Don’t make any decisions right away. Think, journal, weigh up pros and cons of each choice collect your thoughts and emotions, pray, talk to someone that you trust who will support and guide you through your decisions.
God gave you this child for a reason he will provide
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Do what’s best for you YOUR BODY your choice
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I was done with kids had 3 girls was a single mom for most of it. Then i found out at 35 I was pregnant with my 4th. I was struggling with affording the kids i already had had broken it off with my daughters father. I went thru everything you are going thru but now i wouldn’t change her for the world she makes me smile no matter what kind of mood I’m in. No it isn’t easy especially start all over from scratch especially with my next youngest being 11 but it’s doable. You have to do what’s best for you there are options don’t decide anything while your in a bad frame of mind, but ultimately it is your choice
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I had four kids and found I was pregnant with my fifth. I had just divorced my ex, took in my aunt who was dying and her son. I was working full time taking care of my crazy house. I too was overwhelmed. I went and talked to someone about adoption. It definitely was an option for me. I went through the first several months detached and non existent. I ended up having a very hard pregnancy. Ended up in and out of the hospital. On bed rest the whole pregnancy. Living off $354 a month. My aunt passed away and I continued raising her son (he was 10yrs old). It was the hardest thing I ever did. In the end I kept my baby. Today she is a happy, loving, joy filled, 6 yr old. I would do it over again. I could not imagine my life without her.
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Regardless of what the government wants you to think your body your choice if you can’t do it then just don’t do it you have every right to make that decision and if it’s too late for that then you can always give the kid up for adoption there is nothing wrong with that option either keep your head up
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Okay y’all who are saying it’s “murder” can eat shit. Stop bringing this woman down when she’s already struggling! What is wrong with you women?! Honey, YOU DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU. I was in your shoes just last week. Stuck. Not knowing what to do. I made an appt at planned parenthood. I did decide not to go, but that was MY choice. Just like you have the right to make YOUR OWN choice. Dont let these women make you feel bad. We’re not animals, we dont have sex only for reproduction. Christ y’all act like you never made a mistake in your life. Get over yourselves. 
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Its completely you decision on what you decide, but if anything you could always bring the baby into the world and give the baby up for adoption. I know my husband and i would be willing to help you. We adopted 2 of our kiddos because we were told we would never have a baby, and we just had our own! Hes our miracle! I also know an amazing couple that is looking to adopt, that can’t get pregnant. Please feel free to message me! Would love to help you in anyway!
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Please don’t abort! 
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My 4th was a surprise. Turned out to be the sweetest most loving little boy. Just what I needed. God knew it. Each baby is a blessing.
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God doesn’t make babies he doesn’t want & He won’t give you more than you can handle… There’s a reason we carry babies for 9 months, lol, its not only for their development, its also to help us prepare for the life change… My son is 18 & my daughter is 2 months… She was a surprise as I’m sure your pregnancy was… I wouldn’t change having her for the world… Although, it is very stressful… Have you thought about going to counseling? It may help you cope with all the changes you’re going through… If you decide not to keep this baby please think about adoption before you think about abortion… Praying for you…
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I’m 100% pro-choice this is your decision. I have no advice here but if you are up for looking at other options besides abortion. This amazing couple has been searching for a birth mom for years! Jon and Celea’s Adoption Adventure
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I placed my first daughter up for adoption at 19. Adoption is completely free to you and your entitled to financial help from the adoptive family through the pregnancy. Pls message me if you need any help navigating resources.
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Have your child get your tubes tied.
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I have 4 boys. I felt the exact same way when I learned I was pregnant a 4th time. Hes almost 2 years old now… It’s totally normal!! If you can handle 3 you can handle 4 or 6 because 3 is usually the hardest. If your youngest is still small it makes keeping a routine easier. Because of covid and insurance not approving the surgery in due time I was unable to get my tubal. My worst fear is a 5th! I recommend refusing leave the hospital until your tubal! Also you’re human not a machine. Don’t hold yourself to high standards because that’s what usually leads to stress. Learn to live for yourself not just your kids. Messy house and no energy? It’ll be there in the morning. Also hold your partner accountable and talk to him about lessening your burden by helping more. It takes 2 to have them and takes a village to raise them. Don’t be afraid to admit defeat and ask for help! But most importantly you can do it!! There will be hard days with 3. A 4th wont make it worse or better. 3 is the hardest. The 4th is like whatever. What’s one more? Lol hope this helps. Sorry you’re going through this! I am however super glad I chose to keep my baby. He’s the sweetest of all of them and the other kids help keep him entertained. I’m actually more relaxed now than when my older 3 were little. They’re 13, 12, 4, and 1. They’re a huge help even without me asking just by keeping him entertained. He has them wrapped around his little finger!
