I am newly engaged and just want some advice or tips on living with your significant other.
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Never go to bed angry.
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Make sure you keep communication open and discuss things if they upset you or him. Have conversations about the household chores, etc so nobody assumes
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I donât agree with never going to bed angry. Go to bed angry, sleep on it.
People do and say hurtful things when theyâre angry.
Space, communication and trust are key
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Keep a separate bank account in your name
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Its give and take,pick youâre battles
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Take a road trip just the 2 of you. See how you do traveling & 1 on 1 navigating.
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If its not going to matter in 5 minutes, 5 hrs, or 5 years, let it go. People ponder on things that donât matter.
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Iâve been married 20 years with a short engagement before hand⊠Never lose who you are as a person. Donât settle because you think it makes him happy. Be true to who you are as a person.
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Team work will always make the dream work
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My husband and I didnât move in with each other until after we got married. Things are a lot different now since moving in together. I still love him unconditionally and would marry him again every time if faced with a redo. I just wish we would have lived together prior to marriage to get to know each otherâs every day habits better.
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Give each other time to learn each otherâs routines. Specially if you have never lived together. You never really know someone until you live with them so be patient with each other. Have a clear understanding of how finances and major decisions are going to be handled. Learn how each one copes with anger and sadness. Some people like to walk away when they are mad while others just want to argue right then and there. Learn each otherâs styles and work through it. Most important of all donât force anything. If you see once you live together things are not what you want, donât be afraid to walk away.
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Let the little things go that bother u about them⊠It literally doesnt matter. Learn each others love language. Learn to communicate with each other⊠Even if it means thru texts or hand written or verbal.
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Pick your battles. Donât go to bed angry listen to each other and communication keep it open. Trust is a good one too.
Communicate! Communicate respectfully! Communicate often! Communicate how they understand! And communicate some more! Also be open to receive communication and admit you might not always be right
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Always kiss good night
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Remember that when youâre in a fight, itâs not you against him. Itâs you AND him against the problem.
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Learning each others love language is super important
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Talk about the little stuff. Like wat temp it should be in home etc lol
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Realistic expectations!
Donât make assumptions, keep expectations reasonable and make all communications clear and unambiguous. If something is bothering you, donât let it stew. Understand arguments happen and arenât the end of the world. Donât do anything you would get mad at the other person for doing.
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Will send you a sympathy card for your wedding.
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When things they do really start to upset you, ask yourself one question. If they died, would you miss it?
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You have your quirks and so will they, always be open for conversation and compromise, your a team at all times NEVER against each other 
congratulations on your engagement dear
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Never, and I mean never, share a bank account.
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My favorite quote to live by in marriage: Make sacrifices and make them generously. 
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Make sure you guys pick up after yourselves bcuz neither is each otherâs maid. Like be Vocal/agree that to throw away own junk food bags(chips/cookies/unfinished food)/pick up own messes & help with chores(so many people were raised to be slobs & unappreciative). To wash own dishes or take turns washing dishes. Both should do laundry and not leave dirty clothes lying around. If you keep the place tidy itâs a lot easier to clean. Also itâs more fun when both partners cook together,play music while doing that cuz itâs great bonding time.
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Choose your battles. Not everything is worth fighting over. But set boundaries and limits. Expectations. Youâre not each others parents. Youâre partners. Youâre not gonna love everything they do.
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Share the billsâŠbut donât have joint anythingâŠtreat each other with live xnd respectâŠkeep your problems , issues, arguments between the two of youâŠdont keep secretsâŠ
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Ask your yourself if this will matter in 3 weeks⊠if not, let it go. Also get your own tube of toothpaste 
you are on the same team⊠you were raised in different homes - ask/discuss, donât assume.
The hardest thing for me was constantly being questioned about my spontaneous runs to Target. âWhere are you going? Again?â Lol
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Have your own checking accountâŠ
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Theyâll drive you crazy 
. On a serious note, communication is good. Always talk things out.
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Pick your battles. I think this is a huge one most people donât get.
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Unplug the modem 
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Good thing youâre just engaged. Donât start making solid wedding plans until youâve lived together at least a couple yrs.
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Separate tubes of toothpaste
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Remember that first year living with someone can be hard. Learning their quirks and finding out different habits of theirs that might not be your favorite. Just be open and honest and choose your battles wisely.
Compromise, choose your battles, be the partner you want them to be first before you set your expectations for them. Let nitpicky things go. Talk things out, make sure you both do chores around the house.
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Donât try and change the other person. It will NEVER work.
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Just be kind to each other and stay friends.
Run, donât do it. You might not be the same way but I donât like to be questioned about what I did and where I went and who I talked to. I think itâs being too nosey
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Daily Patience
Daily Forgiveness
Yours, mine, & our bank accounts
Honesty
Pick your battles if it isnât a deal breaker let it go
Plan date nights as well as ME time
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Remember, you both have your own ways of doing things. Anything today you find cute will irritate you in five years. If it irritates you now, in five years it will make you crazy. Learn to get over it.
