Take the baby to the emergency room & tell the doctors about everything. They’ll set you up to do a proper report. Can you ask the mum if you can take custody while she goes to rehab or something?
Offer to take baby for a week or two and get him his medical help. And keep and maybe try to be supportive of her getting help and keeping the baby as long as it takes to clean her act up. Eventually cps will get involved by someone else and the results could and would be alot more detrimental to both her and baby than if you just take him if you’re able to till she gets her schizz together for that baby. I wouldn’t just call cps because I wouldn’t want the baby to end up in a possibly worse situation and bouncing around. He knows and trusts you and so does mom so just talk to her and go from there
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There are kids out here getting beaten and molested and you decided to call CPS on this mother but then you say your not judging. Why not just help her out and if it’s too much then step away and mind your business. Because I didn’t read about any abuse. Your babysitter, you don’t know their back story. You don’t know nothing about that child’s birth and you don’t know if smoking is to blame for the babies wheezing. Taking in your own hands by calling CPS IS WRONG. You don’t realize this but once CPS gets in involved depending on where you are, it’s hard as hell to keep your kids or get them back over here say and no facts This entire status is judging her. And let me guess… You don’t have any kids??? And you are not a mandated reported as a babysitter. That takes school and creditials that are needed to be earned. But what y’all don’t understand is CPS operates different depending on the city and the circumstances. Why not just help her out? Or just mind your business and find another job. Wow. Like this is the Karen’s that ppl talk about. If you don’t know the entire story then don’t assume shit. Especially if you don’t have any kids.
Take him to the er they will call her to get permission to treat him and if she refuses the er most likely will call cps on her
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Take him to the ER for the breathing issues and the tell the staff your concerns
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I view this as your opportunity to help. It must feel overwhelming but you have already started helping and that’s beautiful. Don’t spend money on things that you can get donated though like clothing, hygiene products, etc. Check with a local pregnancy center (they give resources for children up through 5 years old), hospital, police station or other car seat non-profit (for a clean car seat), local church ministries or food and clothing closets, or wherever else might assist with items that will help this situation. I also agree that you should take the baby yourself to be seen at the health department and they can do the report if they view it as neglect. I know this must be so hard and I’m so sorry. Start gathering resources and take him to be seen and the route to help him will become clear. The longer he has with you, the safer he will be. You were chosen to help him for sure.
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Absolutely make that call.
Please take him to the hospital and tell them the situation. Also don’t worry about being judgy, you’re allowed to judge poor parenting.
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I think she isn’t good at taking care of her baby. Sit her down and ask how u can help her. This is sad. I think you should call if she isn’t willing to take him.
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I know this is a tricky situation but if you don’t help this baby who will? Right now you’re his advocate, you’re looking after his best interests, you are his voice. You need to get him help that’s all there is too it.
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Oh no I hope she’s not smoking meth around him too!
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If you know he need to be seen , take him.
After you’ve been checked in , maybe you can call or text the mom and just you were nervous and worried for the baby so you brought him in.
Thank you for caring for him. I know it’s probably a hard situation.
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I hate cps. But in this.case the kid needs taken care of
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Be that baby’s voice do whatever is needed to keep the baby safe and out of harms ways
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Niggha Mind your business your a fucking sitter
Mind your business she’s trying
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Take him to the doctor yourself, or call ambulance. Let them know everything and yes CPS will be involved, please don’t brush this off because he’s not yours. You are his caregiver, so take care of him. It is your responsibility when he’s under your care. I would also get a restraining order on her because once this is done, shit could hit the fan. You’d be having one of her sources of income taken from her, and an addict needs it. But also report to the hospital who she is and see what kind of care they can offer her, if she wants it, if she accepts you’d be helping both. But you can’t force her. Addiction becomes a disease, when she no longer has control over her cravings.
Call it in they’re there to support families who may be struggling not just tear kids away with no good reason the mother may get the help she needs to turn it around.
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I don’t get why ppl are saying don’t call authority you should, or definitely take him to the er.
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Are daycare providers or even babysitters mandated reporters?? If you’re taking care of someone and you’re concerned for their well-being then you should take the necessary steps to make sure they’re safe.
