Wt actual f
U sound so full of yourself
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First, Iâd be so happy⊠Itâs so unique and new age, as woman always tend to take the manâs surname⊠Second, theyâre not even married yet and youâre already thinking of them getting divorced? Like you expect their marriage to fail⊠Honestly I donât see the problemâŠ
The only problem is you. Even if they do get divorced and he has children with someone else, âyourâ last name will still live on. What is the last name that your hesitant to give up?
Sounds a little hypocritacal to me. You have no problem with them getting married and her taking his last name but you have a problem with him taking hers? Its also aweful that you would asume they dont work out and him having children with someone else. You need to get over yourself and let them be happy with whichever name they decide
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Literally itâs just a last name itâs not like your family is royal or something. Plus isnât your last name technically your husbands? I donât even see why you have to ask facebook when you already told us the answer. I hope your daughter can understand and forgive you when you tell her no because its YOUR last name. People are so unreal!
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I think you should feel honoredâŠhe has been open with your family about his feelingsâŠhe wants to give his children and YOUR grandchildren a name with meaningâŠwhatâs the problem?
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Iâm pretty sure you werenât born to the last name⊠so why not let him take it, just like women take menâs??? Sounds pretty selfish honestly. If they get divorced, itâs probably your fault 
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Seriously? It should be a no brainer. If he wants to change his name to hers, you should feel honored. Most people want their last name to continue.
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Not really your choice, you should feel blessed he wants to take your last name! Donât be the shitty mother in law that dooms their relationship talking about divorce already 
not a good look!
I donât think its any of your business. The decision
Is between them.
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I would take it as an honor he would want to do that means he feels bonded to your family.
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I have a couple guy friends who have taken their wivesâ last names for similar reasons. I donât really understand what the big deal is. Women have been taking menâs last names foreverâŠlet them do what they want.
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They could both take his motherâs last name, or create a new one for thier own.
Also my husband took my last last name, I think some tradition need to stop being tradition and let each individual choose what is best for them.
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Seriously?? It sounds like you severely need to grow up, you sound so childish itâs actually almost unbelievable, Remember you married into the name as well.
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Really not about
" letting" he can take whatever name he wants. 
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Itâs not up to u in the end. Youâre not the one marrying him. Itâs up to your daughter n him so butt out honestly
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Nice family you are. Wtf
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Am I the only one that wants to know what theyâre last name is? 
âthe last ones in the USA with this last nameâ. Iâm really curious.
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What id like to know is whatâs wrong with the relationship that you are already thinking this isnât forever? Why are you even concerned with him passing this âpreciousâ last name onto kids he wouldnât have with your daughter? Clearly if this is a major concern to you than they may not have any business even getting married?
Should never be a what-if doubt when you are saying yes to marriage, itâs until death do you part better make sure heâs/sheâs your forever.
Just a thought.
Itâs not your decision to make
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It wasnât even your last name to begin with, why should YOU pick and choose who gets the âhonorâ of getting it? lmao. Let the actual couple getting married decide this. The decision isnât even an ounce of yours 
I think that this would be a lovely thing to let him do.
He clearly adores your daughter.
I can see it from your point off view also though. If they were to breakup and he kept your surname it might not be something you would want. But any future half siblings off your future grandchildren, would still be part off their family.
If it was me i would see it as a honor to have a son in law take your families name. Itâs very rare
Wow, I have never understood all this BS with last names. My fiance hates his dad and has his last name but still insists on keeping it. This young man feels more connected to you all and if him and your daughter have children they can carry on your uncommon last name. Iâm sure with his current mindset that your concern is unnecessary but if he were to see this and know it was about him I shudder to think about what this could do the an already fragile and hurt young man.
I believe itâs a minor detailâŠtheyâre getting married!!!
As much as it is a common thing for divorce you shouldnât be thinking that way. Think of it as an honor that he wants it. As far as you are concern they are getting married for a reason so there shouldnât be a reason to think otherwise. If you think that highly of him look at it like a privilege not a what if.
