No he is using your child against you trying to blame you for his lazy but not trying to pay you to help raise your child
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Do not drop the case!!! He’s never supported her and he never will. He’s asking you for that to be okay and it’s not.
Do not drop it. You will regret it, also some states require you to have an ors case open if you get help from the state.
No don’t drop the case he should pay for his child’s needs and it is not up to his parents a to pay a dime he is the father and he should own up to it
Don’t drop the child support it’s about your child, yes his parents need to step back and let him grow up. Sounds like you have good ex inlaw’s and they love their grandchild stay strong
This isn’t about you or him, it’s about taking care of the child, he needs to do that
Absolutly NO do not drop it he needs to grow up and step up it’s awesome that his family are there to help but it’s time he did something 
No she is ten years old and he needs to take care of her. His actions has consequences
NOPE!!! It’s not your money that he’s not paying it’s HERS!!! She is entitled to support from both parents. The fact that he’s suffering as a result of his choices is his fault not hers!! The fact that his parents have stepped up does not negate his obligations to her. Maybe going to jail will help him hit rock bottom and get his life turned around but that’s up to him not you. If he really wanted a job he could get one CS or no!
Do Not give into him make him responsible tell him to grow up and get a job and if he goes to jail to bad the father of my granddaughter is a jerk she’s does not want to nor does she see him he has never paid a doctor bill in 14 years and when he got the stimulus check it was his year to claim her he didn’t even give my daughter half it would interfere with his alcohol stay strong for your child leave him in the gutter
I’ve been divorced and paid my child support because I love my children, did I get behind yes and it was hard but I paid just the same and no one can ever tell me different, if you drop it now it will just continue, make it to where he either gets clean and gets a job or he suffers the pain. Don’t give in to his manipulative attitude.
No, he needs to learn there are consequences for your actions or non-actions.
How is he getting a stimulus check if he hasn’t worked in years
DO NOT DROP THAT CASE!! He was “man” enough to have the fun that created her so he can be “man” enough to step up and take care of his responsibility. You did not make that baby alone nor did you make that baby with his parents. He can deal with it!! CS isn’t the reason he can’t quit the drugs or get a job. He’s just plain lazy!!
Don’t do it why so he can buy drugs with the stimulus check its not like he is gonna give any to you for your daughter if he hasn’t done anything for her he is not going to start bc of some extra money he gets 
good luck with that …
Do not drop case, my daughter went through same stuff. Granddaughter is 20, he still owes so much back child support, it will never be paid.
Do not stop the child support case. You would just be enabling him like his parents are. The only way for him to get better is to hit rock bottom. Why should he get better or grow up if someone is always throwing him a lifesaver. If he isn’t working then he has time for serious rehab or to jail and that is where he belongs. If his parents love him they would evict him and cut off the money train. So no, don’t stop the CS process.
My dad did the same thing to my mom but my grandparents always were there to help my mom ask yourself who are you really hurting by making him pay child support him or his parents whom it sounds like they are doing the right thing as your daughter grows up she will know who was there for her I don’t have anything to do with my father he was a sperm donor but I love my grandparents ask him to give up his rights for your daughter because from what I understand he is not doing anything for her now and all thats going to happen is that he will go to jail and his parents will be the ones having to get him out and help him try to catch up he doesn’t deserve your daughter and one day he will regret not having anything to do with her my dad is a lonely old man I know who loved me and I don’t want anything to do with him just remember karma always makes its way around (just coming from someone that’s been there) but you should pray on it and you do what is best for your child
Find a rehab program that he can’t check out of. He must complete. Once completed he must help support his child. All other answers are “no.”. If you can’t stick with it then don’t start it.
Your call but dropping it wont take it away (what is in arrears)…Also, lets be frank here. He is dependent still on his parents, and now his poor parents are paying for Your daughters everything…SO, I certainly feel sorry for his parents. His parents seem to provide a lot for your daughter but this doesnt count, because it wasnt from him??
You didn’t make the child by yourself. Think of it that way as I did 20 yrs ago. Its his responsibility as it is yours. Do what has to be done.
