Adoption maybe. For those of us with infertility would be thankful to just “fall” pregnant. We spent thousands to have just one baby
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Theres atleast 4 people I know who are approved for home adoption just waiting on the perfect baby.
Who would make wonderful parents.
Just through that out that there
This is a convo u need to have with hubby. I support pro choice but that depends on your beliefs. I’m sure you’ll figure it out.
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I’d suggest sitting down and discussing it, firstly it’s important to remember no woman should ever feel responsible or beat themselves up for being pregnant, you didn’t get pregnant by yourself. Sit down and discuss this, see where his heads at, explain where yours is and figure out a game plan that works best for your family. As someone who struggled for a while with infertility and pregnancy loss, I recommend if you guys do decide that adding to your family isn’t for you, I really do suggest looking into couples looking to adopt because so many are out there with all the love in the world and no baby to give it to. 
I’m wishing you and your family all the best. Also keep in mind, discussing it allows you both to really delve into a solution you may not have thought of alone if you guys both realize you’d rather keep the baby.
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Whatever you do don’t kill it!
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Talk with your hubby. It does take 2 people to create a child, so do not take on all the blame. A child is a blessing. You two must decide together what the options are. Dont freak out…dont panic. You will be ok.
I mean. Its ur body ur choice.
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All these women telling her not to abort.
Are you going to pay her childcare fees? Are you going to buy her diapers? Are you going to buy her formula? Or wake up at all hours to breast feed this baby? Are you going to help her get through post partum depression from not being able to properly care for the baby?
Or are you personally going to take this baby off her hands and out of the already full to the brim foster care system?
Are you personally going to pay the thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars to have someone adopt this baby?
Stay out of her uterus.
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Find someone that’s like me. Struggles getting pregnant and really wants a baby. I know many people that desperately want children, but can’t have them. Adoption is a beautiful thing!
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Make your OWN decision
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My unplanned 3rd baby is the only true person in my life who cares, we have buried his older brother and father and my daughter doesn’t talk to me You have been granted a gift so few get embrace it and love him he isnt responsible for his parents choices
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There is a lot of choices for an unborn baby and only your choice that matters at this point is yours only
God is not going to pay your bills or provide daycare. Don’t let a bunch of strangers guilt you into making a decision that you don’t want to make. None of these people here are paying your bills or helping your every day life any better. There is no shame in WHATEVER decision you make, only you know what’s best for your family.
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You’ll be surprised at what you can do. Just calm down.
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You do what’s best for you and your family. I was just faced with this recently. I as well have 2 kids both of which are in daycare and strapped for cash. Babys are not always the blessings these pro lifers want you to believe. Options you have 3 keep the baby , abort , or adoption. It’s your choice. Speaking from my own experiences I would go with abortion it’s not fair to the kids you have to watch mommy go through an entire pregnancy to be thinking they’re getting a little brother or sister and then BOOM nothing. Kids are smart . You dont need anyone’s approval to do what’s right for yourself and your family. I have a feeling you already know what you want to do & are looking for clarity or for it to be Okay. You will NEVER get that on here . People on the internet are disgusting, one minded, self serving opinionated fools. You Do you baby girl Fuck what anyone has to say about . It’s not their buisness or life its yours. Good luck I’ll be praying for your peace of mind
Do you have family or friends who can help?
A blessing in disguise:)
You probably should have already been on BC and been using protection if you didnt want another child. 
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Do what works best for YOU - not for what strangers say on the internet. It’s your body, your choice… You have 3 options; abort, adopt out, or keep the baby 
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If you dont want the baby, adoption. If you do then get help yo pay daycare or get a family to keep. Good luck.
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YOU do what you think is necessary whether it’s abortion, adoption, keeping it and figuring it out as you go it’s all up to you and your family. You will get through it
Its completely your choice
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You’ll figure it out. Definitely a blessing in disguise. Mine is about to turn 4 and I’m a widowed mom of 3. If I can figure it out alone y’all can too. Just refrain from sex after baby is born until you can cut your tubes or your husband gets cut. I don’t mean to sound rude, I’m just blunt, but we all know that sex makes babies. Now you have to be responsible for your actions!
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I have been in your shoes. Just had my third little surprise. I was in complete shock and freaked when I found out I was pregnant. I just had my baby girl 7 weeks ago and she is such a blessing. I thank god every single day for allowing me to be her mom. It’s not going to be easy with daycare bills but we will make it work. You can do this mama!
