Lmfao nope. Those are all his problems not yours.
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Ummm if there is an order in place and hes behind they will not let you just drop it…atleast where I am…
And imo if you drop it that’s letting him off the hook and it could also be interpreted to his parents as you dont need money…so you lose that help
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Uh no don’t fall for that crap
No do not drop it. He is being selfish. The child he helped make needs that money. He needs to provide for her not his parents. I can’t stand men like this. Oh well if he needs money he needs a job. Your daughter needs that money more then him.
What a con artist dont do it he sounds like a dead beat dad that hasn’t grown up
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Heck he might go to jail for non payment which might help him get clean since he will be detoxing
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Don’t drop it. Hes a bum
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Do not drop it. This is money that belongs to your daughter. Imagine him having another kid and supporting that one. What about yours? My nephews dad took my sister to court regarding Child support. There was two boxes he could have checked 1. Child support re eval 2. More visitation. This fu**er only chose lower child support. They don’t care, only when it hurts their pockets.
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Do not drop the case. He needs to suffer the consequences of not working as many jobs as it takes to provide for his child. There is no excuse sting enough other than maybe him being terminally ill that should keep him from stepping up and providing for his child! If you drop it you will lose your chance of ever getting anything from him. You and your daughter deserve that money. Even after she turns 18, if he finally gets his shit together you could take him to court for a lump sum judgement to pay back what you provided for her for her entire life,
Let him go to jail. Maybe he will get off drugs and then get his life together
Doubtful the court will let you drop it. Not your right. He is legally obligated to support your daughter. It is support for her not you.
Have no pity for a man that has never helped pay for his own child. But expects his parents to. Don’t drop nothing.
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I wouldn’t he needs to grow and take care of his responsibilities. Your already raising your guy’s child on your own dont let him off any easier than that
Fuck that… don’t be no dummy
No don’t drop it. I am 34 and I got all my back child support from age 29 to 33. It was nice, he finally had to pay. Don’t let him off the hook!
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Hell no, dont drop the case. He has children in the world that he’s doing NOTHING for. Boo hoo for him losing his stimulus.
He got himself into that mess by being a dead beat.
I wouldn’t change a thing if it were me.
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Part of you feels bad. Humm. Let me ask you this…Did he feel bad when you couldn’t afford for your daughter to do cheerleading? He’s given you the rules. Now use them. If he doesn’t feel bad then you don’t feel bad.
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I would have laughed in his face. You can NOT skirt responsibly and expect any sympathy from me.
I’m sorry, if he can afford drugs he can afford child support…
Nope!!!
Don’t drop it!
If you drop it, you’re encouraging the behavior.
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Screw him, his dumb problems are not yours, do not drop that case or like u said you are enabling him, he needs to be grown
I wouldnt drop it but what he said is true happend to my husbands friend every money he got went to child support and when he got his check they took it as long as he is behind or has other costs they will take it
So maybe have a honest conversation with his parents . Do your best to not bash him . I 100 understand it’s his responsibility but clearly his parents are ok just taking on his responsibility as you stated they have . Then do what you feel best after that . Then you will not be jeopardizing the relationship you have with them or your daughters .
Don’t drop the case. Get a restraining order on him. Change your phone number, and only provide your email address were he can contact you. If any threats are made at least you’ll have it via email. That’s what I do. I been supporting my kids on everything, he only pays $507 a month for both my kids. His rent is $600 a month he gets $20/HR and does side jobs and still can’t keep up. I pay over $1200 in rent, child care, all my bills and still was able to take them on random road trips to the beach, out of state, theme parks, and made it happen for them. No excuses. I put myself through college for my kids. Give the kids the life a kid should be able to experience. Don’t struggle because he doesn’t want to struggle. It’s about your kids not him…
He needs to get his shit together. You keep your kids standards up there. Let your kids know that you will not settle for less for them that way they know if they should have to go through this they shouldn’t settle for less.
Don’t drop it. You’re encouraging his behavior, maybe jail will do him some good. The whole CS excuse for not being able to get a job is bullshit.
They’d still take his check for back child support 
don’t drop it. He’s using it as an excuse to not actually get a job! Keep on it momma! It took both of you to make your child so he has a responsibility to help in some way!
