Pettiness at its finest!
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Shouldâve talked about that prior to agreeing to her staying
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Yes she should pay you- sheâs saving money on gasoline, staying with you.
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If your sister is staying Sunday thru Fridays with you then Yes, of course, your sister should be paying her own way and not mooching off of you and your family
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Is she just in town for a week for work ? or will this be a weekly thing ?
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Maybe buy some food and drinks or treat dinner out
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if I were you, I would not ask. Be glad to be able to because she is my sister. You never know if the situation will turn one day.
If I were her, I would offer to pay or buy food because youâre my sister and youâre allowing me to stay and never know if the situation will turn one day.
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If itâs every week she most definately should contribute.
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Is she visiting or living there? Sounds like just a visit.
So shes there all week except for saturday. If thats the case yes she should give some money towards her keep.
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If its a regular thing like every week from Sunday to Friday, then yes you should! Especially if sheâs staying there for work. Sheâs practically living at your house.
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Does she do this weekly? If so, then she needs to pay you. If itâs for a week only then no
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Shame on her for not even offering. Sheâs completely taking advantage of you.
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If itâs a weekly thing like to where she is spending more days at your house a month than at her own then asking for a little help isnât wrong but me personally if one of my sisters needed to stay with me a week no questions asked I would treat her like I would my hubby and kids. Sheâs family. Be glad you still have each other and feel good youâre able to help her in her time of need. Itâs what family is for and thereâs no age limit to where it needs to stop.
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Sheâs staying for not even a weekâŚ
If this every week she might as well move in and pay a portion if the bills. She should help with the food and increase in water.
shes family, family shouldnât need to pay. if you had a problem with it Iâd ask her to stay somewhere else other wise just deal.
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You should have said something prior to agreeing to let her stay there
Personally I wouldnât ask family for money especially seeing you already told her she could stayâŚif you are that tight on money it should have been discussed before you agreed to it 
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However, if family ever LIVED with me for any long length of time I would of course discuss money BUT before agreeing to the stayâŚ
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Yes, she should help.
If its every week then yes but its like every 2 weeks or more then no.
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She should not have to be asked, but if thatâs what it takes , do it now!
Wow, a one time stay? Or a weekly basis? If itâs a onetime occasion then NO! I mean is your water bill really sky rocketing from her? How much food did she eat? 
I mean I guess. I would never ever ask my sister to pay a damn dime. But thatâs just me. She wouldnât ask me to either. The difference tho maybe, is I wouldnât stay up in my sisterâs house visiting or otherwise without putting something back in against my sisterâs wishes, and visa versa. We either going out to eat, Iâm cleaning house, buying groceries, something. And she would do the exact same. We family. Thatâs how it should be. Now if that betch was staying for more then a couple months⌠
then thatâs different⌠lol pay up⌠Erika Moore
No, I wouldnât. But in my family, thatâs a given. We provide dinner but you are on your own for work lunch 
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It depends. Does she do you favors also? How is her finances? How is your finances? If you need the money and itâs a hardship to have company for days, you should ask for money and actually she should offer you money without you asking. I hope it works out well.
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Tell her you are really short of funds right now, could she get some groceries to help out? Hopefully, she will take the hint and either go buy some food for everyone or give you money.
I think people need more details before anyone can actually give any advice. Was this a one time ordeal? Or is this an all the time thing? And what was discussed before it started?
It you broke just say that 
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If you are buying the foodâŚask away. If she donât buy she can donate by cleaning kitchenâŚ
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If sheâs living there she should pitch in.
- youâve left a lot of the story out by the sound of it.
Where does she stay Friday and Saturday night ?
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Tell her pay her way
The question should never Arise Be thankful for the love of your family and the visit for a week Just Enjoy her being there in your company for less than a week
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You can suggest sharing in cooking cleaning etc if not then yes contribute to costs
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being an adult ⌠she should know ⌠tell her !!
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You wouldnât even have to ask and if I didnât have nothing to give Iâd be cleaning and cooking dinner every night
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Thatâs basically living with you. She should be paying board/rent
Never⌠my sister stays mine I stay hereâs both with kids n never ask for a penny⌠we just do the obvious when going shop grab what need or buy a takeawayâŚ
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So basically she lives with youâŚso yes she should be helping out financially
Also no need to change names on an anonymous post
Every week, yes for sure. It adds up.
Just for a week? No.
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If you need the help then ask. If you can afford it then no, sheâs your sister. But be honest if you need the help she will understand hopefully. Honestly goes a long way I believe.
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She is only staying for a week ? I would never ask my sister for anything !!!
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If someone is staying in your house for most of the week itâs fair to ask for a contribution to the household. Itâs expensive to run a house with multiple people, a contributing wouldnât hurt from her part. And makes her have some responsibility, life isnât free.
