Nah he chose to leave and be grown. Grown folks dont have their parents paying their bills
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No. If he decided to move out and be on his own then let him be the adult he wants to be and pay his own bills.
Let him taste the medicine of real adult life
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If he wants to be a man, itās all or nothing. He doesnāt want to live under your roof or rules then why should he get the benefits? let him be the man if he wants to be the man.
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No heās an adult now
Is this really a question? He left your house. Heās on his own. Not saying you canāt help out sometimes if he runs into a jam. Thatās what parents do but unless he is in college, 18 is my limit. At that point my son gonna have to get a job and pay his own. I do realize most 18 year olds canāt get a job that pays enough to live 100% independently so I will never let my kids go without but they will not just expect that mama and daddy are gonna pay their bills.
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Well youāre over 18 does your parents still pay your bills if your answer is no and you probably shouldnāt be doing it either doesnāt teach him responsibility for accountability
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Trick question?? Hahaaaaa 
If he ātook it upon himselfā to move out lol he should take it upon himself to pay his own billsš
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Simply put no. I know it is deeper than that and not a true yes or no answer.
I was younger when I left home. My mom did not pay for any of my bills, I leftā¦ why should she pay my bills? At the time I thought she was the worst person in the world and we didnāt speak for a few years. Now, I am so thankful she did what she did. It made me a more responsible adult. Please feel free to message me if you want to dive deeper into the convo.
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IMO once they move out theyāre on their own with bills
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Your kidding arnt you? My kids 1st job I TOOK $50 a week then she got paid more itās 100. Phone fun all that? Thatās on her she is 18 and lives with me and yeah I bug extras sometimes and itās my shout but usually? Her things r on Her donāt look at me lol and itās Thursday. Please pay your rent. 100 bucks is nothing but itās teaching her
No. He left. He can be a big boy and pay that shit. Now. To help him keep his insurance lower. You COULD keep him on your insurance but he needs to pay HIS PART of the bill. My mom did that for my brother to keep it lower than if he had moved to his own policy. Same for his phone. He had to pay her that portion of the bill if he wanted to keep it. If he didnāt pay she would remove him and it would only hurt him more. Thatās the best way you can āhelpā but still make him financially responsible.
If your son is working and doing all he can to support himself by all means pay his insurance and phone bill. Everyone needs a boost starting out. If he doesnāt work or go to school. And he is making bad choices, he needs to be cut off. Donāt reward bad behavior.
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If heās wanting out the first chance he gets, I would have him handle all his expenses including insurance and cell phone. Its part of leaving home. As a way to do something for him, take a portion of the money that wouldāve gone to it for a year or two and put it in a separate savings account so if he falls flat and needs help, you have the ability to help him get back on his feet as a one time deal.
No would not do it, unless they were a high-school student living at home, or a full time college student that needed help paying their bills.
Thereās always āGoFundMeāā¦ Hahaaaaa
Heās an adult?
I moved out at 17 and had to pay my way
No. However, if any of the bills are in your name, pay them and switch them to his name.
Adults pay their own bills 
As adults we know how hard it is to cover our Billās sometimes but If he chooses to leave then they become his responsibility you can either let him take it into his name or tell him this much is due by this date every month or it gets shut off he will either step up an pay you take it into his name or u shut it off an he no longer has these items that being said you Can still help him every now an again Iām 27 my husband is 29 an if his dad wasnt able to help us out every now an again we would be fucked from corona cause Iām 9 months pregnant an I lost my job an his isnt a good paying one his dad has helped us here an there
I would pay just the phone at minimum for contact
Iād still pay his phone bill, call it peace of mind if you will. But that way you know he can always reach you vice versa
I would continue to pay them. Just because children become adults and move out, does not mean we canāt still be there for our kids. I have five adult children and I help with what I can. Life is tough, if we can make it a little less tough, I think we should.
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I think it depends on what kind of person he is. Is he a good kid? Working, paying rent somewhere, at least trying to be a successful, decent human being. If so, I donāt see anything wrong with helping him still. Lots of teens and parents do not get along. Once they move out, they are able to have a better relationship. Itās not easy to live on your own at a young age. I moved out young for the same reason, and I am so thankful my dad seen I was trying and would offer to help me out. If he moved out and heās freeloading off of people, not working, not trying to better himself then I wouldnāt be so quick to help him.
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My son is 19 and still lives at home but he works and pays his own bills as well. I will try to help him out if he doesnāt have enough due to his hours being cut etc. but nope they are grown therefore they have to live the grown up life
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If he is claiming adulthood by moving out that also means being responsible for his Billās. If he cant afford insurance or his cellphone then he should not have those things.
