Time is of the essence. Take the baby to the hospital. Health can take a bad turn in a matter of minutes
She if she will write you letter saying you can take the baby to the doctor if need be, since she’s working. Just encase the baby gets sick during the day while she’s gone
Many day care providers are mandatory reporters, which means by law, they have to report suspected cases of child abuse. I would make the call.
The foster system is not going to be any safer. I would talk to mom or walk away.
At this point i would not call cps try to help ad be more understanding lwt hwr know of places tgat hwlp with carseats doapers etc. A d offer again to bring him to drs
If you really want to help him? Help his mum.
You need to do something otherwise you are guilty too because you are the caretaker and you know the situation at hand but yet, aren’t taking actions on what you can do for the child.
Calling cps is only going to make it where you won’t be allowed around him. Cps isn’t going to do anything about the smoking of either one. They don’t care about marijuana anymore than they care about cigarettes. The worse they can pin her for is child neglect for smoking around the baby if he is found to have asthma. Even then, they won’t take the baby from her. They will tell her about how important it is to smoke outside. Follow the advice of these other ladies and talk to her. Offer to help her with dr visits. Worse that will happen is she declines your offer and fires you. Sometimes you see children in bad environments and there is nothing you can do simply because it’s not a case where cps thinks it’s bad enough to take the children. It’s heartbreaking.
One should always speak up for children
Take him to ER when weezing and they’ll call cps. There’s more to it obviously but after getting info from you, they can call. Please
Threaten her with cps first. If she doesn’t make changes then call
Them
I would just try to take him to the ER. All they can do is say no. Ask them what you can do?
Document!! Take pictures. Keep texts. Try not to do phone calls. Keep it in texts. Have a solid case before calling.
And if marijuana is legal where y’all live…then??
ER! If the child is truly struggling, they’re going to help regardless.
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Is weed legal where you are?
Hot box in the shower with him. Some steam and vapor rub…just for a quick fix. Take him to ER and let her know what’s up when she arrives. Have a heart to heart and pray about it together. Give her the options and time to get it together or you may have to take him for weekends at a time. If you are able. Thank God you are a there to help him. You are his angel for sure. Keep helping Mom and the baby. 
Why would 3 even be an option…?? 
Ring CPS, better safe then sorry.
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You MUST speak up for this baby. No questions asked. He can’t ask for help himself. My heart breaks for everyone involved:broken_heart:
RSV is so bad right now in babies. He should be checked
Talk to her first let her know if she dont take him to the er then you will.once you call cps theres no going back
Cps might be able to help her out and give her options on how to help her baby.
If you report her for weed you’re wasting your time, her time and cps. Trust me they DONT care about marijuana. For 110% I can promise you that. Straight from their mouths themselves. 
But if she’s not taking care of her kid that’s a different story.
Smoking weed doesn’t make you a bad parent bro I smoke like 5 blunts a day and my kids are straight. But that’s the difference…
Maybe help her with resources there are many programs to help
The child is not going to get sick and due from marijuana smoke 
it’s so sad that I have to say that out load. Should she be smoking around the baby? No. Is it illegal to smoke in front of the baby? Probably not. For all you know the kid has underlying issues or a cold or something. Calling cps is the worst thing you could do! They destroy families. I would just recommend she smokes in a different room a d suggest the doctor again. Express your concern and if she does t listen then I think you need to mind your business and find a new job. It’s crazy we are in 2021 and people are still treating weed like it’s crack. Do you know how many people in the US get drunk every night? I pray for this family that you do t involve cps
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As a foster parent myself please call or take him to the Er.
Do what you feel is right. Children cannot protect themselves
Protect and love on that baby WHATEVER it takes WHATEVER that means.
E.R would be the first step.
I would what is best for the baby get him help
Take him to the hospital the hospital will alert the correct people.
Take the baby to the ER
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Call Cps listen to your heart !!! You already offered all the help she needs. If you’ve seen no changes then please call CPS.
I would take him to urgent care and have him checked
Yes call and take him in.!
Call CPS. It’s ok. You need to do it. The baby can’t call himself you need to be his voice and call.
Call the ambulance for trouble breathing. Then it’s innocent and she won’t blame you for anything and they will do an investigation.