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We have 5 boys… it’s exhausting but i promise it’s worth it!
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Probably too late for the “abortion pill.”
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I will care for your baby if you have it, remember life is very precious!!
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Why are there so many men in this group? !!! I notice they are also a good chunk of the comments against abortion. This is your body and only you can make a decision for your body.
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Don’t have an abortion. I promise that it will haunt you forever! You have 4…have this last one and have your tubes tied. This way you will have no regrets or what if’s following you around. I know 
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God planned this child and you take care of it ! Please remember God don’t make mistakes ! Enjoy that new life ! God bless you praying for you .
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I know someone that lost there baby that would love to have a baby and love it
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You do what is right for you.
If you choose abortion, that is an ethical and moral choice. If you choose adoption, that is an ethical and moral choice. If you choose to keep the baby, that is an ethical and moral choice. I recommend you meet with a lay counselor who can help you sort through this to make the choice that is best for you and your family
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Maybe this wasn’t the right place to come for advice on this. Sounds like you already know what you want to do you just are unsure cuz of guilt put on you by society, if you don’t want to put you body and mind through the stress of another pregnancy that is 100% okay you have 3 beautiful lives you created that I’m sure don’t want their momma unhappy or stressed 24/7
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With every pregnancy, my husband was never happy about it until about the middle. It took me that long to reassure him that we made it work last time, we’ll make it again. Even with baby 5.
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Do what is best for you and have your significant other get snipped. Screw the tubal. 
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Not many are planned, but the joy is worth it.
Best of luck to you , after I had my first I was done, like I asked the doctor to take my uterus and throw it in the street, so I feel you. I did get pregnant again I am glad I stuck through it now but you have to do what is right for you and your well being.
I personally don’t ever want children, and even though I was on the pill and used a condom, I still got pregnant! I called my doctor and they didn’t have the abortion pill, so I had to drive to a clinic 2 hours away. I didn’t have a hard time with it, both physically and mentally. I also dont have kids, or the desire to have any so I may feel differently. Just remember there is no wrong way to feel, no matter what you decide to do 
Also, my current boyfriend and I discovered Planned Parenthood will do vasectomies on males over 18 and they have a sliding fee!
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Definitely ask your OB those questions. Not facebook. These people don’t care about you or your choice, only their opinion and their agenda. Having an abortion is a valid option and you should speak with your doctor about all your options so you can make an informed decision.
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Do what us right for you but hopefully you don’t have an abortion and you give the baby up for adoption.
You can only do why’s right for you and your family… being overwhelmed with another child gives no happiness to you or the child. Seek your heart… you will make the best choice for you… Sending hugs
Give it up for adoption
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Hey sweet what a hard thing to go through at the end of the day it’s your life your body your decision do what is right for u and your family
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Please, talk to God before you terminate your pregnancy. I was in your shoes once and my husband wanted me to abort. I am a firm believer that EVE RY baby is planted for Gods glory. Two years later, daughter number two was killed in a car bike crash. If I wouldn’t have had her I am sure I would have committed suicide in my grief. You are a lot stronger than you know. Many people would adopt the child, too. Please think of this as a gift from God.
Choose the best option for YOU no matter of others opinions/beliefs/ guilt trips/etc.
Look at clinics and choose the BEST OPTION FOR YOU. Adoption isn’t for all/ abortions aren’t for all/keeping isn’t for all. Whatever choice you make, make sure it is for YOU. No matter what you choose do NOT be ashamed. Look into aidacess/shoutyourabortion/ and many others if you choose that option to know you are NOT alone. If adoption seek support from others as well. If keep find a counselor you trust and speak to them.
Have you considered adopting? You can also call you OB, and talk with them, about all your options.
I didn’t want mine either. She is now 43 and she is always there for me, offering encouragement and companionship. She cares about people and is patient, warm and inviting…I couldn’t have had a better child.
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you have to do what you feel is right for yourself and your family. You have options and you have time and whatever your decision you will be okay
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I had 4 and didn’t want 5, god knew best! In my old age that 5th one has been a life saver for me, don’t try to out think God, he has a plan for you. You’ll make it, my dear💜
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Do what is best for YOU, even if it’s an abortion. It’s no one else’s decision. If your mental or physical health will have a negative impact, you need to talk to your doctor about your options. Positive vibes whatever YOU decide.