Do not drop. Let him be incarcerated, might help him grow up. If it doesn’t then nothing is lost he was not there for you.
I wouldn’t let him off, but you need to weigh what is more likely going to come of it. Will be spend more time with her because of money or will it not make any difference. Her happiness doesn’t have a price tag.
As a child my dad would come by in a new car once a year buy us a ice cream. Retired fro. The military 26 years bragged he never paid child support to my mom and their six kids. Do what is best for you and your kid. But for me I would say boohoo. You didn’t get your stimulus check, lost your license, may go to jail. Should of worked and paid child support. I have no sympathy.
His life choices aren’t your kids life choices. He shouldn’t get off so easy. File a restraining order for harassment if he won’t leave you alone.
Don’t if you do you’re going to regret it he’s only going to use the money for drugs let him stand up to his responsibilities and grow up as a man. please don’t do it unless you have him sign a wave that out of the 1,200 he’s going to give you at least $700 your daughter can use it if he disagrees don’t do it and make sure is notarized so he knows is serious.
No way, you’re entitled the money. Kids are expensive. Don’t cave in to him. A caring father would never ask you to do that, he’s very selfish and only thinking of himself
Stay strong girl and make him accept responsibility as a grow parent and adult!!! The free ride is over!!!
Please do not drop it. Please. Those things would not have happened unless he never did anything by way of payments. Why would you do for him what he refuses to do for his child?
No! Don’t drop it. He owes it and is in this position because of HIS choices, not yours. Especially if he is on drugs, some people need to hit rock bottom before they can look up.
The child support is for the child. He doesn’t deserve a break! Don’t be a fool!
Heck No!! He’s a dead beat!! Do NOT HELP HIM!!! It is not your Responsibility. He needs to grow up and get off his butt and take care of his daughter. But it’s obvious enough he will not. Do Not do him any favors you owe him nothing. Tell him to pack sand.
Sounds like he’s gotten away with too much already. He needs to grow up and be responsible. Don’t drop the case. Don’t feel guilty. He’s a grown up.
Sad but he wants the Check for drugs or some other dumb thing. Let the State deal with him…he is not your problem
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Why should you drop it? He owes this money to you. Time for him to take responsibility for his child. If you drop it you know he will not pay you a penny. Absolutely do not drop it. His problem and knew at some point he was going to be penalized. Too bad.
Do not drop that case. And also you mentioned he hasnt worked in years, so that means HE WOULD NOT HAVE GOTTEN A STIMULUS CHECK. IF HE DIDNT CLAIM TAXES IN 2018/2019, NO STIMULUS WAS AWARDED TO HIM. HE IS LIEING TO YOU ABOUT IT.
My dad was the same way and now he owes 100k in child support for me and my brother! because he was in and out of jail and he was a drug addict. He also lived with his parents. When he did work and they started taking from his check. He would just quit and find another job. That’s why he owes so much. He should have provided financially for us growing up.
Think of your daughter not the spoiled brat ex of your. He needs to wake up you do not need to enable his behavior. He has no intentions of going to work as long as he can live off others. NO GUILT TRIP
Care for your child the African way. In Africa women raise children leave alone one child children qon their own. And the children grow, go to school and become prominent people in society. In Africa women don’t understand child support. Pole.
The best thing you did was not have anymore children with him. He is never going to change and take responsibility for his daughter. Do what you must with him but keep your relationship with his parents, your daughter needs them in her life. Good luck.
He needs to Dad up!! Don’t let him off the hook!! He should very able to fix his own troubles!!
Do not drop the case. Do not feel bad for him!!! You said he’s a drug addict. Do you really think if he gets that stimulus check that he will do anything other than buy drugs? Come on now…
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If you are getting help from you daughters loving grandparents then drop it. You can’t make him be a daddy to her or except responsibility for his actions. He is a dead beat father.
