I wouldn’t fight this. It’s called a spectrum for a reason, there are many varying degrees of severity. Even if she if functioning, she can still have it. It’s not an end of the world diagnosis, not by a long shot. Neither the teachers nor the school can diagnose your child. And neither can YOU. That has to be done by a specialist and have to have your consent. I would see what they have to say, because if she is on the spectrum, she may need help. You wouldn’t withhold the help your child needs would you? I don’t know you but I am sure that you wouldn’t. Please reconsider for your child’s sake. My friend wasn’t diagnosed until she was an adult in their 20’s, when they did, it explained so many things.
Sincerely, an autism mom.
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My son has mild autism going to main steam High school just has little melt downs if he has to write things down cos he knows it in his head and doesn’t understand teacher needs to see it does alot of stimming with excitement he’s very clever stuck with rest of the kids that year autism not a bad thing they just have a different way of thinking. He had little interaction when he was younger due with me being poorly. But he’s loads of friends now she will grow put of it, if they wanna test her let them they will know what their doing.
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Just let it happen and if there is a problem…deal with it. Whatever the outcome it’s what’s best for your daughter…not what you don’t want deal with or deny. Sorry
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An IEP can seriously help your child through school. It seems you see an evaluation as a negative when they are just trying to see what they can do to assist your child through. An IEP can help with anything from test taking to behavioral issues and beyond. It is not there to be a negative or a punishment for you or your child.
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If the schools are having these concerns mover multiple years, take her to the psychologist and get her checked out. Maybe she has autism, maybe not. It looks very different in girls and in all kids. Or maybe she has something else going on. My two boys are autistic and they are night and day different from eachother in looks, behavior, and schooling.
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This right here is the reason so few girls get diagnosed, because we can fake neurotyoicality better. These teachers are trained to see this. If in doubt,have them doctor-tested ,I did. Both came back on Spectrum.
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Autism is a spectrum, girls are most often left undiagnosed due to the ability to mask well, many women who have autism have ended up even undiagnosed into adulthood. Some kids are merely developmentally delayed, others maybe on the spectrum, while still others may have a different learning disability. Just follow procedures and have her tested to know for sure and from there use it as a guide to help her grow. Best of luck
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Unless your a doctor I wouldn’t assume. I was told my behaviors my whole life were not what they were then I was diagnosed Adhd/anxiety disorder/depression. Your only helping your child being checked by a pro. BTW, I am also in Education and unless the specialist has a medical degree too I’d go with an actual doctor.
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It’s a wide spectrum. Some children need different types of things. No child is the same. My son couldn’t focus in a large classroom, he needs a smaller group. He’s on the spectrum. He has some social anxiety. But he’s the smartest kid I know, reads over his grade level his vocabulary is better than mine lol yet he needs some extra help and attention in certain areas. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. You have to get them the help they need. Doesn’t mean they need medication, doesn’t mean they’re not good enough. Just means they learn and understand things a little differently. Yes parents know their children better than anyone else, but we don’t sit In the classroom for 8 hours a day with them. Listen to what the team has to say, take it in and see how everyone collectively can help your child.
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You know your child better than anyone else. You are her voice. I know kids who are just very high energy when they get around other kids, yet calm at home. Yet school says ADHD right away. Sometimes I think they just drug them up so it’s less for them to handle. Do what YOU feel is right. You are the parent.
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Better to know than not. Save you and her the trouble and just do it.
Iep isn’t just to help them with doing class work it’s also for behavioral and social interactions
There is a reason they keep wanting to evaluate you can pay have a private evaluation done. Biggest advice be open minded if she’s on spectrum do not shame her for it. Sign her up for clubs or sports to work on peer interactions.
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Ok maybe you’re autistic?
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Don’t let them evaluate her just yet. Seek medical help from her pediatrician, let him know what the school is wanting to do. Have the pediatrician test her.
It seems they do try and have more kids diagnosed with autism because it grants the school more money for kids with disabilities. I would take her somewhere and have her evaluated.
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When my son was in 3rd grade, his teacher sent a note home stating she was concerned about his “dark side” that included coloring and/or his own art, that were always with dark colors. Then also wanted S.S. to inspect our home to find proof of child abuse, because he was so thin!!!
