Pregnant and overwhelmed, what should I do?

Hi guys please please no bashing or judgment! I just found out I’m pregnant I’m lost and overwhelmed! I wasn’t planning on having a fourth child my life is hectic as is and I know for a fact I won’t be able to do it for the fourth time mentally and physically it’s exhausting! I just need some comforting words I guess I Dont know what I’m gna do! I Dont wana bring anymore Children to this world. I Dont know why I’m writing this Im feeling lost! Anyone wana share if they went through a similar situation, what was your decision? How did you cope! Does an OB give an abortion pill? I have 100s of questions going through my mind right now!
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Take a deep breath, and know it’s okay. Hormones don’t help the situation but just take a couple days to think about what you want to do. Make an appointment with an OB, & they’ll give you more information about your options. Whatever you decide to do is your choice, so don’t let anyone give you shit about it. Just know either way that you’ll be okay, you’ve done this 3 other times so you know what to do or if you choose another route talk to your doctor and they’ll help you!

Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Pregnant and overwhelmed, what should I do?

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Stay calm ,it’s hard I’m a mother of 4
But trust me it’s not that hard just one more blessing to love
You are blessed and luck to be able to get pregnant
There are tons of resources that can help :heart::heart::heart:
You don’t want to murder your child that child deserves love and care not a death pill ,you can get overwhelmed but everyone does …stay strong THINK FIRST ! killing a baby won’t make your life less stressful…

:pray: not an easy situation at any age

Do what is best for YOU.

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If only I were in your shoes. Been trying for over two years and one miscarriage later and still an empty womb. Be thankful for the blessing you have. Pray to God He always helps me get through tough times.

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Seek a non judgemental health care provider and do what’s best for you. If you are considering abortion, the earlier you consult a doctor, the more options you’ll have. But don’t feel rushed into a decision, and do what’s best for YOU.

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Please give the baby up for adoption

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First please don’t abort, i had four and honestly that fourth didn’t make a big difference you just do as you did with the first, second, and third, Just be happy that you can have children because so many wan’t them and can’t have them, i promise you when that baby gets here you will wonder why you ever even thought the way you are doing , but please i beg you don’t get an abortion.

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You need to take some deep breathes and think about it. I know it’s overwhelming, scary, and you have all these emotions at first. I was there but I had my child and he is the sweetest little guy. It’s hard with multiples, but we are strong. Obgyn don’t give you abortion pills in my county. I think that’s with planned parenthood. Just please think about it. Talk to someone.

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Pray :heart:
Idk how adoption works but maybe there is someone who wants a child but is having a hard time getting approved through the state and directly through you it’s easier?
Maybe can compensate and will help your life a bit too?

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Honey social media is the WRONG place to come for comfort. You will definitely get bashed and judged. If you really think you want an abortion, you should probably make an appointment at a place that performs them. I believe you will get to talk to a counselor first to discuss your concerns and you can decide from there.

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Many people out there who’d be soooo happy to have this child. If it’s something you can do…do.it. this will definetly make r you feel good about yourself.

Adoption. My daughter found out she can’t have any children and it breaks her heart. There are lots of people out there who want children and can’t have them. That’s why I say adoption. Just pray and let God lead you. God bless you honey :revolving_hearts:

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Contact family planning and discuss your termination plans. I hope you can find someone to help you do this procedure safely :heart:

Reach out to a planned Parenthood. They have lots of information. Abortion is not covered medically is most states unless it meets certain criteria. It can a few hundred dollars to get. And cannot be done the same day as your visit. (Theres a 24 hour wait required after signing papers/watching videos etc) I suggest taking a friend for support if you go down that route. Also never let anyone guilt you into a decision you dont want to make.

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If you live in Texas they just passed a law against abortion at 6 weeks or more where anyone who knows can report you as it is illegal now and they can sue you…the doctor and even the person who drove you. Its crazy… Good luck and prayers.

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I have 4 kids. 9,7,4 & 7mo. It gets hard but it’s possible! You can do anything you set your mind to all you need to do is decide :heart:

Pray…children are blessings from The Lord…please don’t get an abortion… adopt if you need to but give the child a chance to live…a baby doesn’t deserve to die

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4th pregnancy here and overwhelmed as well with a failing marriage… You can do it. And on days you think you can’t tell yourself in the mirror that you are a bad bitch ( or something equally motivating) until you believe it. They say if you can survive 3 kids you can handle any number​:rofl: for real though. You will look back at this time and be thankful that you got through it. Much love :two_hearts:

If you have a planned parenthood near you they are unbiased and only have your health in mind. Seek out their help, discuss your options. As a previous comment stated, the sooner you seek out help the more options you have. In some states there is a fund that can help pay partial for your choice. I wish you well and it is up to you no one else to decide. It’s your body your choice.

