I personally would give him a set amount of time before I stopped paying. Couple months or something. I’d also maybe try and work on having a better relationship with him…
I would just to help him for a little longer.
Maybe ask him first if he can comfortably afford two new expenses on top of moving out already, talk to him about it and then go from there.
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Work on a better relationship with him. And I personally would continue to pay for my baby’s bills especially if it’s just the phone bill and insurance. It gives them that tiny bit of extra help. I’m sure he’ll appreciate it. Remember he will always be your baby.
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No. He’s an adult. Make him get a job and pay his way. Tough love. I’ve had to do it
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uhm nope he should have been covering that long ago. 
He’s an adult if he can’t work out how to keep up with the bills not your problem!
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Absolutely not he should be paying his own bills he made the decision to be an adult on his own let him handle things on his own
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It’s pay them or pay his rent
Nope you’re not responsible he is out of house n legal age , time to let him be responsible adult !! His choice to move out n bills n daily things he needs to pay himself ;") 18 I moved out paid my insurance food clothes n had full time job
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God no. When I met my husband (24 at the time) his parents were paying the exact same things. It took me forever to break that “running to mommy and daddy” habit whenever we got in a tight spot, rather than him working harder with me to get out of it.
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I personally wouldn’t, he is an adult now and usually once you’ve moved out you’ve decided to pay your way.
When I was 18 & working I was paying rent and my own bills? Because I was making my own money 
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No he should be paying own ways especially if living outta home
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Thats a hard question. I will still pay for my daughter until she is financially stable even if that means paying until she is 40. My mom also helped me financially when i was i need and over 30 years old at the time but that made a huge difference to my mental health. Im still grateful even if i don’t tell that to her face. But being 18 years old and to fall into debts its a no no from me and we as parents we need to give our children a start in life being small or big depending on possibilities. Our parenthood does not end when children turn 18. You need to be there for them when they need you most.
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No cuas he can get a cheap cell phone and pay when he can and his car insurance should be paid by him if the cars in his name
Yes, you can pay for what you think is best. My dad still pays for my phone and I’m 30. I’m very lucky for that. My grandfather also payed my car insurance until I was around 23. I’m not saying you have to or that you have to pay for both, but maybe talk to him about his finances and if he needs help then decide what you are comfortable helping with. A lot of kids think they are an adult magically at 18 but they are not and they still need you even if they fight it lol
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Not in my opinion
Send the bills to his house or take him off the insurance with a 30 day notice it is going to happen
This is just my opinion
NO
He made the big boy move now time to stand on his own big boy feet
I’d suggest what my parents did for me, when I moved out at 19. I paid them usually between 25-50% of what was owed on my bills that they still helped with. We did that until just before my 21st birthday. Car insurance and health insurance. Since I VOLUNTARILY left their house, there was no reason for them to keep up with it if they really didn’t want to. I was raised with the tools I needed to go out and do this myself but they still help guide me in the right direction. They won’t budget for me or just hand out cash, but they will sit down with me and show how to best get it done.
I paid my daughter car insurance and cell phone till she graduated from college… it was the least I could do.
From a child’s perspective (not child as in infant but child of a parent) I agree that if he’s made the decision to move out on his own then he should be responsible for his own expenses. However when I moved out of home at 20 and in with my then partner, I’d been out of home not even 2 months when I lost my job, I had minimal savings, it took 9 weeks to be approved for Job Seeker & even then I got fuck all because I was under 22 and not classed as an independent so it went off my parents earnings and my partner was an alcoholic and drug addict so his money went on those things. It was extremely stressful and hard and though it was hard to admit I needed help my parents helped me with my share of rent, my phone bill and my car insurance. What savings I had went to fuel and groceries and when I did get approved for job seeker that payment went to those things as well. My parents helped me with these things for almost 4months until I finally gained a full time job. I think the best way for you to make a decision is to talk with your son about what he has in place for his moving out/ what he thinks he can and cannot afford and organise something depending on that.
