Nope!
Let him see how it feels.
Take whatever money you were going to spend on him and go spend it on yourself for Mother’s Day then if he asks you tell him. If you want something from the kids have them make a little craft or something small that’s from them.
Tit for tat really be the better person.
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… yes you get him something. It doesn’t have to be some expensive or huge. Literally go to Walmart, head to the fathers day stuff and grab the cheapest thing. You don’t have to be petty about it
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Have them make something
I didn’t get a gift this year, so I bought my husband something he wanted but not necessarily needed: a bidet attachment. 
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I would do the adult thing… teach my kids it’s better to give than receive.
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Jesus…some of you asking for advice are horrible human beings. IMO.
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Have the kids make him something. Dont buy him nothing.
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Just get him a bar of chocolate for kids to give him the smallest bar you can find the selfrish sod!
I hate that I see all these women say no. Just because someone doesnt buy you a gift, doesn’t mean you should be hurtful and do the same. If you live someone and you like showing them you love them. Then yes buy the gift or still do something nice. You don’t always need to get a gift. Make something with the kids for him or let them pick him something out. You don’t have to spend a ton of money but you dont have to be spiteful.
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Maybe “help” your kids make some homemade gifts or cards. Really Mother’s/Father’s Days are for kids/parents, not spouses. We get each other’s parents stuff on those days. I never expect my husband to get me anything because I’m not his mom.
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Are they old enough to shop with you? Let them choose something simple and help them wrap it. Let it be from the kiddos but you paid for it.
My husband of 54 years says I’m not his mother. He didn’t get her anything either, though.
Why do spouses need to get each other gifts for Mother’s Day and Father’s Day? Its about being a parent and celebrating motherhood/fatherhood not getting gifts from people. Just spend the day with your kids. Maybe go out to eat as a family.
It’s better to give then to receive. Just because he didn’t get you anything doesn’t mean you shouldn’t get him something. Instead of buy him something have your kids make him a card or something homemade.
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I would still get him something from the children and let them make him a card.
You answered your own question. You said you don’t want to get him anything. Let the kids make him something.
How about have a conversation with him?
Take the kids shopping for him. Don’t get him anything from yourself.
Have them make him a card
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This sounds pity… maybe show your kids that you’re better than that & have them pick something for him. Obviously kids need to be taught how things go whether the other person gifts or not 
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Be the bigger person. Even if it’s your kids making him something instead of spending money… gifts are meant to be given because it’s wanted not because someone else did or didn’t give you a gift
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Make something with the kids for him.
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I wouldn’t. If he doesn’t show any appreciation to you, the mother of his kids, why should you show him any? Does he even do anything for the kids or house? If not there’s nothing to appreciate.
Be the bigger person. Get him something from the kids.
Get you something disguised as a gift for him
Like a pressure washer or a steam mop or really something you just need around the house.
Or buy him chocolates and then eat them with the kids before he gets a chance.
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I already told my husband I wouldn’t be getting him a Father’s Day gift because he did nothing for me on Mother’s Day. Fair is fair. 
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An eye for an eye makes the world blind.
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Be the bigger person. Smile and be polite
Wish him a happy fathers day when you pass his supper plate to him.
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Let them make a gift.
same boat. I am getting him something
1.You have the obvious option of getting him something and trying to get past the fact that he didn’t do anything for you.
2. you have the kids make him cards and call it a day.
3. If you want your kids to celebrate Father’s Day with him, you get your kids and your husband tickets to go somewhere (trampoline park or something on those lines) and have a quiet day at home.
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I only got one word for you. “NO”
I wouldnt buy him anything id have to kids make whatever theyd like for him.
Do the kids go to school or daycare? I love the handmade gifts that my kids make with their teachers. If so, let them bring him something on father’s day, as they likely will or have done for you.
I always do. From the kids. Just because his memory is crap, doesn’t mean I have to be petty.
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Don’t let someone else’s character change yours. 
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Show yourself as a better person and have the children pick or make the gift. Hopefully one day he’ll get it.
I totally feel your dilemma. Have the kids do pictures or something for him and next Mother’s Day sit down and do a craft with them or take the kids out to pick something for you. Even something small that especially picked from them. Don’t rely on him. It’s a jerk move on his part but it’s about your relationship with them so personally I would take control and make my own memories for Mother’s Day while still being a little thought to him on Father’s Day. I’d want to be spiteful too but not a good lesson for the babies.