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I felt this way with my fourth and I choose to keep him I was going through a really riff time mentally and physically my youngest was 4 and I was so tired and didn’t have family but I keep him and it was the best decision I made he was my easiest baby and still so amazing now. You’ll know what’s right momma deep breaths and think things through till you know forsure

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Call your OB and have an honest conversation about all your options so you can make the right choice for you and your family.

Tonight we pray for the momma who feels a little bit of everything. Lord, she may feel tired, discouraged, or worn-thin. She might feel overwhelmed or sad. Hope may come in waves or perhaps fear rests just beneath the surface of her busy mind. Lord, she is doing the best she can to sort through what needs to be done and her feelings one by one. Tonight we ask You to bring what her heart needs. If it’s peace, You promise it. If it’s strength, You’re already there. If it’s hope or joy, bubble it up from the inside of her. If it’s rest, meet her here. We ask in Jesus’s name, Amen.

Borrowed from the Midnight Mom’s Devotional

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A quick fix never works been there let people talk and push me into a choice I’ve regretted all my life that’s a life inside you and it has a purpose

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No one here knows your situation more than you. Therefore you need to come to this decision on your own. No matter the decision.

Don’t let anyone bully or guilt you into any decision other than what is best for YOU.

Good luck!

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I understand you’re overwhelmed I have 6 kids and a few months ago found out I’m pregnant with twins… with that said abortion is absolutely a right of choice you have it’s just not a choice I’d ever consider myself, so i will say that if I can do it YOU can too!! and if you feel you can’t there are so many people who would offer that baby unconditional love :heart:

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Dont jump on social media asking for advice. Do what is in your heart

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Only you know what you’re living. Just be strong on whatever decision you make. One you make it, follow through strong.

It’s your body and your choice. Do what brings you then most peace and definitely seek out your obs advice asap. You will be okay.

If you mentally and physically can’t handle a 4th baby abortion may be a good option but u really have to sit and think about it because once u do it u can’t change your mind. Once that baby is gone its gone. I would suggest getting fixed after the abortion

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You can and will do it. I have 4. Its tough. I wont lie doll it is tough. But it is so, so worth it. Do it. Do it all. You will be exhausted. It won’t be easy. But I promise you this. It will be worth it. :heart:

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I’d say have the baby, look at adoption . There’s women like me who unfortunately can not have kids and would love an opportunity to be a mom, it’s absolutely your choice but maybe this is an option.

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I personally would have an abortion. Wouldn’t give two thoughts about it. 2 is all I can handle and I know my limits so I’m done. In the end it is your decision and you need to live with it whatever you choose. It’s an incredibly hard decision :gift_heart:

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I wish I could have another one. I can’t understand what you are going through, but I do sympathize with you. If you don’t want it then you could have an abortion or you could adopt it out to someone who really wants one.

Call your OB, they will guide you in the right direction. Its better to seek help sooner than later. Stay strong girl, it’s gonna be alright!

The abortion pill could cause you more harm than good and it would honestly be traumatic.
Get ahold of a planned Parenthood and see about getting an actual abortion. It is safer and easier on the soul

Wow…the judgement. She will figure it out, what is the best for her and her family.

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4 kids iant easy at all but,so worth it.I’ve been raising my 4 on my own since birth(they are 19 and a marine,18,15,and,almost 14)

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I would talk to your doctor and a few other specialist and think about all options as well you do have abortion you also have adoption. Just look at all the options the doctors can give you so you can make an informed choice that is right for you not anyone else. Keep your head up you are strong.

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You do what’s in the best interest gor you, physically and emotionally… if you go the pill route you need to do it asap (depending on how far along you are)!!!

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I felt the same, but personally I would never abort a baby so here I am doing it and cant picture my life without her now. All the joy she brings. I got my tubies cut so I cherish every last second with her cause shes my last baby. It gets hard but it always was hard so :person_shrugging::heart:

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Do what YOU wanna do not what others suggest! At the end of the day it will be YOU who struggles not anyone else.

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If feel like if there’s a will than there’s a way. Sometimes it’s upsetting at first but down the line you might wonder how you ever lived without this child. I’m sure people won’t like my advice but that’s how I feel.

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How bout your husband or boyfriend?What do they think?

