I pretty much felt this way after finding out I was prego with my 5th. Way beyond overwhelmed since we found out before our second youngest first birthday. I’m prolife tho so I took the disappointment and feelings n all that n got TF over it. She’s gonna be 4 months on Monday n I couldn’t imagine my life without her. Now my tubes are tied (I chickened out after my 4th cuz all these mom groups n their bs advice about getting it done). STOP ASKING OTHER PEOPLE AND FIGURE OUT YOUR OWN EMOTIONS. You’re gonna get sooo many diff fkn answers n when you decide the WRONG thing, you’ll only have yourself to blame. N NO, your ob definitely will not unless they deserve to lose their license like they should
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You do what you want but please take into account about how the father feels. Your body your choice but his opinion matters to.
Well if its any consolation, 3 is a crowd most of the time. At least with my experience.
That’s how I know I will feel if I get pregnant again I have three and I’m on the edge another would push me right over the edge . It’s hard but no matter what anyone says in this thread you have got to do what’s best for you and the kids you already have . And PLEASE either look into getting fixed after this or birth control or practice very safe sex . It’s just hard I know where you’re coming from . I’m on 5 year birth control and plan to get fixed within that time . But for now one step at a Time and good luck with everything!
You could adopt the baby out to a.family who can’t have kids if that is an option for you. Good luck to which ever you choose
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Pray about it. Do you have family that can help. Maybe a family member can take the child if you don’t want them. But my older children always helped my re than I thought they would. I know it sounds crazy but even young ones enjoy help you with mommy duties. I’m sure you feel scared and lost. Calm down and think about the pro and cons of it all. Write it down to help put it all into perspective. Maybe the father can take them off your hands. Talk to him about your options. It’s his baby too. Include him in and go from there. . God bless.
Please don’t kill your baby! Have you considered adoption?
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Do what’s best for YOU! Generally ob’s don’t give the pill. You have to go to an abortion clinic. I guess it depends where you are.
Do what’s best for you and the children that you have. Not everyone is able to do it, as in have another child, nor should they feel obligated to have a baby and give it up to someone who can’t.
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You know just because you had 3 kids and can’t handle a fourth doesn’t put adoption out of the question. Why get rid of something that you had the responsibility of making some people would kill to be able to get pregnant give that baby to someone who can’t have one.
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I just recommend taking more time to think about the future. Do you see yourself being completely content with your decision to abort? If you’re not 100% certain that you can live with a permanent decision that may be based on temporary emotions/hormones then I’d look into other options. Adoption, ect. In the end whatever you decide to do is up to you. From a momma of 5 who had my last in the most hectic time of my life, and an absolutely brutal pregnancy, she made everything finally feel complete.
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I’m pregnant with my 6th u can do it, its whether u want to do it or not. There are choices u can make early on so have a little think of what u really want x
Are you serious? How can you look into your children faces and contemplate killing this child? I have 5. Plus my fiancé has 3. So 8 all together and I wouldn’t change a damn thing!!! Finances are tight, of course. But these kids know without a doubt that they are loved and wanted. Nothing comes before the kids. Period. If you don’t want more kids, get a tubal ligation. But killing an unborn child, because you chose to play??? Selfish, heartless and unacceptable! Again… how can you even consider… when you look in your children’s faces everyday and see how special they are?
Why didn’t you make sure this happen
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Better hurry if u live on Texas,
Please consider adoption! There are women who are dying to be mother’s and cannot conceive! It’s your choice, but please don’t end this child’s life! They can still live and be with a different family!
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If you know deeeeeep deeep down in your heart that you cannot, then do not.
Just be sure 
Do what is best for you !
Talk with an O.B and do what is best for you. Dont listen to anyone else! This is a choice only you can make.
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Having an even number of children is much easier than an odd number. They pair up and play together. Yet, it’s your choice. Wishing you the best.
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You have options , just remember that .
Do not let anyone elses personal experience deter what you truly want. This decision is ultimately up to you. I do not believe in abortion… but I’m not going to judge someone if they have one. BUT adoption, or giving the baby to someone who has been wanting a child and is unable is a noble choice. It is your choice. No one else’s.
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If you get an abortion I hope you get your tubes tied
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Your Uterus, your rules. 