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I would have the kids make something for him Pinterest is nice for that stuff then you don’t have to spend money
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So you need to address the fact that he never gets you something for Mother’s Day. I have heard more than one man say well she’s not my mother… you made him a dad by having his children and you should flat out tell him it hurts you that he doesn’t recognize Mother’s Day for you. especially if the kids have to count on him to take them shopping.
Another option have a different adult, mom, friend, aunt or uncle take them to shop for you. Sorry you are feeling unappreciated. If you allow that to continue it will grow in to feeling unloved. Prayers.
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Have ur kids make up cards and presents by hand. Do a reason I love my daddy card. Or a favorite memory of my daddy card. Those are the best.
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My husband never EVER gets me anything for birthday Christmas Mother’s Day etc but I always get him something for every occasion from the kids cause it’s important to them
Men don’t think how us women do. He won’t understand that you didn’t get something for him because he didn’t for you. I would still suggest getting something to be a good example for the children, but discussing with him in rogue that this hurt your feelings and is important to you. You have to be explicit with men.
My husband rarely gets me anything for mother’s day but i always have something for him or have the kids make him something and try to make the day special for him. He works hard for us and so do I. And im the person I am, whether he is as nice and giving as me might not be, but it doesn’t change who I am and make me vindictive… I just like to be nice and caring for others whether its him for father’s day or a friend for a birthday. Do what you feel you want to. If you feel like being nice, think of the reason why we gift things, not because we want something in return but to see the joy it brings others. If you decide you don’t feel like giving him anything then just say happy fathers day and screw it. Its not much different than any other day unless you make it that way. 
good luck on whatever you decide !
Get him something he can do with the kids. Like go kart racing or bowling or something. Really you’ll be paying for him to take the kids to have a good time, but the kids will still get to celebrate Father’s Day with him.
If the kids are younger, buy some construction paper and markers and have them make him a card. If they are older, buy a card for them to sign. He is being acknowledged as their father for father’s day, but you don’t have to put out a lot of money.
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Send him and the kids to do a fun activity and you stay home and relax that way it makes up for you not getting a mother’s day too
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Have the kids make him something if you don’t want to buy him something from the kids for him but just saying don’t stoop to his level of well he didn’t do it so why should I some guys don’t always think about shit be the bigger person but if you don’t want to be handmade things from the kids is always amazing
Be the better person. Get something small and have the kids wrap it and give it to him.
Have them make something for him I wouldn’t spend a dime
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Let the kids give him a gift. He’s not your father and he doesn’t consider you on Mother’s Day!!!
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I teach my kids to show appreciation to everyone they care about. Playing tit for tat might make me feel better, but my job is to raise tiny humans who are better than us. Not make them our carbon copies. It’s not about him, it’s about who you want your kids to be
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Get him something from the kids
Get the kids to decorate a card made from scratch and let them gift it to him.
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Stop complaining if your going to feel like shit yet buy him something …get him nothing go off to the zoo with the kids fathers day go see your dad give him a dose of his own medicine.Hes not your dad and doesn’t give you a thought mothers day by all .eans let them make him a card in school .
That is my feelings this year. It seems more and more my husband ruins my birthday mother’s even if I’ve had surgery there is nothing. So I tried ding the same thing wen for months he was passing stones I tuned him out watched tv said walk it off I do this for pay back. We do t speak now I was In emergency room I recently had surgery on finger and fell I was in pain no one cared pin in finger fighting with nurse my husband took there side that I was moving bandages I explained to them all no something wrong. I went to my after surgery apt and had broke it in 2 places now having surgery again! All the while no one believed me worst not even my husband! If it weren’t for the grandkids I don’t think we would truly stay married it’s just like a child friend I would be sad but would be more free from never feeling of who I am. Marriage should be no voice wen one say or try’s to say how you feel think or how I do this or there way is right! Why? I do t strive to be best at everything or have the most or boost myself to others that is him I’m me full of failures mistakes but learn from it I’m ok with me I don’t think he is and that is him
#do I here myself
narcissistic
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I’d be the better person tbh. My boyfriend and I don’t celebrate mother’s day father’s day or valentine’s day m we don’t need a day to show love and appreciation. We always show each other that. On those days we do have an amazing dinner and mother’s day he cooks and dishes father’s day I do. And on those days we sleep in. But other then that we don’t make a huge deal out of them
Your hubby made you a mum to his kids. He needs to step tf up, and you need to have that conversation with him, but also dont play tit for tat, be the better parent, still get him something from the kids but tell him straight every year from now on he takes the kids out to get you something or you will stop doing his washing, cooking or anything remotely mum like for him, because “your not his mum”
Is this really how you want your children to treat women when they are older? Your husband needs to step up and show his children that mothers are valued and respected and appreciated 
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Have the kids get creative and make something. Use whatever is around then it will truly come from them.
