The relationship may have been a mistake but the baby girl was meant to be. Even if not for you, for someone else that is longing to be a mother.
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Just because the relationship wwas a mistake, doesnt mean she will be. You should sit down and have a very serious conversation with your now boyfriend
maybe decide it’s a viable option, but wait till you see her. that’s the best time of when you’ll know
My son just married a wonderful woman in July. She has 2 adorable children from another marriage (divorced). He has been a wonderful “father” to these children since they started dating 5 years ago & is in the process of checking into adopting them. They ARE my grandchildren! If your boyfriend wants to step up as this precious child’s father, HURRAY FOR HIM! Fatherhood starts with being there with the mom during all the days during and following pregnancy. SHE IS NOT A MISTAKE! God bless you with your decision. <3
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Giving a baby up will require the bio dad to sign his rights away as well .
Deep breath Momma. I know it’s hard to see what to do right now. Emotions are high, decisions can make us question, and pasts are never easy to deal with.
However, that’s what you Man is for. To support you, and comfort you, and from this post, it sounds like you haven’t told him how your emotions are jumping. Talk to him. Ask him for advice.
Be honest with him. Let him be your shoulder, and your guide darling. You aren’t alone. Don’t make this decision alone. Breathe. I promise, it will work out. Don’t try to carry such a burden alone. Good luck sweetie.
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Keep the baby and be happy with ur boyfriend that sounds like true love homie
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SHE IS A BLESSING❤️ he was the mistake. Can you imagine your life without your boys?
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As a person who would adopt your daughter in a heartbeat the decision is ultimately up to you. I myself am also adopted and truly believe it can be an amazing thing…but Really take a step back and weigh your options can you deal with having an open or closed adoption? Are you financially ready? In the end of this is completely your decision. Don’t let anyone sway you one way or the other. If you do choose to parent there are places that can help you as well as if you choose to adopt <3. If you ever need to vent or just a shoulder to cry on you can always pm me =)
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Dont turn your back on your baby girl. If he’s willing to be her daddy let him.
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If you are resenting the child now you may continue to do so. There’s plenty of people that want a baby and cant have one…
If you decide to keep this gift…make sure you want to be a mother.
P. S. It dont matter who the father is if a Daddy wants to step up.
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She will be true blessing for you.Please don’t give her up:joy:God will make a way 
HE may have been a mistake but SHE is a blessing hunny. And your significant other is willing to step up & be what he doesn’t have to be? That’s awesome!! It’s a blessing in disguise! Have you talked to him about it? You don’t need to keep these feelings all bottled up sweetie, talk to him, let him know how you feel, see how he truly feels. Talk it out. Good luck!!
You and her father may have been a mistake but she is not ! If your ex wants to step up by all means let him (if he is a good man). I would ask myself why do I always repeat my relatiobships over and over ? If we split up to begin with is there a basis for us to get back together now or is it that I’m not with the babys father so I will just go back with what is comfortable or should I evalute me maybe. Repeat relationships sometimes tend to not work out for whatever reason initiated the break up in the first place !
You have children and know what it would be like to not have them. My step dad was the best and I wouldn’t want another. I also have a child from a toxic relationship and he is the biggest blessing. This pregnancy can turn out beautifully as well. If you do decide to give her away you can find wonderful parents too. Go with your heart.
Give her to me, my boyfriend and I have been trying for 2 years and no luck just a miscarriage. I would love to have that blessing!
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Well Heaven Pannif she is going to get there she should take responsibility also he should .not get rid of because she not in love with relationship. Play you pay period
I am a lucky girl who has the best Dad. He stepped into the role without hesitation and I have known nothing but love. Give the gift of unconditional love to your daughter.
Just because your relationship with her father was a mistake doesn’t mean that she is.
In the end youre decision is up to you and you do whats best but i will say this…i was with my daughters father for 2 months and got pregnant and kept her he has maybe spent a whole month out of the 2 years of her life around her and has never supplied anything but with that said im so fucking glad i kept her shes my everything and even though its hard i wouldnt change it for the world i wish you the best of luck mama
What woman do for men! …Put your big girl panties and on and handle it you knew what would happen if y’all sex! If even birth control don’t work! Craazy! Not bashing you but think about how this lil girl would feel if her mommy didn’t want her because she’s not with the real father, I’d just sue him and ask him or not if he don’t want to then terminate his rights and move the hell on!
Keep her, love her, she’ll have a loving father by the sounds
Of your boyfriend and people make mistakes. Don’t make her look for her real mom when she’s older. Just love her
You’ll give your flesh and blood up because you don’t want to put the responsibility on your partners toes. Makes sense. Did you give your other two up when you was with the other guy because they wasn’t his? So what if this baby is a girl or a boy, so what if the relationship isn’t strong enough to carry on when the baby is born! Love that baby like you love your other two no matter who the dad is!
You can’t just give 1 up but keep the other two. Social will be all over you like a rash! Well I hope they would!!
If you decide to give her up my daughter and her husband would give her the best life you could give they have a 10 year old son who really wants a baby sister or brother and they want a baby so bad she has had 3 miscarriages so the doctors told her she couldn’t have anymore kids they would love her more than you could imagine she would have a perfect life and everything that goes with it so please text me if you would just like to talk to my daughter you would see how amazing they are thank you so much for listening
Only YOU can make this decision and it should be decided between yourself, the father of the child, and the man you currently already have children with given he is involved. To say that’s a difficult decision is a serious understatement, but the masses should not be swaying you, WE wont be raising and or giving up that baby. YOU have to live with the decision either way. Best of luck, and HUGS, I know this is hard but you’ll get through it!