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Girl, let me start off by saying I was 15 when I got pregnant and had my daughter 2 months of turning 16. I helped my mom with my 4 younger siblings at the time (I’m the oldest) and I was scared shitless. She is 10 going on 11. I wanted another baby years ago but came to terms that it wasn’t going to happen due to female issues I have. I went to college and did my two years of prerequisites and finally took my TEAS test last year and passed! I was so excited about getting accepted into Nursing School! I had everything going great -house, car, bills, etc- and a week before I started Nursing school, I decided to pee on that stick and 
I had a positive! I was freaking out! What was I going to do? I wanted to have an abortion 110%! I even sat an appointment up and went to see about my options… I was so scared but at the same time I felt disbelief! Why have I tried for YEARS to have another baby and it never happened, I went to specialists and all that but still nothing then I’m all of a sudden pregnant when I had goals. I had plans. I would be graduating nursing school in one year! I decided to keep it. I’m now 34 weeks along with a baby boy 
and I dropped out of nursing school after spending over $2,000 on my uniforms and books. I decided it was okay to take yet another break because school will always be there… I had to quit, the moment I found out I was pregnant I had morning sickness severely until about week 17. I’m talking non stop at any point in the day and was hospitalized for dehydration a couple times. I tried for so long and gave up hope and God said it was my time. Trust me, you’ll find a way through! Things come to us when we least expect it! I’m not saying it’s going to be hard because life is hard in general. Of course you have options but discuss that with your husband. I’m telling you, there is a way 
Congratulations btw!
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Babies are a blessing and somehow god sees you two fit to handle this. My sister has three daughters. 19,15 and 3mths… she found out she was pregnant at 27 weeks, she didn’t know because she hasn’t had a period for two years and she don’t show with any pregnancy she has had… two days after this baby was born they found out her husband has stage 4 cancer… things happen for a reason! Don’t be scared just go with the flow!
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Do what you feels best for you and your family. Completely your decision , don’t let anyone make you feel uncomfortable or ashamed for your choices. Good luck !
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Look into a sitter or nanny for the specific times that you need. They’re usually cheaper than daycare and more willing to help when the child is sick or needs extra attention.
There really never is a right time to get pregnant. My first child was not planned and I was 21. I was nervous about how I was going to make it work and here I am 6 years later with two kids living life just fine. It will work itself out. But if you really don’t want it there is always adoption or abortion.
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Whatever your choice, there’s no need to feel ashamed. Abortion, adoption, or keeping the baby- it’s your body, and your choice.
Can your husband switch shifts? So someone is always home with the kids so you can keep em out of daycare?
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Keep your baby!! Give your distress to God. He IS there. He WILL hear you. Doubt give up!!
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Okay contact you local birth wright. Rught down all your bills see what you can cut. Start lookimg for inhome daycares or a nanny. You got this. I had this same position last june i had my youngest. She is my blessing after everything my family has been through. The choice is yours do whats best for you but remember there isnt just abortion. There is adoption closed and open. You can do this it maybe hard but you can succeed.
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Don’t abort!! You will always regret it and there’s no undoing it!!
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I will adopt your baby. Please don’t choose abortion.
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Every thing works its self out a baby is a blessing be happy lots of woman would love a chance at that
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Talk it over with your husband and if you guys can make it work financially then that’s great. If not, you have options. Don’t let anyone shame you or make decisions for you when they won’t be the one struggling to raise it.
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Would love to have had another baby
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Abortion is an option. Emotional or not, sometimes it’s the most logical one.
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If you don’t want it and can’t financially take care of it and are comfortable with getting an abortion that’s what I would do. You don’t have to keep something you don’t want and can’t take care of
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Stop beating yourself up mama. Things happen when we least expect it. Sometimes life puts a bump in the road to prepare you for more in the future. You’re a good mom, don’t doubt that. Ultimately it’s up to you on if you wanna keep your baby, abortion, or adoption. I would talk with hubby & figure out if you can make ends meet with this new little one. State help (assuming you’re in the US) offers WIC, food stamps, vouchers for free daycare, etc. The help is there if you need it. If not, I’d consider adoption. There are hundreds of families looking to adopt newborns. If you decide abortion, that’s ultimately up to you & hubby. I would (if I were in your shoes) sit down & figure out a budget plan with hubs & look into state help. There’s nothing wrong with help from others. We all need it sometimes & that’s okay! I wish you the best of luck mama. Keep your chin up!
