I say no but they’ll just sneak. So you really can’t say no. Just talk to them about SEX and protection. Their hormones are gonna be crazy.
My parents got together at 13/17 and were married for 47 years. I started dating my first bf when I was 15/19. Let ‘‘em do it and figure life out. Times and maturity levels have changed.
Some states limit it to like a 4 yr. difference, but law doesn’t really care unless it’s drastic. Yes, 13 and 16 could date. Most tend to have a bf/gf at those ages.
If you try to stop them from “dating” then more likely than not they’ll just sneak around. Let them “date” or be "boyfriend/girlfriend " with appropriate boundaries
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A 13 year old shouldn’t be dating anyone in my opinion 
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I was 13 when I got my first boyfriend and he was 16. My parents trusted me enough to allow me to have the relationship. Let them date. At the end he is your son! Do what you feel is right about the situation.
Imagine if the girl was younger? Would you still?
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I know there’s an age difference with both parents, but that’s different you were all legal age when you got together, bo way would I allow a 13 year old date a 16 year old 
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Children that age, 13, are not emotionally equipped to be in a relationship.
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You’re allowing a 13 year old to date? Someone older? What does their ages have anything to do with your ages as adults? This is a mixed up, crazy world today. Where are the grown ups???
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A 13 and a 16 year old, really??? Why don’t you just let them move in together! They’re not old enough to know what real feelings are! And you all will be babysitting!
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Naaa… Not yet. 13 is too young to be boy/girl crazy. Need more time to mature and grow up.
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Depends what dating is. A 13 year old is too young for intimate relationships IMO. You cant even give consent at that age.
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Are you ready to be grandma yet
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I don’t think it is a good thing, mentally and physically 16 year olds are in a very different place than a 13 year old. My. Opinion.
Also your son shouldn’t throw anything in your face, it’s a very different situation.
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Yeah they can date if an adult is present at all times
Saying no will make it more appealing and they will do it anyway so let them but with strict ruling
Novelty should wear off x
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You can’t really stop them or they will find a way. But they will have to wait until he is legal age for sex. Well thats the legal age in nz. You all going crazy of the ages is just weird, or was a just a different kinda teenager 
Give them a chance … ibknow I will get back lash but set strict rules… hanging out in public places, if she comes over for dinner they must be in a public place such as outside or livingroom… no kiss face in front of the adults (of course they will kiss on their own) if its a disaster end it… I’m speaking from experience as my 13 year old just became interested in girls
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I feel like it’s hard to say, they might date anyway behind your guys back if you guys say no. Maybe try allowing it, but supervise them carefully and layout what you guys expect out of them.
Everyone is so quick to give this poster a hard time, but if you say NO there’s a good chance they’ll go behind your back, sneak around or flat out lie and resent you. It’s a hard one! I think at their age it’s too much of a gap, but its a hard one to handle! Good luck.
Both parents have knowledge of the relationship, that’s a good start. Love, kindness and respect is learned, it’s an experience and God knows everyone commenting has had there fair share of love and learn, But with all eyes on the situation it can be better guided and supervised by the Adults. Life is not perfect. but if the relationship doesn’t work out it’s a young crush and both can be taught that splitting ways can be painful yet peaceful. If they are bound and determined they will find a way to sneak around and that is not a positive experience. Set boundaries, have the talk, then have the talk again with both Kids and parents together,It might discourage early intimate behavior. In a world full of opinions yours is the one that matters most. Good luck, May your journey end in happiness 
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If you the parents think its wrong then it is wrong,dont let a kid whom you brought in this world blackmail you emotionally,tell them point blank they can be friends but nothing else
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13??? Lol. Not at my house!!
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I personally find it odd that a 16 year old would want to date a 13 year old… they are very different ages when it comes to maturity levels
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I would allow it however, I would communicate with my son about consent, sex, kissing, rules for hanging out ect. I would set clear boundaries and consequences but, also let him know that if he needs to talk that all he has to do is tell me he needs advice and not a lecture and we will talk or joke about whatever he needs to get of his chest.
