Should I end my relationship?

In the little over a year we’ve been together we’ve went through a lot. We got pregnant last year but lost our baby girl four months before she was due. We had only been together nine months at that point. Two weeks before she was born I was put on bed rest and had to leave work. When that happened I got evicted from my apartment and my son and I moved into my boyfriend’s house. Tensions were already high as we prepared the loss of our child and struggled with our relationship because of it. While our daughter was in the hospital I found out my boyfriend had been texting, receiving and sending explicit pictures to a girl and that had been going on for four months. I forgave him as it didn’t feel right to leave while we both lost a child. In January he borrowed my car while I had a girls night with friends and a month later I found out he had girls over at the house and somehow doesn’t remember taking a photo of one of the girls with her top off in our room. He couldn’t truthfully tell me if he used my car to pick them or if they came over there on their own. And tonight while he was asleep I went through his phone and found yet again, another girl he had been texting, sending and receiving explicit pictures from and was also paying her for them. But this time telling her he’s ready to leave me for her, begging her to delete the messages and blaming it on him being drunk. Still have no idea if he actually hooked up with any of these women. I packed my things and left for the night. But my question is, can I forgive this? Is it worth starting my life over from the ground up? He keeps saying I never loved him and he didn’t cheat and that I’m just looking for the easy way out

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Should I end my relationship?

He’s manipulating you because he fucked up and he knows it but is trying to make you feel guilty so that he doesn’t have to. You need to leave.

Leave and take care of you and your son. By staying you are teaching your son how to treat a woman

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End it now. Don’t go back. He’s acting like a narcissistic and you and your son deserve better than that.

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Ew he sounds toxic. Definitely leave

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Please leave him behind

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Throw the whole man away

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Leave it’s not worth it.

Leave he’s clearly cheating on you!

If u are asking this…you already know the answer.

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He is cheating and gaslighting you. Leave. Block him and cut contact. Protect yourself and your son.

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Wow. What more do you need for him to do?

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I’d have already gone

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That is definitely classified as cheating. You deserve better but follow your :heart:. You won’t leave til you’re good and ready…

I’m so sorry for your loss as well, I can’t imagine. Hugs and prayers to you.

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You are being a fool to put up with this. Move on and get your life together.

Find a new place to live.

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Listen girl! If he has done it more than once he will keep on doing it. It’s up to u If u wanna deal with the nonsense or walk away #walkawaybooboo #betteryetrunnn

If u don’t leave now! You will be back on here in 10 years with 4 kids getting cheated on by an alcoholic man child!!! I understand depression messes with people but this is not depression, this is straight up disrespect! And if he’s blaming the alcohol then he has a problem and should/would quit if he was serious about you!!

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Leave. He won’t change.

Leave and dont come back. You’ve already confronted him before about it and he continued to do it. He’s not going to change and if he loved you he wouldn’t be doing those things.

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Seriously? Throw him to the curb. He is a douchebag. You don’t need something like this in your life.

walk away. He’s gaslighting you, you know damn well he cheated, and he’s trying to turn it around on you, blaming YOU for the breakup. Buuuuuhhhhh bye

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Oh that’s an absolutely leave situation.

Boy, bye. Get rid of him.

Like anyone is going to tell you to stay … girl leave.

Pick yourself up off the ground , it’s time to get up. He’s walking on you in your weakest moments and you need to be better than that for your son and the child you lost. It can only get better from the moment you choose to open that door and go.

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Run and NEVEERR LOOK BACK

That’s last bit is emotional manipulation, love. Truth is, he never loved you and was using you. Get out

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I’ve always been told “what you allow, is what will continue”. If you love him and want the relationship, leave and make him show you he’ll do whatever has to be done to fix his issues. If he can’t do that, walk away with your head held high knowing you tried.

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Yeah if you’re not happy. It’s not fair to your child in the end he doesn’t need this tension around him. If you can’t leave for yourself then u do it for your child

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Time to kick rocks Babe

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Im so sorry for your loss…sending you positive vibes…as for the man I feel like your best option is to see that you deserve better than that

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I’d cut ties with him. I think the evidence is pretty clear he isn’t committed to you and yalls relationship…people like that don’t ever change.