Why not have an abortion? It would be responsible if you’re in no position to have a 3rd
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Are you eligible for any assistance? Have any income adjusted daycares, family, or friends willing to help? You got this. Babies are all blessings and god has gifted you something precious and amazing you got this!
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You have been given a most blessed gift in this world. A baby. A preciose innocent little baby. You and your husband will work it out. Pray a d God will help you. If you didnt want more babies BOTH OF YOUS should of been using birth control. Dont punish the innocent baby by aborting it. How could you look at your other children a d even consider such a thing. There is always adoption. You could adopt this baby out to a couple who can not have children or you can have your baby and love it. It’s something that the both of yous need to talk about and agree on. It has to be a choice that the familey can all live with.
Ew so much judgement in these comments
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You could always choose adoption, so many couples out there without kids looking to adopt, just don’t abort. It
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I don’t comment on this page much; I read it when it flows through my feed for entertainment value. To all the haters and negative nellies on this page, where is your compassion?! Why so rude? This momma is obviously struggling… why kick her while she is down? And to those of you who don’t “believe” in abortion, don’t have one!!! And finally, to the mama… I am so sorry you are in this unexpected position. Could be a “mistake” could be a “surprise” or a “blessing.” Ultimately, it is a choice. Your choice… yours and your husband’s. Make the choice that is right for you and your family. If this is going to put undue stress on your family and was not in the plan, there are options. I wish you the best.
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Day care isn’t forever. Cut down somewhere else until the older kids can help out.
Nine years ago this was me. Freaking out about how to make it work, my oldest kids were 6 & 7 and finally in school full days
I would NOT change having her for all the money in the world. She is the light of my life.
Whatever you do, you’ll make do. If you choose to keep the baby, one day you may feel the same. If you choose not to keep the baby, that’s ok too. Just don’t make decisions based on fear.
Well, at least by the time the baby is due, your youngest will be starting pre-k. So, really, it won’t be adding as much as it seems.
What you do is your choice, completely. But at least try to consider the situation from all aspects. Not just what it is like right now. Good luck!
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I think you make a choice that works best for YOU and YOUR family. Honestly grossed out by some of these comments.
Whatever you choose do because of YOUR beliefs.
I will say I had my 2nd and made it work. It wasn’t easy, I wasn’t ready and I had a depo baby (as in responsibly on birth control) it happens.
So what’s right for you and your family.
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Do you qualify for childcare assistance? Do you have any friends or family that can help babysit? Maybe someone who goes to school would like to be a nanny and take night classes?
It all works out. I was 16 and pregnant scared to death I could barely care for myself. My mom still gave me lunch money 
But me and my kids dad (we now have 3) got through it. We got jobs and made it work. Some weeks tougher than others but we did it and she was/is well taken care of and more importantly loved so much!
First of all take a deep breath mamma. Second, congratulations!!! My goodness, it shouldn’t be this way and you shouldn’t be shamed for not having an abortion nor not putting the baby up for adoption. It will work out, even if it means you won’t be comfortable for a while. Now, what i suggest you do is set up and sign tubal ligation paperwork prior to your due date IN CASE YOU HAVE A C-SECTION. My husband was also supposed to have a vasectomy and even though both my kids were born natural, I went to the class and signed for the tubal ligation with my fourth pregnancy and I ended up having an emergency c-section and they took care of it that day. Best peace of mind I have right now. I am telling you this because I cried when I found out I was pregnant with my third baby and was upset and my baby girl was stillborn. The guilt I have to live with of those being my thoughts I don’t wish on anyone. I feel our family wouldn’t be complete without our youngest and can’t imagine life without her. Breath please. you will be ok
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Abortions should only be for those whose lives depend on it, not for just getting pregnant and deciding you don’t want the baby cause you don’t want the responsibility of taking care of it. And dont comment and say not everyone can use bc. Her husband can get a vasectomy. Thats my opinion. Don’t like it, keep the hateful comments to yourself and keep on scrolling.
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Everything happens for a reason and you will make a way for this too! You have a lot of time before the baby will be here so start looking at all the options you have for childcare around you! A lot of time you can find a sitter to come in your home for a lot cheaper than daycare… maybe a friend, relative, someone’s child going to college… care.com is something you could look at for sitter help… maybe any programs in your area that will help with daycare… i know it feels crazy at this point to have the baby but i think you would regret a different decision later on… talk with your husband and figure this out together!
