Leopard does not change its spots
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Once a cheater always a cheater 
don’t !!
No way. Get rid of him!
Stay in your home and ask him to leave but tell him you are married and expect him to continue to pay every bill. Also ask him to get counseling. Tell him you love him and that he needs help, but you cannot help him.Forgive him. Wait to see if he is sincere in making it work. After a while. See what happens. If there is no change let it ride. He will eventually cut the ties.
He gonna say whatever you want to hear at this point because he knows you’ll stay
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Are you going to take a poll on who says yes or no then count up and whoever has the most thats what you,ll go with . Idiot .
Nope… leave him, he doesn’t deserve the love you have to give
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No cut him loose , if he doesn’t respect you enough to talk to you about your relationship, then is it worth the heartbreak of never knowing if he’s cheating again or not
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Get rid of him…will reduce huge amount of stress…on yourself. He is a womanizer forever…believe me, I’ve been there and it was not fun.
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Wake up sorry but he is never going to change if that was the case he would have changed after the first time
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Sometimes a woman will convince herself that she loves a man who repeatedly lies and cheats when in reality, it has nothing to do with love anymore. The repeated emotional abuse has stripped her of her self esteem and the longer she remains in this destructive web of deception, the harder it will be to break
loose.
I know this won’t be easy for you. You have been living in this unhealthy environment for ten years. You need to step back and look at the situation with clear eyes. Be strong. You already know in your heart what you need to do. I wish you well.
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I’m a firm believer in staying married once you’re married. For better or worse is serious to me. That being said, everyone has a point they reach where they can’t take any more. He’s continually betrayed you. So whether he’s begging you or not, what makes this time any different? Is there a difference? Is he in therapy? Is he working on anything? All things to consider
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Hell no girl! Move on to better things nobody should live like that! 5 times is not a mistake it’s a choice!!!
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Only you can answer this question! But I pose a question to you. Don’t you think you DESERVE to be treated like you are the most important thing in your man’s life? There are many fish in the ocean that are even tastier! Why are you hanging on to this bottom feeding carp? Go love yourself enough to want better! If he can really change, and does, you can always reconsider! (I had in-laws that pressured me too and even told me I wasn’t forgiving him like God says to do! Yes I did! I don’t think God wants me to act ignorant and continue with that life style and treatment!) Take care of yourself, love yourself, and seek out friends and ppl you deserve and that deserve you! Lose what’s toxic!
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No just tell him to go my ex husband cheated on me i divorced him as i said i would do once a cheat always a cheat you deserve better .
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Once a cheater always a cheater… I would have left after the first time.
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That many times Sorry time to move on. He needs counseling. I wish you luck
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No he won’t change he wants his cake n eat it,However much you love Jim,you deserve better n he deserves what he gets.
Please ,how many chances has he already had.
Big hugs,you will get someone who deserves you.hugs
He is not going to change.
He doesn’t love you…you are not anything to him…
What you see is what you have.
Saddly enough…I dont think the guy has a wake up call. He sounds like he is using you. Id leave! You could end up getting a STD that does’t go away. “A gift” from one of his girlfriends and it won’t go away. You will have to be treated for the rest of your life for. And any sexual encounters that you have, you will have to inform them ahead of time, or be sued. If not the potential boyfriend. This happened to one of my friends. Herpes. She has to deal with sudden out breaks and trratments from now on. And she has to inform any potential sex partner. Herpes is a sexual disease that is painful from what I understand. It breaks out around the genitila areas. – Id leave, if I were you.
Nope! Let him suffer the consequences for his actions… if he has done it multiple times and every time you have taken him Back he hasn’t had a “wakeup call” he just knows you’ll take him back after he does it again… walk away…
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No how could you ever trust him
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Once a cheater, always a cheater. It’s about integrity. You either have it, or you don’t. Cheaters don’t. He is not worth sacrificing your peace of mind. Move on. You can still co-parent effectively. Prayers for you and your family.