I would drop it and encourage him to ask his parents to help him get some counseling. . . He is damaged beyond all reasonable expectations. . . He needs help . . . What blessing his parents are . . . Money isn’t the real issue here
Do not drop the case. it’s called pays to play maybe he won’t be out making more babys your daughter deserves that much from him and please Stop feeling Sorry for him. Obviously he didn’t feel sorry for U
Totally agree with Mary Jo Maher been there and done that, you will truly regret dropping the child support
My question is why are you asking for advice? You already know what to do. That $1,200.00 can be used for your daughter. You are not Responsible for his failures as a dad , you are responsible for the well beings of yourself and Your Child. If his parents are good to your daughter when you get the money buy a gift from the both of you to them. God bless everything will be ok.
No Question he had to of filed his returns for 2018 or 2019 to get his check Or is he on welfare or SSI Just why would you want to Being in jail just might be his help Drugs take money Who is paying to keep him high
Heck no don’t drop it. That would be unfair to your daughter who is entitled to support from both of her parents, not grandparents. His parents are champion enablers and as long as he has mommy and daddy supporting him he will never be a man and grow up. I know several parents just like them and wish they would realize they’re not helping their adult children at all.
Don’t feel sorry for him. Feel sorry for his child. Every time you start feeling “sorry” for him think of your daughter. I’m a grandparent to a grandson whose father’s idea of support is sending 3$ just so he can show he paid something. My grandson is 16 now and all he wants to do is ask him why and punch him in the face. I say he has done so much damage that my grandson will never get over it.
I say not, he will spend it on drugs, not his child… tell the state to give money to you, & you will drop it… have him sign statement, motorized, take to state & then drop it… yu will have money then
Don’t drop it. If you do he still will not give you a penny. If he hasn’t in all these years what can you expect!!!
I honestly would say don’t drop it. That child support can go to her. If he can’t make the payments and grow up, then that is his problem.
Don’t drop the child support case he deserves everything he gets when he don’t pay
Yes stand your ground my daughter is almost 20 & I am still owed over $20,000 in back child 
support. I am never dropping the case
Me personally u must think of ur daughter that’s his problem u didn’t make the kid alone if u stop child support he’s just gonna spend the money on drugs so it helping u child n him at the same time
He is her parent. He should have been paying support the last 10 yrs. He’s losing his stuff cause he don’t pay
No. Do not drop it. Your child is is being neglected by him, she is more precious than his petty hurt little feelings. I have been thru this exact same thing. His parents are enabling him, and you are not doing him any favors by doing the same thing.
If he was helping in anyway with his daughter maybe yes but he seems like he is finding ways to get out of not providing for her in any way.
Hell no! He wont start paying you just like he never did. Let him get a taste! I cant stand closer dads, makes my blood boil!
Absolutely not !! It would be different if he were to use some of the money for your daughter but he won’t so don’t feel sorry for him .
Why is this even being asked? Lord give me strength.
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I would as long as he is willing to sign his rights away… that would be the only way
No way. You need to ask? He should be helping from day one. Too bad if he wants stimulus check. I’m sure you need it more. What does he want it for, more drugs. I’m sorry but this is such a dumb question. Is this even a real question or like fake news?
Do not let him push you into dropping the case. It is time he stepped up and helped you.
I thought that the stimulus check could not be taken by State or Federal.
Do not drop it! He should be helping you with his daughter! Stop feeling sorry for him, and start thinking with ur head! He needs to grow up big time!
If you drop charges, you will regret it. I got child support till my child was 26. He helped make her he is half responsible. Don’t give in to his BS!!!
Drop it, it is not your responsibility to make him be a man, you can’t make him suddenly be responsible, just let him go. Have him sign over any rights he had to his child and tell him to move on.
Absolutely not it is not your fault he can’t get his head out of his ass and grow up. I’m glad his parents are there to help you and love her. But it is his responsibility not there’s
In Texas it can be taken out of a paycheck and sent to you. This BS that he won’t pay is not true. It was even taken out of my ex’s social security check.
Please don’t drop it …this is for your daughter if he had a heart he would have been paying child support a long time ago maybe just worried about how his daughter was gonna eat or live but he didnt
Don’t drop the case. This isn’t your fault. Your little girl is his, too, and he needs to be held accountable and help take care of her.