P.S. I would be the same about my daughter being 13 and dating a 16 year old.
Nope when I was 14 I skated a lot, meet a much older guy but could only meet him at the rink. Until my mom met him. I would say just be friends till she is at least 16,
As long as both know and understand to respect each other’s boundaries and understand the commitment about a relationship then I say let them 3 year difference ain’t much either way
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Lot of difference between a 13 yr old boy and a 16 yr old girl.
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There going to date weather you say yes or no if they realy want to If you say no they will just do it behind your back least of you say yes you can keep an eye on them just make sure both of you have the talk with both kids about legal age and stuff, only you know your kids and if there responsible and mature, maybe you and the mum talk and get on the same wave length and what you think is appropriate for the kids
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The age gap for maturity makes a difference i wouldnt be comfortable with them dating
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They’re awfully young. The 16 year old is of dating age, but the 13 year old is too young. You have to be careful how you approach this or they will just sneak to see each other. I would ask them if they could keep it as friends until the boy is older. In the meantime, there’s nothing wrong with playing video games at one house or the other or watching a movie at each other’s house. Tell them that when they get older, the age difference makes no difference at all, but for now, it kinda does. It will till he is 21.
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No way what if it was the other way around 16 yrs boy and a 13 yrs old girl if his allowed to date it should be his own age
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If you tell them no they will do it anyways and neither are 18.
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Age difference as a fully grown adult doesn’t matter… But these are children and yes, there’s a big difference in thier age at this point. A 13 year old should not even be dating yet.
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I hate to be some of the commenters kids… So, more then likely if you tell him no he will go behind ypur back and do it anyway. Why not let him but lay ground rules. They are kids, let them have young puppy love. Tell him and her your expectations. Don’t want them going pit alone? Go with them just give them space. Make a hang out area for them. Be in communication with the girls parents.
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Talk to the girl’s mom & dad first. Whatever you decide, be on the same page and pledge to be open and honest with each other.
If they want to date, they have to go in a group or go with a chaperone. Or drop them off at a movie theater, bowling alley, pool, and stick around a few minutes more or drop in to check on them to ensure they’re not sneaking out.
Unfortunately kids since time immemorial have been sneaking around so maybe just have lots of talks about consent, birth control, responsibility, etc. Also invite the girl over a lot and get to know her (and her motivations) better.
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They can date but sex is another story as underage
Let them go.Set some household ground rules and curfews though
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All my boyfriends growing up were older than me, I was 15 and dated a 19 year old, my mum hated it and looking back now I’m 27 I did it more because I wasn’t allowed, you can’t stop them, unless you plan on keeping your kid locked up, maybe have a chat about the birds and the bees make it known he’s younger and before long the 16 year old will want different things and in time you’ll probably find they grow apart due to the age gap!
He’s in middle school and she’s in high school. Completely separate maturity levels. No.
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Let it ride out….at this time at their ages, it’ll be over soon. Dating means “liking each other” right? 13, especially a boy, is TOO YOUNG‼️
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If they are into eachother then your approval doesnt matter… they will do what they want to do. Can tell your daughter she cant see him but that wont change anything.
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Oh fgs, you’re all going on as if they’re gonna jump each other as soon as they get the go-ahead!! 
My son is 16, has been on dates and both sets of parents drove them to the movies and collected them afterwards. Other than that they saw each other at school and the odd day he would walk her to the bus stop - all very innocent. I’ve nephews who are 12/13 and had a girlfriend, it was pretty much the same. Plus the ‘relationships’ fizzle out as quickly as they started.
If you can’t show your child you trust them to make the right decisions, or have “the talk” with them then that’s just sad and unfortunately they will most likely go behind your back.
Let them enjoy each other’s company. He could be a mature 13 and contrary to popular belief, 16 year olds are not all wanting to bed-hop!! 
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They will do what they want, with or without your blessing.
This will blow over once school starts. Let it be.
Like most teen romances it will likely last a month or two and be done. Let it go.