So basically she lives with u and she certainly should be paying something for her been there
Is she living with you 5 nights a week or is it just a one off? Xxx
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Honestly she shouldâve offered
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Yes definitelyâŚno1 lives rent/bill free so why should she? Especially when she works. If its a one off then no. X
She needs too contribute she is using you
For a week no. If sheâs going to stay indifinetly then yes
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She should pay rent. She lives there. Where does she go on Saturdays? Thatâs the only day sheâs not at your house.
Omg! What is wrong with people today!? Thatâs your sister! Donât take a penny from her! Iâve had family LIVE with me until they got on their feet and never asked for anything, geez!!
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How would you feel is roles were reversed? If itâs a week, no! Longer, yes!
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Should I ask my sister to pay for essentials when she stays with us?
My sister and I would know if the other needs it or not. If itâs needed she should help, if not I wouldnât even consider her paying a dime.
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If it was for like MONTHS I could see asking for help with food
But itâs not even a weekâŚshes your sister. My sister doesnât even have to tell me sheâs coming over let alone pay for stuff
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I would not ask her to pay for anything. Life is short. Enjoy her company. 
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When my youngest daughter and niece were around 5 & 7 I got to looking for them. They had muched dinner off of the neighbors. My neighbor Jean Harden Dina let me know the girls had come for dinner. I was so embarrassed. So I had the talk with em. The next day Jean called again and told me she was rolling. One of the girls took a can of peaches the other a can of pork and beans. Josephine explained to her it was rude showing up empty handed at dinner time.
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Nope Iâve never asked family to pay for anything if they are visiting us but most of the time they have pitched in without being asked .
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Family shouldnât have to pay to stay a few days at your houseâŚ
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Is she visiting or moving in temporarily? If sheâs only there for a week no she should take care of herself with nessissties ! Maybe you both can enjoy each otherâs company make dinner plan dinners together or go out to eat! I wouldnât ask her for money!
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Iâve had my sister live with me for almost a year cause she and my mom got in a fight. She was 15. I was able to get child support for her, but gave her all of it. She used the money to buy her own essentials (clothes, shampoo, hygiene products) and we paid for food, housing and everything else. When my husbandâs brother graduated college, he stayed with us rent free for over 3 months while looking for a job. Again he paid for his own hygiene products and he occasionally helped with food or bought his own, but for the most part we included him in our meals. And 5 years ago when my husbandâs sister moved back to the states from Japan she lived with us for 2 months. We even took her on vacation with us. Again, she only paid for her own essentials and occasional food, the rest was out of our pocket. If you are struggling financially then I guess you could ask for a little help here and there, but I dont know why you would ask a family member to stay with you AND pay you for doing so. Family helps family. Weve even had the occasional couch surfing friend, one night or a week⌠some came with their own stuff, others used ours.
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Nope! I love it when my sister visits.
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See how it goes. Does she eat your food? Did she bring her own? Did she offer to buy pizza one night for everyone? I donât think itâs an unreasonable ask if itâs a long term thing or if you didnât offer.
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If i could still put food on the table for my kids i wouldnât.
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Wow, I would never ask money from a family member just staying less than a week, some families really are weird. In my family we are a village, nobody falls short and we all take care of each other. Iâve never heard of such a thing
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I feel like since it isnât just a temporary thing and she basically lives there aside from the weekend then I would ask her to help out a little. She has a job and uses your essentials. If not asking her for money, maybe ask her to buy her own food and other items ?
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My mother had her sister and her entire family for 3 months each summer as they were coming from England for holidays and she never asked for anything, even when we would barely make ends meet ourselvesâŚif she offers herself then sure, but, otherwise maybe not the best?
It just depends on the situation I stayed with my sister and help with house work and I paid her200 a month when she was out of town working for a few weeks I took care of her dog
My sister moved in with me and my family when she first moved home. She cleaned and helped with the house so I didnât expect anything. She would also help watch my son and cook dinner
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Is this an ongoing arrangement or just a one time? And do you need the money? If so then certainly ask her to pitch in. If itâs an ongoing thing does she help with household chores and contribute to get a take out once in a while? Itâs a two way street in my opinion. You canât just be a taker or just a giver. Doesnât matter who it is. But if youâre not needing the money and have enough, Iâd certainly be helping my sister. Itâs family.
So she pretty much lives with you? This is hard to understand. Or is it only for one week? If itâs literally only one week and thatâs it then why make her pay? She is your sister. But if sheâs literally living at your home 6 days every single week then ya she should definitely start paying something and buying food.
Is she an adult? Does she do anything to help you ans your family out?
Honestly I would. Or ask her to buy her own food, own essentials. If sheâs not struggling, then I dont see why.
But as someone who has had to move back into my parents home as an adult, I also offered rent. I bought my own food and essentials. I dont see why your sister wouldnât think the same unless sheâs a minor
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I think it depends if itâs long term then itâs not a big ask just ask her to pay for what she uses but if sheâs just visiting then no donât ask sheâs a visitor and its clear sheâs comfortable doing whatâs she doing if your running out of stuff while sheâs there because she used something just talk to her just ask her if she would mind replacing said item she emptied ( with in reason) or have her ask before she uses stuff so you know whatâs going where
Absolutely Not!! She is your Guest and you should be happy to have her visit! I house and feed my guests and give each of them a Gift as they leave! Treat her like Royalty!!