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Look honestly once yes I’d forgive but multiple times nope he would have been gone

Leave him and don’t look back. You deserve so much better

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He’s going to make this out to be your fault. You deserve better. Don’t worry about how he feels, he’s not worried about you. Just leave. Don’t look back. Do it for your son. He deserves to see his mother respected. Best of luck to you

How is this even a question? The guy is garbage.

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You got to go now I’m sorry for.the loss of your baby girl but it makes things easier for you to go there are no ties it’s best for you a d your son don’t want him .to grow up nthinking this is the way to treat a woman

Stay away from this cheating piece of :poop:he is bad news :unamused:

Sending and receiving sexual pictures and messages is called cheating!! No it may not be physically cheating, but… Are you even going to be able to trust him anymore?

You were only with this guy a short time and he was already doing stuff like this and it has continued and won’t change. Run!!

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He’s a cheater, leave and don’t look back

Don’t waste anymore time with him, it will hurt you more in the long run if you keep on forgiving him.

Please be strong and know that you deserve better. Any man to cheat, esp while pregnant(before and after loss), doesn’t truly love you. He can try to manipulate you by using “you never loved him” but step outside of yourself and see him for what he is-a sc*mbag. Be good to yourself and find someone who is truly worthy. He will keep paying these girls, he will keep using you. Don’t give him the satisfaction.

Heck no. Don’t forgive him. Save your self and your child and be gone for good!

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Run. If he was doing that early on, it’ll never change.

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Damn Girl, leave him! Don’t think about it! Obviously he doesn’t love you… Go find yourself a man who will cherish you!

Definitely time to go

He’s gaslighting you Like a real AHOLE….he’s wrong …he is cheating and trying to justify his shitty decisions. In my opinion…his refusal to take responsibility for his decisions and blame you is enough reason to leave! It only gets worse from there…trust me

He will never stop doing this. Leave. Take time for yourself and heal. Life isn’t always easy, but you deserve some peace after what you’ve been through.

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He’s trying to gaslight you.

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girl why are you still there

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Absolutely leave !! You and your babies deserve better. If he can do this to you in your lowest moments, and then try to emotional manipulate you for it, he’s a POS. Pick your beautiful self up, open that door and start again. You will be so much happier in the long run I promise xx

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That’s so hurtful to do to you, I’m sorry your going through all this.
I would leave him and Block him number so you don’t have to deal with all that.

Just go baby girl you don’t deserve that

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Just leave. Not worth it!! Of course ot hurts but NOT WORTH IT. Try to stay strong and when you’re not, just… still stay as strong as you can. You will have a better life. Trust me…

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Why would you want to forgive this?! He did you dirty in the most vulnerable time of your life. He’s scum.

He is making a ass out of you I would be telling him to get lost he is going to keep doing it cause he knows u put up with it

If you left… even for the night, there’s your answer.
From personal experience it doesn’t get better. Starting over was the best thing I could have done for me and my daughter.

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It either never change either stop looking thro his phone and be ok with it or leave I have been with man for 5yrs and he does the same thing but he takes care of us our kids and I I turn a blind eye some times. I still let him know I know and I don’t appreciate it. That choice is yours.

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He’s abusing you. You’re being gaslit. Get away from that. He’s shown you over and over who he is. You deserve to be cherished and respected.

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You already know the answer to this.

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Umm… No. He has zero respect for you.
Questions to ask yourself:
—Do you want this cheater as a male role model for your son?
—Do you want to use this relationship as an example for your son for his future?
Break these curses, hun.
Get some counseling, solely for yourself, and make some hard boundaries from here on out.
Know your worth, girl—this is not it. :blue_heart:

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I can’t believe you’re asking this question!!!

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Too much has happened In The relatively short time together. All the while you mourn the loss of your sweet child. You are so much better off starting over , find your beautiful self again ! I promise you are SO worth it!

