Why would your new bf have a problem?.. it’s the kids dad. Invite him…especially since you said you guys were friends. It isn’t about yall…its about your child.
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Leave the boyfriend home…kids need their parents…sounds like the new boyfriend is a little childish…
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Why is this even a question…the child is yours…remember your boyfriend might come and go but your child is there forever…dont live to regret a decision that will haunt only YOU…God bless:pray:t3:
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I would. Your current boyfriend knows he’s your child’s father and you apparently coparent civilly. I say, why not? 
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It depends. If you are in speaking terms inspite of his cheating ( for the sake of the kid), then you can invite him.
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Dump the boyfriend and invite your child’s father to his son’s birthday party
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Tell current boyfriend to go f himself. Baby’s dad has every right to be a parent ( unless he is cruel or abusive to the baby or you)
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Invite the Dad! The newq
boyfriend has no rights to have any input.
Hes her father!!of course you should invite him especially you guys are on good terms the boyfriend should understand
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He is daddy if you leave him out of this and other events he will grow up to be angry at you and you will have a rough time. Your new boyfriend knew you came as a package and needs to know your ex will be involved till your child graduates.
If this is the way you have always done it then keep it as it, it benefits your child in the long run and your new bf just needs to suck it up
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Nothing wrong in ex partners meeting up for special occasions it’s a mature thing to do ,and it’s the little girls day ,don’t spoil it x
Mmmm. I invited my exs family to my sons first birthday party. Now we do all holidays separately. It if works for you guys than go for it. Me and my husband will go to his ex girlfriends birthday parties for step son.
Sounds like the boyfriend needs to grow up. I’d invite him regardless because your ex is still the father of your child period. I get most seperated couples do seperate birthday parties but I don’t see anything wrong with inviting him & Including your child’s father in the birthday celebration. Time for him to grow up.
Co-parenting comes first. New bf needs to suck it up and deal with it.
you invite your child’s father to the party and if your boyfriend can not deal with it he can GTFO
Your child’s father should be at the birthday party. A “boyfriend” shouldn’t be saying anything about it.
I don’t see a problem with it, you guys are still his mom and dad, if you are able to be cordial which by you saying y’all are still friends I’m assuming that’s the case, then what kid wouldn’t want their mom and dad at their birthday party. The best interest of the child should preceed anything else
Kids NEED their REAL Daddies IN their lives! Your current lover has NO say in the matter. You are NOT married to him. He can leave any time he wants but your child’s Daddy will always be a part of your life! ALWAYS!!! The ONLY way a biological parent needs no contact with his child is when he is a danger to you and/or your child. Other than that, boyf5: butt out!
Yep explain that it is ur child’s father unless ur ex did something to him .ask ur new boyfriend y he has a problem otherwise if he can’t accept it it probably won’t work but ask the boyfriend why he has such a prob cause ur child’s father isn’t going anywhere
I was married to my first boyfriend 26 years. I have 3 kids with him. And a boyfriend for more than 2 years. My ex is always invited to my kids events with us. His girlfriend feels awkward but none of us do. My
Kids love that we can all socialize.
Tell him to grow up. Kids come first…ALWAYS
He’s your child’s father the bf needs to deal with it or move on by himself
Invite your child’s father to his birthday. It is for your son not your boy friend. If he can’t deal with it then tell him no to come. The father is going to be in the child’s life and yall two are going to cross paths till the child is 18. It will do the child good to see that mommy and daddy can get along together even when they dont live together.
This has to do with your child and his father. You boyfriend needs to understand you have gone on and he is the one you care about. Everyone needs to just enjoy the child’s party. It’s no big deal unless you make it a big deal.
You are doing it for the wrong reasons grow up it’s not about you
Tell the current bf that it is about the 3 year old, not him
Personally If it is an event for our child her father has more of a right to be there than a husband/boyfriend. And visa versa. Bf needs to accept it, doesn’t have to like it. Now- if my child’s father was disrespectful then that’s a different story.
Inviting him isn’t the issue I’m concerned about.
It’s why you are inviting him, that worries me.
You have nothing to prove to anyone, Least of all a man who cheated on you.
Your current boyfriend doesn’t really have a say about your co-parenting.
But you should listen to what he has to say and five it consideration.
He may just feel like you are inviting the ex for the wrong reason!
