Darling he is not worth your time or heart ache it’s obviously annoying you, and he doesn’t care🙄
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Don’t get engaged to him for one. 2, you don’t plan engagements. Men plan them on their own out of a powerful desire to never be with anyone else ever again. And they don’t need to talk about it. They either want to or you beg them to and they resent you for it and you lead a miserable life with them until you finally split. Wait for the man meant for you and let the world have that boy
Leave the female alone. She does not care that y’all are getting engaged or whatever. If he didn’t tell her that why should you. You need to check your man and not another female. This relationship sounds doomed. He literally had to go outside of the relationship to feel heard and companionship, clearly telling you that you don’t communicate with him and the conversations you do have are only about you. And not only do you seem ok with that, you skip right to correcting the female in this scenario. You need to correct yourself.
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She’s not the problem. Your relationship is. People should marry their best friend, someone who they can talk to about anything without fear of judgment. Love and passion are not the only ingredients needed to make a marriage work. And nothing against you, but it doesn’t seem that you are his best friend if he needs another woman to talk to. You both deserve a happy life and I don’t see that happening if you two marry. Good luck!
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Message the girl ? Nahhhhh. Don’t do that to yourself.
Dump the dude and keep it moving. If they can’t appreciate you the first time , they probably never will.
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First off people don’t talk aboit getting engaged you either do or you dont. His just teeling you whatevwr it is that he has to so you dont split but if he wanted to bw engaged there wouldnt be a conversation about it he would of just asked you the question. Second id he was just wanting to talk to someone about interest he has a male fri3nd would of been just fine for that. He wanra to or already has cheated hinta uaing the tinder app at all amd messaging other women. You must be supporting him with money something he can’t provide for hisself or i would think he wouldn’t juat keep stringing you along
Maybe he should join a book club instead of tinder? You answered your own questions. You know what to do.
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Really? He’s on Tinder and messaging someone , and you still think getting engaged to him is a good idea? Go get yourself a life and dump this guy who is laughing at you
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How about working on the communication problem you clearly addressed? 
he blatantly tells you the problem and here you are wondering what to do
Yeah …don’t marry that guy
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Tricia Carew is exactly right shes my sister. A man is very primal, he will either fight to the death to keep you and make you happy or they wander around til that fire burns in them for the other person. If he needs to talk to other people cause yall don’t communicate instead of saying hey we have to work on communicating then he doesn’t truly love you. You absolutely need to know your self worth and know if you can tolerate him talking g to others some women don’t care and their relationships are fine, me, nope I want my man to myself altho he makes an effort to now make male friends
Momma, don’t stay in this situation. He should be trying to work on communication with YOU! OR find guy friends. There’s literally no reason for him to be finding chicks on tinder…a dating app… to confide in. Seek counseling for your issues or leave. You’re going to constantly be worrying about if he’s cheating, what they’re talking about, etc. don’t live that miserable live!
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He’s a narcissist and you are a victim…Run! He will never marry you, narcissist use you as a supply and when you run out of the “fun” and become boring, they start talking to a new supply and blame you for not communicating.
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Take it up with your “ man”.
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That is an emotional affair and it will lead to a physical relationship if not stopped. An affair starts with talking. If you two don’t have good enough communication for him then that’s a huge red flag. Don’t get engaged.
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Girl leave that man.
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Ummmm 
NO this is a huge red flag all around you need to stop 
right here and think. He’s wanting to have an emotional affair and it’s not ok
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Umm then he could talk to other friends … preferably not on a dating/ hook up app… or he could talk to dudes on tinder if its " just for friendship " he’s basically saying your not enough so run fast you deserve better.
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I see you’ve had 1,000 comments. Need I say more?
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He’s on tinder.
U weren’t engaged and aren’t gonna be engaged. How’s this not clear?
He’s making so many excuses that he doesn’t see u as the one for him or even trying to make it work in this relationship. He’s started a new relationship with someone else.
Don’t message her… it will be like forcing it and kinda pathetic. Unless ur telling her ur leaving him and she should know he’s playing her too.
He sounds so dumb and also so done.
It’s actually so sad he’s treating u this way and ur still trying to keep him rather than throw him away. U need to treat urself as valuable and love urself before anyone else can. Cuz if you did , u wouldn’t be asking what to do. U would’ve already dumped him and moved on. The problem is loving him more than he loves u and u giving more will not stop him from doing his secret / not secret tinder dates anyway. Cuz he’s not the one for u.