Fun fact: if you can’t afford another child, or you simply don’t WANT another child, it’s perfectly okay to have an abortion & you dont have to justify it to anyone in this god damn group either or take their judgement
Do whats best for YOU and YOUR family. Sending you a ton of love 
I’ll pay for it and adopt the precious baby
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Pray. God makes a way. Your new baby will be a joy.
With all due respect ma’am!! I don’t know your situation and I’m not trying to put you down or anyting but you could probably live with just one income if you downsize some !! I mean it wouldn’t have to be forever just till the kid gets school-aged . There are lots of ways you can downsize drive a less expensive car, live in a less expensive house, cook at home instead of going out to eat, and maybe get a less expensive phone and phone plan. Everyone nowadays wants to keep up with the Joneses too much and be materialistic. There’s lots of ways you can save money on just one income. I did it for years with my husband and my children. Sure you don’t have the best of everything but you can live without a lot believe it or not. Plus in Matthew 6:26 and I’m paraphrasing of course it says that the Lord will take care care of the birds in the air feed them and clothe them so therefore he would do for you because he cares about you more. Sometimes you just have to pray and have faith in God! God will always take care of us I don’t know about you but he’s never let me down before even though I’m struggling sometimes and seems like I’m barely making it a lot of days but I’ve never gone one day without a meal I’ve managed to keep electricity and running water in my house I don’t always have a lot to eat but we have to be thankful for what we have!!! Like I always told my kids we may only eat bologna sandwiches everyday for a week but a lot of kids would give their eye teeth for that bologna sandwich ! So basically just pray and keep your faith in God God will take care of you !!
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It’s a life not a death be happy. The more the merrier
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Your baby is a gift from God.
This problem will work out.
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You can always get help for child care try it and see don’t stress about it everything will work out the end
I believe everything happens for a reason. It will work itself out.
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I’ll adopt your baby if that’s what’s best lol . There’s many good options . But also 7-8 is a really good age to teach responsibility to the oldest. It can be scary . I have a 12 year old and 5 year old and 5 month old who weighs in at 21 lbs . My pregnancy’s are horrible. I gain 70 lbs roughly. I’d love to be done and not have to go through it again.
Just breathe. Sit down with your hubby and a nice cup coffee/tea and really talk about what would be the best option for your family. Come to a decision together. No one can make this decision for you. Whatever the two of you decide is what’s right for the two of you. That’s all that matters. Don’t let family, friends, or strangers on the internet have more sway than your gut and your husbands opinion. Do what’s right for you. 
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OP didn’t ask for a pro-life/pro-choice debate. She didn’t even MENTION abortion and everyone just became a-holes to each other.
She knows what her options are, and she knows whether or not she’s open to abortion or adoption.
Perhaps we should JUST give her constructive advice about her options OUTSIDE of the obvious ones.
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Abortion is not murder…
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I’d really love to share a recent situation I’ve gone through. I’m not comfortable putting it all out there, but if you wanna message me mama please do! I’d love to share my experience about what happened when I was just recently in this situation. do what is best for your family & yourself, no matter what anyone else thinks!
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Children are a blessing there is a reason that God is giving you another child you should be happy God gives you no more than you can handle things will work out they always do and when they are all grown up you will see that I have 4 children and when I had only 3 I became Pregnant with my fourth one and I said the same thing what are we going to do well we were blessed and I love my children more than ever they are all grown up and we have 7 beautiful Grandchildren so what are you going to do ? You have that baby and God will help you though this and you will never be sorry you are bless be happy
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Each child is a blessing try to find a way
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Try to find someone you can trust for an in home daycare. Might be cheaper.
There are so many families praying to God for a baby. Every baby is a blessing. Message me if adoption is an option. I have clients who dream of being parents.
Take a breath. When I got married I said I wanted 2 kids. Then I got pregnant w #3, 4, 5, 6 and 7. It’s not the end of the world I promise my husband is the sole provider for our family. I homeschool my kids and though times might be tough sometimes financially we make it. God always provides for our needs. If you have to, get some government help so you can help cover the costs of healthcare, food, and formula if you choose to do that. There are options. If you don’t want to go that route, choose adoption!!! Please please please do not abort that innocent child. It did not choose to be conceived. If people want to tell you that baby doesn’t feel pain through that process they’re lying. If you still are leaning that direction, please watch a video of the process first.