Itâs like youâre already anticipating a divorce. Plus, if you study Anthropology & Sociology, there are a lot of tribes who always take the Maternal name.
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You canât âletâ him do anything. Up to him.
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This is really dumb, let the poor kid take the last name. He feels happy and welcomed into your family, if only he really knew how you felt. In the end itâs just a name and if your daughter would have changed it you wouldnât have had the opportunity to spread such a glorious last name. 
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When entering a marriage, worrying about getting divorced is never a good sign. However, should he take your name and divorce does occur, he can change it to his motherâs maiden last name then⊠if heâs interested in parting with his fatherâs name, I doubt he would desire keeping yours should the marriage sour to divorceâŠ
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Why not suggest when they get married to hyphen the last names with your daughters and his mothers. He dosent have to keep his dads and that way he takes bothâ:thinking:
Itâs not your choice what his last name is lol so I say be grateful your kid has a decent man and mind your business
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Why does it matter? Why did he even have to ask? Did you ask to take your husbands parents to take the last name? Or if you are the fil did your wife ask??
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It really isnât your choice. Anyone can legally change their name to whatever they want it to be if theyâre a legal adult. 
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Wtf?
I would be honored if someone wanted to have our last name
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But wouldnât that carry on the last name you want to protect so much, Lannister?
I wish i knew what your last name is. I canât believe this is a question. Who cares.
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Itâs her last name and should be between them. I wouldnât have involved you. You sound like youâre gonna be a wonderful mil. 
If your husband didnât share his name with you it wouldnât be yours either. Ugh.
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My first thought is âwhy or what is he hiding?â. Or âwhat is in his history?â This would be a red flag to me. Just saying.
Iâd feel honoured that he likes your family enough to want to change his last name.
If your last name is so rare, why wouldnât you want your daughter and grandchildren to carry on the name? Look at it in a more positive light instead of already thinking about them divorcing
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let?!? you are not letting him do anything. itâs really not your choice itâs your daughter and her fiancĂ©âs choice and decision
maybe try not dooming their relationship by dwelling on what will happen if they get divorced and instead keep your mouth closed
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I think he should take on the momâs last name. Honor the woman who brought him into the world. It sounds weird n cold hearted hed want to take someone elseâs last name, total strangers really with this kind of weird attitude like the future in laws. Sounds to me is more like her daughterâs idea. In that case, sheâs controlling n I wouldnât want to be in that family lol.
Not being mean but itâs not your choice itâs none of your business. Take a step back and be supportive of your kid and the life age is building with someone she loves. If it fails oh well and honestly I doubt he would keep the last name of the did divorce.
He sounds like a really great guy that came from less than desirable circumstances. Sounds like he is really trying to make a place in your family. Shame on you for making that difficult for him. I hope he doesnât hear these thoughts. This is a very high and mighty opinion to have. Itâs a name. You should be happy your daughter is with someone that loves her. Next.
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Itâs not your choice anyway⊠Itâs theirs. You canât âletâ them take it or not. They could change their name to Diglehopper for all you know and thereâs nothing you could do.
So my advice would be to say your piece since she did come to you for advice, and then leave it at that. Donât try to force your ideals on her. You gave your opinion, now itâs their choice what they do with the information given. And I hope you support them with whatever they choose, otherwise youâll risk damaging your relationship.
A last name is not worth any sort of turmoil.
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I would feel bloody honored!!! Also, heâs marrying her. Not you. So itâs their choice!
Where does it say you have to let him? People can change their name to whatever they want.
His relationships can help him as a lessons for his life. Nothing to worry about last name. His father is his father. Sooner or later he is going to realize similar personality with him. He will need to be better person than his father for the family. This is a good way for a change. And not to forget about his last name. Good luck to your daughter!
My opinion is that its weird.
He should avoid you at all costs. Monster-in-law! Have a seat lady you donât own a name.
