You need to leave both of them and focus on you & being a better person is this the example you want to set for your kids ?!?!?
Just remember they are normally an EX for a reason, regardless of any situation its completely unacceptable to cheat on anyone. You need to be honest with yourself and the others involved. If you ask me thereâs only one direction to goâŚback to your ex. Youâve already screwed around behind what you say is a good decent manâs back so if he had any sense heâd drop you and look elsewhere.
People are saying both guys deserve better, no they donât. You just canât seem to stay faithful, your husband was sleeping with you, knowing you were with your ex and now your ex is sleeping with you, knowing your married. You kind of all deserve each other, in my opinion. Or just leave both men, learn how to stay faithful and if you canât stay single and have as much fun, with as many men as you please. I can see this situation ending in a pregnancy or something and then there will be a whole drama of whoâs the baby daddy etc.
You donât deserve either of them. You also seem to be the common denominator for your relationships to fail. Maybe you should focus on being alone instead of screwing around. You give other women a seriously bad name & its disgusting.
Hopefully you get caught and both men leave you.
Itâs simple, neither. Neither of those men deserve someone as shallow and selfish as you obviously you LEFT your ex for a damn reason AND Married your husband for a reason clearly there was something you liked more in the second one, But here you are literally recreating a situation youâve already done with the same men at that! If you canât keep your legs closed and be loyal to one human being then stop dragging men into relationships an just stay single
Both of them deserve better than being cheated on. You should be alone until you figure out what YOU want not what others think you want.
Girl ⌠as a woman Iâm not claiming you
Wow, you are a piece of . I hope they both leave you.
Your cheating a$$ needs to be single
Your ex was obviously an ex for a reason and you moved on and found a lovely man and got marriedâŚand your still not happy ?? Seems like you need to sort yourself out and tell your husband he deserves better tbh.
You need to leave them both, you sound terrible. I wish some of these posts had names attached cause maaaaaaaaan would I tell your husband so fucking fast. Dirtball.
I hope you get it back tenfold. You deserve to get dumped by both men. Shame on you. Personally they can both do better and your a pig
Hello darkness my old friend, the straights are at it once again
Arenât you something!!
You are an absolute piece of shit. Idc. Hope you end up lonely lmao
Wow. I really hope you donât have any kids in this mess youâve created. You need to remove yourself from both of them and work on you and the reasons you cheat. Not saying anyone deserves to be cheated on, but they played into it as well. You cheating on ex with current and vise versa. So you need to leave both these men alone. Otherwise youâre gunna end up with a child with someone you donât love. Remember what comes around goes around, and youâve done it twice. They need to learn you lose em how you got them. You cheated to get with one of them, more than likely youâll cheat on someone else. Itâs sad really. Seriously be single and work on you. Leaving someone after you MARRIED them because they are boring is just plain messed up.
Quit marrying people you donât love.
I hope they both leave you, youâre trash
Maybe itâs time to consider that monogamy isnât for you? You need to be honest with your husband
The fact that you explained this so nonchalant, like it was soooo normal. But, you were careful to throw in how âbadâ you feel for cheatingđ You SHOULD be too ashamed to even admit this, much less ask the opinions of a bunch of strangers about which ones heart you should break(againđ)
Girl, you are cluelessâŚ
Getting cheated on literally scars people for life.
Youâre a garbage human being, and deserve neither. I sincerely hope you get caught.
What a piece of shit.
You shouldâve never cheated, I have no respect for that. Sorry
Shit You Wont Believe
Golden rule in a relationship. If your not happy LEAVE donât cheat. It leaves a hole trail of destruction behind. I really hope both of them f you off!
Wow, just wow! Bitches like this ruin the good men.
The grass is never greener
What a pile of crapâŚ!!!
Fuck off⌠u nothing but a snake!!! U do not deserve any of them. Just die alone.
Wow, you are some kind of a piece of crap
Yeah your gross!!! How dare you treat them like this!!
Youâre going to destroy yourself. Leave them both and do them s favour so they can find someone who truly loves tgfm ppl like you donât deserve to be happy
I mean. Once your husband finds out you cheated- because he probably will find out. Youâre going to destroy him either wayâŚ
I donât mean to sound nasty⌠but perhaps itâs time YOU were destroyed!