Nope cut him off. He’s an adult now he has to learn responsibility.
Prayers that a strong man can stay in the home and lead the family and especially his wife and love her like Christ loved the church! Ephesians 5.
My mom quit paying my stuff when I did the exact same thinf
No my parents don’t pay my bills and as a adult I think we need to learn responsibility and if we have people paying for all our stuff how are we supposed to learn basic living.
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Yes,you help your son with what he needs,who cares that he left,its hard these days thats when he will need help the most my husband’s mom helps us with our bills because he works full time and im pregant and doesn’t want me working an he makes 20$ a hour and his mom still helps us. Just because he moved out doesn’t mean to quit helping him. My mom would NEVER do that to us and neither would my husbands mom.
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He’ll no let him grown up
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Nope! Just like if I moved home I would pay rent. If I want to be a adult then I have to act as a adult.
I paid my own way the moment I moved out on my own.
Nope. He that grown let him be grown
I wouldn’t pay them for more the 60 days he moved out he needs to be an adult… If by chance I did help him I would put food in his house and tell him ya have 60 days then ur on ur own to pay ur bills… They wanna leave the nest early to see if they can fly so let them fly
Not at all. If he wants to play adult let him play the full game 
He moved out. He wants to be independent. So give that to him by handing over his Bill’s. 
Nope. He’s an adult not living under your roof. They are his Bill’s now
At the age of 18 he us old enough to pay his own bills regardless of if he lives at home still or on his own.
My mom makes me go on her plan bc it’s cheaper and I’m 23 w two kids so 
really up to you. My mom helps me out alot and most the time I don’t ask for it either it’s just showing your love it’s just something she does out of the good of her heart. And we had a terrible relationship in the same house
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Definitely not, actions and consequences, clearly he needs to learn this
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I’m 40 yrs old and hate to say it but my parents still pay my insurance on their policy! My son is 23 and I still pay his phone bill! It’s all in what you choose to do! I was raised to help your child regardless!
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Absolutely not! When he moved out he was telling you he’s an adult and ready to take responsibility for himself! Grown ups pay their own bills. I would however give him notice. Pay them one last time and let him no the next payment is his responsibility.
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It depends
Is he responsible and work as hard as he can to support his self and trying very hard to get to the point where he is financially stable?
Or is he ungrateful and thinks this is something you owe him and will always do?
If he is working hard and thankful for the help then yes if you can afford it!!
If he is ungrateful then no
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Does he need the car to get to work to pay for his bills? Maybe start with him taking over the phone bill and tell him the car insurance is next on such and such a date. He will need to learn to save and prioritize like an adult.
Absolutely not! After I moved out, (and I was that age) my parents were not paying any of my bills. Don’t get me wrong if I had of gotten sick and I need medication and i couldn’t afford it I know they would have helped if I had of asked. But for everyday bills no. That was on me. If I couldn’t afford it I didn’t get it.
It was his choice, with is more then fine, but being an adult means owning ALL of the responsibilities that come with adulting.
When my daughter moved into her first apt at 20 I paid her phone bill , bought her food and essentials for 3 months. That gave her time to get on her feet and get on a budget. That’s was 2 years ago. Still today I ask her everyday if she has all she needs. That’s my baby and it’s my job to make sure she has everything in life to sustain. She has not needed anything at all past the first 3 months though.
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Want to drive a car? Pay your own insurance. Can’t afford it? Public transport 
Same as phone. Can’t afford the bill? Go prepaid
I moved out of home just after I turned 16, and as much as my mum said she would be there to help - I didn’t feel right asking her.
At the end of the day, you’re son took it upon himself to move out - so he should have been prepared to not continue to have certain things covered by you.
If he wants to be an adult, he needs to learn to manage his finances in order to pay for his own things.
Else you’ll just have a son whose 30 or 40 and still looking at mum for handouts when he’s “struggling”.