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No one can really answer that for you, except you. So read what you wrote over 7 over again, until you get it, because it’s not going to change, I am sorry you lost your baby

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You deserve a man not a whore boy

Regardless if this is an “easy out” for you. NONE OF THIS IS EASY! Girl, start over! Worry about yourself and the child you have. He’s done this more than once, he’ll do it again. I promise you. This “relationship” isn’t worth your mental health. The constant worrying, the gut feelings, the stress. Move on. It’s not always about finding someone else. Find yourself and then the right one will come.

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Your never going to be able to trust this guy. If you have to go out of town for a night or he does for whatever reason it’s going to be in the back of your mind that he’s doing something. Think about it like this, if he’s having sex with them and then coming home to you guess what, you have now been exposed to any STD’S they may have. Been there done that.
Leave before you end up pregnant again or someone else does since protection wasn’t used before or it failed.
Sorry for the loss of your baby girl

Leave and don’t look back.

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if that isn’t narcissistic gaslighting idk what it. run far away sweetheart and so so sorry for your loss :heart:

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You already know what you need to do.

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Seems like you answered your own question! If you wouldn’t do this to someone then you shouldn’t let them do it to you

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Do you need to ask? You know in your heart.

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First I want to say I am so very sorry for the loss of your sweet babygirl. Second. You already know the answer to your own question.

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No one can answer such a personal question and I’m not trying to be rude but you’re too naive. He’s cheated and it’s obvious and I’m just an outsider. Leave! He will continue. It’s too stressful to worry what one is doing when you’re not around or who they’re txtn, talking to. Focus on you and take time to grieve. He’s sleeping w/ other’s and coming to you giving you whatever it is they may have. Your body deserves more and you deserve more.

He’s putting it on you by saying you never loved him!! That’s what Narcissists do…to justify their behavior!! RUN AND DON’T LOOK BACK!!!

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You know the answer.

This loser doesn’t deserve your forgiveness and you deserve to move on and be with a real man

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If you forgive him yet again you are sending a clear message that it is ok for him to do it .first time maybe second time hell no

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That’s not forgivable. You can do so much better.

Girl just leave boys like that dont change

Seriously!! U are ready know you should go. Just make a plan and stick to it.

LEAVE! nothing less or more to say.

I didn’t even bother reading past “he was messaging”… That right there is the answer to your question. He was already half way out the door when you found out you were pregnant. The issues with the baby isn’t why this got rocky. They got rocky cause he was already feeling trapped and then you moved in. Pack your shit and move on lady, he’s not happy with you and you’re just making yourself miserable by ignoring the signs.

He clearly cheated and has been continuously cheating up until now. Obviously he’s not going to admit it, cheaters never do. You have all the proof you need. Why even consider staying with him knowing he doesn’t love or respect you? You are worth more than that. You caught him numerous times already and trust has been broken along time ago. Without trust there is no relationship.

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Once bitten twice shy.

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No you stay gone. He will keep cheating

Red flags!!! Run as fast as possible!!

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The answer is obvious

Those text messages ALONE are cheating! What the actual fuck?! :woman_facepalming:

Here is what I will say: if your best friend was telling you this story about her bf, what would you tell her to do?

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Leave. You deserve better.

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Just because he says he didn’t cheat does not mean he didn’t cheat lol. If that is his view of “not cheating” and you DO view it as cheating then yes he will do it again and again and again. And yes it is worth it to be happy. If that means leaving because you don’t want this little boy then that’s what it’s going to take

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He cheated when he had topless girls in your room. You really think some chick with her tits out in a bedroom isn’t doing something else… leave and start over. He’s not worth your time.

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Some guys never learn ;( u deserve more I’d say :revolving_hearts:

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How far or how many times does he have to treat you like this before you will leave. I know it will be tough but teach your self you will not tolerate this kind of man, Ever. I think if you do you will feel so good about yourself, And your heart will smile.

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get out it wont stop

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Run run run run run run and NEVER look back