I would tell her then divorce him, not only is he lying to you but to her
Na give him what he wants and do the divorce so she can have your sloppy seconds.
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If he’s telling her that he’s getting divorced, then he may not be as very married as you think. He may be getting his ducks in a row. See a family law attorney and start getting yours in a row as well.
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I would confront your husband as he is lying to you both, giving her false hope that he will be hers and hiding it from you… maybe give him that divorce cause he clearly doesn’t give a crap about you or anyone else but himself and his own need. Wants the best of both worlds with his cake and eat it too. Kick him to the curb
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Nope. I would give him the divorce he says he’s in. 
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I would send her a message and give him the divorce!
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Nope let her have him
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Eeesh. Honey, the woman isn’t the problem here. Why is your husband lying about his relationship status not the issue in your eyes? Do yourself a favor and “fulfill his fantasies”, he obviously wishes he was divorced anyways. Gather the evidence and take him to the cleaners.
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Invite her to dinner from his phone and let him explain when his face turns red
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Yea, that should be enlightening.
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No, I would not. Address your husband. Personally, I couldn’t tolerate this. I would file for divorce.
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Personally, I would leave his lying, cheating ass and then let her know that he’s a lying cheating p.o.s so that if she wants him at least she was warned. But what I would NOT DO is stay to be cheated on. That’s just me though…
Besides, say you tell this woman he’s married and to back off, that’s still not going to stop your husband from going to the next woman and doing the same thing? Do you really want to settle for a lying, cheating spouse? You’re worth more!!
Take time to plan things out before approaching him with a divorce. Like make sure you have a place, money and cover your end, once you do. When he goes to work, pack him clothes. Make sure when he comes home, you cooked him dinner, absolutely make yourself look amazing like the first time he met you like wow him and then once he’s in a great mood, give that piece of shit the divorce papers and say you know everything and kick him out with the clothes you packed lol … I think I thought this out way to much 
hope you find a solution… definitely deal with hubby first, wouldn’t talk to this woman it’s not her fault your hubby is lying about you.
Why message her when your husband is the one messing up??? Get a divorce and move on.
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I’d be talking to him, not her. Shes none the wiser. He on the other hand should know better.
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This is what I should have done the first time. Get all the evidence, then go file. Screenshot everything you find. Then take your kids and go. It’ll save you a lot of heartache down the road.
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File for divorce and tell her what a liar he is so she won’t be the next victim
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Not gonna lie. If my husband did that I’d file for divorce and make his lies the truth 
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You are married to your husband, not to this other woman you need to tell him to back off, that is if you want to stay married to him?
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Take all your children,go knock on her door an tell her , you are looking for your husband and you need some money, for Juniors braces 4000,00 dollars.
You should probably tell your husband not to talk to her and Keep it in his pants. If he is telling her that he’s divorcing what fault does she have?
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Why do women do this and think it’s the other woman’s fault? She thinks your husband is divorcing you so duh she’s going to talk. Backing off isn’t going to solve anything. This isn’t a problem with her… it’s a problem with him. You should probably divorce him.
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I would just leave your pos husband I doubt this will stop them talking and if it does what makes you think he won’t find another woman
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Tell him to takea hike.
Your husband is your problem. He is the one lying.
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Go to him first and then after speak to her. But I would approach her as a fellow woman who was lied to by the same man as you.
How do you know what he’s telling her unless you’ve already talked to her?
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I’d just file for divorce because all he’s gonna do is tell her you’re lying and not accepting that it’s over. He’s the one that you need to deal with. Even if she does back off he’ll just find someone else to cheat with
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Nope. Drop him instead though.
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Ask your husband when you will be served with the papers.
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Nope I’d give him a divorce and get on with my life! Value yourself. He doesnt
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I would tell her to back off and I wouldn’t be nice about it she would be in fear for her life by the time I got through with her . My husband would “see the Bright Light” at the end of the tunnel too and would reform before he was “called home” .