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Walk away do not look back …
go to the Bible ask Jesus what he would do if you’re a believer you’ll find your answer
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This is something that only you and your husband can decide. You are the ones living this life think of the good things about him and then check the bad after all of that be sure and talk with God
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Once a snake, always a snake! It’s who he is & it’s not your fault. Don’t let him blame you or waste any more of your time. Good luck!
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Don’t listen to his sh*t! You are worth more than that. Every time he cheats, he is subjecting you to possible diseases. Run…
Love yourself more 
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Depends on you. It’s your time invested. If he is willing to set down and come clean about any and everything and wants a clean slate and is sorry. I have witnessed personally a couple getting through it and is better now than ever before. It’s all about you two being strong and how much effort are you willing to put fourth. Don’t worry about what anyone thinks but you and him. Good luck
No one can answer this for you….
*What do you want to do?
*How many more times will you allow yourself to be hurt?
*How long has it been since you’ve truly trusted him?
*How long has it been since you’ve been truly happy and content in this relationship?
At some point, you are going to have to require more for yourself, value yourself, and crave peace of mind as a priority… only then, you’ll realize you deserve so much more. 
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Do what your heart can tolerate. You are the only one who has to live with your decision to. No o now else knows what have dealt and can deal with. To thine own self be true.
I got cheated on after 14 years. Run fast and far lol!!
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Speaking from experience, kick him to the curb, he will not change and can’t even tell the full truth. Wishing you all the best
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Chase the aeshole as fast as you can
Leave. They don’t change. It’s always “one more chance”. I lost 17 years of my life to chances my ex never deserved. Get out of that shitty relationship NOW
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Leave him! Cheaters never change!!!
He keeps cheating because you keep taking him back like you said he says the same thing everytime he cheats an yet here you are still with him so of course he going too keep doing it he knows what to say to make you say an from you even questioning seem like your gonna stay so i wouldn’t be shocked if he cheated again
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Oh hell no! Once a cheater, always a cheater.
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You dont want to know what I think about him but you already do. Good luck. 
He. Wont. Changed. Past. Repeats. Its. Self
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Leopards don’t change their spots once a cheat always one
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Kick him to the kerb
No let him go once is enough you deserve more respect and love than that one door closes and an other opens x your never trust him if you do so just call it a day trust me your find someone much better wish you happiness and all the best xx
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names a cheat always cheat
When someone tells you who they are, believe him. If he tells you 5 times, he wants you to understand that this is who he REALLY is. Walk away, you deserve bettet.
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Unfortunately he isn’t going to change. No matter how badly you wish he would. You deserve so much better. Rip the bandiad off and start over for a much better life.
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Don’t waste anymore time.
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5 times??? He is not changing
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Kick him to the curb
He doesnt deserve your loyalty since he cant give that to you to begin with…leave him! You are worth more than that!
If u have given him more than one chance then he is playing u a fool…
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throw that man away! once a cheater, always a cheater. They don’t change. They just got caught up and still want their cake and eat it too!
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You deserve better. Leave.
He already had 4 chances after the first time n cheated a 5th. I would say NO WAY!!
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Five times??? No way, he could have changed a long time ago - tell him to prove that he wants to change - in that case you will take him back, not before that.
Nope, move on and don’t waste anymore of your time.
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Actions speak Louder than words!! I’m sorry for your situation but YOU need to get rid of him!
Don’t be a doormat you deserve so much better
I went thru the same thing. Life is better alone. It never changes. Let him go. Saying he’ll change is his way of controlling you
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Kick his ass to the curb hun.
Leave him now, you deserve so much better in life besides you will never be able to trust him
I would kick him to the curb. I would not have stayed with him the first time he cheated. He will not change.
No. He won’t change. His family sound like enabling garbage as well.
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Once a cheat always a cheat
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ask yourself one question … if your son / daughter came to you saying their spouse had cheated on more than one occasion what advice would you give them x
His family don’t want him either, what does that tell you? Trust your gut it’s always right, use common sense before he brings you home an std. 5 times!!! No!!! He’s not changing anytime soon!!!
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You already know. Get out!