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I remember finding out I was pregnant with my 4th baby! I felt exactly like you did! I cried thinking I wouldn’t be able to afford a 4th, cope with a 4th of just have enough time for a 4th! Anyway fast forward abit an It was the best decision I made to keep her. She is now 16 months and has bought so much joy to our lifes, my 3 other children absolutly adore her as do me an her Dad. Having her during the height of the pandemic was the most stressful time of our lives, but i wouldn’t change a single thing! Every person an their circumstances are different! You have to do whats best for you an your family. 
Things happen for a reason maybe u fallen pregnant for a reason XXX think u need to give Ur self a bit off time let the shock go a bit xxxx everyone circumstances are different and u have to do what right for u xxxx I am pregnant with my 7th right now and I have some much stuff going on I don’t know how I get up each day but think it’s my babies that keep me stronger xxxx my lg 6th one she amazing everyone thought I was mad having her cos I was raped but I don’t agree just getting rid and it’s not her fault but got to say I did worry a lot but look at her now she fantastic xxxxxx if u ever just want to chat or rant we all be here xxxxx
Have an abortion if that’s what you want. It’s just a cluster of cells. You’re not killing anything. Don’t listen to the religious fanatics trying to guilt trip you. Most women don’t regret their abortions because it’s not a decision taken lightly. You need to look after your mental health.
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there are so many back handed comments here that aren’t supportive but purely judgemental. If you don’t want a fourth you don’t have to have a fourth- if you’re uncomfortable bringing another life into this crazy dumpster fire of a world going on you don’t have to! if you’re feeling lost and overwhelmed talk to one of the social workers at a clinic and help make an informed decision based on what’s right for yourself. You have the right to make the best decision for yourself and your other kiddos. if you need support or someone to talk to feel free to PM me. 
hang in there mama
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There’s always adoption!
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Thou shall not commit murder
Baby, adopt that precious 
blessing out. So many people want babies and can’t have one. Please look into adoption
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I would look into adoption, it’s the better of the choices. 
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If u have the baby I’d think it would be the best thing and not as bad as u think they are not small for long I have 3 aged 10, 8 and 18 months and not ready for a 4th that’s why I have implant in just be careful next time but if I happened to fall pregnant I could never abort I’d go on to have the baby it’s someone for my littlest boy to play with and grow with like my older 2
I’m mother of 3, unexpectedly fell on after many years. Me and hubby have 5 between us. I knew I wouldn’t cope not did we have room for 4th child. Plus couldnt afford it. I got an abortion. Was very easy to access thro gp. They offer counciling after and before. Do whats right for you, not others. All these saying adoption. I couldn’t go thro pregnancy to give my child away. The pill abortion can be done if under 8 wks, after 9 wks its surgical procedure. But are quick
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Your choice.
My mom and aunt always said “three was a circus, but 4 was easy”.
I’ve heard lots of people say 3 kids is hard (it is) but that 4 for some reason just made everything go smoother.
Maybe it was the age gap? And being able to pair us off for playing? Haha
They said even all 8 of us together was easier than just the 4 of us so it must have been the pairing off by age group as we are all fairly close in ages to our cousins.
I think that regardless, you need to make the decision that’s best for yourself and your family.
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I haven’t been through what you’re going through and have no advice but I will keep you in my prayers.
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Do what Is best for you and don’t feel bad. You do not need to tell anyone if you plan on ending the pregnancy. Look into planned parenthood. See if there’s one near you.
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ABORT. Get counseling and make the right choice for you. NOT FOR SANCTIMONIOUS INTERNET PROLE.
(To everyone telling her to just have it and give it up for adoption?, 9 months, live interruption, the other children, her own emotions and body changes, medical bills, possible death, ppd, etc. Y’all not pro life. You don’t give a fuck about HER life)
You do what you need to do and what is right for you. Do not listen to anyone! It’s your body and your life. Fuck everyone’s opinions, no matter what if you don’t want to have another baby that is okay. You have choices and whatever choice you make will be right for tou
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You’ll be ok. It’s a blessing in disguise. You are a mom, that makes you super woman.
There are many people out there who cant have children. Think about adoption. Baby didnt ask to be here, abortion should be the last thing on your mind. If you were comfortable having unprotected sex, baby deserves a chance at life.
