I’m betting that you don’t like him as much as you say if you’re already worried about divorce. I can’t imagine ever giving a single shit. Sounds very selfish of you honestly.
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Wow. Lots of anger issues on this feed. Sounds like her opinion was asked.
Why doesn’t your daughter and her fiancée choose a last name they both would like together. Start their own tribe of Potters or such. Have fun with it. I would have if I’d thought of it.
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Their last name is the least of their problems!
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Wtf. Why would you feel that way about him taking your family last name? Wow. I hope he doesn’t know you feel this way about him. Poor guy, he is obviously proud to belong to your family, and here you are worried about their future non-existent DIVORSE?? Get a grip lady.
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I think it’s thoughtful that the kids consider your feelings on the topic. They obviously care how you feel about it and I understand being hesitant. Personally, I would let them decide what makes them most comfortable since he’ll be the one transitioning. If you already like him, I don’t see a problem🙂
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Damn, I was thinking that’s pretty sweet of him… An then the reason why you are worried is something I wasn’t expecting… umm, well if you’re that concerned. I guess say no. I think it’s sweet he wants to do that an ask you first… (think about that).
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Wow I’m glad my soon to in laws aren’t as full of them selves as you are🙄 maybe you should reread your post and take a good look in the mirror cause hun, I hate to break it to you but everyone’s sh*t stinks, including yours. Your name isn’t important. It’s their love for each other, stay out of it and be honored he wants to take your name.
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It really isn’t up to you .its up to your daughter & her fiancé …
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Does seem alittle weird he wouldnt just change it to his mothers…but be honoured I guess??
These responses are the best.
Its between them not you as her mum! If they old enough to get married,they are old enough to make their own decisions,let go of the apron strings & just be grateful he makes her happy.
I mean if they got a divorce he could change his name again I don’t see why it’s a big deal. If you where royalty in the Victorian era it would be another story but bloodlines, lineage, and names don’t really matter one bit these days.
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Why is this a question?! This is between the bride and groom 
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I mean, is it really YOUR CHOICE? Js
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I’m curious as to what your last name is?
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For real? Read that back to yourself a couple of times and lmk if you hear how you sound…
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Lol it may be your last name, but he really doesn’t need your permission. You can’t “LET HIM” do nothing.
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Theyre not even married yet and you are already thinking divorce smh, great support system.
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Think about how much he must love you and your daughter to want your last name. It means he counts you as a family.
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Wtf is their last name?
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Jfc. Imagine being this pressed about something so arbitrary and none of your business.
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You do realize that literally Anybody can change their name to whatever they want.
Also, any grandchildren from their marriage will have your “ special” last name too.
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I am sure someone else has said this but I wasn’t going to read through every comment…the MIL took the “family name” same thing could have happened divorced and having kids with someone else who could still have her former husbands name…she shouldn’t get to decide who gets the last name she wasn’t born into that family! Plus, I guarantee you that you might be the last of your family tree branch but there are likely many other obscure family members who will pass their name onto anyone they please. Besides like William says, “what’s in a name?” Doesn’t give you anything more than the next person, as the future bride my old concern would be that people think that you married within your own family but that is easily explained and for those in the know, a lot of men have decided to do this for whatever reason they have family trauma, enthusiasm for their wife’s family, etc…
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Not up to you. Up to them. If my mom thought itbwas her choice id fall over laughing.
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were his parents divorced? Did his mother if they were divorced, keep her married name due to children in school?
I’d hate to have you as a MIL you sound like a real piece of work 
He doesn’t need you or anyone to “let him” change his name he can legally change it to whatever he wants you should be honoured or proud he’d want to take on your surname as he feels like you’s are family too him more than his own blood and the fact you are already thinking of divorce when they’re not married yet is an all time low!
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You are evil 
you’re already talking about them getting divorced. You are the only family he has. Shame on you!
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Plus didn’t you TAKE this last name from your husband 
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Me and my 2 sisters arenthe last of out line. No brothers to carry on our last name. Gutierrez. And if my man( where ever he is) or my 5 daughter’s husbands fiancee of bf. Want to take my last name… It will be an honor as now the name will live on thru my grandchildren and forward. A name is just a name. You should be proud he loves your daughter so much to want to feel like a family and take your last name. I hope your daughter and him chose to do it! Amen
You need to get over your self. Just be glad he asked you, they really didn’t have to.