Parenting is tricky business and then to be pitting boyfriend against ex there might be trouble not just for you but for your little.
Anyway, bottom line is be careful and do what is best for your little!
This is a hugh relationship make or break factor it’s very hard for someone to get cheated on and turn into friends I’m pretty sure you and your child’s father didn’t become friends over night in fact I’m certain it took sometime for the two of you to have a conversation or even be in the same room. Also even if he did cheat on you if he could be man enough to except your new relationship without trying to break you and your new beau up even though he broke your heart in a million pieces then your new beau should be man enough to welcome him into your household it’s not even about him it’s about your daughter at the end of the day he has you know so enjoy your time together you are with him it’s not everyday your little girl has a birthday. If he feels threatened by your ex have him talk and just that talk to him no fighting or arguing simply talk to him in fact they have something in common you and your daughter
Both parents can be civil towards each other but your obviously split for a reason so I don’t see anything wrong with each parent holding a party for their child, not everything has to be done together so the kid sees his/her parents in the same room . To me that’s pretending and in my opinion I’d rather do separate parties. I’m all for those that can do this, if you prefer separate parties, do it. Just do whatever is best for everyone or what works for everyone. Maybe when the kid is older it might work better but I kinda feel like the kid would be confused thinking “if mom and dad get along why didn’t they just stay together. “
It’s between you and your ex, your current boyfriend should not interfere when it’s to do with your child’s welfare and well being, if he dosent like the idea, he should leave, because you will be tied to your ex forever, so he better get used to it. Sounds a bit immature for him not to see your point of view, I can totally understand him feeling uncomfortable and left out, but the child’s needs need to come first.
That man will Always be your child’s father. Yes, invite him and show your child that ppl who don’t get along CAN still be friends.
Is your permante boyfriend jealous I’m in the same situations. But I have no boyfriend
If he loves you he will let yu invite that Dad and He should support you to see that child Happy… If not you do not need him period point blank. Its about the kids nit grown adults. Acting childish
I have to say that I feel like this is just asking for trouble. You didn’t mention anything about your child’s last 2 bdays, I am going to assume that you didn’t have those together and now you say that you want your child to see you 2 together happy. Mothers and fathers can coparent all day long BUT that doesn’t mean that you have to involve your ex in birthday parties or other events and tell your s/o to fuck off if he doesn’t like it. Also think about how you would feel if your s/o had a child with someone else and he told you that he was going to have a birthday party with his ex for their child and then talk to your bf about it. I always tell people to think about the table being turned before you do something that you wouldn’t want to be done or said to you. It’s great that you 2 can coparent but just remember the more the child sees you and daddy together the more the child is going to be confused and want ya’ll to be together and also by telling your s/o that he doesn’t have a say in your child’s life and that it’s between you and the ex is just giving the child the authority to not respect and listen to your s/o.
Wait until your 3 year old turns at least 6…at this age she’ll be to young to remember what you and your ex will look like happy…
It’s about the child not boyfriend
Boyfriend is not husband so while he is free to express his opinions he has no say.
If your current BF cared at all about you and your child he wouldn’t interfer with you and the ex co-parenting your baby…he would encourage it and show your baby that he has another person to love him just as much as mom and dad do. Plus you and your ex are bonded for life because you share your baby and if the current BF can not…will not accept that then it’s time to let him go. Don’t ruin your child’s happiness or your sanity over a insecure childish boy.
Invite him,if your new boyfriend cant deal,then that’s a deal breaker for me,he is the father of your son,he should be there.
Point out its not about him your ex.or even you.its about your child.and if you wanted your ex.you would be with your ex.easy come easy go.accept the child’s needs.
My daughters father and I throw her a joint party every year. It ain’t about you or your new boyfriend it’s about your daughter and what she is going to need. And it is important for her to see you get along
Don’t have the Party at your House, invite the ex or give him the option to have his own party, the new guy if he cares for you , should respect your decision what ever it is…
If ur bf can’t put his jealousy away for the needs of ur child then maybe rethink the relationship ur ex is going to be around FOREVER there won’t be multiple school graduation days or weddings and he can’t expect one of u to miss important moments like birthdays and many more.
Your child should come first, NOT your boyfriend, invite your child’s Dad.