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Take him to the ER. They have CPS in the hospital. You can request them to come to the room. Then I’d tell the mom that you ran him to the ER and for her to come. CPS will be there when she comes. You did ur job that’s what matters
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If he’s wheezing take him to the ER and let them know. They’ll make the call
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So have you actually witnessed her smoking weed around him? If not then you are jumping to conclusions and I’m sorry but do you have any certifications or medical degree to say it’s really asthma? I get it you care so take the baby to the er call the mom n tell her it got worse but really you say your not judging but you are. You have no idea about this mom’s story and calling cps is and should always be last resort. This is exactly why ppl need to be so careful about who they let around their children. You might think your doing the right thing but jumping to conclusions about how she lives her life is wrong. I smoke cigarettes in my car and before I pick my kids up I’ll smoke the smell is still in my car doesn’t mean I smoke around them. Also when my oldest was a baby he had a wheeze I took him to the doctor and explained everything the doctor told me sometimes in baby’s their little airway might not be as developed as others his age and that causes what sounds like wheezing but instead small airway it wasn’t anything to be concerned about. My son was perfectly healthy. So maybe it’s something that simple and your putting all this together for no reason…
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Calling doesn’t always mean having the child taken away. She could get help that is obviously needed. I’d call so that poor baby can get the medical attention thats needed.
You babysit this baby for a reason, don’t let this go… take him to the ER and explain everything you know to the doctor, they will call CPS for you… there’s no need for you to call them as soon as you tell them everything you know.
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That baby needs a voice. Be that for him.
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Be his safe place. State your concerns. Try to be as passionate as ever when discussing the child.
You are obligated as his babysitter to seek medical help if you feel he is in distress…
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Do not call DCS!! They will turn their whole life upside-down! DCS is not always a good thing! Did you ask her if he is on any meds? Like allergy meds maybe? Sounds like he is allergic to something
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I would get help for the baby. Why would you let him suffer? He didn’t ask to be born. The mom is choosing her addiction over his health obviously.
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Take him to the ER and have the social workers get involved.
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Just take that baby into the er and than contact the mother and let her know say u are worried about his breathing u will feel guilty if u don’t do anything and something serious happens to that child when u could of protected him
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first priority,should always be the child they depend on adults to keep them safe ,clean and fed
I know a few sitters that have been in the same spot and they won’t report it because they know when that child or children comes to them they are safe and taken care of. They won’t report it out of fear the parent will find out they did it and remove the child from thier care.
I would keep pushing to take him to the doctor but don’t push to hard to the point she will not let you watch him anymore
Stay in your lane ,unless is very serious abuse you don’t call CPS damn
Call Cps n be his voice it will only get worser!
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Take him to the ER. Let them decide what the child’s actual problem is and then if CPS needs to be involved they will be.
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Sounds more like a broke depressed single mom than an addict. Kid should go to the dr. Call your own child’s pcp or er and explain the situation. They can tell you the best route and if you’re able to take the child in yourself. If it’s life threatening. Always go. Cyf is worthless. There are a million better options for this scenario.
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She didn’t say the baby clothes are dirty, only that he doesn’t have a lot and 'smells. Smell like what? Do they stink dirty or smell like something you don’t like? And a pipe in the car doesn’t automatically mean she smokes in fron of the baby. People hear marijuana and automatically assume the worse. I’ve been judged for being a recreational smoker, my in laws just assumed I had some type of addiction and it made me a bad parent ( that got straightened out). Does the baby just not have a variety of clothes, or barely have any clothes on? If it’s about how much he’s wearing then what’s the weather outside? My son is only in his diaper a lot, but it’s summer and hot. Also, some parents prefer to not take many clothes to sitters &, some stick to the same few. If the clothes are dirty and stink (not just smell, cuz everything has a smell) then I would be concerned. That being said, I would definitely be concerned about the weezing. If mom refuses to take child in I would do it myself. Whatever her reasons are to not want to go DO NOT matter. Babys health comes 1st. I would take him in immediately. You can always tell mom later he was having difficulty breathing whole in your care or something. Even if you call cps they would take too long to investigate and everything. Difficulty breathing could be anything and it could be very serious. Please please take him in. If you really do feel she is an unfit mother and negligent then call cps, they will investigate and decide what the next step is. But take him in next time you have that baby. I hope everything is o.k. and he may recovery fully. If mom refuses to take baby and gets upset you took him in that’s negligence in my eyes too & another sign to call cps.