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Donât!!! Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. Men need a challenge and a reason to be a man. If heâs not willing then youâll are not available. No games just facts
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If something small is bothering u talk about it asap donât let it build up. Discuss any problem with each other and not outsiders. Never go to bed angry always communicate the day with each other and strive to do better together each day. This is a long and fruitful journey you are on and you have to be partners, itâs not always 50/50 sometimes you have to pick up slack for each other and thatâs OK but if u find urself feeling like u are the one making all the effort speak on it. Itâs not always gonna be hard. those good days are what u live for but those bad moments help build ur life. Treat Each day as a blessing and wake up each morning asking urself what you can do to make your partner smile and feel appreciated. Congratulations on a long and prosperous union. May your life be filled with joy and when itâs not may u have the strength to push threw and come out stronger together.
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Listen to each other
Everyone needs their space at times
Talk about what temperature you want it to be at
Figure out bills and how you guys are paying them (you pay some, they pay some, put all money 50/50 etc)
FIGURE OUT A CHORE LIST! Who does what, what day etc trust me thatâs most of our fights (lived together for 3 years before marriage)
Donât be afraid to ask for help, mentally, physically, emotionally.
Make time for each other, not just cuddling on the couch but going out and doing something
Fav quote from a song I try to live byâŠ
âBe a best friend, tell the truth, and overuse I love you
Go to work, do your best, donât outsmart your common sense
Never let your prayinâ knees get lazy
And love like crazyâ
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Etitique says Itâs the man who asks the woman. And, its the woman who sets the date. SoâŠdid you set a date yet?
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Set boundaries and be firm with them!! Make sure that ground rules regarding bills, cleaning, etc. are established and upheld and if theyâre not speak up!! Donât compromise your happiness just to âkeep the peace.â
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If you feel you really must get married. Be prepared for the fact that its not easy. You dont know someone till you live with them and you will both change in years to come.
If id known myself back then as I do now id never have married âŠthe only things I dont regret are my kids
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Plan how chores and finances will be handled. Are you going to split finances 50/50? Are you going to put everything into a joint account, keep separate accounts, have separate accounts and a joint account for shared expenses (my recommendation.) Never go to bed with out saying âI love youâ even after you just had a fight. Expect things to change as you settle into life together. Communication is the most important thing, men think different and will often misunderstand what you are trying to say, or he may say something you will take wrong before fighting about what was said figure or a way to explain it better or differently.
Should probably move in before getting married. You really donât know a person until you have to live with them. Communication goes a long ways. If something they do is bothering you just tell them. Pick and choose your battles wisely no need to argue over the littlest things 24/7. Probably should talk about how youâre going to handle bills and whatever else right away. Compromising also goes a long way. Good luck
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Divide household chores equally right away. This is a huge one!
Communication is the key to healthy and happy relationships.
Donât sweat the small stuff but donât let yourself get taken advantage of.
Pool all the money and pay all the bills out of the same account. Sit down and work out finances together on a regular basis. Ask eachother before making a purchase that is more than what you have both decided is more than normal.
Treat eachother with respect.
Go on dates often.
Work at your relationship every single day.
Donât forget to continue to do the little thingsâŠlike leaving love notes for eachother, spending quality time together.
Always keep separate bank accounts just incase something happens- one never knows 
The first few years may be tough. Donât give up. If you love each other it will get easier. It happened for us after about 7 years. Iâm so glad we stuck it out!!
Stephanie Campbell 
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Simple: donât start washing his clothesâŠit will go down hill from thereâŠlol. really ⊠you donât want to be a full time maid
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Itâs going to be the most hardest thing you have done. You both have to get used to the way you both do things, both of your annoying little habits
Number One Rule: Donât let outside opinions in to your relationship.
Talk with your significant other only. Discuss things even if they are small things. Donât hold anything in. And when discussing something that bothers you do not have an attitude until it is required. Donât be scared to have conversations. Be open as possible. But mostly donât take advice from others unless you are 100% sure you canât handle it yourself and even then take everything said very carefully before using any advice from others.
Just be with your person and enjoy life. And just be Open.
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Discuss expectations. Realized and unrealized !
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Are u engaged to a man? Heads up ⊠theyâll never be able to find annnnything ⊠even when u tell them exactly where it is ⊠even if itâs right infront of them
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Have expectations set clearly before you move in. Discuss everything that bothers you both and always be prepared to compromise
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Carla Marie Goncalves isnt this the truth! My fiance usually finds it when i tell him exactly where it is but theres always those times when i tell him ti look somewhere and he does and cant find it and i look and its right there we just laugh it off though
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My advice is talk about finances up front thatâs a big deal breaker for a lot of people. My fiancĂ© and I have a set plan and it works for us. Also, if you guys have kids from previous relationships discuss how u plan to discipline them and if you will be disciplining the others child. My fiancĂ© and I help each other with everything so house hold chores have never been an issue. I help him outside he helps me on the inside.