Don’t drop it. He will always owe it. That debt never goes away. He just wants money for himself and his drug problems. Nice to have his parents involved though.
This is really hard. I say don’t drop the case. At least point in his life. He is not going to change for his child. Which is should do in a heartbeat. He has to learn to get a job and try to support his beautiful daughter. We all know you are the bread winner here. She is always going to look up to you and it was her mother that did everything for her. She also needs to learn not to have a man treat her like this. I know first hand. My two children know exactly who raised and who made them who they are. I have 1 strong independent daughter that can stand on her own two feet. With a loving family. I alwao have a son that treats his wife and 2 daughter’s like gold. He is there for them in every way. So sweetie. Stay strong and pray. Thats what I did. Much Love.
We I come from if you drop the case you no longer get help from the courts or the state think about that can you afford to do that
If he gets his stimulus check back he will spend it all on drugs. I quarantine that!!!
It best to push it. His life choices are not your daughter or your responsibility. He is an adult. I would just keep the bond going with his parents. Put him on block for a little while. He trying to wear you down like he a kid begging in a store. Takes two two create a life.
Don’t do it. He’s gonna have to do something. He can get a job. He doesn’t want to work. Mother and Father need to kick him out
Will try to keep this short. My cousin filed for child support which she should have. The father demanded to have her daughter on a regular basis. He played to the hilt interrupting Christmas, Easter etc. He did everything he could to get custody of his daughter just to get back at my cousin. He had her drug tested repeatedly. Then he had the police waiting for her when she drove out of the gated community where she lived with her aunt. There was drug paraphernalia in the car and she was arrested. The father got complete custody of the daughter and she had NO VISITATION. Poor little Kate, the daughter, is the one who is paying. They spank her regularly with a belt with a buckle. When her grandmother went to the school to ask them to check for child abuse, she was banned from the school. Weigh your options carefully. It may not be worth it to rock the boat.
Hell no! He owes his daughter. Do not give In to him begging. It would be very much enabling… he’ll buy more drugs with his money either way he will get his drugs…
Don’t drop it he is trying to get out of being responsible. Hell no thats also him wanting control over you
Absolutely not! If he’s on drugs that check will just go to drugs…
Don’t drop. He’s just playing on emotions to get him what he wants. He has no plans to get on track or he would have done so already.
Don’t drop the case and if u are getting any kind of gov assistance I don’t think they will let u.also if u drop it and he gets any lump sum like from ssi u might not get the back pay.just remember the money is not yours its hers for her to live of
Do not drop the case. He is grown and needs to take care of his responsibilities
He’s had 10 years still sponging off his parents he deserves no sympathy
Don’t drop it, he needs to grow up and become a dad, his problems are his problems you didn’t create his problems dead beat dads all over the place, do not drop the case
Don’t drop the case. Maybe someday he will wake up & do what’s right.
Do not drop it why should his parents pay for him.
He definitely is not a man a man takes care of his kids
My ex didnt give me a dime. He only had to pay $30 a week and couldnt do that. God provided everything we needed. Thing is, your child can go after the money when shes older.
I wouldn’t drop it. So many men get out of the full responsibilities of having a kid. If they don’t want to be around that is fine but still support your kids.
Don’t drop it. He is a grown ass man with a child and refused to grow up and wants to make you feel like you owe him something. What do you think he will do with money beings he is on drugs and never helped before. EXACTLY!!! That’s a self pity game and guilt trip he is playing and by the sounds of it you should already know this. DONT DO IT
Dont drop it!!! from experience Dont!!! thats what he gets for not doing the right thing in the first place.
If he has not put forth an effort - no don’t drop the case, if he has tried and having financial difficulties then you need to investigate more
Don’t drop it your kids need that money so they can have clothes food and a roof over their head it’s his fault for not keeping up with his child support don’t cave-in
You’re daughter needs that money more than his drug addiction. Don’t drop the case
No. Because he didnt pay before. If he would have tried harder in the past, maybe.
Don’t drop case, he needs to learn to be an adult
Don’t do it. If he were paying child support regularly he wouldn’t have trouble from the state.