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Honestly if my daughter moved out at 18 I would give her some money. Not a lot, just 500/600 to let her have a start. Does a mother love stop as soon as they move out? You want them to succeed. Give em a better chance to start with something rather then nothing. Stop paying his bills.
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You better let him know that if ge thinks living by himself or roommates gona make him grow up & be responsible. Dear mention that under your roof theres rules & responsibilities. But when he leaves. His responsibile for his car & ins. & also let him know that you might be able to help by paing another month. But in October his on his own. As a mom that all you can do.
My mom paid my phone bill so she could get in touch with me always. I went to college when I was 17, it was 8 hours away so she definitely wanted to ensure it was always available. She also paid my car insurance, and I will always be grateful she was there for me. But everyone is different. I plan on doing the same for my son.
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I wanted a phine so i paid the bill, Iāve always paid for my own insurance and things for my car.
I wasnt forced to either, my mum was a single mum and i didnt expect her to pay fkr everything for me. Once i started getting my own income i paid my own bills and paid her board/rent. I also contributed to the household bills. If i wanted extras outside the regular shopping, Iād pay for them myself. I wanted to go a holiday, i saved and oaid for that too. That was all before i moved out.
To me its a respect thing, i dont expect my parents to pay my bills nor would i let them or make them feel guilty for not paying for things for me. They raised me to be independent and that includes paying my own way in life.
When my son is old enough the same rules will apply to him aswell. Weāll always help out where we can but once he has own income he starts taking responsibility for his own expenses
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You have no obligation. My mom paid mine until I got engaged and I appreciated it greatly but I never expected it. Your personal choice to make
Honestly Iām 27 and my mom still pays my phone bill 
I have 2 kids who I donāt receive child support for. I work for a legitimate job full time, not for minimum wage either. I donāt have cable, donāt take vacations or anything. I have a house and a car and yet I still struggle. If heās trying his hardest to gain his independence, is being responsible, and respects you then I see nothing wrong with a little support from his mama 
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For one of my daughters when she moved out I helped with her cell phone bc she is working and tries hard to pay all her bills. Sometimes she falls a little tight. She pays her own insurance. My other daughter when she moved out I didnāt pay anything. She wasnāt working and I didnāt help her. Itās all based on what they are doing. If they are trying I will help. No I wonāt ever let them go hungry but when they moved out they need to then do what comes with being on your own
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Lmao!! Ummm noā¦ it was his choice to move out . He needs to learn to stand on his own feet i moved when i was 17 did it all on my ownā¦ sure moms can help out some but not everything. Ohh never mind all insaid can u adopt me ā¦ and pay my bills
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You donāt have too but life is hard and expensive, if I was in the position to take some financial burden from my children i would
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My brother is 18, in high school, living at home and still pays his own bills. Car insurance, phone, part of the utilities each month, gas, and any luxury he wants such as eating out or going off with friends. And if Iām thinking right, he buys his own clothes too. My mom doesnāt make him, he felt like he needed to as soon as he got a job and just did it.
I moved out at 16 and got NO help. My boyfriend paid for everything I wanted/needed until I got a job a few weeks after as I was living with him and he was working.
I didnāt have a car, nobody paid my phone bill, nobody bought me clothes/shoes, or anything for that matter. We even paid for our own food while living with his momš¤·š»āāļø
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I would say slowly get him to start paying. Donāt completely cut him off, make sure he can stay afloat while paying a portion of the bills if you are financially able to.
Heās 18, and while everyone can say that heās an adult now, heās a brand new adult. Learning how to do all of this alone is hard, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with helping your children if you are financially able to. Set your children up for success if you can.
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As soon as I got a job and was making my own money i took on my cell phone bill and pay for anything and everything i need (My choice) Yes I hate spending all that money but it feels amazing that I can do it myselfš honestly I think it makes me feel better about myself and makes me proud of myself
when he moved out does he have a job and a place of his own??
Mt momma helped me up until she passed and i have 6 kiddos. Just with things like cable for the kids, gas, insurance. My phone, bills and rent etc my husband pays.
Umm no my 17 year old pays his ownā¦itās called teaching them responsibility.
Cancel the insurance pay the phone bill
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Set a date with him that he can be responsible for his bills.
Thatās the nice thing to do.
Getting bills paid is for kids being responsible, so is he working and trying to make it as an adult or did he move in with his bonehead buddies and theyāre all calling their parents to get toilet paper and to go to their parents house to do laundry??