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They asked bc they were being polite and thought youd say yes. Not take it an run w it like you’re the Queen of the family.
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wow this is a joke right
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You can’t be serious. Like at all
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Seriously?? Just say yes already!! If the guy doesn’t want to use his last name because of whatever reason and has asked to use your last name and you all “like” him then what’s the problem?? The way I see it your daughter and him did have to ask for your blessing with it and could’ve just gone ahead and done it.
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They’re already planning for the divorce
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I would be honored if my future son in law wanted my horrible last name! I have a rare last name too 
don’t feel special. Be grateful he even asked to behind with!
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I mean, if they get divorced, he would take his own last name back? But what does it even matter?! They were respectful enough to ask you, and even though you’re acting like a total asshat over it, I’d still do it. No matter what you had to say about it.
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Already doubtful of the relationship before the marriage, omg , and the fact the daughter asked is considerate, but , up to them,
Y’all its really not that serious that y’all have to be rude to the OP…
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Well with already saying if they get divorced is not supporting them as a couple. You are already putting doubt in thier relationship. That’s not fare. And if your last name is so special why would you want your daughter to change hers to his last name? You should be honored that he wants to take her last name. That means he respects her as a women and is not a sexest male. Its just a name. Hes not asking for your blood. And honestly its not up to you. Its up to him and you’re daughter. And if your so worried about “if they get divorced” ask him that if that happens to take back his name. Simple as that. Your making a bigger deal out of it.
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You should feel honored that he feels close enough to you to ask that of you. And when they have children they will have YOUR last name which will carry on YOUR family name. So what is the real issue here? That’s just plain selfishness. It’s really none of your business what goes on between your daughter and her husband. He did the honorable thing and asked permission I would be honored not worried about then getting a divorce. That just says you have no faith in their relationship.
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Wow
As if it belongs to her.
You do realize its also ur daughters last name…she has just as much right to it as you…
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I’d be reevaluating my priorities if I were you. Honestly, this sounds pretty narcissistic and very unmotherly.
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Just in case this is an actual question…yes, you should.
Surely if theyre getting married he is now her fiance and not bf? Secondly, its not up to you to allow it surely, its their choice.
Make it a double barrel surname
I wouldn’t have a problem with him taking her last name. Yes he could take his mother’s name before they get married but that isn’t cheap. And if you are the last family to carry the name then heck yeah I would let him that way the name will live on longer.
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Wow if i was him I’d have second thoughts about have you as an in-law… I mean damn, conceited much… We are the last ones in American with this last name give me a break… Out of over 300+ MILLION Americans you expect people to believe that… Also your already talking about them getting divorced and they aren’t even married yet! I think if he descides to go ahead and marry your daughter after this they should move as far away from you as humanly possible, then maybe they might have a chance to be happy… You are a very selfish person…
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I’m alone here but I understand. I think its sweet.
He is honoring you by asking for your last name.
If he gets remarried later he will probably take that wife’s last name… I see no issues
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I have no opion. I honestly just want to know what the last name is now 
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In all honesty, that is weird to me. Since he’s not close to his father, he could choose his mother’s maiden name, or her mother’s maiden name, or his great-grandmother’s maiden name. There are plenty of last names in his bloodline to choose from.
Are you kidding? In what world would you even have a say in this? They are adults and its nice she asked but you don’t really have a dog in this fight so to speak.
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If the get divorced his new kids can’t have your last name!! So you wanna know other people have your very unique last name. So it dies with your life line. Okay tell your daughter that
I think it’s totally fine if that’s what they want. The what if’s? It’s no different than what you’re asking of him.
So like if you had a son instead of a daughter… were you just gunna be like bitch keep ya own name. Honestly depending on your family, with that attitude your family name is gunna die out real fast. Can’t garentee you’ll always have a male in the family to pass it down…
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It’s not really up to you what name he takes. You don’t own the name.
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Not your choice so just stop
I think we should all see the possible options and vote on it.
You took your husband’s name. It’s not yours to begin with
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You know if they ever were to get divorced she could put in the divorce papers that he has to change his name back.
Again both parties would have to agree would probably come down to something stupid like you can keep the lake house if I get to keep my name 
but its totally a bridge y’all could cross when and IF they divorce
ANYONE can legally change their name to whatever they want, whenever they want to. Your name isn’t as significant as you think it is.
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I doubt your family are the last to have a surname in America lol
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Coveting a surname!!
With that attitude I wouldn’t want your last name. How controlling.