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I would want to no from another women if guy I was seeing is really married
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I’d be too busy packing to have time to message anyone…
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Yeah I would confront them both
I would messaged her to let her know he is very married but won’t be for long. Why would you even want to claim a disrespectful boy like this?
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I would say he isn’t very committed to the marriage… no need to tell her. She already knows.
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I’m so sorry you are going thru this. I’d message. Let her know nicely that he is not mid divorce. However, you may want to consider an actual divorce as he is clearly not a good husband.
I messaged the internet side piece of my ex, he actually got mad at me for upsetting her. That’s a huge red flag lol.
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Tell her that he has been lying to her. Then when she dumps him you divorce him.
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Tell her if he cheats with her he will cheat on her
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Nope…your issue is with your husband.
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If it’s not her it’ll just be another one he’s a runner get rid of him
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Nope… if that’s what he is saying then he ain’t worth keeping get rid of him
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I would confront her then tell him to go find another bed to sleep in.
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This falls on your husband. He shouldn’t be telling her y’all are divorced if that’s not the case….
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Back off? Hell I would message her telling her to come get her man out of your house lol
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If you actually are not in the middle of divorce, i would tell her, and if the affair continues I would definitely send him o. His way. A woman that has an affair with a married man after she finds out he is still married is not much of a woman, she is a desperate tramp
And he is no better. You have to make your own decision
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I would message her so she knows he’s a liar and then I would take my kids and divorce him. 
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Tell HIM to back off
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Nope sounds like he’s going to cheat regardless. Leave duh
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Confronting them does nothing. Men will cheat if they want regardless
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I feel as girl code you should tell her. Then divorce his ass.
Um what? He told you all that and you still want him? Yuck.
If anyone is to blame it’s your husband he knows everything that’s going on she doesn’t. I’d be looking for a way out if I were you. He can never be trusted
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I’d tell him I hope she’s got room for him in her bed permanently because he’s no longer welcome in yours.
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Heck no. Let her have him. Take screenshots of their messages and use them against him in the divorce. Why stay with a man who wants to play?!
Remember she has no loyalty to you, regardless of what he’s told her. He’s the one that should be held accountable. He’s the one “committed” to you.
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If he is not already having an affair he will very soon.
U need to leave him now
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Hmmm if he says your in a divorce then divorce him
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All those messages can be retrieved from a phone if need be in a court of law. Just in case you need to be reminded. Should you decide to message her, be careful what you say and how you state things.
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I would talk to my husband and tell him to back off in a not so nice way.
If he’s telling her that y’all are getting divorced then I guess you are kick him out and go file for a divorce
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I would take screen shots and see a lawyer f at aright away. His ass would be divorce by the end of the week.
I’ve gone through this with my husband of eight years with the same woman married him again after I divorced him for cheating on me with her I am now in the process of divorcing him again for seeing her they have not ever stop communicating
I’m done believing him and I told her when I first found out he was lying to her an she needs to leave us alone
she said any man can have a friend an she wasn’t going to not be his friend because I didn’t like it! I can’t get this whore out of my life unless get rid of my husband too so I am! They never stopped just got better at hiding it RUN NOW!
If he’s been telling her he is in the process of a divorce, then by all means make sure that happens. You don’t want to make him out to be a liar do you?
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Why? He’s the problem, not her! There would only be another one down the road if you were to convince this one to leave him alone! You can’t trust someone like this! You need to get far away from him!
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What makes you think he’s lying to her. Maybe he is in a process of divorcing you. He will tell you once he’s ready to tell you
Tell him it is time to make the divorce official.
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Your husband is the problem.
Why do women stay with POS men like this? Yes the woman’s in the wrong in her part but YOUR HUSBAND is the one who has destroyed your marriage! Leave, block him from everything, and act like she’s was never born
you have a husband issue. she doesn’t owe you anything.
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You are worth so much more then this!!!
It takes 2 to Tango, why confront her? He is the one doing you wrong. 
If he wants to be divorced, then maybe he should be.