So sad please protect the child.
Definitely report it!! That’s neglect!!
Don’t stop!!! Please you may be the kids only hope💜
dont let the baby suffer because the mom is unfit
Definitely report to CPS thats neglect
Report to cps for marijuana? Something that’s legal in almost 50 states? That seems far fetched to me. Also they won’t test for asthma until they’re 2 years old. I know because they won’t for my son until he’s 2. Shes a single mother and probably very stressed out working and paying you to babysit. There’s so many different ways you can approach this without getting cps involved who’s known to do more harm than good… If he don’t have any bruises or acting strangely(trauma wise) then why would you call cps on someone. And I can’t believe the amount of people on here telling you to. Why not try to help her yourself if you’re so concerned instead of getting them involved? Maybe she has mental problems which cps won’t care about… Theres so many resources out there that you can refer her too instead of immediately calling cps.
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I agree with at least one other person, don’t stop watching him.
Call cps anonymous so you can still try to protect the baby in the process
You can anonymously report to CPS any negligence you see toward a child
You have to have a note from the mother to have dr or hospital treat him. Poor baby
Please never call cps on a mother over something that is fixable on her end
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I’d report it…protect that child.
Dont stop watching him…i would call
Having a 1 year old thrown in to the foster care system would be worse than having a mom that’s smokes cigarettes/Marijuana and can’t afford a newer carseat/doctors appointment. She is a single mom. It takes a village. Set down and talk with her as a friend. Have you reached out to anyone that can donate a carseat? Explain that she can have the medical bills paid for at county hospitals. Yall saying call CPS as if that will help that baby’s situation are clueless.
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Please do not do the third option. Maybe trip to emergency room would get the mothers attention and let them know what’s going on and everything you have seen and are concerned about and ask them to note it and involve CPS. That baby deserves better. If you can afford cigs and marijuana but not a unexpired seat for your child you need a reality check.
This shouldn’t even be a question. The child can’t breathe!!!
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Can you confidently live knowing if you turn her in and the baby gets taken that you had a hand in that…I understand being concerned about him needing to go to the doctor but ya on ya own about the other sis:person_shrugging:Mind:clap:Ya 
Own:clap: Circus
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You’ve already judged her
Definitely report it. If you feel that the baby is not properly being cared for and you can see major things like that being wrong then report it. A baby doesn’t have a voice. Be the baby’s voice.
CPS most of the time will not do anything sadly.
Emergency room if she pulls shit call dss cause she might be hiding from the dad
CPS wont do much but make her mad and probably wouldnt let you see the baby anymore. Talk to her about you taking him to the hospital to make sure it’s not covid or RSV. I wouldnt not do anything tho.
Do you have a nebulizer? If so, give him a breathing treatment. But yes he needs to go the Drs or ER. Press his mom for permission to go & his insurance cards.
U said at hers! Then suddenly it’s at yours .another bullshit story
Maybe you could try to talk to her about your concerns instead of judging (I know you said you aren’t but you clearly are judging her) She isn’t doing anything illegal no matter what your personal feelings are about marijuana. It sounds like she is having a difficult time and calling Child Services will only cause more problems for both Mom and Baby.
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Tell her write a note so u can seek medical attention for him
If you feel something is wrong don’t give up!
Nothing wrong with them checking her out.If nothings going on then all is ok.If they find things are wrong they can help the baby.Follow your❤️
You can start with a pharmacist see what they suggest I don’t think your legal rights is to take him to prompt care of the ER you’re not a legal guardian does he have a fever,? Start a with the pharmacy
You don’t know if that’s why the child is having trouble breathing, you’re not a doctor… DCF is meant for abuse or serious neglect and I’m sorry but smoking is legal and unless you have proof that the smoking is hurting him all you’re gonna do is make the entire situation more difficult and make shit harder on that baby smh. Plus she would obviously stop having you babysit and then who knows who would be watching him? Be his safe haven but don’t make his home life hell … The road to hell is paved with good intentions …
You do not have legal rights to take the child anywhere without parental consent. If you feel the child is in danger… you should report it and allow it to be investigated. There are many parents who can not afford many things and struggle… make sure you are truly not being judgemental of the true ability of the parents before you make a life long decision that affects that child. Many children in foster care get raped and molested and are just pushed through the system. So you need to be very careful about the path you chose
Smoking weed does not make you a bad parent, but don’t smoke around a baby with breathing issues.