I get it that some struggle more than others but making that sort of decision for yourself, you should be prepared beforehand…
I love my 2 boys to bits… I’ve told them that I’ll always be there for them when they need me.
But if they asked me to cover their car insurance and cell phone bill… I would go out and do some food shopping for them and be like “There you go, now you have the money to pay your bills.” 
I would say if he only starting out help him, give him a chance to find his feet. But tell him it’s only short term And that’s if he is making an effort to work and pay other bills
My ex-boyfriends dad still pays for my phone, I’m on their family plan. I’ve told him I don’t mind paying it myself, even offer him money and he doesnt want it. I think its cause I have his grandkids. I don’t know where I was going with this. Give him a notice you’re done paying for it
He was living at home and you still paid everything?? My parents made us pay all of our bills when we lived at home as soon as we got a job. Of course they paid mortgage, water, electric, etc. But my car and my phone, all my stuff was my responsibility. I’m thankful they did that bc now I’m completely independent. I mean they’ll help if I happened to need it. I think you’ve been more than fair by paying it this far. I would tell him that he’s gonna have to take over it since he decided to move out.
Car in ur name - pay the insurance. Pay the cell phone bill so he can keep in touch with u. If he doesn’t give it a few months and cancel it! Tough love is called for here. He wants to be an adult it’s time to realize what that entails.
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Car insurance is to $$$ make him pay for that. As for the phone. I wouldnt be paying for unlimited everything. If he wants more than bare minimum, he can find a way.
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Being an adult is hard, especially at 18 thinking we know it ALL. It as probably a rash decision. Cell phones and cars really help when you’re trying to find a job. You’re not paying his utilities rent and groceries anymore on top of the insurance and phone, if you can afford it I would continue to cover it. No, you don’t have to, he’s an adult. But you could still help your little bird out of the nest, and support him in this way but only for a time. I’d give him six months.
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No. He won’t learn anything
Are they in your name, if not,no way.He moved out he thinks,he can do it all,let him.Would he pay your bills,I think not.
Um, no. He moved out, he took on the responsibility of adulthood. It’s not up to you anymore, he needs to learn how to take care of himself. Just my opinion.
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No let him stand on his own 2 feet he left so let him pay for himself
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My ex husbands mom or grandma paid for his phone for years when he moved out at 13. (They wanted to make sure he was OK. They stopped shortly after 18/19 right around the time we got serious)…
Absolutely NOT ! he wants to be grown… let him grow !
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I personally would continue. I didn’t have help when I moved out and it was hard. I will continue to help my kids no matter what house they live in. If they need the help I will be there. But you stated you didn’t have a great relationship with your son. Did he move out to get away from you, school to be with a girlfriend friend. If he is not trying to remove him self from your life just get on his own feet then I would continue. He is 18 an age when he can start to try to start an adult life but may still need your help. I struggled for many many years and now 10 years later I have a good life. But it was not always this way.
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My parents made me pay this kind of stuff as soon as I got a job. He needs to do the same.
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I have a family plan with 3 of my kids 2 live with me one lives with his mom he is 18 and until he wants off my plan I’ll pay same with my other 2 kids
Once the kid turns 18 and moves out, you shouldn’t be paying anything for them. If they’re grown enough to move out, they need to make sure they’re grown enough to take care of themselves before that move. It’s one thing to help them out, but you should only be helping them if they’re helping themselves. My daughters are 17, they have held the same job since they were 14. When they started working, I started making them pay their own cell phone bills and when they started driving, they pay (part) of their car insurance. I’ve also had them start buying their own shampoo and toilet paper. Simple things like that to try to teach them responsibility. If he was so set on running out the door the minute he turned 18, then he should have no problem paying his own bills.
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Nope😂
If he wants to be little mr independent, let him be. He’ll come back soon.