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My 4th baby was scary too. Pregnant, by myself. Labor and delivery, by myself. She’s 18 now, and my very best friend. I can’t imagine my life without her. You can do this. And you can also take the other route. Either way, you’ll be okay. Just remember, no matter what people say, you’re the only one that is going to live with your choice
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Your lucky to be able to have kids,I had to have an emergency hysterectomy when I was 22.Wish I could of had more.Ever think of letting someone adopt …
If you dont want it please find a family that will adopt it. There are so many who would love to have a child of their own and cant physically make it happen.
My sister had some of these same issues with her surprise 4th but he is 20 now and in the military. She went through an emotional roller coaster also.
You do what you need to girl. And do not let anyone’s stories make you feel bad. I have been there and I’ve done nothing that I’ve been sorry for. And I have four grown children. Do not let anyone make you feel guilty. It was about my mental health at the time I also had a newborn and was in no position to have another so quickly. I had an abortion and it was sad but I’ve never been sorry. If you need a friend PM me. Be strong. So what’s right for you
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I think this is a subject that no one can really give you advice on. It is your body and life, you need to make that decision for yourself. But I would suggest to really think this through before you make a decision that will change your life forever. Talk to someone you trust and know will support you no matter what… maybe a close friend or even see an online therapist. I would hate for you to regret your decision later in life.
I didn’t plan my third but couldn’t imagine my life without her. 4th will balance out the 3
After the third one you don’t even notice a difference my fourth was the best one good luck
Adoption. Please if you decide to do anything but keep it, give you child the chance to be a blessing to someone else. They are gifts from God. I don’t like hearing about parents being so heartless that they kill them. There is someone out there who has a lot of love to give a child. Please be informed on any decision you may make
you know, not being an ass or anything. B maybe some birth control doesn’t work for most women. I. My case I took three different ones and got pregnant 3 different times after my first. Sometimes being “fixed doesn’t work either, they can either grow back or untie! Some women’s body to different things. Maybe some women don’t want that toxic stuff in there body Damaging there body also? I can stand up to the ones who had birth control and it didn’t work I had three different types. The pill, the shot, the iud. All I’m saying is some don’t work us women that want to take birth control but there body rejects it. I’m 21, with 3 little girls and #4 on the way. Had the iud but as you can see my body rejected it and it came out . But god doesn’t put these babies here for no reason. I’m overwhelmed, scared, but I know if I can do it, you can to. I hate this for myself but all I know is I can do this with help or without help! Keep your head up! No matter the situation. YOU CAN DO THIS!!! Much love for you momma!
I don’t remember her post mentioning anything about religious beliefs being a factor. Bottom line, you have the option to choose whichever path you feel suits your life best. Because you mentioned being overwhelmed, I’m guessing adoption would be too much for your own mental health. Most doctors can offer the abortion pill if you’re very early on. There are still other procedures that can be performed if not. I am not someone that is going to judge you or blame you. Accidents happen and sometimes it’s okay to correct the mistakes in a way that feels comfortable for you. It isn’t your responsibility to handle a 4th pregnancy just because somebody else selfishly wants your baby. I support any decisions that you make and I wish you all the best. I suggest calling your gyno first thing Tuesday and discussing your options!! And remember that no matter what you choose, it does not and will not define you. There is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself first.
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It is overwhelming…i am pregnant with my 5th. In the beginning i just cried n cried lol. But now im 7 months along and i cant wait! We only live once and yea its guna be crazy hectic for awhile but we have the rest of our lives to rest after they are grown. In my opinion, its a blessing.
Right now your over whelmed and rightly so, but give yourself credit your stronger then you think. Bad timeing yes, but you can do it. Unless your over 49 you will handle it well. That other choice you are referring to will haunt you for the rest of your life. So sit down take a deep breathe and do one day at a time. Keep in touch from time to time. Let us know how your doing. Wish you well.
So you won’t be overwhelmed by the 5th, talk to your doc about future long term options. There are many available.
I’M IN THE EXACT SAME BOAT 20 WEEKS WITH A 4TH THAT WAS NOT PLANNED AND TOTALLY A SURPRISE😬. My oldest is 4 years old my youngest 1 on the 21st this month. I AM EXHAUSTED IN EVERYWAY but here we are. Every child is born for a reason and it’s ultimately your choice on what you choose to do keep it or not. I face that decision but for myself I can’t kill something that hasn’t even had a chance yet so that’s why January will be having our fourth and in a week and a half we find out what the gender is.