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I feel you already know what you want you just want confirmation that its okay. It is okay. Go talk to someone Tuesday. Do not wait. Get all of the information you need to make YOU feel comfortable about YOUR decision whatever that may be. Do not listen to the ugly and rude comments on here.

I know someone that would love to adopt your baby.

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Be a blessing to others who cannot have a child. Find a couple to adopt your baby!

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Don’t let people tell you what’s right for you because of their beliefs or religion. Sounds like you already know what you and your family needs.

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I’m just going to throw this out there… and I am not sure if anyone else already said it. But…… asking for help and stating that you are scared and don’t think you can do it is a pretty good indication that you can do whatever you want/need to do. Stay strong, talking is a good step

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No one knows your life circumstances better than you…finances, how much help and support you get ,etc. Talk to someone unbiased like your doctor for advice. I support and wish you the best regardless of your choice :heart::heart::heart::heart:

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Abortion? If you’re not from Texas :pleading_face: There’s already thousands of kids waiting, hoping and/or praying for the day they finally get adopted into a loving family. Why add another to be left in despair? :broken_heart:

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Ask your doctor I guess. If your state doesn’t allow abortions then idk besides adoption

if you think its not the right time to have another then dont have it trust me its whats best but if u do find the courage to have it then so be it only u know what will be right and no judging momma

I personally could never do abortion. I was 1000% done after I had my youngest son. My husband had decided to get a vasectomy because there are a few procedures I need before I could do a tubal. Then in January, I knew. I just KNEW I was pregnant. I was correct. Now, my little girl is due in just 4 weeks. I haven’t even held her yet, and I already know that I could never picture my life without her now. When you first find out about a pregnancy you weren’t planning, I think there’s panic, and then maybe a little dread, followed by “I can’t do this”. But we can. Our hearts expand to include this child that we never pictured for ourselves, and suddenly, life wouldn’t make sense without them. Let yourself go through the emotions and come to terms with it and see how you feel then. Your mental state 2 weeks from now may be totally different than it is today.

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Honestly, I have 3 kids and I wish I would have had a 4th my youngest always seemed so alone. It will work out. You can do this!! You may bring into the world another amazing best friend :two_hearts: also I have been that mom who couldn’t have children ( fertility issues) and you would be incredibly brave and incredibly loving to make someone a mommy. I always praise people who do this. This is the most amazing gift :gift_heart: It is the worst to grow up your whole life knowing someday you will be a mom only to find out that isn’t the case.

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I was just pregnant and got the abortion pill my insurance covered it. I was only about 5 weeks. I just had a baby this may and already have 4, so it was the best decision for me. You do what YOU want to do. Good luck :two_hearts:

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I did too. He is my blessing! Stay w it. You can do it…

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Adoption i have a daughter that would love to have a child.

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My 4th is 15 months old we where 100% done and we just found out I’m pregnant with number 5 we where angry for a few weeks confused and upset but now we’ve come around to it.

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I know it’s very hard right now,but living with the memory of ending a life won’t help.I will keep you in prayer and it will get easier.

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Your going to be fine, I have 6 kids none were planned. You do what you have to do… it’s a blessing not a sentence

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if you don’t want another baby then don’t have it . You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do! I doubt an obgyn would give you an abortion pill but if I was you I’d just search planned parenthood in your area. good luck with whatever you decide!

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I have 6 kids from 26-8 , you can handle it when you think you can’t. Do what’s best for you! That’s all that matters. Don’t listen to the comments and opinions. You know what you can handle

I’m sure you’ll be ok :slightly_smiling_face: this little baby is a blessing and a gift from God and you’ve been given him/her for a reason. If anything, I would choose adoption… so many people out there who want to be parents. I personally could never ever give up my child in any sort of way

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You have 3 other children who need their mother. And if you can’t do it, don’t. How far along are you?

Don’t push yourself for another child that you feel you cannot care for because of your own mental and physical health. You are important. Your children who are alive are important.

  • I personally couldn’t do it, but that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t if I had too.

Take care of yourself and your earth babies.