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He can change it back when they get a divorce
Why does a woman have to take the mans last name?
Whatâs wrong with a man taking the womanâs name?
It is a tradition when women were owned by men!
Itâs their decision.
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If the name is rare,sounds like he is trying to preserve that for your family. If they go the "traditional " route, its goneâŠforever.
I donât think you really have a choice⊠theyâre adults & if thatâs what they decide, you have to deal. & honestly - I doubt she came to you for your permission, more so âhey mom! This is what we might do. What do you thinkâ not for you to give her a yes or no answer.
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Seriously, you are already condemning their marriage. I would not want you for a mother in law. Be happy for your daughter and tell her whatever they decide is their choice. Itâs a last name! You should feel great that your grandkids will carry on the name for your family.
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first of all, thereâs no âletâ
you have absolutely no right to make any decisions regarding another person like that. You have no right to tell him what he can call himself. All you can do is choose to be supportive or not. if this is the choice that they are making together, why the f*** wouldnât you support something that makes them happy?
pretty much the rest is completely irrelevant.
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Or he needs to hide his pastâŠ
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Iâm gonna put it this way - you cannot allow or disallow him from doing it. He can legally change it today, no ties to your daughter.
Not to be crass, but Iâm sure your last name isnât that spectacular anyway - it can be rare and still blah. Deflate your head a bit about your last name. Be happy he even wants to associate himself with your family, do a family tree and INCLUDE HIM, and get over it.
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You donât have a choice he can do what he wants Shame on you for acting like he has to have your permission
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I really donât think itâs any of your business. Your not marrying him.
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You should feel honored that he thinks that much of your family.
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My last name is everywhere 
And we are not all related
Wow⊠just wow⊠you should feel honoured
And you shouldnât be looking into their future as if they are not going to work out.
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He can change his last name to his moms if he wants. In the state I live the guy can change his name. Even their first name they can change if they want to. (Since he said he would like his moms last name if he could)
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Why wouldnât you want your name to continue? And if they got divorced he could just change it back or to his motherâs last name⊠Unless you hate him or something??? But like previously stated really he can do what he wants and itâs up to them. Just weird that you even have to think about itâŠ
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You are looking at all the negative possibilities⊠speak positivity into the universe and your daughters marriage.sounds like your family is all he has. He should change his name into his moms or you should accept that he takes your family name.
He should use his motherâs name
ButâŠIsnât your surname technically your husbands? 
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Everyone dies.
Youâre not important.
Be grateful.
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Its not up to you to âallowâ it.
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Sorry but you sound like an Ass
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Would you be asking this question if it was your son who was marrying a woman? I bet you wouldnât. Why is it any different? Grow up, and show this man heâs a part of your family, like he clearly wants to be.
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I was thinking as I read how sweet it was of him. Then I get to the part where you feel your last name is too precious to share with your son in law? Poor guy.
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I wanted to know the authorâs last name. Just curious as the statement says theyâre the last to have that family name
Wow. I wish this was the type of stuff I was stressed about⊠
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Iâm gonna be straight with this, he ISNT close to his dad LET him have your last name if he is comfortable with doing that LET HIM who cares if your last name is the last in the USA he loves your daughter so let them be happy and have him take your last name your name will then live on if they have kids
Your last name more precious than your daughter then ??
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You already sound like a mother in law from hell. Be better!!! Be supportive!!! And your worried about a divorce. These kids are gonna need all the help they can get if this is what theyâre dealing with!
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I highly doubt you have such an uncommon last name that you wouldnât know others who have it.
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You want your grandchildren have some random last name that no one likes, rather than your own? Yikes.
Maybe Iâm being mean but I wouldnât want to do it . It just doesnât sound right somehow .
But how come they are planning their marriage and life together, and you are giving a possibility not only for divorce, but him to have a whole new family with someone else. When my moms boyfriend said something about divorce when my fiancĂ© at the time and I were planning the wedding, he wasnât allowed to come back over for years. Donât rain on their parade.
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