I even put her in the shower with me or waited until someone could watch her. It took 5 days but I won the battle and she used the potty (she had peeing down just fine, just number two was the problem). After that, she never once went in her undies. And I got a bag of dollar store toys. She got to pick one for pee and two for poop when she used the potty. That worked for a while and then she started doing it without the prizes.
It is possible that this is a reaction to all the changes in her life. It is the one thing that she has control over. You have great advice here from others, and if I’m thinking down the right path, as things smooth out in her life, she will figure out that going to the bathroom instead of in her pants is a form of control that she prefers.
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Don’t make it a big deal. My son was the same , it will happen but again Don’t make it a big deal .
My niece did this too, and from what I hear, a lot of other toddlers have got the peeing in the potty down, but they hide when they poop in their diapers. They know what to do, I think they’re not ready for it yet (?). Keep encouraging, when you clean her up have her throw away the dirty diaper - tell her it is her mess, so she needs to clean it up - and have her wash her hands. Then remind her that poop goes in the potty, show her, and I’d say it couldn’t hurt to have her sit on the toilet afterwards either. Eventually she will do all her business in the potty.
There is also a dvd produced by PBS called “Potty Time”, it has several episodes from different PBS shows that teach the children how and what to do when they need to go potty.
I had to just put big girl panties on my oldest when she was potty training bc she did the same thing. The pull ups are comfortable…who doesn’t wanna be comfy when they poop?! She got the point after two poops in oanties
I totally bribed mine with a big toy. She just turned two and wanted a make up table with real make up. I told her if she potty trained I’d buy it for her. Two weeks later she got it.
She might not be ready but with both of my kids I put M&Ms in the toilet and told them after they went potty they would get an M&M after washing their hands.
Good Luck. I have all girls and it’s hard
Got my son potty trained around age 2, do not use pullups it’s just like a diaper. Put them in undies. Use Constant reminders and remember to encourage every little progress ! It gets frustrating Best of luck.
I have girls too but I also thought the same thing and had the same goals potty trained by 2! and my oldest would say “I spilt” we had so many accidents it got so stressful I figured she wasnt ready and a little after she turned 3 she said “I wear big girl undies now and go on the potty no more diapers” so we tried again and no accidents since not even at night I never had to wash her sheets from an accident and my kids go to bed with a sippy cup! I choose not to stress over potty training and she knew when she was ready! Good luck tho mama I’m sure it’s worked for a lot of toddlers I guess my tip was just not to stress to much about it! And you’ll figure out if pull-ups work best or not some kids go in them because it feels just like a diaper others do like that they work like undies!
I’m potty training my little boy at the moment and he is 2 1/2. We have the potty and have taught him to push his digit down so he doesnt pee everywhere! We also have a sticker chart with loads of different stickers so when he does go he can choose his own sticker and he gets so excited. We have been doing this just over a week and there have been a few accidents but dont make a big deal over accidents it can have a negative effect. After a week of him going we bought him a little present and told him he was such a big boy now and seems to do the trick. The only time I use nappies is nap time and bed time. He has underwear, but every time he has worn underwear at the moment he has had an accident so we let him run free with nothing on the bottom
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Wait until he shows signs he is ready to start. Teach him to stand to pee otherwise it’s another step in training.
Got my grandson a urinal and he loved also had a Thomas musical potty which he loved within a week he was taking himself off to the toilet , only start if he is showing signs that he is ready to start potty training
Hi mom! I have a girl but consistency is key which we all know. I used pull-ups for a very short time and that’s because my daughter associated them with being like a diaper. She didn’t mind going to the bathroom in them but she took her underwear very serious and didn’t want them getting wet so I completely stopped buying pull-ups and went str8 to what I knew she would not want to get “dirty” and I would reward her when she told me she had to go potty. Kids love rewards! Worked for me. She was officially potty trained by 1 1/2. Hope that helps!
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Is he showing signs of readiness?