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Unless university is in the picture then nope nope nope
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You are stupid if you continue
Nope … i would tell him he has 2 months to find his own coverage or he will no longer covered… its called tough love and his a big boy now since he moved time to show him what grown ups do… same with his phone if your paying for that
He wants to be grown, so treat him like it. Let him pay his own bills
Pay the car insurance. Stop paying his phone bill
This makes me want to hear his side of the story… why you guys “never really got along”. Are you his mom? Dad? Step parent?? Adoptive parent?? Aunt that took him in when he was a kid?
Do you want to take these things away to hurt him and sabotage him? Leaving him in a dangerous situation?
Best believe ill be helping my child even after hes left the nest.
And teens usually just to leave the nest ASAP when the parents are strict controlling gaslighting narcissistic assholes.
Does he have a job? Was he TAUGHT how to handle things as an adult and pay bills and work to take care of responsibilities?? Or are you just hoping he’ll come crying begging to come home??
There’s more to this and i think a lot of the parents commenting would take everything away from their kid just to be petty and hurt them
Nope. He wanted to move out he can pay his bills. I moved out before graduating and immediately started paying my own bills I needed too.
I would. You don’t want him to fail at his first try of independence even if it came at a time you didn’t dictate. If you can afford it then pay it until he can.
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Hello no we don’t owe our kids love them yes think if the shoe was on the other foot would he pay your bills never
No !! My son just left and I’m telling you this. Your child needs to learn responsibility. Let him make his own way. Gotta show them the “Tough Love” approach.
One day he will grow up and realize your his mom, one day he will have grand babies you will want to spoil. Maybe one day you two can have a better relationship but if you completely cut him off when he’s trying to start his life he will probably never forgive you or just cause more of a distance between you for a longer period of time.
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Yeah
He will figure it out
Why watch a child struggle… When you can help?
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First of all he will be back
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Moving out means you are now financially responsible for your own bills.
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No. I was paying my cell phone and insurance myself since day 1. People coddle their adult children for too long that they don’t learn to fend fir themselves and live within their own means.
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If he is trying to help himself, then help him out if you can afford to. But if he’s screwing around and not acting right… I wouldn’t.
My mom never paid my car insurance and my cell
Phone was my responsibility since I was working at 16 they took it as contributing to the household and being responsible 
If you wanted to and are able to you could always ask him to pay for them and save the money he gives you for him for something that may happen down the line. I seen a few parents do that and it was always so nice to hear.
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My parents never paid mine, however in my opinion if he can move out he can pay his own Bill’s
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If he’d been paying for those things all along (since getting his permit, since getting a car, since getting a phone, since getting a job) maybe he wouldn’t have been so quick to jump ship at 18? Now that you’re there though, I personally wouldn’t cut him off hard and fast. Give him three months to get a place, get settled and get a handle on other bills/expenses, then turn the last two over to him.
On the whole, though, there’s still a lot of variables that may change my view. For example, if he’s got a fairly good paying job, but you know he’s always splurging on non-necesities and then barely having enough to get through the month, that’s different than if he’s had a job since he was 14, and saved every spare penny and bought that car himself. His financial history is very relevant here. Also, how likely do you currently think he is to “succeed” at this? And if he does not, will he be allowed back in your home? Or “no, tough luck, suck it up”? If he’s made (for the most part) wise financial choices up til now, carrying those bills for him may help him on this road. If he hasn’t, carrying them could ease the speed at which he crashes and fails, perhaps long enough for him to self-correct. If he has everything dumped on him at once, and he’s back in your house in 3 months, is that okay? Is that worse?
There are a lot of unknowns here that really only you can work through.
Also you guys should sit down and talk financial stuff through together. Thats part of your responsibility as a parent. Does he know how many bills you pay on his behalf, aside from just rent/mortgage? Sit together, tally that up, let him see the monthly expense of that. Does he have an apartment lined up? Whats that cost? Whats he making? Go over those things with him. Does he have a feel for weekly grocery costs? Laundromat services? (Most cheap apartments don’t have washers)
Or is he “crashing at his buddy’s place” and will “start looking for a job soon”? Who bought his car? Is it paid off? And if he i
Summary, I’m on team “he should be paying those, but it would be kind to ease him into it.”