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Tough titty ever heard of the pill
We can talk about it
Some states have the overnight pill
I think what they call it. Call the pharmacy and see if they have it. Depending on what state your in
Some of these comments are awesome and beautiful 
Keep your legs crossed
I can relate. I never wanted children and didn’t find out I was pregnant with mine until I was in my second trimester. Honestly, the feeling of not wanting children hasn’t went away over the last 11 years, it’s just made it really difficult to be a mom.
There is absolutely no shame in knowing that you can’t handle it (or just don’t want to handle it) and getting an abortion. Please don’t let anyone shame you out of that. This can help you get the pills: plancpills.org
And please look into adoption trauma before listening to all of these people recommending adoption. Adoption is extremely traumatic for children, even when it goes well.
My mom got pregnant with me right before she divorced my dad and I was number 5. All of my other siblings were older, the youngest was 10 years old. She was a single mom of 5 kids and did it. I ended up being the closes one to her. We are best friends and do everything together! sometimes God places people and children in our lives for the better even when we don’t think so and wonder why. His plan is always bigger than ours. This baby could end up being the best thing that’s ever happened to you. Please don’t do anything you will regret
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You are bless and the good lord dose not give you more then you can handle my grand daughter had 6 miscarriage she and is pg now and we are so happy chin up girl u can do it
I went trough the same with my daughter ( I was in domestic violent situation) I never wanted another child , I was all over, depressed, stressed , abused , threatened… though about every option. And now I have amazing two year old who pushes me to be better human , better mother … this child saved my life and thought me life lessons. I went trough hell , and would do it all over again. When those little hands grab you around for a hug and you hear “ mom “ .
It will be hard , but trust me one step at the time because it all worth .
Now I have 2 bio kids and three amazing step kids . I’m beyond blessed . Sometimes is rough being a stay home mommy , but oh man I wouldn’t have it another way …
You know your own personal limits and what is right for you and your mental health. You cannot take care of your family if you don’t take care of yourself. If having another seems too much, do not feel guilty for going with your gut instinct and putting your own needs first. At the same time though, try not to make a permanent decision based on temporary emotions….the decision going either way. Talk it through with your support (husband, friends, family, whoever that may be to you) who knows you and your situation and figure out what will be best for YOU. Wishing you the best, mama
A lot of people are literally dying to have a kid and they are doing everything they can, paying thousands of dollars and still couldn’t . You have a blessing that others are killing themselves to have it. In my opinion i think you should keep this pregnancy and i am pretty sure this baby will be the most special one
Always choose the baby. You have three children already. Imagine if one day they just weren’t there anymore. Word of advice as well? Stop having babies if you know you don’t want more babies 
Like others have said you have options! Talking to your OB about them would be ideal. Please just always remember it is YOUR choice on how you choose to move forward. Others have their opinions but please don’t let that suade you. If you live in a state where your options are severely limited and you don’t feel safe then please reach out 
YUP SHO NUFF BEEN THERE!! Haha. When I found out NO. 4 was in the making, my guy found me in a heap! Bawling! Devastated! But God made him for a reason only He knew of! He’s 23 now and I canNOT imagine our life without him! What a blessing. He is the peace keeper and maker. Please don’t despair. U will love this one just like the others. I PROMISE!! Here’s a hug O
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Take a deep breath…this child will be a blessing you NEVER expected!! You can DO it 
U think long n hard on this ur heart will tell u what to do don’t do for somebody else u r the only one that knows ur body n mind better then anybody else. Do what best for u. God bless u.
There are so many couples (gay/straight) that would love that baby… Please consider adoption
Hope you don’t live in Texas
Sending love and prayers your way
It’s 100% okay to get rid of an unwanted pregnancy! Nobody seems to be telling you that. It’s okay to not want more children and it’s absolutely okay to have an abortion if you know you don’t have it in you to have and raise more.
Do what’s best for YOU.
And may try the pharmacy for an abortion pill. They’ll probably have better answers
I am so sorry that you have no one to help you through this. That being said as a mother of 3 that you could consider killing your 4rth baby makes me sad. I hope you will consider adoption and will get your tubes tied this time. Also really evaluate your personal worth and that of your children. You all deserve better then men that are not committed. And you as the mother have to do better for them.
I will pray for you and hope you will reach out and get the help you need.
God bless.