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I sat my son backwards on the big potty. Got him used to the direction and aiming game. If he didn’t want to really sit he was allowed a dry erase marker to draw on the toilet lid (just wipes off). But kids will give signs when ready, like staying dry for extended periods, playing or watching how the toilet works etc. Consistency is huge as well as praise for the little successes. Good Luck!
Granted, I have girls so it’s different ( I’m not sure if it’s harder or easier), but sticker charts work wonders! I literally made a giant grid on poster board, each box represented a day and didn’t let her have a sticker unless she hadn’t had an accident all day. It took from September through most of November. When she went three consecutive weeks of no accident, she got a big present that she knew about and saw. We put it up high so it was in eye sight but she couldn’t play with it. (Our Generation doll). She finally got it! When she started having accidents again, I took the doll away until she stopped having accidents. She has now been accident free since (even during nap and night time)! Pull ups I could go either way with. We have them and started with them at the beginning, but I think the kids just get confused with them. Just a waste of money if they still treat the pull ups like a diaper. She wears underwear all the time now though. Also, we did a little silly dance when she would go on the toilet. She got a kick out of it. My mom would give her mini marshmallows after she would go on the toilet. She loved that too! We bought training seats to go ON the toilet (mainly so she didn’t fall in). Would recommend just training on the real toilet instead of a little one for them. I didn’t want another mess to have to clean up! Best of luck!
I potty trained two year olds at a daycare for 5 years and was able to get my son potty trained two days after turning 2. My method is not using pull ups because they’re basically diapers and the kids don’t really know the difference. I go straight to underwear, that way if they have an accident they feel it and usually don’t like the feeling. At first I take them potty every 15 minutes. Eventually you will get them to the potty just in time and they’re I’ll accidentally pee in the potty and you have to explode with toy. I also give the kids treats for going potty and let them know about the treats too. They only get ONE for pee and TWO for poop. They don’t get any for trying but I always tell them I’m proud of them for trying and they get to try again soon! Eventually this helps them control their bladder so you can move the times in between going potty to 20 minutes, then eventually they will let you know when they have to go. Every kid is different but this has aways been my method. I hope this helps! Good luck! 
Also, for the boy question, I had them sitting first using a donut seat on top of the toilet. After they have gotten the hang of going potty I would ask them if they want to try to go pee standing up like a big boy and eventually they chose to.
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I found nappy pants really helped the process (terry lined, cotton outside but plastic type core). It meant they felt wet. We also did the treats system.
It is hard. I’ve had a potty since baby was a year . Most I’ve been able to associate it with is the sound pssssss . Now I have only gotten one little turd . The rest he refused. So now at 17 months I am gonna try and just sit him on big potty after I go . Start with his diaper on just to get use to it. There is no easy or simple way . Even in the most easy and simple ways . Combination of timing and patience and then being ready .
My best advice is to wait until he’s ready. If he’s not ready it will take just as long as if youd waited and cause more issues in the long run
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I have potty trained boys and girls both, I never used pull ups unless we were out in town. I have found it better to sit them on the big potty with a child seat insert to get them used to being on the big potty (your not gonna find a potty chair while you are out and about for them to use). Littles that get used to a potty chair tend to be afraid to sit on the big potty. I didn’t stand my boys up till they were fully potty trained. One step at a time, get them to consistently use the potty before introducing them to standing or urinals.
With one of my boys, nothing was working. He did not want to consistently use the potty for nothing. One day I was cleaning the bathroom and put one of those lysol toilet bowl cleaners in the toilet that turned to water blue. Well he peed in the potty a little and he noticed that the water turned green when he was done, and boom thats all it took I literally just had to keep a toilet bowl cleaner in the toilet for him.