Girl I’m going to say drop it. ONLY because you’ve never needed him and he damn sure isn’t going to step up after ten years. Should he help? Fuck yea. Should he be a better father? Of course, but he isn’t and that’s not going to change. I would ask for him to sign his rights over as collateral for you dropping it.
As she gets older her needs are only going to grow. It should not be solely your responsibility to pay for everything. Once she goes to high school and she wants to join more clubs and go to homecomings and proms and all those extra costs, it’s only going to be harder. Let him rock bottom and have his ass go to jail. Maybe then he will get his shit together. You’re only responsible for your daughter, not him. He’s grown.
I wouldnt drop it it is his fault the check was taken and they will not reimburse him the check so that guilt trip is a lie dont do it
if you drop it you continue to teach him that it’s ok to run away from his problems and not deal with any consequences. sounds like it’s time for him to grow up. wants you to drop the case all because of a one time stimulus check? that’s ridiculous. he needs to buck up, get a job, and pay for the kid he helped create.
Please go through with this
Nope … do not do it … get that child’s money he owes them …
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He is her father, therefore, you are owed the child support from him especially if it is his family who usually pays , not him.
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First, get out of your “FEELINGS and into your HEAD”, Secondly, you told us of the things he ain’t doing for your daughter. Give one reason why he deserves anything from you. And…yes his Mom and Dad are doing the most. That just proves to you that they are great grandparents💯.You are blessed in that regard. So this is what I suggest: Do him, you, and his parents a favor and let him take responsibility for his immaturity. He might just GROW-UP if it ain’t nobody there to bail him out of his “SHYT”. This way everybody wins. This is the reality of it. I’m just saying. Good luck to you and your princess.
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Nope! Don’t drop it. You helped make the baby you can help pay for the baby
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How about drop it after you get his stimulus check. You did say he hasn’t worked and hasn’t supported your daughter, his simulation check goes to you doesn’t it? It’s probably the only time you would get any type of child support from him. What’s the point of keeping him on child support if you don’t even get anything from him? A driver’s license is something important to have if you need or have a job. I mean if you’re able to wait it out until some more for him to get a job and they take it out of his checks. Either way he would still have to pay alot to get his license back especially if he owes back child support. If he doesn’t get the money for that then I’m sure you’ll still be in the same situation as you are now.
No!!! He needs to take responsibility for the children he help create!!
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Don’t drop your case. It is not your fault he has not been a responsible parents. The fact that he is not getting his stimulus check & he lost his license have nothing to do with you. You make bad choice you suffer the consequences.
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I wouldn’t because he wants out and not wanting to take care of his responsibility as to the license he can go get a I.D. to get a job. So do drop it.
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Absolutely not… who cares he didn’t get the money he should help with his child period. His problem. Stand strong
DO NOT DROP THE CASE!!! Your daughter needs to be taken care of.
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If you want him to continue doing drugs and being a slum his entire life, then sure take it off. Lol as far as getting a job he can MOST CERTAINTLY GET A JOB do you know how many people are on child support that work ?! He just wants to be lazy and not pay. His parents aren’t gonna be around forever and you’ll regret dropping it once they are gone!
I wouldn’t do shit for him!
No way should you drop it
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I would not drop the case
Do not drop it. He’s in his 30’s sponging off his parents. Time for him to grow up!
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NO! DO NOT LET HIM 9FF THE HOOK!!! My ex told me he was in a financial mess, and could I please lower the child support to help him get back on his feet. So being an idiot believing he WOULD go back to the higher amount I asked for when he could. Yeah well, HE NEVER GOT BACK ON HIS FEET…ONLY PAID THE LOWER AMOUNT AND NOT A NICKLE MORE!! DO NOT LET YOUR EX OFF THE HOOK!!!
My theory is if he’s not participating in their life and if he’s out physically and financially. Their loss. He’ll regret it when she’s older. Cut the support and cut him out. She can decide if she wants anything to do with him when she’s older.
That’s a trick. Been there done that.
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Screw him, what a loser. He needs to get his shit together, grow up and become an adult. That includes taking care of your child. I have NO sympathy for him. I went through it for years, i finally started getting CS about a year ago on the regular. Stick to your guns.
If he hasn’t already been told if he’s owns anything back they still take the stimulus. He won’t get it regardless don’t drop it u didn’t create that kid by your self.