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If they get divorced he will go back to his old name r u sure u all like him seems abit odd the way u r acting i should be honoured! And with ur daughter keeping ur name as the only family with that name left she will be carrying on ur name!
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There is no ‘let’ about it. It isn’t your decision, and the name does not belong to you.
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I wanna know what the last name is lol
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The way I see it is you took your husbands name your daughter was born with it. She has more right than you. This shouldn’t even be asked. It’s not upto you.
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I got a suggestion let them combine their names then they both get a new name. Dang this post is lacking intelligence🤦
Ummm it’s just a last name…
he could change it to that without even marrying your daughter. Also, I’m a little worried your already thinking about them divorcing and they haven’t even married yet…
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Shit with your attitude, I’d leave your daughter behind. You don’t own a name lmao and I highly doubt y’all are the last ones with it 
you don’t have a choice. It’s not up to you, Karen.
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I would think you would want your daughter to keep her last name especially where you say there are few. If she has a boy with this man the name will go on. Besides it’s not up too you and you should be honored that he thinks that much of your family to take your last name instead of his own mother’s maiden name. But out of their stuff or you will loose out in the long run.
I mean… it’s not really your choice…
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Of all the things in the world to be worried about rn i cannot believe someone is caught up on this. how weird
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Because of his situation with his mum passing and not getting on with his dad, if it was my future son in law and he wanted to have our last name I’d think it a privilege and be happy by it! Obviously he wants to feel part of the family.
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Uhm I dont see it as an issue. I know a guy who take his wife’s last name. He didn’t have family ties.
Soooo your already thinking that they will get divorced… Doesn’t sound like you really believe in their relationship. Plus, most people who get divorced change their name back
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My ex did this, lied to his wife about having a family at all. Lied about having a daughter and lied about his entire past. I would investigate a little more and make sure what he is saying is true. My ex fooled his wife for over a year. And even tried to deny it after she was shown proof…
If that is not the case, then I think you should let him do it. They can carry on the family name for you. That is an honor.
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My ex changed his name to my maiden name and now he’s married with a child and they too have my maiden name. Makes it hard to track down on geneology. I regret it…
Let him ? You can’t stop him lol
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I’m sorry but I highly doubt y’all are the only one in the US that has the last name you do. So yeah let him take the name
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Why do you have a say in what they do as a married couple is my question
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It’s just a name. You don’t own it. Instead of planning their divorce, why not help plan their new life together? Oh and be happy. Have a feeling with that stick up your butt that’s probably hard to do.
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What an honor does it matter its the person who choose your daughter honorable young man
This seems like a very silly concern! I would be honored if my daughter’s husband wanted to take our family’s last name. Why would you not want to carry on the last name if it’s close to being gone? I always wanted to carry on my father’s last name.
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Bit stupid of you tbh it’s a name you dont even need to marry someone to take their name lol. You should be happy and proud. My husband hasnt got any contact with any of his family we have been together 11 years with 2 children. He was going to take my name when we got married but I couldn’t be bothered to deal with the hassle of changing our sons name so I just took his. It’s a name it doesnt matter what they choose. X
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It sounds to me he just wants to be part of a family bless him , part of something he hasn’t currently got. I would personally see this as a compliment he wants to be part of your guys family. In a way it’s also good cause if they have children together they will all share your name x
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Hyphenate his surname with both his and yours OR let him take yours, i mean if he gets a new partner and has kids she should feel akward giving their child his ex’s last name 
If it bothers you that much, just tell him to change it to his mums lastname or even give himself a whole new last name like Kardashian or something lol 
Goodluck 
I cant beleive you have the ordacity to ask something like this. If i was him i wouldve run as far as i could from your lastname possible.
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Im actually so glad im not a spiteful women that could say something like this.
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Don’t get married dumbest thing I ever did
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I think your being silly but that is just me
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Unless you’re some kind of royalty I don’t think he will tarnish the name .
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My son took his wife’s name. His dad was abusive and he wanted to .do something to show the abuse started stopped with him.
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- It’s not your choice.
- You don’t own the last name.
- Get over yourself.
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I think youre being alittle crazy over the name. I think its cute he would rather change his name because he would rther be apart of your family entirely. Your grandchildren will also support this uncommon last in the US family name. I think its lovely. Relax. its a name- unless youre royality or somehting.
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When my granddaughter got married her husband took her last name, it works for them and us