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Talk to her mom and dad, get all parents on the same page, amd set ground rules
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Love how everyone keeps saying no when they’re 3 years apart not that big an age gap imo. I’d allow it under certain conditions, I was the girl whos mother wouldn’t let her date I did anyway. So watch them closely.
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Her maturity level is completely different than your son. I would say no, stay as friends. Take care of your son mama. Once he gets older and has that emotional maturity than perhaps, but I wouldn’t allow my son.
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13 is too young to date anyone🤦🏽♀️
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They will want to do it, the more you fight it…
I would encourage healthy relationship habits. And set healthy boundaries. Kids don’t even know what dating is, but every relationship falls back to basics. Can be a great way to teach your son what to do at dinner dates and how to communicate with “woman”
While it could be a great opportunity to teach the young lady how to dress for dates, what to expect and most importantly how to communicate with each other.
Definitely not. At this stage age gap is too much
Let them be. It will either be or will not. But the more you object the more he will go after her.
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Well they should be friends
They last longer .
Pay attention to school
They are at completely different maturity levels. Age gaps are different when you’re both adults.
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They r gunna do what they want to do weather u like it or not. So support it and have ground rules,the more u push the harder they will try, this is a tough age but…. Did u date at the age? Or have crushes? Jus set some rules and let them learn the world of dating and when the heart brake comes BE THERE. It’s not gunna be easy momma watching your kid grow but time doesn’t slow down for anyone 
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A 13 year old shouldn’t be dating.
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It’s only a 3 year age gap there is nothing wrong with them dating especially since you said you and your husband are 10 yeas in age so my answer is yes I would let them date
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When you say “date” I’m assuming you are referring to day time outings and not romantic dinners. Age appropriate “crushing” is so normal. It is a great opportunity for you and your families to help them set healthy boundaries and some rules of engagement!! Open door policy, movies in the living room rather than a bedroom, time limits to their video chats and continuous monitoring of devices. There is a healthy way to navigate this!
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I would have to say no on this one because things can happen regardless of what you tell them! Like she can blame him for things that he didn’t do vice versa regardless of you and her parents are friends
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For one my 13 year old ain’t dating 
wayyyyyyyy to young but if I had to say , yes 13 and 16 there’s a big difference maturity wise . Even tho both aren’t mature enough to start having relationships !
I don’t think you will be able to stop them if they have these feelings for each other so it would be useless to tell them they can only be friends. You can tell them that when they are adults they can choose to be more than friends–but right now don’t let them “date” let them hang out and do activities together but I would make sure to chaperone!!! It is different the age difference between you and your husband as you got together as adults.
My grandson is 13 and the thought hasn’t crossed his mind.
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Just so you know the girl could be brought up on charges
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My daughter is 14 and she has a boyfriend it’s only 3 years
Yes I’d becareful the 15 yr old almost 16 can be brought up on charges because your son is underage maybe both parents need to sit them both down and explain this and why your both against the idea but being teenagers they will probably go behind your back especially if feeling are involved
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Omg stop. Your son is only a baby
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No!!! Not my daughter !!! Or my son for that fact 16 mind set and 13 is way different. Pressures for sex , hell naw . No no no and shame to pare rs saying it’s only 3 years diff. Um that applys once ur over 20 ! Not before , just sick.
I would condone it and make it more of a family thing. She comes over for dinnner, watch a movie at her house etc.
It’s good that you know her parents and it’s nice that you have the same idea’s, I think it’s a good and safe situation to start a first teenage crush/relationship.
Just have talks about sex, condoms and kids. The boy is 13, eventually he’ll probably find other interests than a “serious” relationship
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13 is a bit young to get serious about a girl.
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No way their mentality’s are so different, I would not be okay with that.