Nope don’t drop it. He’s playing you. And that’s not how the stimulus check works not how child support works… Also him owing child support will not hinder him from getting a job
Do not drop it! Your child deserves it and more.
Nope definitely not. He can suck it up… My daughter is 21 and we both still get shit blamed on us, well me mainly because of collecting child support… The donor has a whinge to her almost daily about it. Like dude that finished 3 years ago get over it… Lol
No dont drop. He needs to learn that actions have consequences. He was probably warned that ignoring child support payments would generate the results that they have. He’s looking for an easy way out.
NO!! Plain and simple NO… it doesn’t matter what his parents do. He’s not even responsible for himself. He shouldn’t get a free ride when he does drugs and all the wrong things. I have a baby daddy just like that except I don’t take help from his parents. Thankfully I have a husband who’s raised them as his for 11 years now. Not saying anything about you getting help from his parents. You need help it’s not cheap raising kids. He made a kid and if he can’t try to do the right thing then he can deal with the consequences! If he wasn’t on drugs and trying that would be a different story but he wouldn’t be in this situation if he was trying. Sorry not sorry!!
Why make his life easier if he hasn’t cared bout urs or ur daughter??
You answered your own question.
Do not drop the case. If he wants out of responsibility of this child then he needs to relinquish his parental rights fully. Period.
No. Don’t do it! If you drop a case it can make it harder to reopen later on down the road if you change your mind. If he’s in her life he should be supporting g her No matter what. His choices led him to have his stimulus send to arbitration for his arrears and same goes for his license. Third your ground momma
Don’t drop it . He needs to take responsibility .
Do not stop, you did not get pregnant by yourself. He deserves to have to pay.
My ex lost his license and was 6000 plus dollars on back child support. He managed to get a job called and the reinstated his license he did turn himself in because there was a warrant for his arrest he spent a weekend and went to work the following Monday… he is still far behind on back child support and I didn’t not receive his stimulus check because he hasn’t filed taxes in probably 3 years. I would never drop my case. Yes there were times I felt bad but I also didn’t make this child myself. I don’t want his whole paycheck and I told domestics that from the start I just want a little bit of help.
Don’t drop the case. He needs to be responsible too.
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If he needs $. That bad he can get a job … Or 2 he wants that 1200$ for himself not to help his child … he should see it’s for her . Leave him alone. You can’t help someone who refuses to help them selves
Dunno what state u are in but in Indiana once a ch support case is in file…the only way he can have the case "dropped is to sign away his parental rights. But that will only stop support accumulation…it won’t erase back suooort
Child support would not tell him if the case is dropped he will get his check because if he owes you back pay it will be taken from his check.
Also there is nothing you can do to drop the case unless hes nit the bio father he will still have to pay child support even.
Any job he gets the amount will be deducted from his checks…
Also if you get any type of state benefits he has to pay that amount back to the state.
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I drop it and walk away. Who the fuck needs him anyways.
Yes dont do it. Call the Office of child support & they’ll tell you no stimulus check for him. But thats your decision. Dont do it. All your doing it giving him a free ride to a coward of a dad. Wait his not even a dad that he cant provide. Go to do cannery work. Go work n fast food. Do something. Coward. Bless his parents that they are providing. No dont do it t. Cause he just wants ppl to feel sorry for him. But w hen your daughter eyes his everything. No ppl parents choice to help you out. I wish thatl happen to me. But thats fine i did it myself. I raised 2 beautiful girls. They r now supporting themselves. And helping me out when i need it.
I wouldnt drop it. He needs to grow up and take care of his responsibilities!! He can get a job!!! That’s just bs. How does everyone else pay child support?! Ummm…With a job! I wouldnt fall into his bs.
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Nope. Keep him on it.
Please do not drop the child support!!!
Don’t drop the case with CS.
That’s his fault, if he wasn’t in arrears he won’t have these problems.
Don’t let him off the hook. He needs to step up and financially support his child.
Sounds like he just wants an easy out. I wouldn’t feel the least bit sorry for him.
He’s financially responsible until your child is 18. Maybe he needs to learn the consequences of his actions.
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Hes never going to get it back. They would never say that. Why would you ever drop the case ? Also if u get any type of state aid, medicaid you can not drop a child support case.
No he is manipulating you to better himself they only took his stimulus check because he was back on support this will only help him and screw you over don’t do it.