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Sometimes our biggest storm in life turns into our greatest blessing… My third baby came while going through a divorce with my ex husband and high-school sweetheart. The guy I got pregnant with was constantly cheating and I was a struggling single mom of 2 boys who was not in a great place mentally, physically and definitely not financially. The week I was gonna break off things with him my period was late so I took a test and it was positive. He straightened up we moved in a house, got married and he is my best friend and lover and the greatest husband and father I could of ever dreamed of. My little girl is so beautiful, funny and smart… she is a firecracker and fills my soul with such joy. We both could not imagine our lives without her. God sends every baby here for a divine purpose. Also there are so many families praying daily for an adoption… if you in your heart know your not ready it is a beautiful thing to give life to another couple. You are strong and you can make it through this! Here is a pic of my baby and her daddy :heart:

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Any option YOU choose is what’s best for you and your family. I pray you find/choose the right option. Abortion, adoption, keeping him or her. Prayers to you Sweet Mama. :two_hearts:

I had a miscarriage 8 years ago and it was the most horrible thing I’ve ever had happen to me, and I’ve been raped… So idk if I’d ever choose abortion but I stand by you on any decision you make and idek you. So please if anyone knows her, she can always message me. Mamas Uncut

If you don’t want the baby don’t have it. People will try to paint a picture for you, but you know what’s best. I personally had an abortion and almost never think about it. If that’s what you want to do, yes. They have multiple methods to handle it

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I’m not a very religious person once so ever, but I am firm believer in God will only give you what you can handle. Your already a mama, so you know what to do already not anything new. Your a strong mama for already having 3 beautiful children and now your blessed(you might not think of it as a blessing right now) but you are blessed with one more child. Everything happens for a reason for the better or worse and girl its your body and you have a right to choose with whatever u wanna do with it. But I’m gonna tell you, You got this because your a beautiful strong independent women and this is nothing new to you, so don’t be scared, just know whatever you do choose it was only in your pathway to do so! Don’t worry bout what everyone else thinks. Just know to stay strong beautiful mama to all your children​:heart::heart::heart:

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I felt the exact same when I found out I was pregnant with my last child, I literally cried myself to sleep for a solid month because my baby before her was diagnosed with cancer and it took an emotional toll on me that I couldn’t explain, but I couldn’t bring myself to end my pregnancy so I had her and the first time I held her, all those thoughts I had popped back in my head and I was thankful that I didn’t do anything to hurt her because now I couldn’t imagine life without her​:heart::heart::heart: if it’s meant to be it will and if not, you’ll know when it’s time​:heart:

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My 3rd daughter was 5 months old (other two were 5 and 8) when I found out I was pregnant with my 4th child. I also just found out the father had an opioid addiction and was already wanting to get out of the horribly toxic/abusive relationship I was in. I felt so lost, alone and ashamed. In my head there was no way I could have this baby but in my heart I knew I was going to… 7 yrs later, I thank God literally everyday for my one and only son. He is a love I’ve never known before. I am a single mother of 3 girls and 1 boy. It’s hard at times but life will always throw you curve balls with or without kids. I say that to say this… Only you know what is best for you. If you want to make it work, you absolutely can. And if you know in your heart you cannot, be gentle on yourself and know you are not alone. Us as women get put in position to make some of the hardest decisions. This is why we are so strong, we never had the choice not to be. Either way you go, your strength will follow :heart:

I would love to have another baby. If you don’t think you can handle it, there are many people who want to adopt, myself included.

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It honestly pisses me off when people say adoption … there’s hundreds of thousands of kids in orphanages. Why add to that!!! If you’re not ready, you already know what to do! Don’t let any of these people make you feel bad about your decision. I got pregnant young and knew I couldn’t care for the child the way they deserved and I had an abortion. Best decision I ever made. Why bring a child into this world if you know you cannot care for it??? Bring someone you trust with you and get on birth control ASAP. Goodluck sweetheart :heart:

What pregnant person doesn’t go through a period of doubt and panic? Even those who planned for the pregnancy… Big deep breaths…you can handle this.

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If you don’t want another baby then don’t. It is YOUR choice. Don’t let anyone here or in your life talk you into something you don’t want. Are any of these people gonna be there for you when you need them after the baby is born? No? Then make the decision for yourself. I think how you get an abortion depends upon the state you are in. I imagine your OB/GYN office could give you more info on that, or if you are lucky enough to still have a Planned Parenthood you could call them.

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If you know you can’t handle going through another pregnancy or child, go get the abortion. In the end it sounds like (based on the information in the post) it would be best for you and for the fetus. Children deserve a parent who knows they can handle it (not bashing AT ALL, we all have our own limits).

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Don’t let anyone guilt you into going through with the pregnancy if you don’t want to and aren’t capable! They don’t have to raise it and it’s not there choice! Talk to your Obgyn or planned parenthood there very helpful.

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You could put it up for adoption. I know so many couples that can’t have children and are trying to adopt. Bless you on whatever you decide to do.