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If this happens you can bet your best bet your son will end up heartbroken. While they may be into each other now… she is turning 16. There’s a whole new level of life she’s going to start exploring. I also bet they end up having sex because of her age and level of curiosity. I don’t think I’d allow it but I’m not sure what you can do to stop it. Prepare him for heartbreak though
Hell no my 13 year old child will not be dating anyone
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I personally wouldn’t. He just turned thirteen. He’s a baby😓 The age gap isn’t to huge of a deal once an adult, but kids? It’s a huge deal in my opinion. The differences in maturity level between a 13 and 16 year old is a lot. Either way, please think twice on allowing your son to date. School, sports and enjoying his teenage years should be his focus right now.
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Nope. He is too young to put common sense before sexual desire. Most men have a problem with this so one should never expect a boy to do so. And she will out mature him by miles. Is either mature enough to handle those complications. And are you ready to lose a friendship? This type of thing smells of disaster for friendships.
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It’s too young for them to date. Allow them to be friends with supervision. Don’t let in each other’s bedrooms to watch tv or play games. Must be in the open. Better yet play games with them. Same rules at both houses.
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At that age they need to be friends (supervised)
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He was 12 like a week ago… Absolutely NOT! And the whole " they wil find a way and sneak " is BS… He is a child and as a parent u should know what ur kid is up to 24/7. I have a 14 yr old boy and boys that age are gross… Like u gotta tell them a million times to take a shower and clean their room. 
Girl! Tell them hell NO! Lol
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I honestly can’t believe you are even asking this question. Your son is too young to be dating anyone, let alone a girl who will be 16!!! Be a parent and make sure that they remain friends
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Go to your hands and knees and talk to Jesus, I don’t have this answer. Pray without ceasing, perhaps do some fasting as people’s souls are on the line
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I think 13 is to young. I say there o no different levels of maturity.if you do allow it I wouldn’t allow closed doors
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let it be, It’s not like they are getting married right now, But you & your husband should talk to him, about sex, reasonability & to never force anything on any girl & visa verse. I know a few couple who started going out with each other around 13/14 yrs old & now they are in their early 60’s & still together 
Unfortunately there’s no allowing or not allowing they will find a way if they really want to 
just try to convince them being friends is better for everyone…girls usually mature faster then boys so at that age it wouldn’t work long anyways
I agree with everyone it is wrong yes and hard for any parent in this situation! I think you know your son best, I would let them date as I know from experience stopping them, won’t stop them! they end up hating you, moving out and more! Then they get to 22 and think shit… but anyway. have a talk about safe s*x and law on it (age, concent extra. Keep doors open when they r together and set rules.
Just let them be
You can’t stop them seeing each other. If you try you’ll be mean!
Just talk about being responsible and respectful
There are lots of childhood sweethearts who stay together. What a bunch of old farty people on this thread!
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16 yr old and 13 yr old have different thought processes. I don’t think it’s a good ides
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My son 14 is dating a 16 year old and she almost 17 and he will be 15 soon there is really nothing u can do about it if u don’t let them they will do it behind ur back anyway and ur son might feel like he can’t come to u and talk to you to me I just think it’s a faze they are going threw let them know if they date it there friendship will not be the same anymore it’s not like they are getting married
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You could respond like, yeah I married a younger man, but also we were both adults, you just barely hit puberty. It’s ok to be friends, but they’re little romance will have to wait for him age up. Of course teens will find a way if they’re determined enough, but at least you’ll have know that you said what you thought necessary
What does a 16 yr old want w a 13 yr old boy??? I’d say absolutely not!
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90% of these comments are why kids hide things from their parents. Children are not made for you to control. They are here for you to teach them.
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Let them be together. If you force it another way, it can turn bad. Just let them try. It’s not a big gap.
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No. 13 is way too young to even be dating, and I definitely wouldn’t be ok with my 16year old seeing someone that young.
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My mom was 10 years older than my dad but again they were already of age,
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That’s like a middle schooler and sophomore in highschool. I think the gap of maturity is way too big right now. Especially considering females advance in maturity faster than males usually. I’d be too afraid they could easily start having intercourse. If they are meant to be they can wait a couple years
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13 boy or girl is to young for a relationship. Let them be chdren and stop expecting children to make adult decisions
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