Not a decision ive ever had to make thankfully.
Talk to your partner …if this pregnancy is going to cause financial hardship or mental health problems…termination may be the way to go. Adoption still means you have to go through the pregnancy and all that entails financially.
Only you can make the decision. Only you know whats best for you and your family. Either way…take your time . Have no regrets. Do not feel guilty or pressured into doing something not right for you and your family xx
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I went through same thing but I ended up having my fourth child and never regretted it and she is now 11
I feel the same way. I’m about to turn 40, my daughter is 10 my boys are 18, 19. There is no way I could have a 4th child right now. I’m also going through chemo for breast cancer, mentally I know I couldn’t handle a baby and it wouldn’t be fair to bring a child into my mess right now. Do what’s right for you!
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1 you should have use protection. What did you think that was going to happen without protection? Unplanned pregnancy. If you were that emotionally strain then you should have kept your legs closed. That’s why I only have 3. Because after that I knew I couldn’t afford or take care of another child. So I took protection seriously. Next time be on birth controls or use Condoms or just stop having sex until you can get your life together. There is no pills that the doctor can give you. They stop all of that. Unless it’s a medical thing you’re out of luck
Girl you sound stupid. What do you think she wants the pill for? To abort. That’s what people are going off. She telling people she wants a abortion. So they have every right to tell her that. It’s HER life at the end of the day. And if she don’t want people to tell her what to do then she should have keep this to her self.
So she shouldn’t listen to what the FUCK you’re saying neither. Dummy she wanted people opinions that why she is asking for it.
Please, go see you doctor. They would be able to help you, if you take the abortion route they will be able to help with the physical, mental and emotional trauma.
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I suggest you get an appointment with planned Parenthood
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I’m here if u wanna chat. Feel free to inbox me
Oh mama no bashing here just lots of prayers/good vibes! Do whats best for
You and your family❤️ not sure if its a possibility but maybe adoption if its an option for you
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No judgement from me. You do what is right for you. It is your body and your life. 
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There are always 100s of families unable to have children. You could find them a living home.
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When I found out I was having twins I went to the river with my pistol, but couldn’t kill myself. After I had my babies, I wouldn’t have taken a billion bucks for either one of them. Sending huge hugs.
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If you don’t want to add an everyday, crippling guilt to the list of things you hate already…not being judgmental, just fair. But really think about this & what you’re considering here. The baby will go away but else have you just permanently added, how will that mental health effect your existing children & their life.
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4 is better than 3
Once you have 3 you can do 4.
Adoption
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I cnt have kids I would love to be apart of the bby life:pray:
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I will say that I took felt these feelings when I found out I was pregnant a 4th time. I already had 1 with complex medical issues and another with ASD. Then I found out it was twins.
Thankfully with support I carried 2 healthy babies and am able to look back now and see that questioning my pregnancy wasn’t wrong or shameful of me.
Life is hard. Having kids it hard. Support and good mental health are what make it all easier to cope with.
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I going to sleep now as in the UK it’s almost 4am, but please feel free to message me and I’ll reply as soon as I’m awake!! I don’t wanna post my personal stuff on here but I’m more than happy to talk on private message💖
Life is crazy, you have 3 beautiful children already. There’s nothing wrong with not wanting to start over. Never feel bad about your life decisions. You’ve already made a family and you don’t need to feel bad about an already difficult decision. Judging by the comments they’ll make you feel bad anyways. Do you, however you want. Own it and feel good about your life. You’re a bad ass mom
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We just went through this! I was beyond devastated to find out I was pregnant last October. I thought of every possible outcome abortion, adoption and praying for miscarriage. I only told 2 people because I didnt want to think about it. I lied to my doctors about being happy about it. I cried every day and night. Our son is now 3 months old and he’s brought us so much joy! No judgements from me and here if you need to talk. Us women carry the weight of the world on our shoulders. Just breathe and the answer will come to you.((Hugs))
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Set up appointments and become informed before you make decisions, don’t feel pressured and take time to make your final say
Yes, even though I only have 1 child (3yr old boy) I just couldn’t/can’t mentally and emotionally go through anymore… the OB I was seeing while pregnant with him was totally against ANY birth control, so I had to go to Planned Parenthood… They’re really good, I suggest contacting them
well i felt that way at number 4. went on to have 6. life is like that sometimes! my youngest is 15 and i wouldn’t trade them for the world. prayers everything works out ok for yiu
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Almost one year ago I was dealing with the same emotions being pregnant with my fourth child. It’s not an easy choice to make. Talk with your spouse and doctors. You will decide what is right for you and your family. Use whatever resources you need. I sit here holding my 4th baby and I won’t tell you it’s easy, but it’s worth it.