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What kind of pipe? Marijuana bowl or meth bowl…DCS will kill that baby before she will… talk to her more about taking him to the doctor.
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Yall are ridiculous! She hasn’t even witnessed her smoking anything around him! And yall are just like, oh call DCS geezzz he literally could just be allergic to something and needs allergy meds!! Oh but call DCS…
wtf
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I agree with just taking the baby to the er yourself , if they feel this needs to be addressed by social services the hospital will handle that
Sounds like Asthma! Call dhs and take that baby to the er.
How would u feel if God forbid anything worse we’re to happen to this baby and u had the info to prevent it?? As a child care provider, u r a mandated reported and that poor baby’s advocate! U already know what u need to do or u wouldn’t b here asking. It’s just a really hard move to make. Prayers and good vibes to the road that lay ahead for u.
First & foremost, the child needs medical attention.
She dosnt even no the mom
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Take himnto hospital you can do that
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Call 911 for ambulance services, once they get all this info they’re correctly involve cps or atleast figure out what’s happening at home
I was a ward of the court. I spent years in foster care and in and out of the system.
I endured more abuse in the system than out. Some children have better experiences and some worse.
I encourage you to see more grey than black and white.
Cps = good
Parent = bad (or good)
Things are not that simple.
The things that are happening to this kid will effect them the rest of their lives. If you cannot just be a positive part of that, then don’t be any part at all.
If the situation is weighing to heavy on you. Remove urself.
Calling CPS could start a different spiral into a system of abuse. Then again maybe not. But i wouldn’t want to be the one who took that chance.
Also when asking for outside advice i encourage you to ask people who have had similar experiences.
A lot of people have opinions who have little or no experience with social services.
Im not encouraging you in any direction. Do what helps you sleep at night
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Mind your own business
What reasons are you babysitting for, obviously she is giving you a wage? Is she working?
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Try to convince the mom to let you take him to the Drs! Or yes take him to the er they will decide if cps needs to get involved.
Personally I’d do whatever it takes to protect this child. Go with your heart and what feels right. Take him to the doctor yourself and let them decide whether to call child protective services. Explain the situation to them. It sounds to me that she couldn’t care less about the baby , people who are addicted only care about 1 thing and that’s getting there fix.
Take him to urgent care
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There’s so many comments that I’m not sure if someone has addressed the fact you could be putting yourself in danger. You could whined up under investigation by CPS if you are caring for him. This could jeopardize your custody of your own children.
Report this and have it documented.
Your heart is in the right place trying to help. Unfortunately the stakes are high because you could be found liable.
If she won’t get him medical attention and the condition continues, which this seems the case get authorities involved.
You have to protect your home first.
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Don’t call DCFS. They could take that child and put him in the care of someone worse than her. Smoking around your child is irresponsible but it’s not abuse or neglect. As far as not taking him to the doctor, she also might be afraid of racking up medical bills, perhaps she doesn’t have adequate insurance
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You haven’t even seen her smoke around him! Marijuana is legal in most states… Please do not classify her using marijuana as an “addiction” you can not get addicted to THC. for all you know she smokes to keep her patience in check and in place of meds like I do… But she shouldn’t be doing it around the baby! Don’t call DCS… talk to her and try to help her. DCS is not going to help it’s just going to make that baby miserable and ruin their whole world over something little and stupid!
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I think I would honestly just try to be his safe place and take the best possible care of him that you can when you can.
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Leave cps out of it and you try to mentor her
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Take him yourself and explain everything to the doctor he can take charge of it from there
You may be saving the child’s life. God. Bless
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I dont believe Marijuana causes asthma he might already have it untreated but if my baby was wheezing I definitely wouldn’t smoke around them
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Soooooo he probably has asthma but cigarette smoke causes that not really cannabis. I would just try to be a friend to her? Maybe she needs someone to talk to and this is the worst things have ever been. You NEVER know what people are dealing with in their head. Mental health is priority!