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Will never change please keep yourself respect kick him out
5 times is a little much. Time to move on you deserve better
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Sure, if you like being a door mat go ahead, if you have dignity, self respect and love for your own person, than tell his family to F off, because they don’t care about you, they just care about him
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Men will only do what we allow…
Look up gaslighting - get a therapist. You can’t see the forest for the trees. He will not change, but you can stop allowing it.
He’s dun it more than once…ure stupid 2 take back he likes Dippin his dick 2 much
Sex addiction. If he fails to get help then leave.
Kick his a+$ to the curb!!
“When someone shows you who they are, believe them.” **Maya Angelou
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You deserve better. Move on.
I went thro this and was heartbroken every time till I decided to do it back to him when he found out he was very upset but quickly realized he was losing me and changed his ways now he’s a good husband caring and thoughtful. Maybe not the best advice but it worked for me
Leave him but first empty bank account change locks on doors when he’s out cut all his clothes up throw them out of the window on his head and find someone who will treat u right as they say once a cheat always a cheat move on girl
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Try once more and if he does it again, leave him and don’t look back!
I think this comes down to your own self esteem and self worth. I’m sure you know deep down that you shouldn’t put up with this, but you need to build on your own self esteem to be able to walk away and say “I’m better than this”. I recommend talking to someone if you really feel you can’t walk away, because this will destroy you.
Once is a mistake, any more than that is just taking the piss out of you.
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Leave him for good !
Only you can decide that. Myself I wouldn’t keep being his doormat
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Coming from a man here. leave his ass. Once a cheater always a cheater.
You are a strong beautiful woman…you don’t need his crap…HE WILL NOT STOP!!! The burden this puts on you is criminal…kick him to the curb and get happy.
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Only God’s and your opinion matters in this situation. I’d divorce him. You deserve better. What if he gives you an STD or Herpes??
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Will never change, and before you know it you have given many years of your life to him. Think of yourself not others xx
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Honestly only you can answer your question. This comes down to how much are you willing to put up with. If you have children how much are you willing to let them see. The opinions of complete strangers on social media should not be a factor in your relationship. You know in your heart what is best for you and I would say follow your own instincts on this. If it were me and I decided to give him another chance I would make it very clear to him and his family that this is that final shot. That if he blows this there is no more chances to be had. I would go on and prepare for the worst. Put your money in a separate bank account if you aren’t already using separate accounts. Have enough money saved up that you can leave if you find out that it’s happened again. I’m am in no way telling you what to do I am saying to be prepared no matter what your decision is.
His chance to change/his wake up call should have been the first time. He did nothing then but keep dipping his wick where it didnt belong…time to end it
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If it was the first time yes but this is the 5 th time if he wanted to change he would of already done it
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I’d give him three more chances.
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Before you do anything, separate the bank accounts! Be fair, but remember (if) children cost more than an adult. You need to get every single duck in its place before you ask him to leave, or if you are the one leaving. Now is not the time to do anything spur of the moment. You can emotionally distance yourself before you do physically. Make a realistic plan and consult with an attorney. Listen to the attorney! Be sure before you start. You may have second, third thoughts but stick to the plan. You may go a long time before you are completely comfortable with whatever action you take. Learn to listen and trust yourself.
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I say think of your self respect. You deserve to never have to worry about trusting him again.
Chin up girl. You already know what to do. It won’t be easy but better to be lied to over and over!!
Trust is everything and it’s broken.
So sorry for your struggles
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Only you can decide what is best for you. Personally I would leave. That’s not a functioning relationship.
However, if you choose to stay, I think you should move forward with clear guidelines- not just the ultimatum of if this happens again- but of things like marriage counseling for the two of you, personal therapy for him, maybe even looking into rehab for sex addicts, unrestricted access to each others (note not just his) forms of communication, etc. Thos may really help, but it may also show your more to determine a final decision on your part. Dont male anything final until you see a result of these and also until you see if he agrees. If he doesnt, or more comes out, then I honestly think it may be time to step away.
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Give yourself the gift of true love, step 1, ass out the door!
Fuck that. SEE YA! Cheat on him. See how he likes it… 
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He is a loser and not true to his word…why would you? Another chance? When will it end? Time to move on. No more doormat!!!
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