Ummm… message her to tell her she can have him. And message him to let him know you’ve changed the locks! 
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I would. Let her know that her cheater is a cheater.
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No, I’ve been down that road, and speaking from experience, if your partner is shitty enough to do that to you and the person they’re talking to is shitty enough to know about you and still entertain your s.o. (“getting divorced” is not currently single imo) then leave and let them have each other.
For what? Just file the divorce yourself and leave his sorry ass.
I’d be telling him get the divorce started. I wouldn’t want to be with someone like that.
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oh yeah for sure I would let her know
Nope I’d collect my evidence and file for divorce
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Um no, you should however confront your hubby…she has no clue what the truth is so shes not really at fault. He invited her into his life, hes the fault…start there.
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This cannot be real, SERIOUSLY!!!
My daughters dad did this with his now fiancé. He told her that we decided we were better off as friends. I didn’t know for months about what he was doing because he was saying he was doing Uber but driving 5 hours away to go see her in another state.
I would confront him 
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Or you can just get rid of the husband. Because once you tell her to back off, he will just find another to replace her.
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She didn’t make a commitment to you- he did. Ditch him! 
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She is being lied to by him. You need to address the issue with your husband and if he loves you he will end his relationship and be faithful to you. The other woman is not to blame.
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Tell her but also tell him to sling his 
hook.
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I’d ask her to call u
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She won’t back off, he’s opened the door and let her in.
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Nope, I’d make his lies a reality and file.
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No. I wouldn’t bother with her. What’s there to tell if she already knows about you? Let her have your husband. Your husband vowed that hed be faithful and loyal to you. Not the other woman he’s seeing. You deserve better.
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I would be having a word with him… as your kicking him out the door 
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Do whatever you want as long as you give your husband that same energy because he is acting single girl
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I’d kindly tell her he’s married, then I’d tell HIM he can enjoy the single life all he wants now.
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Yes but, keep in mind she didn’t marry you. He did. He needs to back off. He needs to stop. He needs to treat you right. He owes you that. She owes you nothing. Praying for you!
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I’d give him his story as a gift of reality and tell her. But I wouldn’t be telling her to back off; I’d be telling her she wins she can have him!
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I’d let her know that while you were still together in what you thought was a faithful marriage till you saw their messages that he is now single and going through a divorce seeing as he’d a cheating pos and serve him the divorce papers. Don’t lower your self to stay with a cheat he won’t change he will just hide it better in future
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I’d file for divorce myself. What a dirtbag.
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Um no. Say goodbye to the husband, make his wish come true.
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This is a situation between you and your husband and not you and the other lady!
The other lady is just going on the information your husband is telling her and if he is lying it’s not the other ladies fault!!
You need to sit down with your husband and discuss the lies and divorce with him!
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No… It’s your husband you need to talk to … not her
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Its not her fault your husbands ok with cheating, id let her know the situation then id call him out and tell him exactly what youve done then tell him to be on his way so hes free to screw around freely
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Why do women always get mad at the other woman and not the husband… as far as I’m concerned, she’s single and can do what she wants whether that’s talk to a married man or not. It’s HIS fault that he can’t abide by his vows, not hers. Am I the only one who sees it this way??
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DEFINITELY say something to BOTH of them! Then file.
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Don’t tell her tell ur man he’s the one who allowed her in.
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Yes. Then post screen shots. Please.
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Alot of anger will eventually show up in you… with both of them… never know what your capable of if you see them in person… just go… let them be…
Yes, let her know. So she knows the truth since he lying to her.
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I would let her know and then let your husband know you want a divorce and since that’s what he’s been saying anyway it shouldn’t be a shock.
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I’d let him have the divorce
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Yeh I would but I would also end it with but you can have him and kick his ass out
Message her and say you can have him because queen you deserve so much better xx
He needs dumping before you leave it to late!
Back off what? This marriage only you’re in? Idky you would reach out to her and not speak to him. This isn’t the first time and it won’t be the last. You can attempt to lie to yourself and say this is different situation than other people but it’s not. Leave him 
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Let her know then pack his bags
No I would be messaging her telling her she better get his bed ready because he’s her problem now 
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Time to get smart and move him on
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Probably best to have the conversation with your husband.
You need to message your husband and tell him he’s very married
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I’d give her the honest truth, then let her know he is all hers. After filing for divorce earlier that morning.
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If you’re going to tell her so she doesn’t continue on and get her heart broken, yes.
If you’re doing it out of spite and you’re going to stay with your husband and you think sending her a message will stop him from cheating, no. I’m all for women supporting women, it really just depends on your intentions here. The conversation does need to start with your husband though.
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I’d be messaging him to say you have changed the locks and no to let the door hit his ass in the way out. It’s not her fault he is deceitful.
Get your evidence first then tell her.
You have to be smart here. He’s saying you are in the process of divorce because he doesn’t want to leave (it’s cheaper to keep her) but he doesn’t really want to be with you which is why he has her. He’s not “very much married”. Save every one of the messages you can between those two. Get yourself an attorney, file for divorce, ask for almost everything (you won’t get it all, but ask for it anyway) and for custody of any children you have together.
Then you message her and ask for her address so you know where to send the divorce papers you JUST filed should be sent.
Then you put his stuff out when he’s at work and change the locks.
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tell him to back off he’s the one married she isn’t …
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He’s the issue a lot more than she is. You end it with your husband and tell her you were never getting a divorce
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Ide create a group chat with them both, where you remind him that he very married, but only until the divorce comes through.
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I think you should let her keep him! It’s her problem now.