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My hospitality is too deep to charge my sister for anything! 
I make sure sheâs comfortable the whole stayâ:bangbang:my home is her home 
vise versal when I comes to hersâ:pray:
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I wouldnât ask. How lucky you are to gave a sister that feels comfortable enough to stay and be part of your family.
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No I never ask family to pay for anything, itâs a privilege to have your sister and family.
It should of been discussed before.
Personally no, if we have family visit us for a week or even weekend we pay for food/cook the meals.
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Id tell my sister where to go if she wanted me to pay some of her water bill, but i would probably buy food anyway or even just a takeaway or something.
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You mentioned sheâs with you through the week for work but not weekends. Is it a temporary situation where she stays with you until she finds a place? Or maybe a temp assignment for work? (A few months up to a year, I would consider that temporary). If so, and you can afford it, I would not ask for money. Sheâs family and family should help one another. You never know when you might need help in return.
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I would say just enjoy her company and be an accommodating host for your beloved sibling⌠unless of course you live in a wretched third world country and sheâs eating all your delicious beans and drinking all your feces free water, then yeah she should throw you a little something
If she was there for weeks or months, yes. Less than a week? Sheâs a house guest.
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The amount is almost unmeasurable.
Is that tiny bit of money worth hard feelings between you two for the foreseeable future⌠A
Because once you let that ooze out of your mouth sheâll forever think youâve been thinking of her as a burden this whole time.
Thatâs pretty sad honestlyâŚ
Bc you wondering that is a sign that you kind of do think of her that wayâŚ
Maybe you should ask her.
Iâd much rather know my sister thought that and live life alone, than thinking I was we were cool forever and finding out when Iâm older that I spent my life making memories with someone that even once that I was taking advantage or using them or whatever you wish to call it.
Iâd give almost anything or even everything I own to have any single person I care for, blood or not, come and just hang around. For them to stay and actually talk to me AND hang out with my little family???
Iâm sorry you feel that way about her visits, but their are people starving and homeless and alone that would let her sleep in their sleeping bag, feed there their last bite of food; and wash her clothes and feet in their last tiny bit of money.
Be careful⌠Extremely carefulâŚ
We often donât notice our biggest blessings until we no longer have them.
You shouldnât have to ask, every adult knows living and food costsâŚ. She should contribute but if she canât she shouldâve at least mentioned it, like she wants to help but canât etc⌠on other hand is she helping in other ways? Cooking etc? Help in any form should be appreciated
I would never ask if itâs just one person for one week. Itâs a different story if itâs an extended stay of multiple people. If sheâs considerate, she would offer to take you out to dinner or buy groceries.
Nope, I would love for my sister to stay with me that long, where in different stateâs and Iâm a lockdown so I havenât seen her in sooo long
If my sister moved in with me in her time if need, Iâd foot the bill but also hope she realizes there is and end to that, and would make good on her own end without me even having to say a word⌠If not, you know when she has Exceeded her stay.
If u canât afford it, be honest. Most people just want honesty. Things are expensive and not everyone is in a situation that they can feed and house another person. Itâs just facts
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If itâs an all the time thing than I would tell her to buy her own groceries or contribute towards the food she is eating. That starts to add up. Actually I would probably ask for something weekly or monthly she is basically living with you for free.
YesâŚperiod. Sheâs not staying for months. If you canât afford the week should have put that out there long before
No! Not unless she makes a habit of staying long periods of time. Or unless she is eating everything you have. If that is the case then she should be decent enough to buy some food.
Only if you need the money. If not, just try to enjoy time with your sister
If your sister staying a week is going to put you in such financial struggle just say that. Tell her before she comes not when sheâs already here.
Depending on if itâs an on going thing, which it kinda sounds like it is. Personally I wouldnât ask unless I was in a tough spot and couldnât make ends meet. Iâd ask myself, who needs it more. And if she buys dinner at least one night then sheâs trying to contribute. It really depends on the situation and if you or she can afford it or if itâs going to cause hardship on one of you.
Does she stay with you those nights every week?
Nah⌠money shouldnât come between family. Unless you are broke and you need some help.
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Itâs not even a full week? Really? Maybe you should of talked to her about this before telling her she could stay.
If you are hard strapped for cash and struggling then just let her know. I used to have to do that with my brother Connor and now Iâm in a good place I wouldnât need to ask him anymore!
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If she is staying with you weekly then yes charge her board absolutely if she argues about it tell her to find somewhere else to live for free donât hesitate 
Depends on if you need the money to support your household but if itâs not going to hurt you financially Iâd enjoy having her nearby.
If sheâs living with you 6 days a week she should pitch in without being asked but then I think of my sister who was killed by drunk driver at age 22 and I think I would do anything to have her hrer