At that time we were running the ambulance service, and his Dad was taking the Dale CARNEGIE course, in which I was his coach. I believe I learned more than he did, from the course. Of course I was concerned about her accusation, but also not worried about any abuse in the home. I met with his teacher to answer to these concerns of HERS! AS I had just finished the book
“How to win friends and influence people” from the course, which, if anyone recalls this course, you know that the book title and what I had learne
An iep isn’t just for kids on the autism spectrum but it’s there to give the kids who need it help to succeed in school. Even if she is on the spectrum there is nothing wrong with that it just means that she processes things differently than neurotypical people do. My son was diagnosed with autism at the age of 6 before he started kindergarten and he recieves so many benefits and help through the school. Autism is a very wide spectrum some people can mask it and it goes undiagnosed quite a bit but others they have ticks and triggers and in other people it can show more than others who have it. Again nothing wrong with it and im sure u will love her the same regardless of whether she is on the spectrum or not but let her get this evaluation because the iep will only help her succeed in school and give her the tools she needs to succeed whether she is autistic or not the school professionals can evaluate and give her the help she needs to succeed in school because obviously they see that something is off and that she will benefit from these services and help that they have to offer which is why they want to do the iep. I learned alot about my sons autism diagnosis and im still learning things everyday about it the older he gets as he is constantly changing whether he has a new tick or I should say new way to stem. My son is also a toe walker which is common in some of those with autism because that can cause him some other problems we are working on the walking heel to toe so he isn’t always walking on toes. No diagnosis is a death sentence whether it be autism? Adhd, Add etc. An iep opens many doors for our kids and helps them succeed especially when they need the help. Take the schools diagnosis and take her to a child psychologist or child neurologist because they can also evaluate and they can tell u whether or not she is on the spectrum. U don’t want to cheat ur daughter out of help and services she can get and just because there is an autism diagnosis or any other diagnosis doesn’t necessarily mean she needs to be put onto medication. My oldest son has autism and hes not on medication but my youngest son has adhd and mild bipolar so he needs to be on medication. However my youngest son really doesn’t struggle much in school or with anything that his older brother struggles with so he doesn’t get an iep but my oldest does. Don’t be afraid because it’s something different than ur used to let her get the help I repeat let her get the help she needs because if u don’t then u are only hurting her and stopping her from being able to succeed how she needs to and the iep will help her do that.
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I know hearing that your child may have a problem is a very scary thing. My grandson is going through that with his little boy now. You have to trust that the people doing the testing see kids with issues every day. They aren’t singling your little girl out. They aren’t judging you. What they are doing is trying to help figure out what is going on with your little girl and how she thinks and absorbs information. Let her be tested. Take her to a doctor if you need to. Get her the help she needs starting now, while she’s young. It will set things up to be better down the line as opposed to waiting till she’s older. My great-grandson is smart as a whip at a lot of things. It’s phenomenal. But there are areas where he struggles. He’s in a program and goes to mainstream school a couple of days a week as well. They say he’s doing well. I thank God every day for the special people who are trained to diagnose and help our special children.
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Your own Doctor would have seen the signs. So what I would do is go and see that Teacher and read her the riot act. They are not trained to diagnose but only to teach.
You can always have her evaluated by a psychologist of your choosing through your own insurance.
But I’d keep open minded.
Especially because if the school is willing to evaluate they must really have reason for concern as in many peoples experience it’s often pretty hard to get them to agree to testing and evaluation.
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Girls have different symptoms when it comes to autism. Its not a death sentence. Bring her to a specialist outside the school to find out
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How do you “1000% know she isnt”
That’s literally their job, to spot and diagnose these things…let them do their jobs. Who cares if she is on the spectrum, they just want to help her, you should too
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Ask questions if you don’t understand. If she is on the spectrum theres nothing wrong with it. My daughter is on the spectrum and very high functioning. Better know now then to late
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Have you considered you’re on the Spectrum too and maybe don’t realize? If she’s showing signs that young then she probably is. If you had the same, then you probably are too. Don’t be afraid of an ASD diagnosis. It’s a SPECTRUM and covers a wide range of things at different levels. Having it diagnosed provides so much educational support and opens doors. It doesn’t close them. If she is coping now, she might not once she hits twelve. It’s easier for it to hide itself through good routine and compliant behaviour but that isn’t healthy long term. Listen to what they say and see what happens. I’ve actually never met a child who was diagnosed with ASD or ADHD and thought they’re not. As a teacher you can often see signs and symptoms.