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In my opinion no I won’t if he telling her he getting divorced god know how many other after he say it to so if I was you in my opinion I file for divorce like he want if he telling other people this then he clearly not thinking of a futcher with u he thinking of his options qnd what it come down to do u feel like an option that’s just my opinion xx
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Like most have already said, I would look into a divorce lawyer and get the process started…then you could message her and explain that you were NOT in the middle of a divorce but after seeing how “faithful” he is that you are now then break the news to him. If it was me, I’d be a smart ass and say “I filed for divorce since you’re telling this other woman you’re in the middle of one I made the assumption that’s what you wanted”
Is she married to you?
Did she make vows with you?
Did you have babies with her?
If not why are you troubling her with the mess your husband created?
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If she thinks he’s divorcing its not really her fault. Tell her he’s a cheat and then get rid of him.
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Become swingers have an open relationship seems like that’s how your husband is already living.
Or get a divorce.
But definitely do you!
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He will just find someone else to talk to!
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You need to message yourself and remind yourself of your worth.
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Why message her at all? Idc if she knows. That mean she don’t care sis and neither do he. He telling her y’all getting a divorce well get one cause if you gone stay why hit her up.
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I would let her know he’s lying. However he has to be the one to back off of her. But go get the divorce cause he’s not gonna stop
you should let her know your husband is a dirty liar and get your sti panel done
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You could tell her if it makes you feel better but why ask her to back off? In my opinion your husbands the one in the wrong. He has said you’re going through a divorce so that would insinuate to her that you’re separated shes doing nothing wrong. Talk to your husband call him out on his cheating and move on to someone who deserves you
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I would tell him and I would tell her cuz it’s not fair to her because he’s lying
Yep I would and tell him to knock it off or move on down the road
No honey, he’s telling her you’re in a divorce? Then make truth from his lies. She won’t back off unless he ends it with her. He invited her to his table, so to speak. You should be mad at him, not her… but at the same time, let her have him.
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I wouldn’t message her, or him. I’d go get that divorce.
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Do your husband know that you’re aware that he’s been talking to that woman? And yes, message the girl. Let her know that He’s been lying.
Nope. I’d be giving him the divorce he says he’s in the process of
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Why are you still there know what he is doing?
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Better yet tell hubby to back off or you will from the marriage.why drag her into it she is only going by what your husband says and now she got the crazy soon to he ex wife calling her …
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Textfthem both at the same time.
You should actually just serve him with divorce papers
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It’s not necessarily the other woman’s fault here. She believes what she’s being told by the so called husband. Personally, I would be having a conversation with this chic. Let her break it off when she finds out the truth. Or if she is an real woman, she will help you confront his dumb ass.
Honestly. I’d screen shot the messages so I had them making sure the dates were showing. I’d message her and let her know you are indeed still very married with no mention of a divorce and be like you can have him if you want him bc I don’t want someone who doesn’t want to be faithful. I wouldn’t be mad at her bc she’s under the impression your in the process of a divorce. I’d just want her to know the truth. Then I’d confront him. And file for a divorce. I wouldn’t want someone who clearly didn’t want me and only me.
Or I’d group message both of them making it known you know. And that he is still indeed very married but as of this moment you’ll be filing for divorce so he can be with her. It’ll be a shock to both of them. And that they can come get his things this day and date along with papers lol 
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Your Husband knows he’s married…and all she’ll end up with is a cheater…
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She is not the problem here, your husband is. Get rid of him. Her backing off doesn’t mean he won’t do it again with someone else…
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Sounds like Chris watts. Run.
Lol he’s the kind that will find a different woman to cheat with even if you do. Id let him do whatever it is that he’s planning on, get proof and divorce his butt. Let whomever is next be with a broke loser.
No, I’d let her have him.
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do what I did, congratulate her & say Good Bye to the husband 
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Divorce that son of a bitch!
No. I would give him the divorce.
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Most definitely
Sweetie
He is playing you both
And she needs to know she has virtually broken up your family
And she hast virtually
Taken a father away from spending time away from his kids
Don’t hold anything back
Then tell she can have your usef cast offs
Then pack his stuff in black garbage bags including his dirty laundry
And leave it on the step
When he goes to work next
Then call a locksmith and change the locks
He is lying… and yeah i would tell her the truth. Then i would make his words the truth. He obviously doesn’t care.
if she knows about you, she knows your married. She is part of the homewrecking whore club.
I’d do more than message her. I’d throw hands with her and him both. Then go through with the divorce.
No don’t message her. Message him to get out and divorce him. ASAP!!!
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The way you worded it……… You need to tell your husband to back off. Not her.
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Id pack his bags and change the locks. He’d be on his own
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Won’t change the fact your husband is cheating on you. I’d tell her, and leave him still.
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Most definitely give him the divorce. Let me just tell you it’s really not worth it. It’s happening now so it’ll happen again
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I’d say yes message her but then again, she will probably go against you anyway and just think your bitter. So dump his ass and let her figure it out in her own. She’ll find out sooner than later and it doesn’t need to be at your expense.
If you know that this woman has been led to believe falsely by your husband that you’re in a divorce, I’d actually file for divorce. That is a form of cheating
And make sure that this loser ass woman get stuck with your loser ass husband because they deserve one another. Any woman that would mess with a married man is as bad as a married man who cheats
Nah, tell her you weren’t divorcing but now you are, so she can have him.
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Lol I’d give him the divorce and use her for collateral like the proof you have
Tell her and have divorce papers ready to go if he does it once he’ll do it again