Maybe the grass is greener because you arenât there fucking it upâŚ
Wow! Just wow. Itâs cheating trifling females that give the rest of us bad names. You shouldâve NEVER cheated! If you wanted your ex back so bad you shouldâve broken up with your current s/o. Have you never been cheated on? Itâs not like oops I accidentally cheated no girl, you had to be emotionally involved before you actually had sex with another man behind his back. It destroys your self esteem and now that man is never going to look at another female the same way. It sounds like you have a habit of being promiscuous so I think thatâs something you need to work on within yourself. Sad honestly.
I hope they both leave your ass
Once a cheater always a cheater. Girl, get some therapy.
Also, âboringâ is stable and secure. âoldâ is adult and mature.
Neither of those things are negative but if all youâre interested in is getting dicked down, maybe marriage isnât for you. Perhaps stick to strange from tinder?
No. You get neither. Your husband deserves better. Your ex is around cuz itâs fun, NOW, but may not be later. Clearly you didnât think this through. You should tell your husband what you did, and he should leave your ass. YOU, should remain single if you canât stay faithful, and do the work on yourself so that you can commit to a real relationship and not stray because youâre just bored.
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Is you ex interested in you because you are married and doesnât feel he has to make the commitment that your husband has with you? Or are you so messed up and need to know what really being in love means. Are you the always indecisive one and need work on yourself and fix you and release both the guys? Only you can answer that.
First of all, you cheated on both at different times, you say you love them, but I have no clue how. & Iâm really not trying to be ugly, but I think maybe you need to do some soul searching, learn to love yourselfâŚBut maybe seek out therapy or something of the sort for yourself,âŚbecause whatâs been done isnât okay, & extremely unfair to both of them. They deserve the truth, & you need to let them go. There is someone out there that wonât do this, & they deserve that chance.
You need to ask yourself why did you leave your ex in the first place because when the âexcitementâ ends will the ex and if you go back to him, will you still see him as âfunâ.
On the other hand why canât you have fun with your current partner?? Perhaps he wants to have fun too but you both arenât communicating very well .
Change your mindset of how you see him. Instead of thinking heâs boring, why donât you secretly challenge yourself to bring fun or excitement into the relationship.
I think by sounds of it you have maid your mind up all reddy when you said your husband was boring and you cheating on him with your ex your marriage was over at that point but you left your ex for reson better to let them both go and find happiness and peace with yourself good luck hope you make the best choice
UhmâŚleave both so that they can find true happiness and someone that will truely love them. You start over and find the person that will be double the person that your ex and ur current husband isâŚ
LEAVE HIM. He deserves to be able to be gloat with someone who deserves him. Iâm not saying this to be mean but if you love him let him go. But I promise you, the fun with the ex will one day wear off and then what will you have left? You owe it to your husband to set him free.
Tell them both. And let the cards fall. Your current husband should have known that it would happen to him.be prepared that neither will stay with tou
Wow. Just wow. I really hope this happens to you one day seems to me as though your taking pleasure in potentially âdestroyingâ a life. I hope your husband is fucking his secretary
Iâm really proud to hear some of these answers that women think that women should be faithful and I believe it myself this man deserves a faithful wis a faithful wife. PER IOD
Just my opinion but if you were in love with your ex you never wouldâve cheated with your current husband. Same as if you were really in love with your current husband you wouldnât be cheating on him
You are obviously still in love with your ex husband and you obviously donât love your current husband. How would you feel if you were cheated on? Divorce your husband so he can find a woman that really loves him.
In other words your not happy with either, how can you say you love them both dearly but do the utmost lowest thing to them both? The grass is not always greener on the other side, but weâre you water itâŚ
If a man had wrote this you would expect him to get a crap storm of abuse ⌠Be honest with them both & yourself , then work out what you actually want before anyone else gets hurt x
Leave them both they both deserve better. You need help. You clearly canât stay faithful to anyone. Seek counseling.
i think you need some therapy & to try to fix yourself. constantly cheating on your partner is unhealthy and degrading.
Do them both a favor and leave them both alone and let them find real women who will respect their vows and love them enough to not stray. Iâm sorry but youâre clearly not a stable person and are not mature enough to handle a committed relationship/marriage. And lastly, do yourself a favor and seek therapy before hurting anyone else with your selfishness.