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Be open to the idea your child (and likely yourself) is on the spectrum. Do not scoff at the idea because you were the same way. She should get the services she needs, whether you agree or not.
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Do a private medical evaluation instead if you don’t feel comfortable with the school
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Talk to her pediatrician, soon. There is some incentive for schools to lable kids on the spectrum as they get federal money toward their education. Also some kids, like my middle child, are just naturally lively. When I asked his doctor about adhd he said, no, he’s just a healthy kid, but if you need something to help you cope with his activity level I can recommend something, lol, the school gave up after that.
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As parents we are often blinded about our own children and even our own selves. If they evaluate her there may be no findings but if there are that is just extra help your child will get. I am all for my child getting any extra assistance to meet life’s goals.
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My Son’s teacher asked if I have had considered having him tested for autism. I told her that another label is not something he needs and that he is exactly how God made him, autistic or not. Brody is Brody and he has his strengths and weaknesses just like anyone else.
I WISH my sons school was this concerned with helping my son. He was diagnosed as HF Autistic by several doctors (I don’t think they diagnose it as such anymore) and the school never wanted to help. I desperately tried to get him an IEP and the school would drag me around in circles and one teacher straight up didn’t give me the paperwork and would make excuses until the timeframe to submit the paperwork was up and I neverrrrr saw or got that paperwork….but they would have the audacity to complain to me about his poor grades and his lack of focusing etc. 
You sound very defensive of the possibility, why is that? Is it because you take a diagnosis of autism as a negative (it’s not) or that perhaps you may possibly be autistic and don’t like the idea of that? You said she has issues that you yourself had, autism diagnosis wasn’t as prevalent before and girls are good at masking, are you adamant she’s not autistic because she’s like you and you take it as them also saying you may be autistic as well and you think that’s bad? It’s really not, it’s a huge spectrum. My son isn’t the greatest with the average things taught in school but he is amazing in creative type things and things he is passionate about.
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Go to your pediatrician/family doctor and then have their evaluation with you in discussing your child.
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Take her to a specialist yourself. That way she can be evaluated from someone other than the school, I did and showed my son really was on the spectrum. Which they have so much help now days.
My son is autistic and makes straight As and Bs. Autism isn’t a bad thing at all it’s just a scary word. Their job is to find out if she is then let them ! You don’t know anything if you didn’t go to school for it. Let her get the help she needs. Pretending it doesn’t exist doesn’t make it go away.
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You said you had similar issues at her age, have you considered perhaps you are on the spectrum? Sometimes we can’t see things because those things might seem normal to us but they aren’t. I had zero idea I have major A.D.D. until my daughter was diagnosed.
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We all have blind spots when it comes to our kids. These are experts/professionals and their feedback can be valuable and help in the long run but you need to be open to hearing it. It’s better to be diagnosed with a problem because it opens the door to treatment and resources you wouldn’t have had otherwise. There’s no shame in it
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You aren’t any percent sure she is not anything unless a physician tells you she isn’t. With that being said, IEPs are not just for ASD, they can do an IEP for ADHD, ODD, general learning disorders, SPD, there are a plethora of things and IEP can be granted for AND, an IEP is a GREAT thing, as it assists your child not hurts them. It allows for time out of the classroom without repercussions, it allows for extra time or help for your child, is there a reason you are so against it?
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This is probably an unpopular opinion, but if she’s the same way that you were, there a chance that means you’re autistic. 
my kiddo being diagnosed is how I found out about my diagnosis.
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She could very well be acting the same way as you because you could have something but it’s undiagnosed. I would be open minded and even rule out something within myself so a whole picture can be obtained. I am always thankful when someone brings something to my attention that I might have missed. As parents we can overlook things and brush them away because we are bias.
Have you considered you may be too if you had similar behaviours?
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Autism Spectrum Disorder needs to be diagnosed by a physician not a school.
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She could very well be on the spectrum. So could you. So keep an opened mind if they say she is they are experts in the field
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Talk to your doctor. Also, it’s possible that the reason you had those issues is that you may also be on the spectrum… doctors and parents often don’t know signs of spectrum in young girls — it presents wildly different than in boys, especially as hormones start interacting. I understand your concern, and I believe talking to you doctor with the teacher and schools observations will help you make an informed choice. Your daughter is in a school setting with peers exactly her age. For whatever reason, she is sticking out. I’d think you’d want to be on the same team as the school to find out what works best for her. And IEP is protection for your daughter to navigate her school years. You do not have to have ANYTHING on the IEP you do not want for her. This includes pull-out minutes, special classes, or even interventions. What you can have that will help you daughter is endless— extra time on assignments, support tools during testing, separate setting for testing, preferential seating, etc.