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Please consider giving the baby up for adoption, there is so many people that can’t have children that will give this baby love and a great life .I understand it’s your decision and you have to do what’s right for you and I wish you the best.
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If you need to talk im here. Only you can decide what is best for you. Don’t listen to these people on here being all judgy.
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There’s always the gift of adoption. There’s many families out there who could love and care for a child but can’t have their own. Ultimately it’s your choice whatever you decide (don’t let anyone tell you different) but adoption is I think a beautiful choice!
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God only gives you what you can handle. Theres always a moment for doubt even when you plan it. You will love that baby just as much and it will become normal. Having kids is overwhelming and chaotic no matter what. Youll never do it all perfect but its a beautiful thing. I had 3 all 2 yrs apart and it was alot then started over after 15 yrs. It was scary but its amazing. I cant imagine my life without all of them and when theyre grown you wish they werent. Your choice is your own and you do what ur heart tells you not your emotions. You can do it if you put ur mind to it. I personally couldnt not have my babies. Even when things get hard they are my world. Follow whatever YOU feel is best and know that you can do it.
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Four. Wouldn’t trade them for anything. And, only 1 out of the 4 was planned… it may seem impossible, but it is possible…and worth it.
I had my fourth and she is my sunshine
A friend of mine said the same things you just said and her daughter came and she is so happy for her last surprise baby! She can’t imagine her life without her!
Doesnt matter about others opinions. What do you what to do ? Do what you think is right for yourself.
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Go to an abortion clinic or planned parenthood but be careful! Pro lifers are ridiculous and they get pretty out of hand. They can provide you with a counselor or support groups to help your through the abortion process!
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If you weren’t suppose to have this baby; you wouldn’t have been blessed with it.
If don’t want to keep the baby adopt it. There are many many couples would love to adopt. Please consider this:pray:t3:
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Please do what you feel is right. If you decide to follow through with this pregnancy, congratulation. If you decide its not best for your family to add, congratulations. None of these other people have to raise your children or live your life. Do not let the harsh comments get under your skin. For as many people that will judge you, there is another who will stand by you & your choice.
Different doctors do the procedure differently. Usually based on length of pregnancy. Some is a pill and then it will come out of you. Another is opening of your cervix and suck out.
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When I got pregnant with my 4th I didn’t want him. I didn’t know if the father was my ex or my boyfriend’s (long story that’s way too long for this comment). It was a mess. I was depressed, angry, anxious… I had to have a 3rd c section. My son is now 2, he has autism, and it’s been the most challenging thing in my entire life. But you know what? I wouldn’t change having him for anything bc regardless of life’s complications he some how, some way was meant to be here in my life and I love him.
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Go see a doctor ASAP so they can give you all you’re options. If you’re not to far along the pill will work if not it may be the alternative. If you know you cannot do and do not want to do don’t let anyone talk you out of what you know is best for you and your family.
Life is crazy hunny I was in your shoes last year but on baby 5 he has been a blessing… I pray for comfort an peace for you an your family mama an know you are not alone
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You may want to add a Trigger Warning 
to this post given the controversial subject at hand.
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Go speak to a doctor. They’ll help x
Do what you feel is best. Only you are going to live with whatever decision you make. And either decision is right as long as you’re the one making the decision.
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Whatever your decision is you choose to make. if you definetly do not want anymore then consider tubal ligation. I hope in your chaos you figure out whats best for you.
Abortion is absolutely valid. You do not have to carry that child if you don’t want to and don’t if you feel like life is hectic. Yes it’s possible but that does not mean you have to do it.
If you do want to, you’ve got this, but plan plan plan.