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Do you know for a fact she hasn’t taken him to the doctor. You say you told her to but did she tell you she hasn’t or won’t? Maybe she has and just hasn’t told you cause you are just the babysitter or hasn’t gotten time for an appointment yet. Or already knows about his medical condition. Also do you know if they have insurance? If you really feel like this is a medical emergency take him to the er and they can decide if cps should be called.
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You need to tell someone. The baby needs help. Don’t leave him like that please? You know how awful asthma is. Please call someone. She can’t look after him and she is not making the baby her priority. If she was he would be at the DRs and she wouldn’t be smoking around the baby.
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Take him to the ER and call his mother from there.
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Just know that if you do, and for some reason they take her child, whenever she DOES get better…it’ll be hell for her to get the kid back…then think how that’ll be on the kid. Living with foster family and not knowing who to call mom. Idk. This is a tricky situation for all involved and no matter what, all will suffer and be affected from it.
You say you’re not judging…buut…kinda seems like you are. How about instead of immediately calling cps…try HELPING her instead. Be her FRIEND…she obviously has no one there and you obviously know that…so how about trying this instead of immediately jumping to all of these conclusions and causing even more damage.
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Please don’t put CPS in that baby or mother’s life. Sit her down, tell her he needs to go to the doctor and you’ll have no choice but to call someone if she doesn’t make it a priority. And that you can take him if she needs you to, she’ll likely have to let her doctor know and sign a form. She’s likely just a mother struggling and overwhelmed, CPS in situations like this should only be a last resort, if she’s already struggling and overwhelmed it will make her life that much harder. People sometimes just need some direction and loving advice, not a constant fear that their child will be taken away because let’s face it, it’s what they’re known for. Look up some resources to help her out with baby things, like free car seats and clothes closets, things like that. You can make a difference without involving such extreme measures, just sit her down in your living room and have a heart to heart.
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As someone that works with a child aren’t you a mandated reporter…like legally you need to report it. Regardless this mother has an obligation to her child for its well being. And that includes many things including taking your child to the doctor when somthing is not right…and by not doing so she is failing her parental responsibilitys i dont give a fuck how hard her situation is she owes it to her child to either take care of them properly or give her child to those that will. This baby did not ask to be born into this world.
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I would take him to the er or urgent care and than call mom to meet you there. That way mom is a part of the entire process. If she refuses care it is documented by the medical staff and then they can decide what to do from there. You can simply state you were very concerned and got the child help ASAP and contacted mom to meet you there. You then become the bridge.
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I think your overstepping your place.
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You are this child’s voice at This point
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I wouldn’t involve CPS. Sometimes the children are placed in homes worse than their own. Just try and help her as much as you can. Be a good human. Take the baby to the emergency room but say he was wheezing don’t tell them anything about the Mother’s drug use etc. Befriend the mom and see if maybe you can help her before going to the extremes of calling CPS please for that baby’s sake. Momma could just be having a tough time and needs help.
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I’m a mandated reporter in my state. If I was watching this child I would be legally obligated to report it. Do with that what you will.
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Take him yourself and call cps. You could get charged with neglect also if you don’t report it should someone else report it and the fact that you knew came up.
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This is a child, his welfare comes first. Take him to the hospital and then call whatever law enforcement in your area you need to call.
Thank you so much for looking out for that child already
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I’m sure he goes to the doctor for his shots. Please stop being a pain in the ass with the marajuana b.s
You do not mind your own business when it come to kids. We all have to watch out for the kids. If you suspect any kind of child negligence or abuse you should take action for the kids. Maybe the mom is going through something or battling an addiction but i would keep watching the baby and try talking to the mom about things. We have to take care of the kids. They dont understand or know whats going on.
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I agree with going straight to Emergency with him.
They will do what’s right for babies health, safety & for him mum. If it’s all innocent they are trained to know that too.
Ur a good person & have been put in this babies life path for a reason. X
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Cps is not the way girl. Always listen to your intuition and the fact you had to ask and make a post about it… you know well enough it’s not serious to get cps involved stop looking for a pat on the back. She needs a new babysitter bcz your intuition is way off
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Take him to doctor he matters more than should I or shouldn’t I and next time he comes to stay with you maybe he stops breathing what then what we all ready know your all ready information us it bring him to urgent CARE
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I would just call 911 the next time he’s at your house and doing it. They’ll take him to the hospital and the mom won’t have a choice.