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Behavior doesn’t always just mean Autism like you’re suspecting they’re saying. My son has bad behaviors at school as well, and he JUST got diagnosed with ADHD which I’ve been saying he’s sad since age 2 but nobody believed me. We’re now working on a 504 plan and an IEP. An IEP helped me so much when I was in school with ADHD as a child, it helps a lot of children and there is no shame in it. Let them test her, let them figure out what is affecting her, let her get the help she needs. As for the meetings since this is what the post is actually about, I’m not sure how to help. I had my sons first 504 plan meeting today and I had no idea what I was doing lol.
Why are you so adamant that she is not ASD? What would be so wrong with that? Girls mask different then boys do and show different. She very well may be. Why not get evaluated and make sure. Just because you aren’t doesn’t mean she’s not. Autism is not a bad thing or a death sentence. Just means she thinks different. Can still lead a normal life. Mine does.
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I say get her evaluated by a outside doctor. I went through the school’s doctor who said I was the issue and even his pediatrician said he was autistic, so I took him to a outside dr that diagnosed him with high end autism and he is doing great now. He can do about everything the other kids do his age now that the school used the proper resource for him.
Be Open minded, take in what they have to say but stand your ground you are the mother and know you’re child better than someone doing an evaluation.
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Have her peds Dr get her in to see a specialist. Those notes will help you combat what they may say. Since they want to push this, enroll her in therapy. That seems to get them to back off a bit BC she will be “under a Dr’s care”.
As a retired Special Education Director, I have to say the autism spectrum is so broad, she may be hitting a few of the marks that you do not see but the teachers are seeing in the classroom. Why not let her be evaluated and see for sure? You know that you have every right to disagree with the findings at the meeting but it will give you a chance to express your concerns.
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Have your pediatrician do the same evaluation that way if they decide to do one in the school you can compare what the pediatricians findings are versus the school
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Whether it’s autism or not this IEP will benefit your child greatly. She will get extra help in any deficits she has.
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Nothing wrong with being on the spectrum. Seems like you are putting false expectations on your own kids due to a stigma you have stuck in your own head.
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So first and foremost you can say no! You don’t want her evaluated. If there are behavioral concerns that can’t be taken care of at home, maybe speak to her pediatrician and get their in put. However if she is autistic or has ADD ADHD an IEP can be very helpful for her.
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I requested mine to be tested bc I knew she had adhd and odd. It was the best thing they work with her so well and she doesnt get in trouble everyday like she was. Talk to her dr and have her tested for adhd first. Some autistic kids have a mild version it.
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Write down all your questions or concerns and bring someone close to the child with you. Dad or grandparent. They can help you ask questions too
What’s the big deal if she is? It’s better to be evaluated and know for sure. If she is then you can get her extra help if she needs it.
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This could only help her not hurt her. My daughter has an IEP, her “incidents” were looked at differently after that. She also gets lots of help in regards to her school work and tests. It has been nothing but help for us.
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Get an evaluation from her Dr and her Dr’s references for a specialist if need be. I wouldn’t let the school decide anything medically with or for my child.
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They have to have your permission to do the evaluation. If it were me, I would take your child to a specialist. That way, you can trust whatever the outcome and not have to keep going back and forth w the school. Good luck mama.
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Is your adamance about her not being on the spectrum based on unbiased fact or are you just scared of her being autistic? The only person benefitting by keeping her from being evaluated is you if you’re just concerned about how a diagnosis will change your life and parenting. If she is in fact on the spectrum, having a diagnosis allows you to get her the accommodations that will help her be successful in school and not be subject to extreme discomfort and anxiety that results from autists being forced to mask, etc.
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I have 2 daughter’s with active iep please let them evaluate her obviously they’re seeing things your not within her learning at school for them to suggest this evaluation
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There’s nothing wrong with having a child on the spectrum and the fact that professionals are adamant about testing her says alot. You need to let this happen
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Take her to a specialist in that area
Well I would just have her tested at the school then request for a medical diagnosis via doctor. I have two autistic children and went through this as well until I saw signs at home. Just ask basic questions. Maybe it might help her and your wrong. We aren’t doctors (most parents on this page) so what’s the harm? Worst case she gets a little help. If I am not understanding the situation, please let me know. I would also like to apologize if I did not understand.