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Why would you message this person? They aren’t in a relationship with you. You should be asking him why he’s messaging someone on tinder when he’s engaged. Sounds like a whole lot of red flags to me.
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You talk to a therapist, not a rando on tinder.
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What a looser. Get rid off him.
Relationship should mean he doesn’t have Tinder, a notorious hook-up app…. 
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why on earth would you message the other person
He made the account
He is the one in the wrong
Break up immediately, maybe see a therapist, find yourself
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Girl just leave. It’s not the woman’s fault it’s your fiancés for being a cheating loser. Take time to love yourself again hun. I’m sorry your going through this. Keep your crown up 
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Umm what… he’s asking for an open relationship other wise. Accept that or move on
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Why do you want to stick around? He’s cheating none the less even if it’s not physical.
Tinder is not the place for people already in relationships to meet new friends. His choice to seek conversation - with other women - here is unlikely to have been an accident.
He should work on communicating with you instead going elsewhere. He is replacing you.
Yes u should be pissed just because your relationship may need work witch alot of poeples does not give him the right to entain or be entertained by another freaking woman
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So many warning bells are going off in her post. Why put your self through that. If he is not 100% committed to you and only you your only cheating yourself
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Why would you message her she’s innocent. I’d be thinking twice about getting engaged
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If he needed someone to talk to, Tinder is the last place you look.
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The comma is put immediately after a word, then a space.
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He shouldn’t need Tinder to find someone to talk to about his “interests”. Sounds like he is looking for your future sister wife.
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I’d leave him and realise your worth more than that. It’s not her it’s him
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Not good enough! Someone who is wanting to spend the rest of their life from you, doesn’t talk to other women on a dating site.
Don’t get engaged, I would even have a break from him until he actually commits. 
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Girl. No. Lol… just no.
Why are you there he will cheat and you guys are not right together
You message her. Inform her and dump him. Focus on yourself and don’t take that nonsense. That is bullcrap.
My man messages someone on tinder? Yeah no not even in his dreams.
You maintain this engagement you will be hurt in the end. Promise. Because he doesn’t respect you in the slightest
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He should be letting her know what’s good with you and him for one… Two: Not “someone to tlk to you” that’s ignorant… he should talk to his friends, dudes. Or to you maybe!! Cross them Ts and dot the I’s before you think about getting engaged. It sounds like a set up excuse no matter anyway you slice it
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If he wants to talk to someone tinder is not the place to do it. You two need to work on your communication skills before you ever get engaged. If you cant talk to each other, you shouldnt be together bc that is not a relationship.
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If he’s looking elsewhere, it won’t last. Message them explain, then tell him and leave him
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No. Message your boyfriend and tell him to take a hike. Why is he on tinder in the first place. Duhhh!!!
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This is either bs, or a kid.
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His reason for talking to other women is absolutely ridiculous and he might not be cheating now but he sounds like he’s getting ready to a man that’s in a relationship doesn’t have any business being on Facebook talking to other women just like you wouldn’t have any business talking to any other men on Facebook it’s different if you’re already friends it just seems like you’re in big trouble the no talking issue the hiding things it’s just recipe for disaster
About to be engaged… please think about that statement alone… if things have been rocky going up and down and he’s reaching out to other females for the sake of communication because he feels he doesn’t have it with you, you really think yall are going to be happily engaged in the near future let alone married?! Why the hell would you even want to knowing you are not satisfying a basic human need in a relationship? Not siding with one or the other but just crazy to me that you would even want to say something like that…
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No no. You leave HIM.
Don’t get engaged to a man who can’t speak to you about what’s going on in his head.
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No, you shouldn’t message them. If you don’t trust him, you shouldn’t marry him. On the other hand, if he can’t talk to you, he shouldn’t marry you. Sounds like you should both just move on and find your soulmates.
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Okay but he can literally go on reddit or Facebook or Instagram and “talk” to people. Tinder is not the place. Get your head out of the sand. He thinks you’re stupid.
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Honey you leave and find a man who wouldn’t want to talk to anyone but you. He doesn’t respect you.
Lying, gaslighting, outrageous excuses… it will only get worse 5, 10 years down the road.
If you want divorce in your future, keep on the path that you are on.
Kids also make it harder.