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I didn’t plan on having anymore either and when I found out I was pregnant with my 4th which I just gave birth to two weeks ago I was so overwhelmed and scared but I definitely wouldn’t change my Decision for the world no matter how hectic it gets

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That baby has a purpose and can be life changing for so many in this world! The role of a parent is tough, but changes the world! Build a support group around you in mom groups, church, family if possible, etc. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and really do what is needed to better ourselves as parents when needed. You CAN do this! A life can change so many for the good!

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Stop telling her she’ll be okay. She is saying she can not handle it.

Do what is right for you. If I got pregnant with a fourth I couldn’t do it either.

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Give yourself some time to process. And maybe after a short while you can decide what u want to do. Perhaps a closed adoption? :green_heart:

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I have 4 kids and felt overwhelmed while pregnant with #4, but it actually was for the best. There are studies that show its easier to have 4 kids than 3. I have 4 close friends that also have 4 kids and feel the same way… it gets easier.

I personally don’t think I would be able to handle any more kids either. Abortion is totally OK if that’s what is best for you and your healthcare provider will guide you every step of the way.

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If you want an abortion, get one unapologetically. Different states have different regulations regarding the prescription of the abortion pill, but if you just missed your period there’s a good chance you’d be a candidate for it. I respect that the people imploring adoption are coming from a good place in their hearts, but practically speaking adoption can be traumatic for the birth mother and statistically more women regret placing their children for adoption than they do getting an abortion. You know you best and you need to do what’s best for you and to hell with everyone else.

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Sometimes you just got to go with things in life happen for a reason, sometimes good sometimes not. If you want to terminate tha do it. If you want to help make another family complete do that, or keep it and see what this child will give to the world and you. I have 4 children and was a single parent when they were ages 4,6,8, and 17. It was hard and challenging, we made it work, your stronger than you think, just breathe, best of luck to you.

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Do what’s best for you and your family. Non of us know your life or you, and this is a super personal decision. If you don’t go through with it make sure you have someone you feel safe with afterwards. You never know how you’ll react to that kind of thing, and it’s better to have support on hand just in case.

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Do what is best for you and your other children. It is YOUR CHOICE. Unless your in Texas :pensive:

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There’s options for you. Also, I don’t know how you feel about adoption. But there’s a lot of people out there that want a child and unfortunately cannot physically have one. I understand that it also comes with a lot of challenges. But maybe look into that. If not. Speak with your partner and doctor about what else you can or want to do. No judgement. this is a difficult personal decision.
I wish you well :heart:

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I never wanted children. My incubator was terrible to me and my siblings. I assumed i would be the same. I had the same thoughts and 2 I had appointments with plan parenthood. The 1st one I was to far along. The second one was to expensive. I wouldn’t know what to do with out them. I found out my husband’s been cheating on me for years. These children are the only thing that keep me going. I understand it’s hard and difficult at times. You have to do what’s best for you and your family. Please talk to someone if there is even a slight bit of doubt. Hormones in pregnancy are crazy and can cloud our judgment.

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I felt this was when I went in for my post check up after delivery and found out I was pregnant my son was only three month old I had three children i was scared honestly I was in your shoes but my home life wasn’t the best my relationship was the best everything we really hard already and I felt helpless and scared I cried for weeks and finally decided after night after night of praying I would keep the baby!! He’s now four and I really do hate myself for even think about it now the way I did he was such a blessing !! Also the easiest baby I had ever had slept threw the night breastfeed like a champ from day one you name it he was super easy and just heart warming full of love I have gotten Post baby blues bad like really bad with everyone of my children but him !! Like I never though that would happen !! Over all I thank god everyday for hold my hand and walking me threw mother hood I couldn’t have done it with out him !!

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Give it up for adoption do not abort

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Do what you feel is right for you and your family. No one on this post lives your life.

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Don’t murder your child. You CAN do this. You are strong and if you pm me I have two orgs that will offer you financial and emotional and health assisstance

Way to go ladies… I thought there was going to be a whole much of negative comments. I’m impressed by how much yall supported this girl :clap:

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You make the best decision for YOU and your family, and if you live in Texas…well… maybe hire a Lyft to another state for some time away.

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I just had my 4th child 6 months ago. And I’m 38 yrs old, which I thought I was crazy for having another baby at that age. But it has all worked out and I’m glad it did. My life is complete. 2 boys and 2 girls. Just pray about it and he will lead you to do whats best for you.

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Find a pregnancy care center near you. They have people who can talk you through and help make the best decision for you. Sometimes you just need to talk it out and there’s options and help if you need it

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