The only advice I could give is what I went through with my 14-year-old daughter at the age of five she was tested and confirmed she was add ADHD and ODD. Through the years she has been tested for all other things bipolar autism etc… I have been trying her whole life to figure out how to help her no matter what label they put on her. She is so lost on so many things but so smart and others. When I talk with her I tell her it doesn’t matter what they say whether it be mental disability autism or what but with that being said I can at least find ways to help her resources that she needs. So maybe don’t really worry what they say is wrong with her but what I can do to help her.
You are in charge of your child IEP that is the most important thing that they tell you when you start an IEP so if you don’t want it it don’t happen
I would listen and see what they have to say. Why are you automatically jumping to think they will say she is on the spectrum? It seems there are things you have also noticed that would lean that direction. Your post about being adamant that she’s not on the spectrum is coming across very negative. If she is on the spectrum, any help would only benefit her. If she’s been acting out or whatever they are considered “bad days”, she could be getting frustrated with how quickly the classroom work is moving and is getting upset. I hope you are open to listening to what they have to say and what they suggest, they are ony trying to help. They see many children in a classroom environment, which many parents aren’t in, and can help give insight on how to help your baby girl in a learning environment.
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She might have adhd. They will have behavioural issues.
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What is so bad about her days? We need more information. My 15 year old is autistic, I didnt want my 9 year old on the spectrum, a diagnosis can be hard, but it can also mean her getting the help she needs.
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Do NOT let them schools tell you! You are MOM and you know best!!
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You do realize that you, yourself, may be on the AS spectrum and just never diagnosed? Let them test her and get a handle on what she needs to be successful in school.
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Why are you so sure she is not on the spectrum?
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What if she is though? Just because you don’t want it/denial that it’s a possibility doesn’t mean she can’t have it. Let them do what they need to. It could also be adhd, odd, anything really. And if they can find out to be able to help her then let her. Their mental health and their happiness is more important than what we want/believe. Also, have her be evaluated by Dr’s and professionals. I think that’ll help just as much. Also, if you say you were the same way then there’s a possibility that you also are on the spectrum or have adhd/odd or something along those lines and were never diagnosed and that’s fine too. Let your daughter get the help she needs.
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There is nothing wrong with kids on the spectrum. Our classes valedictorian was on the spectrum. Autism just means they see and understand differently that most. Parents that refuse to seek help for the sake Of not having a “special needs child” are the problem
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What makes you so sure she’s not though? Denying your child additional help will be costly. Obviously multiple people see there’s something there, whether you want to admit it or not. Just because you went through the Same thing doesn’t mean you aren’t autistic as well…. Pretty sure this is the mentality my mom had, which is why I didn’t get diagnosed until this year and literally just struggled my way through life. Want to talk about resentment?
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How do you know she isnt tho
They cant diagnosis things but its weird youd be so against getting her evaluated
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Why would it be bad if she is?
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Even if she isn’t on the spectrum…iep can only help her adapt. I believed that my son was not on the spectrum for yrs although he struggled in the same ways…I was wrong! He’s now 25 and says its the best thing I ever did to help him succeed…js
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I could be wrong, but I don’t know how you can be certain your daughter is not on the spectrum unless the testing is completed and the results are shared. It seems as if the professionals are noticing some behaviors that would benefit from having test results to help make the best decisions for your daughter.
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Make an appointment with a neurologist or a behavioral pediatrician to have your daughter be examined if the school is pressuring you.
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Your child doesn’t need to be on the spectrum to have an IEP.
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You are the parent you do what you feel is right and advocate for your kid. Do not ceed to pressure from the school
I would go to the meeting and see what they say. If you feel uncertain about anything suggested, just say “let me think about it for a few days”.
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As a mom and now a grandmother
DO NOT LET A PUBLIC SCHOOL LABEL HER AS BEING ON THE SPECTRUM!!!
this needs too be ONLY done with a professional!
If her doctor isn’t concerned then they need too stay out of it and let kids be kids!!!