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Take him to the phuching doctor NOW!!! Ask forgiveness later
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Take him to the ER yourself and then call his mother once you are there
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Please do not call CPS. Sit down with her and tell her you will go with her to the ER to check on babies breathing.
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This is why I would never trust a baby sitter… want to call DCS over some bullshit that you literally know nothing about
Just because you seen a weed pipe and it smelled of smoke isn’t a good reason to call I get the wheezing stuff but my car smells like smoke and I usually have a weed pipe but we NEVER smoke with our kids in the car with us
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As his baby sitter, I believe that makes you a mandated reporter which means you are required by law to make a report. I realize CPS can be a scary thing to bring in but it is much better to be safe than sorry for this child.
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I’d just take him to the doctor
I would offer to help her and try to get her to utilize services in the area. If that doesn’t help then possibly Dcs
If the mother will not provide for the child’s welfare and needs, then someone needs to get involved. If she does not think these things are a concern, and they are threatening his well being, a call to cps will get someone involved enough to ensure the child is at least in a safe environment. These children didn’t ask to be here, they don’t have choices, their wellbeing is of the upmost importance
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If you feel that the child is in danger do what needs to be done and take the child to the ER. Tell them the situation. They’ll involve CPS and then CPS can determine what to do from there. Good job on you for protecting our young! Hopefully the mom can get things straight and be a good mother to the child in the end!
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I used to work in an ER and I can remember concerned random people bringing a baby in because he wasn’t breathing right and the parents were doing hardcore drugs in the house… baby was retracting and in very dire trouble but they didn’t know that just knew something wasn’t right… we had to put the baby on a ventilator and the dad found out and tried to force his way into the ER to take his kid home. It was awful… those people saved that baby’s life and didn’t even realize . May not be the same situation but just be aware and if you need to don’t hesitate to go to the ER and get him help… if he has undiagnosed Asthma he may get to a point that he can’t breathe and need emergency help
If you take him to the hospital, theyll have to inform cps … then it wasnt your doing and you dont have to feel bad. Asthma is very dangerous.
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Try breathing treatments! Do you possibly have a nebulizer or a humidifier? Give him medicine. Just treat him like your baby, cps is not the way BUT you do need to talk to his mom and let her know the damage she’s causing.
How about be there for her. Tell her your concerns. Do it in a manner where she don’t have much choice,I’d tell her str8t up to get her crap together. Or your going to take matters in your own hands. God forbid anything happens to said child you would never forgive yourself. My biggest worry would be her getting spooked and shutting you out all together. Smoking around her kid isn’t the worst thing ever. Hell a whole generation of us had smoking parents, no seatbelts even. And we’re ok. But its morally wrong, and id b worried about how clean the child is & with covid you just can’t take chances… idk it’s a tough situation especially when a child is involved. I’m which case really all bets are off, be that child’s voice. You might be the only time you get to help. Good luck.
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Make the call. It’s illegal to smoke with a child in the car and illegal to smoke pot and drive
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You need to call cps for that baby. The child’s health and safety comes first. They can also get her the help she needs to stop neglecting that baby. Who cares if she is smoking but doing it around her baby can severely screw up his brain development. If that baby has untreated asthma it can end up not waking up one morning.
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You’ve already tried to talk to her, take child to the ER, inform them of the facts. They will call mom, your conscience will be clear
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After reading your post I think you know what you should do.
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If you call CPS I hope she beats you to a living pulp. Worrying about his breathing is one thing, asserting your out of date, out of place opinions about a plant that’s legal in half of America is pathetic. I get that smoking cigarettes with him in the car is bad and the car seat out of date could be dangerous but you have absolutely no clue what this woman has been through or is going through? She’s doing you a fucking favor employing you to watch him while she works, marijuana is not a drug, it’s a medication used for a plethora of things. If she’s struggling, buy him a new car seat yourself and suggest a nebulizer. Smdh. What the fuck is wrong with you people trying to get children taken from their families for something that’s legal in half of America.