Get him something you want
Let them do him home made gifts
I had that same question were on the same boat 
I’d just help the kids with gifts/crafted cards and leave it at that but I’d communicate how you feel he might not realize he is being a dick
I think you should let your kids pick him out a little something, why be like him.
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Give the kids a gift you both can use
There is nothing worse when a man tells the mother of his children, YOU ARE NOT MY MOM. Don’t get him a damn thing. He could not take the time to buy her anything??? Come on now. She is the MOM to his kids.
Have the kids make something, far more special!
Always get him something from kids if it’s reciprocated or not, your kids will always remember mummy getting dad something
Girl I feel the same. I didn’t even get a Happy Mothers Day. I got " make me food and I need this washed". If it wasn’t my fiances first fathers day he wouldn’t be getting anything.
You both should take the love language test and see what your love languages are. That helps you better understand how the other feels loved. Getting gifts may not make him feel loved, so he doesn’t get you them because of that maybe.
Have the kids do homemade gifts for him. That way it actually is coming from them!
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Nope. Let him see how it feels
Talk to your husband about how you feel unappreciated?
Don’t be petty. Just do it for the kids.
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Tit for tat…that isn’t the way to go about getting the attention it seems like you want from your husband… do for the kids and then try talking to him about it… sometimes the best way to get what you want is to ask for it…no hinting bc when that doesn’t work you get more mad and hurt and blame him for not getting your hint which truly isn’t fair. Communication is key. And make the memories for your children never hesitate as they may keep your tradition with thier families and when your children have these issues you can tell them to how you and dad solved problems by talking.
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He isn’t your father… Only presents from children
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My husband didn’t tell me “Happy Mother’s Day” nor did he get anything for me. But my husband has never been able to remember dates of any kind… so I’ve learned thru the years that he doesn’t really mean it. I still get him something for the kids to make and give him.
Treat others the way you would like to be treated. Just like when people give to others…:: give with your heart and without expecting anything in return
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Have the kids hand make him a card or draw him a picture
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Have your kids make him something, a card and a chocolate bar, something small but meaningful so that your kids still grow up thinking they should appreciate their parents on their special day. Sooner or later your kids will see what you do for their dad on Father’s Day and what he doesn’t do for you. After all Mother’s Day is about your kids appreciating you! Make sure that your kids do… yeah it hurts that he doesn’t even celebrate you but it’s not about him. It’s about you and your kids!.. that’s my advice girl…
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Have the kids make him a card if they are old enough.
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Do what comes natural to you. If you want to get him a gift get him a gift.
I would just have my kids make a craft for him. Its free & they still did something for him
I would make sure the kids made his day SPEACIAL…They could color a pic for him, you could bake cheap cookies and let them decorate I WOULD NOT SPEND MONEY ON A GIFT FROM THEY KIDS OR MY SELF!
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Suck it up
Let your kids celebrate anyways
Get yourself a present instead.
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Let your kids get a gift homemade or store-bought. It will teach your children kindness and you will be blessed in so many other ways.
You can get him something or not. Don’t feel obligated to just because the world says you have to, but don’t not get him anything just because he didn’t for you. Settling the score never is healthy in a marriage. You can always find a fun craft for your kids to do for him.
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Get him a gift box with divorce papers in it😂
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Read headline lol. Nothing else solid no for me.
Everyone have a sit down meal - no tv - no cell phones…. Let the kids help cook and clean up! Later was his truck !!!
You make memories with your kids— tie dye matching shirts, bake something together, paint pictures, etc.
do something ‘free’ that gives you a chance to hang out with your kids while simultaneously giving him something that’s not an expensive gift.
Remember, it’s the thought that counts and if your kids see you being petty, they’re mirror you
Help the kids make him breakfast or have them make a gift for him or do one of his chores. That way they learn the happiness of giving and thinking about what someone else would want. I doubt he would be upset if you didn’t buy him a present since he didn’t get you one
Nope, nothing. Not even from the kids. NOTHING.
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Yall are teaching your kids to be petty and how to have shitty communication skills
That’s terrible he doesn’t do anything for you. I would have the kids do a card for him or make some kind of art craft and nothing else. That way they’re celebrating him with a card but you’re not doing extra by getting a present