You need therapy and both of them need to get out of your orbit so wrong to be doing this too people. You are destroying them and they will likely takes this out on there next partners what you have done to them. It leaves lasting damage. Doesnât matter which you pick because you will never be happy by the sounds of things
Common denominator here is you. Be honest with both then go work on YOU because you donât treat ppl you claim to love like that
Why are you asking random women who you should choose to âdestroyâ? This just exemplifies your immaturity. You sound attention seeking. Your life isnât some soap opera. Your husband deserves better than you. You need therapy and to be away from any sort of committed relationship until you work on yourself. Good luck.
You need to go to therapy and figure some thing out. Youâre hurting BOTH of them right now and you have to stop. Let them both know whatâs going on and you need to go to therapy
Honestly i dont think u deserve either. U cheated on one for the other now ur doing the same. They both deserve a woman that will be faithful
I often wonder what goes through peoples heads when they cheat.
I always feel, that if you arenât happy, you should leave. Because what youâre doing will destroy your partner.
This isnât healthy for any of you, especially not them. I donât even know why this was even a question, because the answer is right in front of your face, & I definitely donât know what you expected from this Facebook pageâŚ
Neither. You should check yourself in with a therapist and cut ties with both because your husband deserves the truth and to have a faithful wife. He has neither and you seem to be on some power trip about how you can destroy both of their lives. You cheated on your ex with your current husband and hurt him⌠then married your side piece and cheated on your side piece with your ex husbandâŚ
you need to work on yourself girl. You have issues. Both of those men deserve better.
If Iâm being totally honest I think you need to work on yourself before you continue either relationship.
The fact youâve cheated on them both shows issues on your part not theirsâŚ
Well you have cheated on bothâŚthere is a reason why we call exâŚnot an ideal situation you are in right nowâŚyou say the man in your life now is boringâŚhow sad because you wasnât thinking this when you met himâŚperhaps you went into another relationship to fastâŚleave the ex alone tell him to do oneâŚ
Concentrate on the man in your truly hurtingâŚtell him what you have doneâŚrepair the damageâŚhe will forgive youâŚbut he will never truly forgive you for cheatingâŚyou clearly do not understand the meaning of loveâŚwhat your doing with the exâŚdo you genuinely think your ex is being honestâŚmaybe he is playing a gameâŚbecause he is jealous of what you have in your life now⌠yes the man in your life you say is boringâŚits up to you lady to make it less boringâŚgrass is not greener on the other side remember that
You donât deserve either, your stringing them both on, either way you are gonna hurt them both, maybe see someone as you seem to have some commitment issues and work on that.
Iâm thinking that the ex husband u 1st cheated on might want u to leave new husband and then dump u to let u feel some pain ya kno pay ur ass bk thatâs what I think is gonna happen bc clearly you deserve neither one of em.
You canât love someone and do this to them⌠you just canât. First you need to stop cheating. Then tell your husband what youâve been up to. And then either leave him or promise to never ever be unfaithful again! (That is IF he decides to forgive you) And if he does I hope you appreciate him and cherish that man, you said your vowes girl⌠and I agree with a lot of the other comments, therapy. Maybe figure out why you have this urge to cheat? Have you ever been cheated on? Let me tell you, it hurts like nothing else. Please stop this⌠Be better than youâre being.
In all honesty, cheating is disgusting and I think you should leave both men and go find yourself, work on fixing and bettering yourself. Life is not about who becomes boring and who is fun⌠find the fun in the relationship you are meant to be commited to. If you are commited and truly love a person you MAKE IT WORK
Youâre going to destroy yourself when You realize you lost close to perfect to fun and he finds someone who appreciates him.
You didnât love the other guy if you were capable of cheating, and clearly donât love this guy Iâd youâre willing to go behind his back now. Someone shouldâve told him that if you will do it with him, youâll do it to him. Maybe he couldnât dodged a bullet.
My advice is leave. If you were actually happy you wouldnât be spending time with someone else, youâd be working on YOUR MARRIAGE and making it the best it could be. Not off fucking around with someone just because you think your man is boring. Gross.
Marriage is supposed to a sacred act of commitment for the one you love. Not just in bad days, or good days. For you to say âheâs boring.â Thatâs just wrong. You grow, and change for the better. Together. Why get married just to cheat? Marriage isnât a game. That you just quit on. Good days or bad. You need to seek counseling and these guys both deserve the truth and way better than what youâre doing to both of them. You seem like you donât even care for either of them. Not to mention if you bring home some sort of sexually transmitted disease⌠No morals. Just wrong.