Do not drop the case. Your daughter is his responsibility too. I tried to do everything on my own as a single mom. Now after the kids are grown I have very little left for me in my old age. But I would do it all again for my kids. I’m a stronger person because of it. Don’t do as I do do as I say. From experience. Good luck and God bless you
Don’t drop the case. Your child is more important than he is. Period.
No. He created that child too.
Ahhh boohoo… No do not drop child support
Absolutely not. You really aren’t doing him any favors. And you would be denying your daughter the right to be supported by two parents
It’s not your fault he can’t get his act together. He needs to man up!! His stimulus is already gone dear… he won’t get that back. The state will forward whatever they can of it to you. Short answer!! No!!
Nope fuck him, he needs to help with the child too.
If you were having a rough moment in life you’d still have to take care of your daughter.
His issues aren’t yours and his issues don’t trump being a responsible parent.
Heck no that’s his fault for never paying a dime for his child I guess you should have been paying monthly and then he would have had his stimulants check
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I wouldn’t drop it. But that’s just me. You didn’t make her by yourself. You deserve some kind of help. And his parents shouldn’t have to do it for him. Not saying you are making them. I’m glad she has grandparents that love her💗 but as for him… maybe jail is what he needs.
If he is on drugs he shouldn’t be in her life. Period. If his parents can’t respect that then they shouldn’t either. Who’s to say your daughter isn’t going to get a little older and want to try things she sees or knows her daddy does? As of right now there seems to be zero consequences for his actions. My daughter’s dad isn’t in her life because he was a horrible person and was (or is Idk i haven’t seen him in over a year and a half.) An alcoholic and addicted to inhaling propane. His parents didn’t agree with my choice to keep her away from him so they’re also not in her life. Its their choice. Yeah it sucks and it isn’t always easy but I make it work without a dime from any of them.
I say drop the CS and him out of your lives completely until he’s clean and sober.
Nope. If he can figure his drugs out, then let him figure out what he needs to do to be a decent dad.
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Dont drop the case he’s full if crap child support will NEVER return any funds even if it was taken by mistake.
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DON’T do it. Eventually he’ll need to grow up. When my daughter was little I did talk to CS and have them stop garnishing his pay but that was because he worked for a small employer who didn’t want the paperwork. He did pay me though so it was ok. I got his tax return more than once, but oh well-too bad.
Youre an idiot for even considering showing him any compassion or thinking about helping him out. He doesn’t do anything for his own child, why would you waste 2 seconds questioning whether you should help him out. Your job is to look out for you daughter, you have to do double duty on that because he isn’t going to. You should be asking yourself what is best for this child, not whats best for him. Ive never heard of child support preventing anyone from getting a job. Why does he need a stimulus check, thats your daughters money, not his. He would just spend it on drugs anyway.
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Don’t drop it. My ex cabt use his passport… drivers license is suspended. Income tax comes to me. He’s given me 2000 out of 11000. Never drop the case. Tell him to man up and get a job
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Drop it. The grandparents sound great. As a gesture of good will.
My opinion cuase iseen woman like this. As long as you and him can come to agreement about the money for kids cuase isawvyo many woman to depend on her ex cheaks and then they be having btheir boyfriend’s live with them then used their ex money not fair for no one
Oh, definitely not! How dare he even ask you?! His inability to get his shit together is neither your fault nor your problem. Tell him if he wants to have money he should grow the fuck up and get a job like a normal person.
Don’t do it! Plus, the fact he has his parents take care of the child/HIS OWN responsibility is pretty pathetic. He needs to man TF UP!
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Naaaaa as long as he starts making payments he should beable to get his license and income back my dad went thru the same thing made a couple of payments and they were off his back 
but you’re choice
Hell nah. I wouldn’t feel bad at all. That’s money that he should have been paying to help you support his child. I would pity him.
No absolutely not. Your child deserves that support. If nothing else take that money and put it into a college fund for your child. I have alot more to say DM me if you would like to know more.
Dont drop it he is a DEAD BEAT…JUST LIKE MY GRANDKIDS DAD…LET HIM SUFFER…NO LICENCES NO MONEY NO NOTHING LET HIM SUFFERAND PULL HIS HEAD OUT IF HIS ASS
Do not drop the case. It is his own fault he has not paid child support
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No no no! Don’t do it!