As a mother of 1 AND a Step-parent of 8 and a CO PARENT TO 5 OTHER WOMEN!! HEAR ME WHEN I SAY;
LEAVE HIM NOW!!!
YOU CO PARENT BEAUTIFULLY.
YOU ARE TOXIC AS FUCK TOGETHER.
LEAVE. YOU ARE TEACHING YOUR KIDS THIS BEHAVIOR IS OKAY, AND THEY WILL END UP 1. BEING TOXIC PEOPLE. AND/OR 2. BEING IN TOXIC AF RELATIONSHIPS. All of you will need therapy. Period. And that’s okay.
DO BETTER FOR YOURSELF AND THEM. YOU ALL DESERVE IT.
Are you dumb or just plain stupid
Divorce, they do not change.
Don’t expect people to change.
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He needs to go !!! Kick his ASS out !!!
Read up on narcissistic behaviour. You are being played.
I didnt even get half way through this. LEAVE HIM.
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I feel like I just read my own situation….
Fuck him, a leopard never changes his spots
Put a … and move on. Leopards don’t change their spots!
Old leopard can’t change their spots… Just walk!
Once you feel ‘done’, there isn’t much that can win you back. Know your worth!
You should of got rid of him 7 1/2 years ago 
He understands. He just… Does. Not. Care.
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Divorce his ass. 
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I would be gone and never looked back
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So you got married to him knowing he won’t shit from the start…nothings gonna change sweetie move on
Get out, get your life back to being happy again x
Girl leave him. I’m not usually one to hop on these posts and tell you to leave, but nah. He ain’t it and you know that already. He wants another mom, not a partner. Marriage is a 2 way street, not a highway and a bike path.
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You say uou have had issues in your marraige since the beginning.
You had 4 children with him. Your an idiot.
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It’s better for kids to grow up in 2 separate households where at least 1is happy than in 1 household with both parents where everyone is miserable. Kids can tell when there’s animosity in a relationship and it’s not a good environment for them to grow up in. I’d leave, if it was something new I’d say stay and work it out, but it’s been going on for 7 and 1/2 YEARS! You put up with it this long, why would he change now if he knows you’ll stay either way?
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Seriously. You are still with him? It wasn’t one day. It has been years. You have to decide you nor your children deserve this treatment. Kick him out. You have more rights than you can imagine.
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You don’t really need our input… You may not want to admit the truth but you know what you have to do, both for you and your kids… Things can, and will get better without him dragging you down and teaching the girls what to accept in a man, and teaching the boys how a real man acts…!!!
You got this…!!
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The diagnosis for him is a narcissist. I would encourage you to do some research on it. You’ll find it extremely informative, and you’ll find the encouragement you need to do what is right for you and the babies. Praying for you sweetheart!
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Narcissist to the core! Leave now! Don’t look back, it will never change!
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I lived a similar situation and got divorced. I am very happy with my boyfriend of 5yrs, but the toll it took on my daughter…if I could go back in time I would probably have stayed. You should see if he’s willing to do marriage counseling and you should try and find stuff to do together. Maybe go fishing together. If grandma is willing to watch the kids it’s ok to take her up on it. However don’t ask him to watch the kids. Inform him you are going to do so and so and that he WILL be taking care of his children. And it’s ok to occasionally have grandma watch the kids too. Its healthy for kids to have time away from their parents. Whatever you choose to do its your choice, but every choice come with a consequence. The grass is not greener on the other side. Any and all relationships are hard work and you won’t find the perfect man because people aren’t perfect. Best of luck to you.
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He understands. He just wants to keep his free live-in nanny/maid/cook/household manager. Leave. You’re basically a single parent anyway. Might as well ditch the dead weight.
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Its a pattern. He will keep doing it.
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Don’t stay in a marriage you already know doesn’t work even for your children. They see and hear everything! Don’t regret staying!
You should introduce him to my ex they sound like two peas in a pod
Divorce him your peace of mind and happiness is worth more. Than staying in a marriage where you’re not cherished and appreciate.
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Leave. He started doing the things you asked to draw you back in and to trap you back into the relationship. Once he felt like he had you he went back to he’s old ways. As for showing up to your work and everything that’s dangerous and abusive. Make sure you have everything planned out when you leave. Organise somewhere to stay, money for food ect. When you break up with him have your phone on a call to your parents or a trusting friend who can sound that alarm if he turns violent (place the phone into your pocket). Make sure the kids are also somewhere safe when you break up with him as the most dangerous time for a female and her kids is 6-12 Months after a break up. Go straight to a Police station to notify them that you have let your ex know you want a divorce. This will be noted so that if anything happens to you they know to go straight to your ex.
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He is not going to change
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Leave. It’s toxic. If your gut says something is wrong, go with it. End it. Get yourself back. Don’t look back.
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Get rid of the WEASEL leopards never change their SPOTS
My husband is super hard working but still cares if I’m sick or his children…
First thing to ask yourself is what changed or what was stopped to create the old habit again? I can see the dad point in wanting a break and sending the kids to his mom and I can see your point of not wanting to send them off and let dad handle them instead. At the end of the day both parents need a break just bc mom doesn’t won’t or feel up to taking care of the kids doesn’t mean dad does either. Not that either is right or wrong in this situation. But again at times every parent needs a break. If their one thing I’ve learnt in my life is people even children intend to act out when their not getting what they feel they deserve. Compromise is hard to do when it’s one understand all sides before jumping to conclusions.
You should leave. This isn’t going to get better. Maybe for a short period but he’s already shown you who he is. Believe him. It’s time to show him what a strong woman wants and needs and leave.
You tried to make it work and I think you know for sure now that it’s not meant for you. Choose you this time x
He’s a narcissist…he won’t ever change. But you learned to be stronger. You’ve endured enough and so has your family. Pray with your children and make/take the necessary steps to move on. You can coparent and you move on…he will too. Don’t be afraid of his anger or fall for his charm. Just move on. I am with and will keep you in prayer. God bless you all. 
I agree, I got to the pics and posts of other women and The I loves you to them: I was like GIRL dump his ass.
Walk away and never look back life is too short to be wasted on someone that is self centered and stupid. End of story.
Shoot him end of story 