Should just leave on the grounds you are cheating. Thatâs the real pain that he will feel. Nothing worse than a cheat. Canât just pick and choose when you have either man.
Once a cheater, always a cheater⌠leave them both alone if you actually âloveâ them
Iâm not gonna lie at least some of these women commenting on this post have probably cheated, not everyone is perfect and makes mistakes, we can learn from them. But my opinion you need to take time for yourself and let them both go! They both donât deserve what your doing to them. You gotta figure out for yourself, but girl you ainât in love if you can happily cheat on the men you say you love. Stop and maybe think what your doing and what your action can cause!
The ex is playing you sis. Your ex is trying to get back at you and dude. Also, you are extremely immature and donât need to be in a relationship let alone married. I would suggest you take a year to focus on your mental health through therapy. Chasing fun never ends well. Itâs always fun when youâre cheating (no responsibility or commitment)
Your ex was stabbed in the back by you and your now husband, your ex is now stabbing your husband in the back and you somehow think this is all okay and choosing on the basis of fun? I only pray thereâs no kids involved.
I donât think you love either of them. You should leave them both poor guys.
Canât turn a ho into a housewife I guess thatâs karma whatâs going to be funny is when neither want you Iâm sorry you got way to high of an opinion of yourself
I wonder if ex is just doing this till you let your current husband knowâŚthen they both leave you.
Why is your ex your ex? Do you think it will work this time if it didnât work the 1st time? How do you know if he really wants you, or just likes the cheating?? If you werenât married, Iâd say go for it. But you are married and not available to another man, ex or not.
You need to learn what love is I think you are in heat .Just by reading what you wrote you donât want a good man or marriage you just want the excitement of the moment soon as you choose your ex and he wants to settle down with you youâll be on the streets looking for the next sucker do them both a favor and get out of their lifeâs where they can find a good woman to love
Leave both. They deserve someone thatâs gonna love all of them not just until your âboredâ with them
If you were a manâŚnope your a girlâŚno better than a man that cheatsâŚHopefully they both find out and drop youâŚ
I agree with everyone else and also your ex is your ex for a reason. How would you feel if Your husband was cheating on you? Maybe heâs not old and boring maybe heâs matured and settled down
Wow you must like playing your men the fool. You cheat cause you had access and because your husband is boringâŚno you cheat cause you are selfish woman who wants your cake and eat it and all the rest of the cake on the shelf too. You come here wanting a you go girl bit what you need is for your men to find out and not kill you and each other. You really are damaging any happiness they will have because they will just think every other woman is like you. I pity your next victims.
Let your husband go and be happy. Also, let your ex go and be happy too. You. Sound. Like. Trash. if youâre going to cheat on everyone for the next best thing, then just be single so you can whore around without hurting anyone else in the process. They both deserve better than you.
Iâm wondering if you have some underlying issues from your past that make you feel this is ok⌠Or even Normal, as you speak in a tone that doesnât even seem to acknowledge anything wrong about the situation and your actions.
Cheating is unforgivable and I hope your husband can move on from toy without taking any bitterness and trust issues into his next relationship.
Hopefully he/they both realise there are sooooo many more women out there who are loyal, committed, faithful, trustworthy and honestâŚ
All of the things that you could not possibly to repeatedly cheat on people like itâs ok.
So ur relationship got boring and now u want that fun butterfly in the stomach excitement which is why u want ur ex again because itâs fun and exciting.
Cuz once this new fling gets boring ull cheat again cuz that passion that butterfly in ur stomach isnât there anymore.
U need to figure ur self out u need to stop this vicious cycle. Youâre addicted to the adrenaline rush of something new Maybe take up an actual hobby like horses or rock climbing or something that fills that void
You wouldnât have cheated on either one if you really loved them
I hope you donât have kids⌠they donât deserve that messy ass situation and dysfunctional environment⌠you obviously have a serious issue, that you need to work out with a therapistâŚ
In my opinion if u start a relationship based with lies and secrets, it will not last
Donât get married if you donât mean it
smh.
boo⌠listenâŚ
send youâre husband my way, ill love him for you. lmao
An ex is an ex for a reason just saying
They should both destroy your heart instead and leave your playing ass
Isnât he your ex for a reason?