If he has an issue then he can just suck it up and deal with it!! No matter what its not about you, the boyfriend or the ex…its about the child. If he wants to continue to have an issue with your childs father he can kick rocks.
Do it for the child boyfriend will get over it
My son’s dad and I haven’t been together for some while. At first we always had seperate parties but I honestly think it was bc of his wife. After awhile they would invite me to his parties. Yes he has custody bc of personal reasons but we learned to coparent and be civil when it came down to our kid. Yes I don’t like his wife but I am civil when it comes down to being around her. Co-parenting everyone assumes it’s just the parents which is true but when you have a significant other, you have to think about their feelings and take that into consideration. It may be hard for them to see you with your ex but if your doing it for the right reasons then it shouldn’t matter. Your child comes first no matter what. Do what you think is best for your child. I would consider sitting down with your s/o and talk to him and maybe both of you sit down and talk to your ex. It’s all on you and what you feel is right.
Family first. Your bf needs to know that. So does any girl your ex is with.
Invite the ex your current boyfriend needs to understand the ex is going to be in your life for ever you have a child together. It’s good that your child sees you can still get along even if your not together.
Your boyfriend needs to grow up your child comes first the bd should be at the party.
Yes you should invite him , your new bf should not have a say it’s his problem your child deserves to have both parents dump him if don’t understand
Why does he feel this way?
You have to be friends with your ex. It’s a big part of your child’s life. I always had my ex at all birthday parties, and my husband was always fine with it. As your kid gets older it only gets harder. You have to have a good relationship with your ex or good luck when they are teens. Co-parenting is hard, but pays off big time. Do what you gotta do mama, and what ever happens happens. Good luck!
If your child’s father is involved in their life. Then definitely invite him regardless of what your boyfriend says. He needs to understand that if you guys can be civil for the child’s sake then he should be able to do the same and everyone be adults. The father shouldn’t have to miss out on important things like birthday’s ect.
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Invite the ex and your boyfriend will be fine. Your ex will always be in your child’s life and yours. It will show the child you can co-parent.
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Invite your childs father u have 18 years with the man your new boyfriend needs to suck it up like if he wants to be in your and your babys life thats the grown up thing to do its what happens when you get with a mom
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Definitely have daddy over your precious son birthday he deserves the best time ever, I see my little girls daddy weekly for my daughters happiness and invited him every year for her birthday she so happy seeing daddy weekly and birthdays
I would still invite him it’s his child birthday, 
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My kids dad held our sone 7th b day and invited me and my bf of 2 years 
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Dad should be invited
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Invite him that is his child too. You will always have things that you both should be at
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There are many of you that need to read the whole post before commenting 
She has stated they are friends and SHE wants to invite him, but her new partner has issues. So why are ya’ll mentioning possible abuse ect? Where was that mentioned
I cant stand my ex but I invite him and his family(I love his mom,shes great, hes just a POS) bc we live in diff states (I’m in Nc they are in Md) if they can make it great if not oh well… and he cant if his mom doesnt bc he doesnt have a car or a license 
Yes. My ex was invited to our sons birthday parties.
Invite your daughter ‘s dad!!!
Of course invite him. He stopped being your boyfriend he didn’t stop being daddy
Invite the ex. It’s his child’s birthday. He has a right to be there.
Children first always
Yep. Boyfriend needs to get over it. Your child’s happiness comes first.
Get back with ur ex for the love of the child it might save lives
The boyfriend doesn’t have to come
No have your ex have a separate party. You need to respect your new partner. A man’s love need is respect.
Nope,u just let him know u are doing a party the rest is up to him
Teach ur child he doesnt need to choose… trust me
Invite his new partner too. Or members of his family.
It not about him it about the child
Family first boy friends come & go…plus he seems to be insecure6
Invite your ex.It is his child too
Your partner needs to suck it up. This is about the child, not him. He needs to understand that these will be happening for many years and that it is about your child being happy, not him being happy.
Invite your ex, you will regret it if you don’t. Your baby will forever be grateful for the both of you being able to be there for them together, respectfully and amicably.
Whilst you need to respect your current partners feelings, he also needs to respect the fact that your ex is and will always be involved in your child’s life and he has every right to be there. give your partner a super important job regarding the party, include him just as much with it all.
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Your new bf needs to go girl. 
cheating?? move far away
Tell him to get over it
in my book, ni excuse for a cheating husband. none.