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She may be adhd and having trouble focusing try that route as well
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Ok Hun, first, only a doctor could say if she is it isn’t on the spectrum, second of all, even if she isn’t, an IEP might not be a bad thing. It’s in a more controlled area (not as many students that could cause a distraction) less stressful for the child, more one on one help. My daughter has an IEP because she’s physically handicapped, and she gets stressed out when she didn’t get every answer right. She goes to regular classes, and also works with a smaller goup of other children that also have IEPs. Tests aren’t as stressful for her anymore, she’s been on the A B honor roll since she was placed with an IEP. Make a list of all questions YOU have for them, and also stand firm, let them know that your not a push over. Best of luck hun
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If the public school depending what state you are in if they are trying to label her with a diagnosis they are required to pay for specialists medical appointments therapy etc. I would get with her pediatrician they have a form you fill out and the teacher fills one out you turn it back in they can do an evaluation for adhd based off that most the time they just diagnose it with that you can do a 504 plan instead of an iep
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I feel like parents can o er look things so easily. Especially when you don’t have another child to compare behaviors to. Why would it be so bad if she is autistic? Also if you know so well why not just go with the flow and do the testing to prove she isn’t? I have a son who is autistic and I wouldn’t have known if it wasn’t for the schools. Good luck
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Get another opinion won’t hurt anyone then work toward a goal
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What I did with my youngest who has an IEP. I had a talk with her pcp and had her evaluated outside of the school system by a licensed doctor. Then I took those results to the school. I had to do this because she doesn’t display her behaviors at school but her school work is affected by her issues and that’s the only way the school would listen to me that she has issues. For the zoom meeting express your concerns and if they tell you that they can handle it etc just be positive about. They have to go through certain stages to help provide extra help for the kids.
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Why not just have her tested? Why does she have an IEP?
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Take her to a specialist they know the signs better than you and even if she is on the spectrum it’s ok you won’t live her any differently if anything you will get the adequate support she needs in school.
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Where i live the school doesnt tell u ur child is autistic it has to come from the dr and as a parent u know ur child an if you feel she isnt i wouldnt let them tell u she is
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I had an issue with my daughter who is now a high level functioning adult. The school felt she had a problem so I had her evaluated by a child psychologist I picked. My daughter went through evaluations and some therapy for a few months and the findings from my hand picked PhD child psychologist was that my daughter was just shy but felt very much a part of her childhood group at home and at school. The school dropped everything and she went on to college, masters and is now a professional who overcame her shyness. I would spend a little extra money and do research and have the people YOU choose to carry out any evaluations. Don’t go to someone just because they are in network. I made that mistake when I started with an in-network dentist!!! However don’t ignore what could be a problem The earlier an issue is caught, the easier is it for correction. Good luck.
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Autism isn’t the end of the world. There’s a wide spectrum and what you think isn’t Autism may be high functioning Autism. Girls are the least diagnosed and it’s a huge disservice to them if it’s ignored. With proper specialists kids with Autism can learn to cope better in anxiety inducing situations and learn to navigate a world they might find strange. My oldest has Pervasive Developmental Disorder. He is being considered for the Honor Society this year and could quite possibly be valedictorian next year when he graduates. His special education teachers helped him a lot with his social issues and coping with over stimulation better.
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IEP’s aren’t always a bad thing; having a child getting a little extra help now can go a long ways to help them later in their school/social years. Takes notes, gather information and remember MOST of the time they have the best interest of your child at heart.
It is hard to get a diagnosis but sometimes it helps too. You want the best for your child. Please try to keep an open mind and see what they say/suggest.
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Obviously either way she’s high functioning. Best advice always give her two or more options to address social problems. Make sure she doesn’t imitate the wrong behaviors or jokes without
Knowing the difference
Put her in scouts small non completive groups or sports or music. Golf, karate, instrumental or vocal music
Engage in choral readings
It can be shyness a receptive expressive language problem
She may need speech.
504 gives class adaptation to assignments and staying in the classroom . Suggestion a buddy system with a classmate not overwhelming outgoing but a good role model
Don’t be afraid. A label sometimes is a good thing. It get kids help they need without changing your or the teacher expectations. There many bright people out there on the spectrum
Have her evaluated outside of the school. You don’t need to share the results Seek more information for you
So they wanted my son evaluated for a variety of issues and one of the forms we did at home was noting how often he did certain things. Halfway through I realized that I too have ADD. In my day it was ‘unable to stay focused’. Yeah, ADD!
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also make sure all the teachers your child has are at IEP meeting- helps understand what’s working, when it works, and why it’s working. ( different teachers , different environment, different teaching styles, and different teachers)