I heard boys are harder (notnsure as I only have girls) but I do know that I know people with boys that use targets in the toilet …example cereal
children do not have control of their sphincter muscles before age 2-3. its best to wait until they are ready. parents who claim their child is potty trained under 2 are the ones who are trained to when their child needs to potty. not the other way around. its also best to teach boys to sit down to.start with, if the toilet seat where to come down on their peepee it will traumatize them and it will make it harder to potty train them
Wait until he’s ready. I tried pushing my son to do it and it just lead to us both being frustrated. My son decided at 3 that he was ready and it’s been great! No diapers or pull ups are given except for bed time.
Take him every half hour. Have him sit down and try to go potty. When he gets it reward him with candy toys. My son was 4 and i potty trained him in like a week by setting a timer to go potty.
I am in the process of potty training my 3 year old. You have to wait till they are ready. And my 5 year old still has accidents and wears a pull up to bed. Just because as parents we are ready to stop changing and buying diapers does not mean they are ready. And I am potty training 2 boys and getting ready to have my third boy in may.
Every child is different. I suggest keeping a potty right next to regular toilet and get the child familiar with it. A potty book can help. Lots of praise for trying to go. Be consistent with routine such as sit on potty every 30 to 49 minutes after a drink. Good luck!
We used the folding seats for the regular toilet, so he’d be used to going wherever we were.
Then we got a kid toilet from Target (looks like a real one) and we put him on it whenever we went.
My son liked to pee on colored cereal, like targets. I had him choose his own potty seat too for big jobs. Also I gave him small treats for going potty and a little bigger treat for bigger jobs.
I have a boy and girl. The way I got both kids to train was taking away pull-ups and diapers altogether - go straight in underwear with their favorite character on it - I called them their “friends” and we don’t pee on our friends. Took my son 1 day (he was doing great at daycare prior to this but home he never would go) he never had accidents (day or night$ and took my daughter about 3 days to understand the concept but she had more daily accidents.
The urinal was the game changer for us! Also, probably gonna catch shit for this, but when my son pooped in his pants I made him stand in his clothes for a min or 2 in the bathtub so he would realize he hated the feeling- NEVER pooped his pants again! And very few accidents after we got the frog urinal, guessing it was the novelty lol
Find a way for him to be around age peers who are already trained as well as whatever advice you get here. He will copy his buddies. We had a pile of training pants, a small mop and a laundry basket…we told our children ANYONE CAN HAVE AN ACCIDENT…take the wet pants off, put a dry pair on, use the mop if you need to, go play.
I raised 3 kids and never even thought about starting this until each turned 2-years of age. I used a Potty chair (with a protector shield) on it. During the day…the child wore normal underwear and pull-ups at night. I also stopped all water intake right after dinner…and made sure he or she emptied their bladder before going to bed.
I think the most important thing is the child has to be mature enough to cooperate- both mentally and physically. What you want may not be what happens…just be patient and watch for indications from the child he wants to use a potty or commode and is frankly tired of diapers and wants to move up to “big boy” underpants. Trying to force a child could lead to hangups that last into his adult years!
Wait till he can at least tell you mommy I popped or something like that
Is daddy in the picture? If yes, he needs to show him how
tell him to aim at the cheerios
Don’t push him, go at his own pace. I took diaper off and every 30 mins I TELL him “it’s time to go potty.” I don’t ask, I tell him it’s time. After about 3 hours, he got the hang of peeing in potty. I have a little seat that goes on top of potty so he can sit on it to poop also. He gets a potty prize for using potty. Like 2 small marshmallows. After the 1st day learning, he now sleeps in a pull up. He wears big boy underwear during the day unless he sleeps or travels in car, then a pull up. He hates feeling wet pee or being dirty so that’s a positive. It took him about a year to catch on fully. Now, he is underwear all the time except a pull-up only when he sleeps. I do NOT use pull ups during daytime when he is awake because he thinks it’s a crutch and ok to pee in a pull up. So, only pull up at sleep time. We started training at 2 and he is now 3. It took a while for poop but he finally just got the hang of it one day last week. You have to make sure he is ready to start though. Don’t go by other children ages of when they started.
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