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Girllll I feel you 100%! I am 32 weeks pregnant with my 3rd. At 39. Daddy is 48 and has 10 previous kids. We had just purchased a home and were waiting to close when I found out. I was devastated and went through all the thoughts you did. We didn’t tell anyone for months, and everyone still doesn’t know. Where I live (KY) most docs won’t write for the abortion pill. I would have had to travel 200 miles and pay $500+, had to be done no later than 11 weeks from last period. I just couldn’t bring myself to go through with it. But it’s your choice, just think it all the way through, try not to act solely on emotion. I am confident you will make the best decision for you and your family.
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Please do not feel pressured to birth the baby and put it up for adoption if you do not want to. The physical and emotional damage that would cause is huge and their are plenty of kids in foster care waiting to be adopted. Don’t let all these people convince you that it’s the “better” option, because you are the only one who can decide that. Talk to your ob about abortion if that’s what you would want and she what direction they steer you in. I wish you the best and good luck❤️
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Honestly the best thing would be to talk to a professional, they are the best equipped ones to help you make decisions or feel more down to earth about whatever situation you choose. I do wish you luck though, it’s not an easy spot to be in I’m sure
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I have four beautiful baby’s! 2 girls, 2 boys. My last baby (my youngest boy) was definitely not planned. I was only with his sperm donor for 3 months when I found out I was pregnant with him. But when I tell you that boy saved my life, I truly mean it. It’s a long story, I won’t go to far into detail, but my pregnancy with him truly made me believe God allows everything to happen for a reason! Not long after I found out I was pregnant, something so tragic happened. It involved one of my other baby’s (thankfully he’s doing absolutely amazing and he’s still here with us) but I can truly say; without a doubt. If I wouldn’t have been pregnant with Nicholas (my baby), I don’t believe my mental would’ve been strong enough to make it through almost losing one of my children.
I pray you don’t experience anything tragic. But my point in telling you this, everything happens for a reason. When we least expect it, a miracle is thrown our way. For whatever that reason may be.
Of course, I believe whatever you decide to do is totally 100% your decision! If you truly feel you cannot handle is physically and mentally do what you think is best for YOU. You are the one raising the children. You are the mother. You are the one who has to go through with the pregnancy and whatever stress may come with it.
At the end of the day, your choice is whatever YOU feel is right. No one lives your life except for you!
I don’t know about anyone else on these comments - but I support you either which way.
You do not have to make a decision right this minute. That baby is not going to be here for a while. Take some deep breaths, find a therapist, someone who can give you all the information on all your options and answer any questions you have. Rash decisions made in times of heightened anxiety are the ones we regret the most later in life. I don’t want to try to tell you what to do or influence your decision based on my biases. I want you to be able to make your decision with a clear head with all your questions answered first.
Whoa that’s a tough decision I have 6 I care for on my own the 3 middle kids dad (ex) is having mental breakdowns turning down the visits n basically I care for them on my own. I have help through my bf he is the bestest. Plus few close family members 
((hugs))
Praying you relax and find strength in your heart
I’m not judging you momma. … but from a friend’s personal experience you will regret every moment of it if you don’t follow through and let that baby have a chance at life. It may he hard but I am also on baby number 4 and doing it all alone but I wouldn’t trade it for the world. Scared nervous lost yes all the emotions right now. But give that baby a chance. You can do it with 4 momma you just have to remind yourself that each one of them babies are a blessing and then some!! Xoxo
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U know what’s right for u and ur family… go with ur gutt
Freak out on your man. 
Talk to a licensed Dr…do what YOU need to…not what others think you should do…then invest in a better birth control. Best of luck❤
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Talk to your husband everything’s going to be okay my son was only 6 months old when I got pregnant with my fourth one and he’s 51 now and he’s such a blessing to our family I can’t imagine not having him and I was scared that I couldn’t take care of two babies that young but it worked out just fine you’ll be okay dear look up be excited for a new baby
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Fell pregnant 3 days before my husbands vasectomy. We didn’t want any more but obviously we were meant to have a 4th. He is now 11 and the older 3 are 12, 15 & 17. It was chaotic when they were little but I wouldn’t change it for the world.
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Plz don’t abort, if u honestly feel like u can’t handle another baby mentally I beg you to plz put the baby up for adoption, there’s lots of cpls who can’t have thier own babies…I honestly feel like counseling could also help or even talking to a very close friend. Hope & prayers things work out for you & all your precious babies
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