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If he cheats now he will also cheat then. He could have talked to you and maybe tried counseling. Take your 
and leave before you have a:broken_heart:Jussayn
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You’re kidding, right?
Hes playing you for a fool. No reason for you to marry him
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Girl, come on. If he is 100% devoted to you and only you then he wouldn’t be talking to any other female even if it was to be friends. If I can’t talk to my husband about our own problems then I would have never gotten married. Yall should try counseling bc I promise you if he can’t talk to you now, it won’t get better. And this chick on the side- over my cold dead body. Hell no-- I would nip that shit in the bud.
getting engaged is not going to fix those problems
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Wow…what makes u think ur engagement is going to be good, then marriage??? Oi. Girl just leave. U will be much better off.
Men has 2 head they usually follow the one with out a brain
Do not message her… It isn’t her fault that he feels he can’t talk to you… You should leave him… It’s obvious that he can’t communicate with you otherwise he’d be talking to you not someone else…
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Oh my. Girl. What? No. You’re asking because you already know that’s sketchy af. No man of mine is about to message random women. Period. (female friends he had already is one thing if it’s appropriate) leave that loser. He’s getting ready to cheat, you’re the only one getting engaged.
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To the curb with him!
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I’m wondering why he feels like he can’t talk to you.
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Want to marry and tinder profile … like can men just want 1 thing 
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Uhhh…you leave. Lol there’s plenty of people to talk to outside of tinder
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She is not the issue he is the issue She doesn’t owe you anything. he should not be talking to other women if he wants to get engaged. He is basically telling you without telling you that he wants to see other people. Hes emotionally cheating on you is this what you want to marry and deal with for the rest of your life? You know deep down that he doesn’t just want to talk to these women, he wants more than that. If it was me I would tell him I do not want to be engaged To you or in a relationship if you are talking to other women on tinder. tinder isn’t Something you go on to just to talk to people, we all know what tinder is for. You know what you have to do, time to put your foot down.
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You should just call it quits now. Honestly if he isn’t happy now, putting a ring on it and making it legal isn’t going to make it better. It is on him that he made that account and on him that he messaged her. He will do it again.
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If he’s on Tinder, he’s not emotionally invested in your relationship
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Fuck that ! Y would u msg the girl !?this on your man , id leave
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Cause tinder’s the only or best place to make friends that’s like going to a brothel and say oh I only want want to stand at the door and chat to the girls to be friends with them it’s not like I’m entering, paying or have any bad intentions with it. I mean they can say it all they want but the cops will still arrest them because it’s still crossing the line. Don’t be just like him and cross the line.
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Immediately no. Leave.
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Nope. Just dump his ass
Yeah he’s cheating on you, or will. Fuck him off now
Kick him to the curb.
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Why would your fiance have a tinder?
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Kick his cheating ass out. Talk grows quick
Is his name Jason? I was with a guy who I found was on dating sites ect and tried to say it was for the banter. Someone to chat with
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Walk away now…better yet RUN!!! if that was the case there’s a million groups on fb where people can make friends with similar interest & talk. He’s being shady & marrying him would be a huge mistake. GUYS GO ON TINDER FOR DATES & SEX. Read that again.
Does he not know that people can have… friends?
I would make sure that he wants to communicate with you first. If he doesn’t then he’s not ready to date you or marry you.
It’s basically his call. Either get married or bye bye.
Fiance? Why is he on tinder TO BEGIN W
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This is a slippery slope. He could be telling the truth and just wants someone to talk to, but what I got out of this is he wants someone to talk to about his “kinks”, that you aren’t interested in. That’s a slow and steady way to get cheated on. Maybe I’m reading too much into it, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable if my fiancé even HAD Tinder. 
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Sounds light gas lighting to me. Follow your instincts. Do what will bring you peace
Just one question. Why does he have tinder?
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Oh you poor naive soul. #1. He IS physically cheating on you. #2. HE is the one on tinder seeking out other chicks. Why would you harass the chick that YOUR boyfriend is trying to hook up with? I honestly think you need therapy. Therapy is a great tool that can help you recognize your toxic behaviors.
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Leave her alone.
Dont get engaged to this person.
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He definitely IS cheating on you.
Tinder is for dating, not making friends.
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He can get a therapist lmao tinder common this is a joke right you can’t be so gullible
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Idk what you should do but I do know you SHOULD NOT be considering marrying this person.
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He’s entertaining it, run now
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