Nope if he wants to be a big boy and move out he can be a big boy and pay his own bills. My daughter is 19 and lives with us right now. She has a full time job pays her own cell phone, car payment and insurance and helps out with groceries and we charge her rent and does school full time. Itās been a year and she has yet to ask for us parents to help her out!! Heās got to learn and sometimes that takes falling on his face a few timesā¦
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My mom continued to pay for those thing so long as I was in college. Even after I graduated and was working for low wages, she still helped a lot. I think it depends on what heās doing with his life and your own preference in how much to keep helping him
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If heās grown enough to move out, let him be independent. Donāt pay his bills.
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For your own sanity pay them
Yes you should as long as heās a good child working or going to school. Help him stay on his feet while becoming a man
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Is this a serious question? No. No you shouldnāt. If hes a high enough boy to move out then he is big enough to pay his own bills.
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It depends. Is he trying hard to make his own living and pay his own bills? If yes, then itās ok to help him out. If no, then tough love and let him learn the hard way that he needs to bring in his own income. My mom paid for my car and health insurance until after I graduated college and got my first real job. I was busting my butt but I still needed help. I will forever be grateful for this.
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Depends on his attitude and if in school or working. I will help any way i can but if you aint in school or working im not helping
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Hes an adult he took it upon himself too move out so let him see how he handles all the Billās.
If heās in college and being respectful, I feel you absolutely should to a certain extent. Not every single expense of his but the reasonable ones. I donāt understand parents who want to abandon their children financially just because theyāre 18. Why would you not want your kid to be in the best financial standings as a young adult. As long as he is respectful to you and still being a good kid in general why not help him stay on his feet.
Just talk about being responsible
No honestly if he wants to live alone and have independence then I think itās very important to get the full picture because you canāt keep paying it for life, eventually he will need to cover it and itās better now than later
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It would depends on the situation. My son moved out last week, he is 18 and this is his second year in college, I will continue paying his phone and getting him groceries is he keeps his GPA. He goes to school full-time, doesnāt have a job but he does computer systems freelance jobs here and there. he asked me for a car, I told him only if he paid the insurance, when he saw the prices he got himself a new skateboard and a bike.
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When I moved out (also right after I turned 18) I started paying all my own bills which included phone and insurance. Iād say, if he wants to be an adult and live on his own then he should take all the responsibilities that come with being an adult on his own.
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Nope!!! He wanted to move out, that comes with responsibilities!! At the very least, he needs to be giving you his portion of those bills.
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I would if my child(ren) was working or in school and I could afford it. My grams paid my car insurance, left me on her health insurance until I aged out, and paid for my phone bill until I was stable. She didnāt wan2 set me up for failure and what youāll be earning str8 out of highschool is nothing close to a livable wage.
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It just really depends on the situation. Is he working full time or did covid drastically cut his hours? Is he being responsible with his money?
If my children were struggling, and trying to be responsible i would absolutely help them out.
If heās being lazy, and not wanting to do anything, then thatās a different story.
Itās ok that he wanted to move out at 18, and itās also ok to help him out if he needs it.
As parents were supposed to support our children, not watch them struggle.
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Nope, no, never, please stop make him grow up no phone, no insurance he will get on the right road or fail.
No. He moved out and itās his responsibility. He is legally an adult.
I moved out at 15 and never expected my parents to pay anything. Maybe help here and there but not pay his bills
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Iāve seen this post way earlier today and in the first post I saw it said that he was already out of the house ???
Nope you should not have to cover his bills. The minute he moved out is the minute he decided to be a man and venture out on his own so time for him to learn the hard way 
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Honestly regardless of your issues pay his phone bill and insurance for a period of time then tell him to give you a set Amount for them ( less the actual bill) then when he is paying it constantly to you with out not problems then increase the amount and repeat till he is paying is fully alone. Dropping his insurance sets him up for failure and you want to keep his phone on so you can check on him and keep up with him.
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Yes i would . Just to show you will always be there
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My son lives with me and I make him pay for his ins and phone and rentā¦ But if he goes back to sch. He doesnāt have to give me rent
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I think having a conversation with him about it would be good. Personally I would continue to help pay it for now but letting him know and having the conversation that its time for him to start taking over those things himself and talk and set a time frame Example : like your only going to continue to pay it for a month but so he can work out a budget and become a self sufficient adult.
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Iām working 3 jobs and Iām college and moved out my dad pays my insurance and phone bill but i pay 1200 in bills and for my own things food gas and schooling and itās hard my dads help is very very appreciated I donāt no if I could make it through it all without it !