One role Iâve learned is itâs okay to go to bed mad. Sometimes you need to sleep on it and save each other the hurtful words.
Know what battles to pick but donât hold it in until you explode and it turns into a big fight.all in all you guys have to find what works for you. But living together you will find out alot about a person.
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Best thing to do is talk to youâre significant other. Everyone does things differently.
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Before marriage talk about IF you want kids, how many, how do you want to raise your kids, Billâs. Think now before moving in together who will pay for what? Joint or separate bank accounts? Will all Billâs be split down the middle 50/50. Now is the time for a lot of good communication. My advice is to talk to each other about everything. Know what each of you want and expect in life.
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Lay down your expectations of eachother! And talk about how finances will fall.
Donât go to sleep mad!
Keep God first.
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Tips? Itâs hell on earth. Good luck.
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Congratulations on your first child!!!
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make sure he uses his own toothbrush
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Respect each other,make sure thereâs no bosses but equal partners donât try to change each other and always talk things through
Never go to bed angry.
Always kiss goodnight, before work, after work, as much as possible.
Be patient with each other.
Always communicate about everything.
Respect.
Tell the truth.
Lots of sex.
Date nights are a must.
And last one which I love my husband has done it the last 9 years is he sends me a super sweet text every morning before he starts work. Starts my day off feeling super loved!
Congrats to you both! Marriage is great but also takes lots of work on both ends!
Be an active listener
Put your partner first (even before kids)
Make time for sex end dating
Itâs okay to go to bed angry -sometimes you need to sleep on it. You will stay up all night trying to sort it out
That argument may seem like the end of everything but itâs not
Praise in public and correct in private
Have relationship mentors that you all can go to
Keep your hurtful words and your hands to yourself
Discuss everything before (religion, finances, and chid reading)
You will fight and argue about dumb things, never go to bed angry with each other. Itâs both of you moving into each others space, compromise is key. If something bothers you say something , donât let it fester - little things build up into a whole argument that couldâve been avoided, at first itâll be slightly hard because your used to having your space and their used to having their space, it gets better !
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Make sure you have your financial structure of your household and who pays what in order. Make sure you guys talk about whoâs cleaning what. And make sure that youâre ready to handle another person in your space.
When either of you are talking about any issues make sure to let the other know if youâre just venting or wanting to solve the problem. It will save you from having sooooo many arguments
Be sure you can talk to each other. Talking is important. I have been married 44years and my husband and I can still talk to each other about everything.
Be the real you from the start
Remember you are fighting FOR each other not AGAINST each other
Keep everything open. Communication is key and make sure you pick and choose your battles. Stay sillyđ
Keep communication a priority. Spend some time daily, weekly, etc. to talk about things that may be bothering each of you or potential problems. Itâs so important to address those issues so they donât build resentment.
They are new to this just like you! You can not expect anything unless you express yourself that you want things done this way or that way and vice versa. Yâall are not mind readers. Expect nothing just express how you like things done or what role you would like to play vs what role you would like him to play. Ei takin out trash, dishes or that you do things together when full or needing to be done. Donât fight over small things but instead talk things over to express feelings about what ever the situation is! Donât expect him to mop the floors when you donât even ask, heâs not trained (haha sorry but ya know) to your needs at your home together yet and everyone plays roles in their home. They are now shifting for both of you! Do it together.
Tip: live with them before you get married to see if you can tolerate each other 24/7 lolz
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Lol Buy a townhouse and each live on your own side.
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Make sure you have your own hobbies and make time for each of you to have âme time.â
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Set expectations! On housework and grocery shopping and everything in between
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buy the house next doorâŠclose enough, far enough away!
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Donât sweat the small stuff and always talk about the big stuff.
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Be a team, work through things together, you donât have to agree on everything but if you have the same life goals youâll get there. Donât sweat the small stuff. Count to 10 before you speak when youâre angry & think whether itâs worth it. If itâs not going to change anything, is it worth a row?
Communication is the key, talk about anything thatâs bothering you so it doesnât get to the stage you lose your temper.
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Talk, talk and talk some more, be prepared to forgive the little things, never forget you are you, and never, never accept bad behaviour, from cheating to violence.
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Always check bathroom before sitting lol
Try not to kill each other?
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Communicate and set boundaries!
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Itâs a partnership you both need to help each other
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My husband said be tolerantâ:joy:
If he wants a nosh, then give him one
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Try it first. Communicate and set expectations. Otherwise, it could be disaster in the waiting