Next the youre babysitting call the non emergency police line and tell them everything you just said. Ask them to come over for a wellness check on the baby because of how concerned you are. Might get the ball rolling. Poor baby
Look around community pages and see if you can find a safe car seat, then gift it to her. “Hey I know being a mom can be super busy, and so you probably just haven’t noticed, but that carseat is expired so I got you a new one. Hope that’s okay.” Also maybe try bringing up the wheezing again, and just offer to take the child to the dr (I know you’ve already offered once, but I would offer again).
I honestly feel like you mean well, but maybe just speak to her from a place of love and express that you truly just want to help her.
You already know the answer you should obviously call CPS and explain to them what is going on Also you should start documenting things for CPS if she does have marijuana and a pipe it could actually be other drugs that leads to meth which is horrible for kids please start taking photos of what you have seen or what you are seeing to document whenever it is safe for you
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As a mom who smokes cigarettes, I HATE when I see people smoking in the house or car with their kids! IDC if it’s negative 20 degrees outside, I will freeze my ass off to go smoke outside than expose my children to smoke.
So, I say just take him to the emergency room and say it sounds like he’s having an asthma attack. CPS won’t do anything about weed 
Take the baby to the ER, they will treat him and do whatever is necessary. Let them call not you
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I’d call the damn ambulance to your house when you’re baby sitting him and MAKE her go up there and have to face facts 
she can go tell them she Smokes and smokes weed around the baby to the point that he can’t breathe! If you’ve told her already and nothing was done can you imagine what it’s like for him at home alone with her? Do what you got to do I HATE CPS and I’d never call on anyone I didn’t think was in danger! This baby was sent to YOU for a reason, think of it that way! Because if he don’t come back alive, you would regret that everyday.
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Advocate for the child.
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Please be that babies voice 
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Whatever you do, PLEASE don’t give up on this baby
Take him to er! Dont leave him!
Please take him to the ER. Report the mother there and let them do their investigation but please take him in
I’d try and talk her into letting you take the little one to the doctor to check on him. And then do some kind of intervention.
Because kids can wheeze even without being sick. My daughter constantly has a runny nose, she’s more than taken care of.
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Please keep watching him. You’re the only good person in his life right now. Take him to the ER. Explain you’re the baby sitter and he’s not breathing right. They will investigate. Be honest with them. You could be saving his life. Prayers to you both 
Take him to the e.r. CPS won’t listen to you tbh, they’ll listen to the e.r. staff better if they call. The baby could literally die from this, if he’s already wheezing it’s not nothing, normal babies don’t breathe like that. I know of a baby who died from his parents not getting him to the hospital in time for them to do anything and I am not saying anything about them specifically because I know them through other people and not personally (other than them trying to harass me while I was pregnant because they needed money from my husband and were too scared to harass him directly), but the baby died and it’s tragic and if you know of something like this happening and don’t do something for him then he may not make it to his next birthday. If you take him to the e.r. and tell them you’re babysitting and he’s having trouble breathing and his mom refuses to take him to the Dr they will treat him AND call the authorities.
Don’t agree with smoking around baby nor the lack of having him seen but CPS really? Have a convo with her! Ask about the breathing and push to have him seen. She’s clearly a working single mom who’s doing it alone and could be so much worse off. I’d you want to be a help then HELP however you can. Don’t be the one to possibly bring cps in and cause more issues in her life when the baby isn’t being abused. Whew I hope she finds a new sitter
You should call CPS. I know it sucks and you’ll feel horrible but letting this child suffer because it’s an uncomfortable conversation is wrong. As a child care provider your first priority is the child over the parent, it’s your job to protect them if their parents are putting them in danger. If something happens to that child the parent could blame you because you are the child care provider also you would feel horrible if something happened to that child.
Maybe mind your own business. If it’s too much for you then stop watching him. Getting cps involved in a non life threatening circumstance is fucked up. I’m sure she will take her kid to the Dr. I’m not saying smoking anything around kids is okay because it’s not however is it dfcs worthy, no.
