Get rid of that asshat.
Have you thought of working from home?
Sounds like you need to kick your boyfriend to the curb! Screw him!
The baby comes first
Easy fix get a new man
Sounds like you should have used contraceptives a long time ago or at least kept your legs closed . Leave him and go on welfare I guess.
Make him stay home to take care of the child and while he has no income demand that he pays half the rent and bills while you go to work and make an income . This guy sounds like a total looser your child is 3 months with health concerns he should be offering and wanting you to stay home with him right now
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Throw the whole man awayā¦you guys should be working as a team to make everything work, one side picks up the slack when needed. You are doing a full time job 24/7 with no breaks and he needs to respect how hard you work.
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Let him be with the baby for a full 3 daysā¦he will change his tune real quick.
Men make me sick sometimesā¦they still want the 1950s housewife, but donāt want to shoulder the bills. They canāt have their cake and eat it too.
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Leave!!! What is wrong with you??? If you are going through all that and your husband isnāt supporting you, leave. I promise it will be easier on your own.
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If youāre already paying for keeping the people in the house going (you, him, your first child and baby) that is half of what it costs to keep you guys going.
Sounds likes you need a new man! A relationship is just that. Ups, downs, and in betweens.
When someone shows you who they are as a person you Better believe them. You just had a special needs child and made all the sacrifices you had to in order to properly care for this child including giving up your job. Was the sperm donor on board with you giving up your job? Go ahead and apply for child support now from him. When you receive it you can turn around and pay the electricity bill with it. Make sure heās paying for all his own food and meeting all of his own daily needs as well.
SMDH you donāt have a partner in life sweetheart. I strongly suggest you figure out life without him in it.
You can get some government assistance for now while you arenāt working which Iām sure your aware of.
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I would tell my bf to kick rocks barefooted if he tried telling me I had to pay half. Iāve been a stay at home mom for the past three years. I often feel bad not contributing financially but he reminds be I keep the the house clean, kids fed, happy and alive. Granted non of my children are special needs so that takes even more of your time. Tell him youāll go back to work and he can stay home with the baby.
He needs to fall outta the tallest common sense tree and hit every branch on the way down, knock some sense into that BOY!
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SSI usually takes a couple of months to get approved.
I was kinda in your shoes with my son who was born with medical issues. I also have a older child as well.
Best advice I have is leave the sorry excuse for a āmanā. He has shown you what he is and that is not the added stress you need.
Iām not going to lie. This shit is hard but you will get through it.
But please donāt wait until depression hits and something happens. Get family to help or a good support system. The hospital will do as much as they can as long as you let them
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This is totally screwed up he has a responsibility to his child and the best interest of the child is you taking care of his medical needs thatās a job all on its own he needs to man up! do your research get prices for how much it will cost for the care of your special needs child create a schedule of work hours and when he is going to be responsible for children and what his house chores will be split all bills down the middle all responsibility of kids and chores down the middle after that give him 3 choices drop the stupidity and work
as a team to create a loving family for yourselves and the kids or adhere to the 50/50 split of everything or get the hell out the door or you leave with the kids while your researching look for what assistance is in your area for single moms womenās shelters,options for women,welfare office to see what they can offer to help you ect ect knowledge is power I hope for your family he grows up quickly and makes the right choice if not your better off without him
I think there is something wrong here think about she is probably on drugs and drinking she should own up get help
I canāt even believe this is a real question!
What has happened to society and the family unit
Calling a Man
Baby daddy to me is real immature!
He is a Father to a human
He needs to stand up and be responsible!!
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Thatās what u call a sorry excuse for a āfatherā thatās not a man thatās for sure! Im lost for words on this one. How does he expect u to get this money for these bills that he shoukd b paying while u r taking care of his child knowing what all is to do!!! My prayers are w u and ur babies
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I think Iād go apply for help at family services including child support. You are not married sounds more like roommates with benefits, do what is best for toucans the child. Have him write down all he wants you to pay and sign it and take it to family services with you!
ā imma start with stop looking at it through the eyes of you came into the relationship with baggageā your other child is a blessing also! The new baby health issues and all is a blessing and just as much his responsibility as yours and seeing as yours staying home to give child care, nursing care and hospital care to youāll baby- he either should man up and be willing to provide. Even if grocery money is food stamps, and other income off the top you happen to bring in should go to the childrenās need first. He should be providing roof over your head, water, electric without batting an eye lash in your direction. If he isnātā in the long run- take it from everyone- it would be hella easier and better without having to try and raise a 3rd child that thinks heās grown in the mix.
Get a lawyer to help with SSI. My son had to. He won! The baby daddy needs to grow up. God bless you, young lady.
Sounds like you have a big problem when you have children you still have to pay rent but food we all of us parents had to do the same thing so stop crying and be a responsible person
Taking care of a sick child is a full-time job. Doesnāt he care what will happen to his child if you not there?? If he expects you to pay half of everything then he must pay you for Taking care of his child. No you donāt give in to his stupid request. 
your baby gets well
Tell him you can go back to work but heās gonna need to help pay for a home health worker to take care of his son (which is WAY more than your half of bills.) Reapply for SSI they always deny the first one.
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My friends baby was born with all that and it was because of her pill usage an drink issues
Make a list of all you do for him and his. Put a price by each one. Tell him when he pays his bill, then you can pay yours.
While I absolutely understand that you have a medically needy child, making sure you can provide your children with a home, and other needs like diapers, clothing, electricity etc is also just as important. Is your childās father not helping contribute to any of your sonās expenses? As that is also his job as much as it is yours! Is your partner able to afford all the bills om his own or does he need help? How are you providing for your child from the previous relationship? I mean lots of questions here.
Iāve never been in any relationship under the same room where we both contributed EQUALLY to the household bills because Iāve never been in a situation where we both had equal incomes and bills. Each time we split the bills to fit each of our income but both contributed. In my marriage I was a stay at home mom with no income but I took care of the children and all the household stuff and Iāve been divorced and doing it all on my own with no financial help from my childrens father. Now Iām engaged and moving in with my fiance to a new house in 2 weeks. I have myself and 4 kids, he has himself and 2 kids and our bills wonāt be split down the middle because his income is double mine so Iāll be paying about 1/3 to his 2/3 of our household expenses. We do what works for us. (my fiance is the one who thought this was the most fair solution)
Yah know how much it cost for 24/7 childcare? A lot so he better start paying you for every hour.
Hes not husband material hes just a room mate. Walk away so you can focus on being momā¤
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Tell him you go back to work and he can do all the baby stuff. See if he can pay the bills
He sounds like a real winner. I would be giving him a big fat reality check.
Absolutely not. Not given the circumstances of your infant babyās health. My goodness. Your spouse should grow a heart and someā¦ something else. He can go get another job. I mean dang. Your child is in a serious state of health right now. You need to be able to tend to the baby the way you have been with no worries.
Maybe you should file for help from the state and leave him. Best wishes and prayers for you and your baby. Mind, body, spirit and health!
Omg seriously?
That man is horrible
Your taking care of his special needs child!
Talk to your family, move out and apply for child support. This man is a douche canoe.
Pardon my language but fuck that. Thatās his child too.
What a dick.
You are unable. Yes, you need financial help. No, you cannot work. He needs to shut it.
Thank god you havenāt married the jackass yet. You need to talk to social services to get assistance to get out of there. There should be someone you can talk to that will help you move forward.
He doesnāt get to shirk his responsibility to his own child then punish you for being the only one responsible enough to do what needs to be done. Dude is useless. Throw him in the trash.
Youāre sons dad sounds like a dick! Just saying!