I know you didn’t mention that in your comment but I saw some suggesting it. Not to mention all of the psychological effects it will have on you at some point.
I beg you. Take some time to accept it bc I know first hand how hard that is when you aren’t ready for another baby. It’s hard!!! But it’s ok and you can work through it!!
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Work.from home,open an in home daycare, computer work… but do what you and your husband thinks Is best… you need to talk to him about it
Look into daycare vouchers from public assistance. Sometimes if your household income is low enough you can qualify for them.
I wish I could help you genuinly I hope u get sorted out its not nice being stuck in a situation it must be really hard .
If I could u could adopt the baby would that be a possibility/abortion as the post said maybe ur not ready but your body your say… and what if u gave up the baby. Alot to think bout I hope u can decide in what’s best for you and your family x
Just let me have the baby.
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First off you BOTH allowed this to happen. Thats just it life happens and we deal with. Its all your choice what you do but some choices never leave your mind even if they leave your life. Do whats best for your family and its no ones business what that is.
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I’m so sorry that u are so stressed. If termination is an option please go in right away. And have hubby get snipped because it is much easier to do that than to have your tubes tied. Good luck!
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There a reason for the situation you are in Just live it in God hands and have faith!!
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Don’t blame urself. God makes no mistakes. No daycare fees. U have children of ur own. Stay home with the children. Make flyers around the neighborhood and school. To help other parents babysitt. This will be ur job u can make some cash to help out with.
If you consider adoption my cousin and his wife are hoping to adopt. I could send you their adoption profile with an agency. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and I hope you find the strength and guidance to figure out what’s best for your family 
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Have you looked into an in home daycare usually cheaper
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Look into state assistance and maybe look at a side hustle.
Sit down. Talk to your husband. You didnt make this baby on your own. Let him take some of the burden too. Talk about all of your options. Abortion, Adoption. I know it is hard making life changing decisions, but you can do it hon. Prayer.
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Try asking the state for help ask about different programs they offer
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Time to cut down some costs!
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Breath, look at your kids and know this one will be wanted and loved , do your best each day and know it’s what is supposed to happen. We plan God laughs then blesses us with something we never even thought of .
Start saving everything you can now, days off , money , energy lol.
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If you’re absolutely sure you don’t want this baby, then remember your right to choose. And there is always adoption, no shame in either of those choices.
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Don’t let your baby become biohazard waste!! Just keep it and love it!
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Talk to your hubby and the both of you can decide how to move forward!
If you contact wic they pay for daycare.
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God makes no mistakes and a mother always makes a way.
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Talk to your man before you do anything! He should be included. Also, whatever you guys decide is best for you and your family, it is the right decision. Don’t let anyone make you think different.
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Abortion is a option
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I didn’t want to comment and I’m sure I’ll get a lot of hate too. I had my first at 19…young and very scared. Shes 17 now with 2 brothers who are 13 and 5. I was beyond depressed when I found out I was pregnant with a 12 yr old and 8 yr old. I am now a single mom who is raising 3 amazing kids on my own. It CAN be done. So if you don’t want the kid say so. Dont blame money or anything else. But I honestly don’t think it should even be an option to keep it. It should be a blessing even if not planned.
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Your relationship will never be the same if you will chose not to keep the baby
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We had 3 girls close together. The youngest was 11 when we were surprised learning I was pregnant at age 39. We farm so money is not always plentiful. Anyway our son is now grown and a true blessing from God. I’m praying for you and the baby you’re carrying.
Every baby is a blessing, so try to be happy about it. I would sit down with my husband and have a serious discussion about what is best. I would also look into teaching from home or something. I wish the best for you and your family! Good luck.
Ma’am my heart goes out to you. Being a GOOD mother is taking into consideration the living, breathing children running through your house right NOW. I GET IT! And as UNPOPULAR my opinion will be, Talk to you’re husband, You didn’t wake up pregnant, He helped get you pregnant, Its just as much HIS responsibility as yours and regardless of what is decided it should be jointly decided. Its EASY for strangers to say Get all the FREEBIES, Wic,Foodstamps, Daycare , I would ck the AVAILABILITY AND QUALIFICATIONS for assistance. Here in Harris county TX , NCI (DAYCARE ASSISTANCE) Has a one year waiting list. PLZ Dont let the DO GOODERS guilt you into having a child YOU will be responsible for. Only YOU and your Husband can make this choice. Much Love Crosby TX
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