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Now that I understand the American system a little better. If they have a case on her and the kids goes to the foster system that child can be stollen and adopted to another family and she has no say…
Work with her be a village hang out with her show her grace. She could be going through it and has no one to “protect” her.
I understand your concern and rightly so too you’re a good person for caring so much about the child… Walk with her see if your influence can help… use CPS as a last resort I’m by no means saying a year from now but try help the mumma first you’ll know if she’s serious or not…
Idk how it works in the US, but I don’t believe you can call CPS for that here in Canada. My son lives in foster care, and he’s around cigarettes all the time. They also drink constantly around him, and CPS knows and has said its fine.
I would take the child to the hospital.
CPS is not going to remove a child over cigarette smoke, or weed. If that were the case, there would be millions more kids in the foster care system. Cigarette smoking is legal in all 50 states and weed is legal in a hand full and poses no risk to anyone lol. But I think you need to sit this mom down and have talk with her and let her know you’re worried about the breathing issue, and offer to take the kid to the Dr or the ER. But there is no real reason for getting CPS involved at this point.
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OVER WEED!!! Smh!!! Do you really know what happens to a child when CPS takes them and put places them in foster care? It’s way worse than any mother smoking around their child believe that!!!
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Make the call. She’s clearly not interested in seeking help for herself or family or she would have already.
If you don’t call and protect that baby, who will?
sounds like asthma and the smoking is flaring it up if he’s not sick. my boys were the same way when ppl smoked around them (im not a smoker). i would take him to the CPS office. CPS always calls and lets parents know they are coming (dumb imo). however, if you take him to the ER they are obligated to care for him regardless of who brings him. the wheezing won’t stop because she isn’t going to stop smoking. but they can do breathing treatments at least
They won’t do nothing about the drugs but for the child’s sake take him/her to get checked
CPS may not be the answer here and I’ll tell you why. I’ve been on both sides of CPS, the good foster side and the bad “we got a report” side.
CPS can cause more harm than good. They are highly unlikely to reduce this mother’s stress and add to it significantly. They do not care about Marijuana, they’ll just ask her to pee clean in a few weeks.
Poverty is not grounds for CPS interference, but they use it.
They force everyone to sign up for all types of services and tbh, unless the social worker is a good worker and isn’t overloaded or corrupt, the amount of help they provide is minimal and can cause trauma to the child
Smoking around a child is child abuse in some places. This is a case of medical neglect also. If you sit down and have an extremely frank discussion with her and tell her that it is child abuse and she is neglecting her child medically, she may make an effort to change due to fear. If she does, great. If she doesn’t, I’d then call.
The amount of meetings, therapy and psychiatric appointments, medical appointments, interview appointments she will have could very well interfere with her job and income. Once she is on the radar with CPS, there is a good chance they are going to show up every year or so with some more BS.
Marijuana isn’t typically an addiction, she is likely self medicating for depression and anxiety. As a mom with no help it can be extremely difficult and stressful to find a way to smoke outside without your toddler being left alone or getting hurt. Smoking in the car doesn’t seem as bad to the uneducated as it is because they assume rolling the windows down helps. It doesn’t.
If she ever gets herself together mentally, she will always have a CPS record which means no working around the elderly, the disabled or children ever. The chances of coming out of an investigation with results unfounded are slim, because they have funding quotas they need to meet and a supervisor and her social worker will want their productivity numbers to look good.
The clothes and such aren’t as big of an issue as long as he has a safe pallet or bed to sleep on and at least three or four clean outfits.
Explain to her that not taking him to the doctor when he is having respiratory issues is medical neglect, it is a criminal charge as well as grounds for CPS removal.
She needs a wakeup call.
Take that child to the ER and get CPS involved if necessary (if they decide to also) you’re being a hero!
Do what you need to do for the baby, the Mom is making her choices very clear. Good luck
Start taking pictures/videos so you will have evidence and make sure you call DFCS ASAP!
Agreed, just take him to the ER!
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Call the police. If the baby passes away you will also be held responsible too
I would fuckingg call. I would also tell that woman to get her shit together!