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Maybe the insurance but his phone his bill
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My 19 year old moved out in June. I still buy all her groceries and she does her laundry at our home. Just because they leave, doesnāt mean you automatically stop doing for them. Iām grown and my parents still help me.
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If heās actually making the effort to work and take care of himself, then you could absolutely help with those bills. But you do not have to do anything. He is an adult and he made the decision to move out. I think itās ok to help him as long as you want too and heās appreciative. If heās not working or making effort to do those things on his own I wouldnāt pay it.
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This is a conversation to have with your son. He made the effort to move out. If he can support himself and those his bills he should pay them. If you want to cover them, go ahead.
Nope he is a big boy. Save your money
I will always take care of those things for my child until he is married. Heās still a baby right now, but I want him to always have a way to do things and a way to call people.
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My grandson lives with me. Heās 21 he helps me if I need it , I pay all house bills and his cell bill , he works every day he has a car payment and insurance he pays on his own.
I started working when I was 14 and since then I have never taken a cent from my parents or anyone, I have paid for absolutely everything since then lol
But now that I have kids I will be paying for what ever and helping them in any way until the day I die regardless of how old they are.
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I would but not forever obviously. If the phone bill is $20 then pay it. It will cost him $60 to $80 on his own. You can make him pay half of the car insurance when he has good income then the full thing after he is self sufficient and well established.
Nope. He moved out so he can pay his own shit
My question isā¦ how do you not āget alongā with your own child??? I mean honestly that seems like you really messed up somewhere with raising him and no wonder he wants to move out as soon as he canā¦ And if thatās the caseā¦ then yeah you should help him out and pay the phone and insurance.
Most people are quick to say a kid needs to be self sufficient at 18 but at 17 1/2 itās theyāre my kid my rules blah blah blah.
You decided to have a child. You messed up with raising that child. The least you could do is help take some pressure off him while he figures out his adult life.
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Canāt believe what I just read
No if he left then he has to pay his own bills. Unless of course you had a conversation about it before he left.
Not at all, welcome to the real world.
No I donāt believe you should, but youāre going to have to let him know, so that he can figure it out. And probably not do it all at once. I would stop paying his phone first then after about a year his insurance. Heās gotta be a big boy and it feels fair. Just my opinion.
If you want to stay in touch pay the phone bill. If heās a responsible driver pay the insurance too. An accident where he is financially liable (without insurance) could be a huge obligation that could set him back years. He can pay deductible.
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Lol no. He should have been paying those things himself since he has his own car and his own phone.
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No!
If heās adult enough to move out he can find a way to support himself
Hell no, he moved out he needs to pay for them. Want to be an adult, do all the adult things!
If heās able to pay them himself right now, then no. If not, then tell him he has x number of days to figure it out because you wonāt be paying anymore as of (and a give a date.)
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He needs to learn to be self sufficient. Iād start with taking one bill away at a time. If not he will expect it from you in continuing years.
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If I could afford it I would. My mum always helps me out
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It depends on if youāre child is being responseable or rebellious .
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No, if he wants to act like an adult he gets treated like oneā¦ I personally have been paying my own phone bill and insurance since I was a teenager living with my parents.
Depends on the situation, I donāt want my child living in poverty, nobody should have to suffer because of money
He needs to grow up and pay his own shit.
Inform him he will be taking over those responsibilities. Iād give him 2 months to start paying his own car ins and 3 to 4 months to pay his own cell phone bill. 18 is still very young. If he says he canāt pay one of the two, Iād extend it to 6 months and after that Iād pay half. Our job is to ease them into financial independence. Grant it he took a leap into adulthood, Iām sure you donāt want to see him go without regardless of your relationship.
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My mother has never paid my phone bill since i was 14 and started to work and earn my own money. And i have bought my own car, and insursnce.
Love and financial support is a thin and tricky line.
You should not be financially supporting your adult child who CHOSE to be out on their own.
If he needed help and has asked and you feel the need to help do so, but that is money you could be saving towards a spa day, vacation, or rainy day funds.
He can live without a phone and car ultimatelyš¤·āāļø
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Talk to your son about it. I understand he just moved out. See,if heās able to take it on all at once by himself. My mom helps out with anything she can even if I donāt want her to. An itās vise versa. We help each other out so then life isnāt harder. Talk to your son though instead of seeing how everyone else would handle it so you can handle it the best way for your family.
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Wow. 90%of these chics are talking out their asses!
If u can afford it yes! Is he being a lazy pos? You didnāt say if he is in someoneās basement playing games or going to school.