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Absolutely…not!!! That is the problem with young adults Mommy and Daddy always paying their bills and bailing them out!!
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Nope…he says he is grown therefore he needs to act grown and pay his own bills.
Really? He moved out. Let him be a big person
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Entirely up to you. Nothing wrong with making your child’s life easier, and nothing wrong with trying to teach them how to adult.
If it were me I’d help out. I love my son and if he needed the help I’d help him.
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No he made a choice now ge has to be an adult i took care of my oldest son reluctantly until he was 22 i learned my lesson i put him out after 2 month’s notice he mow is married with a son and a beautiful life and we are very close he just needed to be pushed i have 6 kids and 2 have been oyt since 18 and they never ask for anything
NO! And when he tries to move back in, the two of you have a heart to heart with each other to try and figure out why your relationship is not what it could be. You can’t be a revolving bank or home for someone not willing to work honestly on a relationship.
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I have never paid my kids car insurance, they saved and bought their first cars and have always been required to pay their own insurance if they wanted to drive, once my kids moved out they had to get their own cell phone plans
Nope. No bills at all. Not even cell phone or car insurance. There is no better way to learn to face the real adult life.
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When you decide to move you are saying I am going to take care of myself,kids respect their parents adults move and can do what they want to do ,no more bill paying, don’t feel guilty.
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Yes go ahead cover his bills if you want a entitled spoiled brat
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Give him a time limit of when he can take I’ve his own finances. I say a yr that’s plenty of time…
Since you have such a strained relationship, I wouldn’t cold turkey. But maybe ween him. Make him start paying you a little to reimburse. Give him copies of his bills so he doesn’t think he’s being taken. Don’t ever require any more than what is actually due or this will strain you even further. In the future, don’t lend money to your kids. Buy them what they need, don’t expect in return. Loaning money strains relationships. Don’t loan out cars, lawnmowers, chainsaws or other expensive equipment, but offer your services with those things for no fee sparingly. You should be extra careful to do right by him. Good luck and I hope he can see your side.
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I say no, when our oldest decided to move out we gave them a 2 month notice to pay their own. The only thing we still pay is their health insurance but that’s for obvious reasons. They pay their own copays though.
Nope. He’s grown enough to move out, he’s grown enough to pay his own bills…
I’m 22 now and have been on my own since 18. From personal experience with my parents and I, I’m still on their phone bill and just recently bought my own car insurance. With that being said, my dad and I have an agreement that I pay these bills, which was fairly easy. At the beginning of every month, I’d transfer him the money.
Sometimes, it is cheaper to bundle and carry more phone lines/cars on your plan.
Just because he moved out at a young age doesn’t mean he’s got it all figured out. Maybe sit him down and make sure he’s aware of the extra funds that adults have to pay and go from there.
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Absolutely not!!! Thats ridiculous!
Depends. Is he working? Is he going to school? Is he trying to save to buy a house? What’s the circumstance. I moved out at 18 and got a degree. My parents were old school and had rules I didn’t like. We clashed a lot. As an adult I can say I was rebellious. But my parents supported me financially through it. We have a great relationship now.
As a person who is moving out because of a very strained and toxic relationship with my mother, I am dropping her completely and taking my name off of everything involving her. If u have any sliver of hope at getting ur son to stay in touch, don’t cut him off completely right away. It will make it worse. Instead try to talk to him. Tell him what you will pay and what he needs to pay or help with and whatnot. My mother ruined all chances with me so if u have a sliver of hope, don’t ruin it.
I’m sure that he is expecting that you will still help with those expenses. It is expensive to move out so I would have a conversation about it before just stopping the assistance. Maybe limit to 3 more month & give him time to settle in & adjust.
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